Womanly Art Of Self-defense Podcast

It's a strange world of language in which skating on thin ice can get you into hot water. - Franklin P. Jones    Your Language Sucks! (Here's how you can change that.)   Years ago, during my early training & development career, I learned about E+L=M.  The concept is simple: Event plus the language used to describe the event equals our motivation to act. The event is always the same. For example: (E) Dinner date with a new person (L) Sh/e is going to think I'm a complete dork/loser/slob/idiot (M) You cancel the date OR while on the date your actions support the language in your head. You might say things like, "I'm such an idiot for ____." Or maybe you spill things. Or maybe you go on and on about how you suck at your job. If you change the language you're using before that date to: Sh/e is going to have a great time chatting with me tonight about _____. Then your motivation to go on the date increases and the nervousness you might have had, is now reframed as "excitement." The languag