Connectfulness practice

Dr. Stephen Snyder is a sex and relationship therapist, Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City, and the author of the acclaimed sex and relationship book, https://www.sexualityresource.com/contents/book (LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship). In this episode, Dr Snyder and I discuss:   The nature of desire and why you don’t need it.  Why we make ourselves crazy trying to cultivate desire instead of a-tuning ourselves to our long term partners through mindful moments of inspiration.  Why frustration is a good thing in relationships. Why your goal should be to get dumb and happy with your partner (according to Dr. Synder, this is the ticket to keep a long term erotic connection simmering). How to be seen, speak up, and find your voice.  Selfishness + making it easy.  Focus on wanting to consuming your partner — eroticism is about taking selfish joy in the other person