The Hardcore Self Help Podcast

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship. We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the

Hello friends! In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior. Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life c

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face. First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition. Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for care

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Dealing with Hurtful Family Comments: A listener is troubled by their mother's deeply hurtful comment, suggesting they have been a source of stress since birth. We explore the emotional impact of such comments, consider the role of health issues in behavior, and discuss strategies for coping and moving forward. Navigating Identity and Therapy: Another listener, a closeted trans man, shares their experience of coming out to their therapist and the mixed responses received. We delve into the importance of understanding and navigating gender identity within therapy, especially in conservative environments, and ponder whether seeking a gender specialist, in addition to their current therapist, might be beneficial. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode390 ---- This episode is sponsored by Babb

Hello, friends! In today’s episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face. Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one’s therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively. In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener’s struggle with their ex-partner’s manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one’s mental and emotional well-b

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we dive into two listener queries that shine a light on the complexities of emotional experiences and relationships. First, we explore the journey of someone grappling with childhood emotional neglect, unpacking the long-term effects of growing up in an environment where emotions were disregarded and undervalued. Our listener shares their struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected and their quest for a path toward healing and emotional awareness. Then, we shift gears to discuss the challenges faced by a couple when one partner feels uncomfortable with being photographed. This scenario opens up a dialogue on insecurities, the significance of memories captured in photos, and the importance of understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries. As always, you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode388. --- Feeling overwhelmed by the never-ending to-do list? Discover how to priori

Hello friends! In this episode, we delve into a deeply personal and complex question that touches on the lasting impact of past relationships, the nuances of friendship, and the boundaries within a current, happy marriage. A listener shares their experience of not being able to stop thinking about an ex, despite being happily married and having no desire to rekindle a romantic relationship. They discuss the significance of this past relationship during a pivotal time in their life and ponder whether they should attempt to cultivate a friendship or strive to move on completely. We explore the importance of acknowledging the role this person played in their life, while also considering the potential implications for their current relationship. The conversation includes practical advice on navigating these feelings, communicating with both the spouse and the ex, and setting healthy boundaries. We also discuss the potential for "relationship drift" and the importance of being honest with oneself about the true mo

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love: Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections. Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the u

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy. Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385 ---- OneSkin: OneSkin's skincare products, develope

Hello friends! In today's in-depth episode, we embark on a comprehensive exploration of depression, a condition that's far more complex than the occasional sadness or the transient moods we all experience. Our journey aims to shed light on the multifaceted nature of depression, affecting individuals across the globe in myriad ways. We delve into the clinical aspects, the personal stories, and the common misconceptions surrounding this pervasive mental health condition. We start by breaking down the very concept of depression, moving beyond the simple definition to uncover its roots and how it impacts the human experience. Through the lens of the DSM-5, we explore the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder, highlighting the diversity of symptoms and the profound effect they have on individuals' lives. Our discussion takes a personal turn as we examine the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases that illustrate the varied manifestations of depression. James, with his outward success ma

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that I'm sure many of you will find relatable and insightful. Navigating Therapy with a Talkative Therapist: One listener shares their experience with a therapist who often overshadows the session with personal stories, leaving them feeling unheard. This is particularly challenging as the listener is dealing with a controlling spouse with dementia. We explore the importance of feeling heard in therapy, the role of therapist's self-disclosure, and the value of assertiveness in therapeutic relationships. We also discuss the concept of transference and how it can impact therapy sessions. Considering Alternatives to Adderall: Another listener seeks advice about a close relative looking to taper off Adderall, which they've been dependent on for managing ADHD. We discuss the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, delve into the pharmacology of Adderall, and explore its side effects and potential for psychological dependence. A

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that touch on deeply personal experiences and emotional challenges: Exploring Identity Through Name Change: Our first question comes from a listener who has recently undergone the significant process of legally changing their name, a journey often intertwined with gender identity and personal transformation. We discuss the complexities of introducing this change in a professional setting, especially in environments where such changes might not be widely accepted. We explore strategies for communicating the change, dealing with potential challenges, and staying true to one's identity. Confronting Emotional Numbness: The second question addresses a concerning experience of emotional numbness, where even significant life events fail to elicit expected emotional reactions. We delve into the concept of anhedonia, its connection to depression, and the possible causes of this emotional disconnection. Practical advice is offered on how

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that many of you might find relatable: Confronting Career Anxiety in Private Practice: A newly licensed listener, transitioning from a non-profit agency to private practice, shares their struggles with the unpredictability of work and income, leading to increased anxiety. They contemplate returning to a full-time job, questioning the future of their career in mental health. We discuss the common challenges faced in different work settings, strategies for managing career uncertainty, and ways to find a fulfilling path in the mental health profession. Navigating Highway Anxiety with a Unique Twist: Another listener, who enjoys driving but experiences anxiety on long highway trips, seeks advice for their unusual situation. Despite a well-managed health condition and ruling out vision problems, this anxiety poses a significant obstacle, especially for family commitments requiring long travel. We explore potential triggers, the impo

