Just Between Us

Happy 2021 Everyone! To start off the New Year, Allison and Gaby discuss a listener's email that brings attention to the existence of harmful therapy and institutionalization. They're then joined by one of the podcast's greatest guests of all time (in our humble opinion), disability activist Alice Wong to discuss ableism, covid and the importance of filling your bookshelf with diverse voices. And finally, compliments! The good, the lovely and the harmful! Also Allison reveals how she chooses the topics and it's goofy as hell. tw: rape, suicide, ableism, weight Alice’s Links: Books: https://disabilityvisibilityproject.com/book/ Essays About The Pandemic: https://www.vox.com/first-person/2020/4/4/21204261/coronavirus-covid-19-disabled-people-disabilities-triage Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Ukvhq_ajfWneEOpn519lpbYIPzUyi_b9lpFLSWsbT5Y/edit?usp=sharing    This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio and Alex

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who feels they can't make or keep friends because of their mental illness. Then, they chat with Caroline Rose Guiliani about being open about her liberal politics, her complicated relationship with her father Trump lawyer Rudy Guiliani, and growing up a politician's kid. And lastly, schemas. And how do they limit us? tw: suicide, transphobia Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/11xJxlvPjjPNh5meaXg417nTCYOxFCW3NuHe2PLYmH5Q/edit?usp=sharing This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio and Alex Ramsey To listen to this podcast ad-free  Sign up for Forever Dog Plus at foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus Check out video clips of our podcasts on Youtube at youtube.com/foreverdogteam And make sure to follow us on Twitter, instagram and Facebook at ForeverDogTeam to keep up with all of the latest Forever Dog NewsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdverti

Allison reads a listener's question about navigating and sharing her gender identity with their partner and Gaby takes the opportunity to share her own gender journey. They're then joined by occupational therapist Vanessa Gorelkin to explain what the hell occupational therapy is (and provide some much needed support to Allison). And finally, education! What's wrong with it and how can we reimagine what it means to learn? TW: transphobia  Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zRwnpaIYypkF4nSDaGwD0NN5TV2dOfzkAeg9FHbxmZw/edit?usp=sharing This has been a Forever Dog production  Produced by Melisa D. Monts Executive produced by Brett Boham, Joe Cilio and Alex Ramsey To listen to this podcast ad-free  Sign up for Forever Dog Plus at foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus Check out video clips of our podcasts on Youtube at youtube.com/foreverdogteam And make sure to follow us on Twitter, instagram and Facebook at ForeverDogTeam to keep up with all of the latest Forever Dog NewsSupport this podcast

Gaby and Allison answer a listener's question on how to battle the monotony of working from home. They're then joined by podcasting icon, Sarah Marshall, to discuss the Satanic Panic of the 1980's and its connection to QAnon. And later: can we fix the divisions in this country? Or are there more important things to worry about? Trigger warnings: homophobia, child abuse.  Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bbEcnNaZLl6CK69MKQEDEs3OsvfDi2O7rf8Yr-c0N8M/edit?usp=sharing   Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus   FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast   JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Just Between Us is back, baby! And things are...not good. To start off, Allison shares some devastating news--her (former) fiancé decided to leave--and how she is handling it. Gaby and Allison then answer a listener's question regarding self-judgement and not feeling worthy of joy. They're then joined by Chloe from Stripper Stories to discuss sex work from many different angles. And finally: emotional support animals! Joy does still exist! (TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of kink, murder) Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CMPSYuxUVcD6LYSesJNNYdkFDCnUOypx50BtfeapzE8/edit?usp=sharing Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give a listener advice about battling imposter syndrome in the male-dominated field of quantitative finance. They then have a delightful discussion with Allison’s former middle school music teacher Mirna Valerio, who has since become a FAMOUS RUNNER due to her blog Fat Girl Running. Lastly, sexism in the media. How are female politicians, celebrities and astronauts treated differently? Also, we released this early because of the election. Oof. Good luck, America! (tw: fatphobia, domestic violence) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hold onto your butts, this one is a wild ride! Allison and Gaby start off by answering a listener’s question about people making assumptions that she is gay when she identies as straight. Gaby’s partner, Mal Blum, also pops in to help by sharing their similar personal experience! They’re then joined by podcaster Angela Tucker to discuss transracial adoption and why we might need to rethink hypotheticals. And finally, trust! Followed by Allison sobbing. We told you it was a wild ride! (tw: mentions of sexual assault, family trauma and triggering) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener newly diagnosed with bipolar disorder that worries about disclosing it to the people in their life. They then talk to BOB THE DRAG QUEEN, of HBO’s We’re Here -- and one of Gaby’s favorite people -- about political drag, online cancellation, queers turning on each other and overcoming fear in order to do on-the-ground activism. (Omg!!! So exciting!!) Lastly, cognitive dissonance. What is it and how is it affecting the election? (tw: sexual assault mention, transphobia mention) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison (and Tomeka!) advise an indigenous Mexican college freshman who is worried about her white roommate that only has white friends. They then talk to Bachelor Nation’s Bekah Martinez all about being a liberal on a conservative show, knowing when to speak up and what happens when you become famous very quickly. And finally, OnlyFans, celebrities and Gaby’s past experience with sex work. Let’s get into it!  Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison and Gaby encourage a listener to tell her friend about her romantic feelings, even if it’s a risk. They’re then joined by healthcare expert Andy Slavitt to discuss Medicare vs. Medicaid, Biden’s health care plan and why America is struggling in it’s response to COVID-19. And finally, birthdays! Are they worth celebrating? (Short answer: YES!)  Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who wants to set boundaries around her boyfriend’s friendship with a girl who tried to sabotage their relationship. (YIKES!) They then speak to journalist Phillip Picardi about his new religion podcast, Unholier Than Thou, being queer and spiritual and how his relationship to God has changed over the years. Lastly, QAnon! What the actual fuck?!  Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week, Gaby and Allison help a listener who wants to speak more openly to her family about grief following her mother’s passing. They then speak to community advocate and city council candidate Nithya Raman about running for office as a woman of color, defunding the police and why it’s so important to care about local politics. And finally, a look at our values. Is it possible for them to align with our daily life? What are our values? (Mostly dogs.) (JK.) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who is wondering if she should give up on dating apps. They then interview narcissism expert and author of “Should I Stay Or Should I Go?” Dr. Ramani Durvasula about the red flags of dating a narcissist, how to survive the toxic patterns of doing so and why expecting them to change is a waste of time and energy. And finally, body hair! Did you stop shaving during quarantine? Why did something so personal become so political? (Content Warning: Discussion of dating abuse) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison answer a listener’s difficult question about how to let a date know you’re not interested in seeing them again. They then speak to Richard Rothstein, author of The Color of Law, about the long lasting ramifications of housing segregation by the American government. And finally, they discuss billionaires and boy, do they have a bone to pick! Plus, Allison’s dad, Ken Raskin, joins the podcast for Hypotheticals. Finally! (Content Warning: Discussion of racism) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

