The Joy Junkie Show

GRAB YOUR SPOT AT TANNING, TACOS, + TRANSFORMATION! One. More. Thing. One more thing and you may just lose your god-damned mind. If one more person asks something of you... If one more task gets added to your to-do list... You may just Lose. Your. Shit. We've all been in this crazy-ass-stressed-the-fuck-out place where we become, uh-hem, a little less than the best version of ourselves. We scream at our kids when they need something minimal. We lash out at our spouse, or friend, or co-worker when they are just trying to help. In essence, we become committed to being super stressed out and overwhelmed. If this sounds like I have a hidden camera installed in your place, dude, you need to have a listen to this week's pod. BTW, no camera (#creepy)... I've just been in this place far too many times to count. And in this episode, I discuss 7 simple things you can do to let go of the overwhelm, stress, and mortal combat that may be driving you to the brink of insanity. Say hello to some serious peace, tranquility, a

MEET ME AT THE BEACH! GRAB YOUR FREE WORKBOOK! JOIN AFTER HOURS! Ever feel like... If only my boss wasn't such and idiot, our workplace would be so much better. Or, if only my ex wasn't such a douchebag, then my life would be so much easier. Or, if only our economy was better, then I'd be able to take care of my finances. Or, if only my mom wasn't so damn irritating, I'd totally be happy. If any of this sounds familiar, congrats, you're totally normal. We don't consciously decide to become blamers, but it often becomes our go-to behavior when we're unhappy with something or someone in our lives. It's MUCH easier to stand in blame (and we're also conditioned to do so) than it is to search for your role in the matter. So, how does one go about letting go of blame? In this week's episode, I look at why we tend to immediately blame others, or things outside our control, why it's a trap and totally ineffective, and what you can actually DO about it. And, trust... Get ready to feel a shit-ton better and massively m

SAVE YOUR SPOT AT TANNING, TACOS, + TRANSFORMATION The internet-driven day and age in which live is downright cray. We have the ability to connect with others all over the world in ways never before possible. But along with that accessibility, you have undoubtedly created hyperbolic stories of how amazing everyone else's life is. How your friend from elementary school must be super happy because all her Facebook posts are #blessed beyond #blessed. And it's likely that you may think the same about those you choose to learn from online. Namely, myself. My colleagues. Other Personal D. experts. In this week's episode, I bring on two of my dearest friends and colleagues to talk about our personal journeys. Andrea Owen from YourKickAssLife.com and Kira Sabin from LeagueofAdventurousSingles.com join me as we pull back the curtain on the ways in which we have changed over the last decade, what our biggest struggles were early on, and what we still grapple with today. We discuss how we contend with our inner critics

Unless you grew up with incredible lessons on money management, how to avoid debt, how to budget appropriately, and how to save like a mutha, it's likely you've had your share of money woes. Considering there isn't really any financial education built into academia, most of us learn how to engage with money through trial and error, tough lessons learned, and whatever example we see modeled by our parents or family of origin. Then, perhaps you find yourself desperately trying to "adult" while wading through endless debt, having no idea what a budget would even look like, and constantly feeling like it's just "never enough". And wondering what those rich folks know that you clearly do not know. This week's episode is part 2 of 2 where I elaborate further on how to engage with your money like you fucking mean it so you can get start rollin' in the Benjamins... or Tubmans. This pod explores: The role gratitude plays in your relationship with money and how this small tool can dramatically change your money magnet

JOIN AFTER HOURS ~> Tell me if any of this sounds familiar: You constantly use the words "I can't afford it" You often think things would be perfect just as soon as you had more money You find yourself super jealous of peeps with money and think they must have done something slimy or shady to gain their wealth Whenever you want something, you immediately think "I don't have enough money for that", and often shut down the possibility before it even starts You are constantly trying to stay on top of your finances, but truth be told, you have no budget, no idea what you're spending, and feel like you never, ever have enough If any of this sounds familiar, not to worry! Help is on the way! Mr. Smith and I have been working on getting our financial house in order over that last handful of years, and we're excited to bring you this two-part series on getting your shit straight with your money. Whether you realize it or not, your "relationship" with money is much deeper than if you have enough to pay your bills or

 JOIN THE TRIBE! So... You've checked all the boxes. You got a good education. You settled down and got married. You pursued the career. You even bought the house, had the kids, the whole thing. And yet, you still wake up some days wondering, "Is this all there is? Is this it?" And maybe you even ask yourself, "What can't I just be fucking HAPPY!? What is the secret to happiness!!?" I mean, you SHOULD be, right? You checked all those god-damned boxes. You did all the things. All the things that are supposed to yield happiness and somehow you're still coming up empty. I mean... WTF!? You wouldn't believe how incredibly common this is. Like, staggeringly common. We live in a society that tells us how we should live our lives and in turn, how we should feel about it. So, you get to this stage of the game and you're like, wait a minute, why don't I feel happy? In this week's episode, I spill 6 suuuuper common ways you may be stifling your own happiness and ALL of them are typically done subconsciously... so yeah,

