Igniting Souls Podcast With Kary Oberbrunner

I did not feel like working out this morning. What do you do? I don't let myself think about it. I just get moving. It's kind of like firewalking or walking on coals. We can change our state if we get moving. If we get moving, our mind catches up with us. Find out more at https://www.ignitingsoulsconference.com

We just completed one of my favorite things — the pre con call. We go over the schedule, expectations and questions and answers so people can show up filled up to the Igniting Souls Conference. The event actually happens way before the event. Find out more at https://www.ignitingsoulsconference.com. 2020 tickets will be available soon.

In the last five years, we've had a sold out Igniting Souls Conference. That's not easy in the world where there is so much free content online. One thing we do is is early bird pricing, giving folks a massive incentive to get their ticket early. But our #1 asset of our conference is the people. People come to connect with other people and build relationships. The show isn't on the stage. The show is what's happening in the hallways and at the tables. It's the culture that people keep coming back for. To find out more, go to https://www.ignitingsoulsconference.com. 2020 tickets will be available soon.

The most critical skill you will need to have in the future is the ability to focus. You can find more on this and how to become unhackable in the Elixir Project book. In 2020, we will be addressing this topic again: closing the gap between dreaming and doing. Get your free copy of Elixir Project at https://elixirprojectbook.com/. If you've ever gotten your dreams hacked or sabotaged, shared it in the comments below. We'd love to encourage you.

I remember when I first started speaking as a pastor, I wrote out every word, and it didn't feel authentic. Later, I switched to printing out slides when with no notes and time markers on it when I spoke. Today, I let the slides lead, and I just roll with it. It seems to feel more authentic. 

No matter how good of a strategic thinker you are, you need someone with you. Take a peek as Joel Kessel goes through the Igniting Souls Conference with me. Joel's tips for a great strategy session like this: show up ready and start with the end in mind. Joel and I do this for the Author Academy Awards, Igniting Souls Conference, book launches and more. He helps me fill in the gaps and deliver an amazing experience. Find out more ab https://www.kesselstrategies.com

So many times people want the big impact, the big income and the big influence instantly. But you have to start small or you won't start at all. As I prepare for an event with hundreds and hundreds of people signed up to attend, I am remembering some of my first events where we only had four people. But if you treat those four people like absolute rock stars then they will get excited and share and your event will grow. No one cares about how many people are in the room. They care about how valued they are.

I let other people dress me. My wife recently picked out some brand new clothes for me and it got me thinking how when you plan a conference, write a book or start a business, you are presenting yourself. The bigger the business gets, the more I am relying more and more on other people to "dress me." A business will plateau unless you empower other people. Your book/ event/business is an extension of you. To find out more at https://www.ignitingsoulsconference.com.

I made some big mistakes last year at our conference. For instance, we had "regular" tickets and VIP tickets. While people were hearing empowering things on the stage, some of them had a sign on their table that said "regular." Nobody's regular.  I also set someone up to fail. I asked our photographer to take 178 VIP photos and didn't give them enough time to do it. When I realized it, I sent out an email and told everyone that I failed and offered to give them a refund or retake their photo. The point is that you WILL make mistakes. The key is are you willing to admit those mistakes and make it right?

There was an experiment done in a school system in which they had kids come up to them and say negative things to one plant and positive things to the other. They wanted to illustrate to kids the power of words. After some time,the plant that was spoken to negatively began to shrivel up and turn brown. I find that fascinating. Words have the power over life and death. Even the words you say to yourself. For a free training on how to be unhackable in work and life at https://www.elixirprojectbook.com.

I don't give up on most people. I love people who don't see their greatness. But I have given upon people who are unbelievably disillusioned, even though I rarely come across these people. I don't mind if people have high expectations. But perpetual complainers and high maintenance clients just aren't worth it. They are only going to suck you down. You're never going to please them anyway. If you continue to try, it's your own fault. Find out more about how to find the right clients at https://www.dayjobtodreamjob.com.

Lately we've made a couple of new hires. Every time we hire someone, I know we're going to grow. I remember the first time we hired someone. It was a stretch. We've never hired someone and lost. Fiverr and other sites give you no excuse. I grew up thinking that it's foolish to hire someone when you can do it yourself. The next level of your success is finding the who to do your hows. Find out more at https://www.dayjobtodreamjob.com. We have a free training on how to discover your worth in the marketplace.

I would like to invite you to a private training on how many successful people have shortcut the promotional path. We call it our Knowledge Circle. We started it last year as an experiment with amazing results. Get your virtual ticket at https://www.karyoberbrunner.com/knowledgecircle to find out more.

I am not a fan of traffic jams. I like taking action and making progress. But here are a few things you can do when you're in a traffic jam: • Listen to audio books - you can actually get the equivalent of a college degree if you spend the time an average person spends driving listening to audiobooks. • Chat with others in the car - it's a great time to talk and share • Call someone - if you have a hands free device • Take notes on your phone verbally - keep your brain active • Pray or meditate • Listen to music Make the most of your time. For more on this, go to https://www.thedeeperpathbook.com or see my strategies for life at https://www.karyoberbrunner.com/opus.

The average person starts their day with their smart phone, thus they are reacting. I saw a team start their day recently with bells and a cheer. it re-centered everyone. It was exciting to see someone that excited about their day. Start with gratitude and enthusiasm. If you want different results then start your day differently. 

Some people believe life owes them. As if they're entitled. Maturity means you realize no one owes you anything. You go from complaining to gratitude, selfishness to selflessness, expectation to serving, and then life begins granting you things. You are a much more pleasant person. It's a mindset shift. 

You will get what you want if you want it bad enough. We've all gone through trials and tribulations, but the people who make it to the other side are the people who really want it. I am so proud of Sheri McIntyre, author of Compassionate Snob. She had a brain aneurysm. But she made it through. She is an overcomer. We've had many people who have a dream and don't give up. Need help on your book? Go to https://www.karyoberbrunner.com/book

I meet people all the time who are new to the process of earning money in their business. One important lesson to learn is that there is a fine line between enthusiasm and desperation. You do need to be enthusiastic. But don't be desperate. When you're desperate, you lose attractiveness and appeal. The best way to do this is to unattach yourself from the outcome. For more on this, get your free book at https://www.dayjobtodreamjob.com

Have you ever missed greatness in someone when you first meet them? It's very common. We use labels and we forget that each person has greatness within them. I've been reading this book recently, Awakening: The Dreamer's Quest. 5 Gates That Determine Your Ultimate Purpose by Phillip B. Johnson. When I first met him, I didn't see the greatness within him. But I was wrong. His book is fantastic. Everyone has a brilliant story. We just need to take the time to get to know them and found out what it is.

Vacation is a mindset. It doesn't matter if you go to beautiful places, life still won't be peaceful for you unless you have the right mindset. Likewise, the geography and the activity doesn't matter. You can still take a vacation in mind if you have the right mindset. To learn how to author your own Opus, go to https://www.deeperpathbook.com and get your free book and seminar.