Sex With Emily

Halloween’s cancelled this year but that doesn’t mean you can’t dress up. Today, I’m talking about lingerie, figuring out what outfits you like, how to talk about it with your partner and what happens when your plans for a sexy lingerie night go astray. The right outfit can completely transform sex and break up the monotony in long-term relationships. (Spoiler alert: it doesn’t have to be leather or lace!) Later on, we talk about the perks and pitfalls of daddy dom/little girl play, how to spot red flags before you get too involved and how love-bombers use affection to manipulate their partners. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Truth: this year has been HARD on relationships. Luckily, sex educator, author, licensed therapist, and my dear friend Jamye Waxman is here to help! For those struggling to connect right now, Jamye gives different methods for checking in with your partner, rekindling the magic, and keeping a relationship strong over time. Together we talk about the power of curiosity to avoid petty fights and harboring resentment as well as what to do if you and your partner are at different “speeds” sexually. We also take calls about how to healthily express your emotions and how to help your partner cope with sexual shame. For more information about Jamye Waxman, visit: waxmansextherapy.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

80% of American women will try birth control at some point in their lives. But what does the pill do over time? Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein are here to demystify the murky, confusing world of birth control and their new film The Business of Birth Control. We discuss the side effects of taking these medications and the information we should all have before deciding which one to use. Ricki also opens up about her newfound sex drive and how at age 52, she’s “feeling like a horny 16-year-old boy.” If you’ve ever had questions about birth control, hormones, and sex drive, this episode is for you. For more information about Abby Epstein and Ricki Lake, visit: www.thebusinessof.life For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m joined by cam girl, porn star, and actor Lily LaBeau from the YouTube series Cam_Girlfriend to share what she has learned about her body, her sexuality, and what she finds sexy. We also talk about how camming works, what’s off-limits, setting boundaries, and making a living in your underwear. Lily also shares how the sex industry has helped her discover new ways to find pleasure, her best stories from working with clients, and why she believes everyone can benefit from trying camming at least once. For more information about Lily LaBeau, visit: brandlabeau.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Finding love has always been hard work, but COVID has made it ten times more difficult. That’s why this episode is ALL about dating. From moving off the apps to dating post-breakup, to finding someone who meets your sexual desires, I go over the most common dating debacles. I also cover why it’s crucial that you know what you want in a partner—after all, how can you find love if you don’t know what you’re looking for? To make things easier, I share my top tips for breaking down the steps to finding clarity so that you can manifest your dream partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s episode is all about one of my favorite topics: masturbation. Specifically, we’re getting into “doomsturbating,” or masturbating in order to distract yourself when the world feels like just too much. But how much masturbating is too much? Like anything in life, there’s a limit—here’s how to know if you’ve reached yours. I’m also taking your calls and answering questions about breast sizes, how confidence and self-love can change your bedroom game, how to help your partner reach orgasm, and some super fun handjob tips and tricks. It’s one of the most underrated sex moves! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m talking with author, sociologist, and sexology royalty Carol Queen. Carol has been leading the charge for open, honest sex talk for over 40 years. We dive into the CDC’s new glory hole guidelines and Carol’s new favorite all-gender vibrators and much more. I also help a couple find the best sex position for their changing bodies, someone wanting to know where they can live out their public masturbation fantasy and a man who wants to make oral exciting again. For more information about Carol Queen, visit: goodvibes.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re trying to focus on self-improvement these days, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, Violet Benson talks about how isolation helped her develop a newfound appreciation for self-love and confidence. Violet is also the founder of @DaddyIssues on Instagram and the host of the podcast, Too Tired To Be Crazy. Not only does she discuss her new favorite vibrator, but she also shares how she learned to stop dating toxic people, the new ways she loves her body, and reveals her secret hookup with Too Hot To Handle’s Francesca Fargo. I also break down some important relationship terms: what exactly is “love bombing” and how does it correlate with codependency in relationships? Plus, I help a caller with tips on how to initiate sex without feeling like you’re left rejected. For more information about Violet Benson, visit: instagram.com/violetbenson For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on the show, we’ve got Shafia Zaloom, a health educator and author who develops curricula for sex education in schools across the country. Shafia and I discuss the most effective ways parents can teach their kids about sex to develop healthy sexuality and cultivate shame-free knowledge. Shafia also brings up specific words and strategies to use in helping children learn about sex, so that you can go into conversations about sex with an expert-level toolkit. We also get into how to teach consent and what we can do improve Sex Ed in schools. Spoiler: It starts with you!! The show ends with me taking calls and answering questions, like “what do you do if your partner hates oral?” or “how do you stop dating the wrong person?” No question is off-limits. For more information about Shafia Zaloom, visit: shafiazaloom.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s no mystery that things have been more stressful than usual these days. When life feels chaotic, our relationships and sex lives tend to suffer, and so it’s important to reset the mind and focus on the present. That’s why I’ve brought on my therapist Dr. Anadel Barbour to discuss the coping mechanisms and mindfulness techniques I use to reignite my best self. Dr. Barbour and I talk about EMDR therapy and its revolutionary healing power, specifically in the face of trauma. We also talk about the difference between your thoughts vs. the truth and how to eliminate overthinking in the bedroom. Stick around for the end of the episode, when Dr. Barbour leads us through a full body positivity scan because, let’s face it, loving a partner begins with loving yourself. For more information about Dr. Anadel Barbour, visit: anadelbarbour.