Random Thoughts With Nicole L. Turner

Ways to figure out your calling: Notice dreams and signs. Notice what captivates you. Journal on what your calling is. Use your values as a guide. Think about what you used to love. Notice what feels good. Pay attention to what keeps coming back.    

Everything in life is a matter of timing, whether we recognize it or not. If you take a moment to review your life, you would probably find that the difference between some of your biggest successes and your biggest failures  has probably been timing.

I recently saw a quote that said, “Be thankful for your triggers for they show you where you are not free.”  Have you noticed how certain topics evoke in you a variety of emotions? On any given day, you probably experience a range of emotions —excitement, unease, frustration, joy, disappointment & these range of emotions are usually tied to a specific event.  An emotional trigger can be anything - memories, experiences, or events that sparks an intense emotional reaction, regardless of your current mood. Your response to these events can vary based on your frame of mind and the circumstances surrounding the situation. Emotional triggers are associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Knowing what your emotional triggers are (and how to deal with them) is a key component of good emotional health. 

A lot of people are vague about what they want – want out of life, their career, in their relationship with others, or for the future. Being vague means lacking clarity. The first step to getting what you want out of life is to decide exactly what you want. Where do you want to be in the future? What do you want to experience? Who do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish? What makes you happy? If you are vague about what you want, you will find yourself with a lot of things you don’t want. Sometimes clarity comes to us when we stop thinking. There’s a quote by Albert Einstein that I love. It says, I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me. –– Albert Einstein

Ways to know they are an asset: You Are All Around Better Off Now Than You Were Before You Met. Have you learned a lot as a result of the relationship? You are better off financially You’re healthier Your energy is more positive They respect your boundaries They pour into you – they don’t just take, they also give How do you know if a relationship is a liability? They are energy vampires – when you are in their presence, they suck the positive/good energy out of the environment There’s always drama with them – always drama in their life or they are always causing drama. Everything is always about them. They consume the conversations with their life. When you’re hanging out, it’s all about what they want, where they want to go, what they want to eat, what attention they are getting They are slick with the tongue – they put you down or insult you or throw shade but pass it off as just joking. They compete with you – yes, this also happens in romantic relationships They secretly copy you They on the low, hate on