During the first live streamed episode of the podcast, Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who is hesitant to start medication for her mental health. They’re then joined by Brooklyn 99 star and all around bicon Stephanie Beatriz to discuss everything from wedding planning to representation inside families. And finally, normal versus common: Why word choice matters! Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison and Gaby advise a listener who thinks her “feminist” mom is stuck in the second wave and won’t accept asexuality. They’re then joined by Theo Henderson to talk about his experience being unhoused in Los Angeles and how we can all help the unhoused community. And finally, writing tips and tricks! (Content Warnings: Discussion of food issues, transphobia, acephobia and violence against the unhoused)  Donate to Theo and his podcast, We The Unhoused, below!  Theo's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/wetheunhoused Theo's Venmo: https://venmo.com/code?user_id=3030233510838272804 Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who doesn’t want to feel obligated to make friends at work. They then talk to author Angela Chen about asexuality, her journey toward the label and how asexuality can inform us about consent. Lastly, reframing your thoughts! How hard is it to do? How can it help you make healthier choices and have better self-worth? Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener wondering how to find the right support group for herself and maybe her daughter. They then talk to legendary storyteller and superstar from Reading Rainbow, Roots and Star Trek, LEVAR FREAKING BURTON, all about storytelling, politics, social media and just... everything. And finally, emotional intelligence. What is it? And how to build it? DID WE MENTION LEVAR BURTON IS ON?!  Subscribe to LeVar Burton Reads: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/stitcher/levar-burton-reads Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gaby and Allison answer a listener’s question about how much conflict is normal in friendships. Then, they talk to documentary filmmaker Erin Carr (Mommy Dead and Dearest, Heart of Gold) about her filmmaking process, how to spot a liar and whether documentaries are entertainment or journalism. Lastly, working from home! Let’s keep doing it even after the pandemic is over. Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison and Gaby attempt to help a listener whose wealthier friends refuse to talk about money and privilege. They’re then joined by journalist Tuck Woodstock to discuss the horrors of federal troops in Portland. And finally, Gaby shares what it’s been like to officially be living with her partner! Content Warning: Discussion of race, class and police violence. Resources: Tuck on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tuckwoodstock  Tuck on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gender  Tuck on Venmo: https://venmo.com/Tuck-Woodstock  More Links For Tuck: https://linktr.ee/montucky  Call to support independent journalists on the ground in Portland: https://tinyurl.com/y5f2xd94  Defense Fund PDX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defensefundpdx/ Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodcast JUST BETWEEN US IS A FOREVER DOG PODCAST: https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/Support this podcast at — https://redcircl