JOIN THE TRIBE! Although growing and pushing yourself to be a better person can be wildly fulfilling, it isn't without an obstacle or twelve. For many people (probably you), they find themselves at odds with a few peeps in their world who simply "don't get" this whole personal development thing. In fact, they may actually really like the old, unhealthy, un-boundaried, people-pleaser version of YOU. If you're comin' up against this racket, honey, you are certainly not alone. When you start seeing awesome changes in your life, you #natch want to share those insights with the people you're closest to. But, more often than not, you're met with "that's nice for you" or even more common, "what's all this woo-woo, hippie shit you're into lately?" In this episode, I address six things to keep in mind as you start sharing your new-found enlightenment with your nay-saying friends and fam. You'll learn specific ways to address these peeps, how to tweak your approach to get the response you're looking for, and what to do

REGISTER FOR THE WORKSHOP! VISIT ME IN AFTER HOURS!   Tell me if this sounds familiar: You get all pumped up about a new love interest or an exciting new job opportunity and then BAM! All of a sudden you feel a sinking feeling in your belly and a barrage of commentary starts in your mind. What if he thinks I'm too high-maintenance? What if they think I'm under-qualified? What if her family hates me? What if they think I'm incompetent? You know that mind vortex, amiright? This, my friend, is the lovely little dance between Fear and your Inner Critic. They hybrid of how you FEEL and what you are SAYING to yourself in your own mind. Much of the time they work very much in tandem, but there is a subtle difference. Why does this matter? Because the more you can understand what negativity is happening in your mind and body, the more equipped you are to combat it... And overcome it. In this episode, I tease apart the differences between these two concepts and show you ways you can "catch" either one. The more you un

REGISTER FOR THE WORKSHOP! JOIN THE AFTER HOURS CLUB ON FACEBOOK!   Did you know that we experience guilt for a very specific reason? That it's actually designed to help us? Wait, WHAT? And, no, it's not so you can feel like shit when your mom tells you how disappointed she is that you don't call often enough or so you feel awful for declining an invite to a party you soooo don't want to go to. Guilt is actually designed to alert us when we've done something wrong... something we aren't proud of - NOT for when someone simply doesn't like our choices. Oh, shit, really? Recently a listener penned the show asking how to deal with the nagging sense of guilt and "feeling bad" that she experienced with little requests and jabs from her close friends and family members. I mean... we have all been there. So what do you do about it? If it's not your fault, then why do you feel so shitty? Well, that's where I come in, Babycakes. In this episode, I break down the real-deal about Guilt - how to change what you "feel bad"

JOIN THE AFTER HOURS CLUB! Recently a listener wrote to the show wondering how she should go about teaching some of the concepts she has been learning in her own personal growth journey, to her children. Although it takes many of us decades upon decades to get our shit straight, much of that is indicative of the way in which we were raised. Now, I'm not talking shit on our parents, I'm just saying we are living in a pretty conscious and evolved time where serious, deep convos with our kids are totally and completely possible. And I would argue, necessary. Kids are often far more savvy than we give them credit for and chances are, your little love will comprehend more about this journey than you realize. In this episode, I look at 7 steps you can immediately take to start sharing some of your self-help work with your Littles. And, trust... as they usually do, it's likely they'll teach you a thing or two as well. This pod explores: The number one thing you HAVE TO start fostering in your children if you want t

TheJoyJunkie.com/208 You know that thing where you're trying to act all casual and cool, but secretly you want to micromanage the hell outta an event you're hosting, a project you're working on, your kid, your spouse, your boss, etc.? Guess what, my friend? You're dealing with some control issues. And, listen, the reason I know a thing or two about this shiz is because I've battled this little beast for nearly 40 years. So, I feel you. But, sweet baby Jesus, there is hope. Trust. The thing about "control" is that sometimes it actually DOES contribute to your happiness. Sometimes it really DOES make things easier, more efficient, and timely and in turn, leaves you feeling powerful and fulfilled. Like, Ninja-Warrior-style. And then there are the other times. The times when trying to control a situation (or person) create massive anxiety, overwhelm, and bitterness. Have a listen to this episode where I discuss seven steps to figuring out the most powerful role Control can play in your world. It's time to stop tr

GET YOUR FREE CHEATSHEETS! If you've been diggin' into personal development, you've undoubtedly realized that you don't get many results by simply hoarding "good ideas". You know what I'm talking about... scrollin' through Insta or Facebook, double-tappin' it up on inspiring messages, or reading a powerful book but not DOING anything with the info. If you ever fall into this trap, honey, you are soooo not alone. It's kinda like reading a book on pilates and expecting to get a rockin' body. Um, no. Gotta hit the mat, babycakes! Here's the deal... creating change in your life is all about your habits. The shit you do day-in and day-out. It's about monitoring the way you spend your time, energy, and self-talk so you are working towards happiness and fulfillment instead of entertaining a bunch of shit you DON'T want. Alright, great. So, how do you do this? It all starts with your thoughts and creating a "compound effect" in one of the five areas we chat about today. Have a listen as I sound off on 5, different (e

