Something Like Marriage

We cover three main ways to create safe spaces for loving conversation -  decide your loving guidelines, choose a physical space and an emotionally safe space. Loving Guidelines Here is an example of the loving guidelines we have created. No yelling. No swearing. No blaming. No threatening divorce or abandonment. No leaving. No using what is shared to hurt the person in the future. Physical Space Considerations a space without distractions, TV or kids. set a time of day as a cut-off for having deep discussions. a private space or a public space. relaxed postures, not one person standing over another. what environment feels the most loving - couch, table, in bed, outside. Emotional Safe Space Considerations As the speaker: • Using I statements I feel ____ when this happens. • Avoid using “you” to place blame on the other person. • Keep the sharing about your thoughts and feelings. As the listener: • be in a state of no judgment. • open to let the other person talk without interr