Thriving Twogether

Like a horse coming home from a long trot we're tempted to run into the barn door, to finish quickly and to lose all discipline. It's imperative that we don't finish quickly but that we enjoy the process that we connect with others and that we don't lose sight of the discipline that has brought us here. Dan Cullum shared a post in November about the Barn Door effect. It resonated and impacted me so much that it's improved my decision making and caused me to reflect on it again and again.  Horses rush to enter a barn door with little restraint despite having been very disciplined before seeing the barn door.  In relationships we should be disciplined especially when we are in a hurry.  Slow down. Resolve small mistakes while they are small. Invest in discussions when it feels like there is no time to talk. Slowly worship. Take time to reflect, change your mind and pivot.  In essence: Shut the barn door. Or at least pay it no heed.  #marriage #love #faith #hope #thrivingtwogether #foreverlove #marriag