 TheJoyJunkie.com/206 Recently, I received an email from a listener who has diligently been working with her tools to combat her inner critic, but she's noticed that as she has grown, shifted, and changed, so too, has her inner critic. Hello, new level, new devil! Maybe you can relate? Maybe you've been plowin' along on your personal development journey... reading books, listening to pods, using your tools, and then BAM! Your inner critic shows up in a louder, sneakier, or scarier way. First off, no worries... this just means you're on the right track and second, there are tons of things you can do to catch this little bugger at this new stage. Have a listen to this pod where I share 5 things you can do to up your inner-shit-talker rebuttal game so you can feel waaaay more confident that you are actually still in control, tweak your new, powerful, positive self-talk, and feel like you're still moving in the right direction (and actually kinda #slaying). This pod explores: The multiple ways your inner critic

TheJoyJunkie.com/205 If you're like most people, it can be damn-near devastating to watch someone you love dearly go through a rough and difficult time. A listener recently wrote into the show with one such dilemma as her husband has become increasing depressed after being thrown some unfortunate work/career curve-balls. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you've found yourself in a sitch where your partner is straight bummed-the-fuck out about a friendship, a rocky work relationship, a health issue, or some other challenge that you deeeeesperately want to fix. Like, yesterday. It can be incredibly counter intuitive to simply allow your partner to wade through these murky waters alone, while you sit idly by feeling massively helpless. In this episode, I discuss 5 key concepts you must keep in mind if you want to get through this rough chapter stronger and closer than ever. I'm not saying it's easy, but there are definitely things you can do to keep your cool, support your love, and take care of the both of you throug

GET YOUR CHEATSHEETS! Ever see posts floating around Insta or Facebook that tell you to "just think positive" or "be kind to yourself" and you're like, "Ok, sure. I'll get right on that. But, HOW!!?" I totally feel you. If you follow anything remotely inspiring on social, it's likely you've come across these sort of concepts. In my work with both my clients and students, I find they often need much more structure to understand what disempowering things they are saying to themselves, how to know when they tend to be triggered, and what-the-hell to say instead. For many peeps, simply saying "I love myself!" or "I am enough!" feels like a giant, bullshit lie. Now, don't get me wrong, if you can speak that way to yourself with believability and conviction, knock yourself out! However, I do find that many people (probably you) prefer to bridge the gap a bit. In this week's episode, I'll walk you through four, easy steps to catch and alter your internal talk... so that you can start speaking to yourself like a best

GET YOUR FREE WORKSHEETS TO USE WITH THIS EPISODE! TheJoyJunkie.com/203 As you likely know, I often take show topic submissions from our awesome PODiance and we recently received a submission with the subject line, "How to Manifest a Mr. Smith". Of course, the two of us were quite flattered, but I knew I needed to tackle this common inquiry of how-the-hell do you find "the one"? If you've been coming up empty in the dating arena and are wondering what you're doing wrong, this two-part episode is going to be your jam. Here's the deal: Unless you've had some sort of magical, utopian guide on dating, it's likely that you've learned how to date and be in relationship through trial and error, your parent's [awesome] example, and/or a barrage of confusing commentary about what's "normal" and "realistic" from our hyperbolic media. So, how does one find "the one"? Kismet? Chant some magic words or build an alter? Online dating? [starts to pull teeth out] I feel you. Because I wanted to equip you with everything in YO

manifest your soulmate manifest your soulmate TheJoyJunkie.com/202 Recently, a super sweet PODiance member wrote in to the show and the subject line of her email was “How to Manifest a Mr. Smith”. Of course, we were extremely flattered, but it got me thinking about what... The post How to Manifest Your Soulmate – Part 1 [TJJS:EP202] appeared first on .

break-up with a parent break up with a parent www.TheJoyJunkie.com/201 A listener recently wrote into the show asking how she should go about severing a tie with her toxic mother. This relationship had a litany of abuse and behavior that was completely unacceptable, and this listener... The post How to Break-Up with a Parent [TJJS:EP201] appeared first on .

How to establish boundaries How to establish boundaries www.TheJoyJunkie.com/200 Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you have undoubtedly heard the notion of “setting boundaries”, but have you ever wondered exactly what that means? Or maybe you drummed up the nerve to tell someone (like, your... The post What No One Ever Taught You About Boundaries [TJJS:EP200] appeared first on .

make tough decisions make tough decisions www.TheJoyJunkie.com/199 You have a big decision to make. Maybe it’s about a new job. Or if you should move across the country. Maybe ending a relationship… or starting one. And, you are totally fucking confused. Your head is spinning... The post How to Make Tough Decisions [TJJS:EP199] appeared first on .