Hello friends! In today's enlightening episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of neurotransmitters, specifically dopamine, and their impact on our behavior and mental health. We also touch on trichotillomania and the role of medications like Wellbutrin in treating such conditions. Demystifying Dopamine and Serotonin: We kick off by addressing a common oversimplification in the world of mental health. Dopamine and serotonin are often reduced to mere 'happiness' and 'reward' chemicals in popular culture. We explore how these neurotransmitters are far more complex and play a variety of roles in our body, from movement and mood regulation to learning and memory. Understanding Neurotransmitters: What exactly are neurotransmitters like dopamine? We explain their crucial role in brain communication and their diverse functions. We also discuss other key neurotransmitters such as serotonin, acetylcholine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, GABA, and glutamate. Dopamine's Role Beyond Pleasure: Moving beyond the 'feel-go

Hello, friends!  In this episode, I will be wrapping the year up by reflecting back on 2023 and my word for the year, which was "Identity." I talk about what I learned and explored this year and then I tell you what I have chosen as my word for 2024. It should be a fun one! Take care of yourselves, and I will see you in 2024! --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we delve into two very relatable and poignant listener questions that highlight the complexities of personal relationships and social anxiety. Navigating Emotional Maturity in Relationships: Our first discussion revolves around a listener's five-year relationship with her boyfriend. She's passionate about personal growth but finds her boyfriend, though professionally driven, lacks emotional maturity in their relationship. We explore the challenges of addressing emotional immaturity in a partner, the balance between accepting inherent personality traits and fostering growth, and the importance of direct communication and understanding in nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship. Coping with Social Anxiety and Jealousy in Adolescence: The second question comes from a 13-year-old listener in the UK, grappling with feelings of jealousy and social anxiety. They talk about the challenges of making friends, the impact of bullying, and the complexities of navigating f

Hello friends! In Episode 377, we tackle two profound listener questions that shed light on unique mental health and relationship challenges. Our first discussion revolves around a listener gearing up for couples therapy. They share their apprehension about conveying years of experiences within the confines of therapy sessions. We explore strategies for effective communication, the importance of preparation, and utilizing therapy as a starting point rather than a complete solution. The conversation also touches on the usefulness of additional resources like therapy workbooks and individual therapy in enhancing the couples therapy experience. The second question comes from a 23-year-old male experiencing derealization, depersonalization, and occasional panic attacks. These symptoms make him feel detached from his environment and himself, as if living in an unreal world. We dive into understanding these phenomena, identifying possible triggers, and discussing various coping methods. These include sensory ground

Hello friends! In today's insightful episode, we delve into two intriguing listener questions that touch upon deeply personal and relatable topics. First, we explore the lasting impact of growing up without a father. One of our listeners shares their lifelong struggle with the absence of a paternal figure, revealing how it shapes their relationships and fears about parenting. We discuss the complex emotions tied to this experience, including the search for paternal qualities in partners and the challenges it brings. The journey of understanding and healing from such a deep-rooted issue is unpacked, offering perspectives on self-reflection, therapy, and personal growth. Our second question shifts focus to the challenges of young leadership. A listener in their early 20s, already in a management role, grapples with being taken advantage of due to their age. They seek advice on asserting themselves and managing a team with more life experience. We dive into the nuances of assertive communication, the balance bet

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that delve into personal struggles and the complexities of therapy in the modern world. Our first discussion revolves around a listener's internal conflict about undergoing a nose job. They share their long-standing desire for this procedure, influenced by cultural norms and compounded by severe anxiety. We explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for wanting cosmetic surgery, the impact of cultural pressures, and strategies for managing anxiety related to such a significant decision. The second question opens a window into the world of telehealth therapy and the challenges of maintaining privacy in less traditional settings. A listener shares their experience of feeling uneasy about the lack of privacy during their online therapy sessions. This concern leads us to discuss the crucial aspects of privacy in therapy, the legal and clinical implications, and the importance of addressing and resolving suc

Hello, friends! I hope you're all managing to keep your spirits up. In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Narcissism and Self-Improvement: A listener is troubled by the possibility of being a narcissist, an idea suggested by their ex-partner. They're engaging in therapy and self-help but wrestle with the question: Are they truly non-empathetic or just struggling with poor coping mechanisms? We explore the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the journey of self-awareness, and the importance of recognizing and addressing negative behaviors. Seeking Purpose Amidst Global Turmoil: Another listener shares their struggle to find the motivation for personal improvement in a world filled with conflict and despair. How can one persist in therapy and self-care when the future seems so uncertain? We discuss the significance of hope, the resilience of humanity, and finding personal value in the face of global challenges