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As many of you know, I’m obsessed with communication so it only makes sense that we look at word choice when talking about sex. In this epsiode, I meet with Amanda Montell, linguist and author of Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language, to explore the greater meaning, power, and historical importance of the words we chose to use. Plus, we delve into the origins of gendered slang like ‘vajayjay’ and offer positive alternatives to the current words in our sexual dictionary. In the second half of the episode, I take a few calls and answer questions on how to examine yourself after several failed relationships, increase enjoyment of oral sex, and have fun and safe sex in a noncommitted relationship. For more information about Amanda Montell, visit: amandamontell.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s throwback show, I’m revisiting my 2018 interview with Elizabeth Kott & Stephanie Simbari from the That’s So Retrograde podcast. We talk about mindfulness, wellness & how it relates to your relationships both with yourself and a partner. We also get into what all this “retrograde” talk really means, how it affects your life and some alternative ways to work on yourselves because we’re never done improving. Plus, how your gut relates to sexual health and acts like a second brain. For more information on Elizabeth & Stephanie, click below: That’s So Retrograde For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve heard me talk about the importance of a woman’s orgasm but you’re still wondering, ‘what about men?’ On today's show, I give tips and tricks for both genders on how to achieve their most powerful orgasm yet. Then, I share toys specifically for male pleasure. Stick around for the end of the show because I answer even more of your questions and calls. Including, tips for oral sex, the importance of loving your body and confidence even if you Plus, I speculate on the distinction between someone who is interested in dating vs keeping it platonic. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m talking with sex, kink, and relationship educator Sarah Sloane from the dating app #Open about the reality of cuckolding, dating effectively after divorce and reigniting the connection with your partner. I explore consent as one of the sexiest things you can practice in a relationship, how you can use it to enhance intimacy and why it’s the hottest sex move you haven’t tried (yet). For more information about Sarah Sloane, visit: hashtagopen.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m talking with certified sexuality coach Shani Hart about how to keep yourself satisfied while you take care of your partner. Shani also gives us her helpful oral sex philosophy, tips for using toys together and talks about the importance of representation in the sex industry. I also talk to psychological astrologer Dr. Jen Freed, who joins us with her monthly astro-sex forecast for each sign. We dive deep into what IS sexy, why it’s necessary to be with someone who brings out the best in you and non-negotiables when it comes to self worth and self pleasure. For more information about Shani Hart, visit: hartsdesires.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what the world would be like if we all felt comfortable talking about sex? We’d have way more pleasure, less shame and much healthier relationships. Not to mention that talking about sex increases desire and leads to a more satisfying life all around. In today’s episode I also cover how to plan a sexy staycation. It’s possible even if you’re stuck at home! I advise the best way to bring toys into the bedroom, why you should consider a lube shooter and the best time to communicate your needs to a partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to relationships, it’s not unusual to get into unhealthy patterns—so I'm going to help you identify some of the warning signs you might be ignoring. Whether you’re dating a perfectionist or a partner who is emotionally unavailable, there are some red flags that will never turn green. I also address why words are just as important as actions, how to spot if someone is emotionally detached and you’ll learn when and how to communicate difficult feelings with the people we love most. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I bring you a special combination of guests, to give you a unique perspective on the porn industry. I talk to legendary porn star and sex educator Nina Hartley, sex addiction specialist Dr. Marnie Breecker and ethical porn director Erika Lust. Nina Hartley shares her insights on her decades long experience in the porn industry, her personal relationships and advice on figuring out what kind of relationships work for you. Then, Dr. Breecker and I take a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction. Dr. Breecker is a therapist who specializes in sex addiction and she has advice for people who are struggling to break free. I also talk with erotic filmaker Erika Lust about her mission to create ethically minded films for all genders. Erika has been writing and directing for years so she’s full of insights about intimacy both onscreen and off. For more information about Nina Hartley, visit nina.com For more information about Dr. Marnie Breecker, visit marniebreecker.com For more information about Erika L

Today’s show is all about you and answering your questions. One couple wants to know how to prepare for a threesome, another wants their partner to experiment with cuckolding. However you want to explore an open relationship, I cover the topics everyone should think about before pulling the trigger. Also, how to overcome anxiety in the bedroom whether it’s you or your partner with the distracting thoughts. Take a deep breath and listen in. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what to do about the sexual side effects of your antidepressants? It can be super frustrating to have an improved mood but a decreased libido. In this episode, I cover how to know if you’re experiencing unwanted side effects and what to do about them. Anyone else’s sex life taken a nose-dive in the past few months? Well, there could be a lot more going on than just mismatched sex drives. Starting with healthy communication can help you sort out those pesky resentments. I also dissect what we can learn (and not learn) from Cardi B’s WAP video featuring Megan Thee Stallion. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.