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In a little bit longer intro to this episode, I talk about what’s going to happen on the pod in 2020, including more detailed show notes so you can get what’s meaningful for you out of every episode, what happened to my 2020 goals and what I hope to see for the “You’re Not Alone” Project.    The interview is with Dr. Eric Nofzinger sleep scientist & founder of Ebb therapeutics.  Dr. Nofzinger has spent more than 35 years practicing sleep medicine and studying brain mechanisms of healthy sleep, insomnia, and chronic sleeplessness. He has published several clinical studies related to these topics and authored a book, Neuroimaging of sleep and sleep disorders. He earned his B.A. degrees in Chemistry and Psychology from Miami University, his M.D. degree from The Ohio State University College of Medicine and performed his Psychiatry training at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine. He is currently an Adjunct Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine.    Eric determin

In this episode, I’m sharing a confession...I lied about something...and a story about why the holidays are difficult for me. I’ll also tell you how, even though this Christmas is way different than anything I’ve ever experienced, I’m making this holiday the best one in a long time.    The magic of Christmas changes with each year, and that can be a good thing if we let it.

The holidays emphasize social connection and magic. Sometimes it feels like if we’re not feeling those things there’s something wrong with us; or it makes us sad and frustrated that we can’t find the magic. We watch all the movies, listen to all the music, put up the lights, and the tree and it’s still not there.    And it feels like everyone around us is dressed in matching Christmas pajama sets, making snow angels, gingerbread houses, having snowball fights, and curling up with their loved ones watching Christmas movies.    It can be a really hard time of year, but it can also be really great at the same time.   I know I’m not alone in struggling with these conflicting emotions at the holidays and well...throughout the year, so I hope you enjoy today’s conversation with behavior and technology expert Dr. John Grohol.    He is the founder, editor in chief and CEO of psych central, co-author of Self-Help That Works, a published researcher, sits on the scientific board of the journal, Computers in Human Beha

Manisha Thakor has been working in the financial services industry for 25 years. She has her MBA from Harvard Business School and did her undergrad at Wellesley College with a year abroad at Oxford.  She started on the institutional side as an analyst, portfolio manager, and client relations executive and build-out and ran a $6 billion separately managed account business. But in 2009 shifted her focus to individuals. Today she is the Vice President of Financial Education at Brighton Jones and the founder of Money Zen a female-centric investment advisory firm. She also has two books, On my own two feet, and get financially naked, and hosts a podcast called the True Wellth Podcast.  She is visiting faculty at both The Omega Institute and IIN and sits on the board for The National Endowment for Financial Education and is a founding member of the Portland-based women’s charitable giving group 99 girlfriends.   How your finances and nutrition are connected  Why money is so taboo and how we can change that Why foc

Cherie Dawn Carr is the author of five books centered on self-healing through intimate relationship with the natural world. She is an enrolled member of the Choctaw Nation of Oklahoma. She writes as Pixie Lighthorse to honor the unheard voices of her ancestors.   She found that teaching and talking to people about spirituality is challenging while we are possessed by our wounds, shadow, binary perceptions, boundaries violations, religious trauma and collective colonial violations. Her books aim to help individuals sort through the influences that block their connection to greater sources of peace and wisdom.   In today’s conversation, we talk about her new book Goldmining in the Shadows, which explores healing our inner selves and spirits so we can live more consciously today.    We’re at a very particular and poignant time in our society, culture, and especially our political landscape, making this type of healing even more important.   It’s also the holidays, which despite being a happy time for most, can b

I’ve been thinking a lot about celebrating our similarities and the things that make us all human so today’s show couldn’t have come at a better time.    I believe there are more things that make us the same than different...even men & women.   I often wonder what type of pressure men feel in today’s society.    What it means to “be a man.”   Boys are or historically have been taught not to cry, to bring home the bacon, and to be “manly” -- whatever that means.    They’re supposed to like sports, have deep voices, and do the chores that require heavy lifting.    I think strides are taken to shift this, but I think taking the time to consider men’s ability to be vulnerable, sensitive, and open about their emotions is really important.    I found a blog post on the Atlantic about shame and gender and a conversation with Brene Brown that shared that men’s shame is inflicted by women in their lives who tend to be repelled when they show chinks in their armor.    This made me sad and want to know what I can do

In this special "solocast" I am talking about something that’s really important to me - something that’s been on my mind for the past year or so and has shown up A LOT over the past few months.  Along with what I’m talking about today, I'm also going to share a new project that I’m working on  - a project that really needs your help in order to have an impact.  Loneliness is being described as an epidemic. Nearly half of Americans reported feeling alone.  Scientists have long known that loneliness is emotionally painful and can lead to psychiatric disorders like depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, and even hallucinatory delirium.  In 2015, researchers at UCLA discovered that social isolation triggers cellular changes that result in chronic inflammation, predisposing the lonely to serious physical conditions like heart disease, stroke, metastatic cancer, and Alzheimer’s disease.  Loneliness doesn’t discriminate against age, gender, job title, role in the home, marital status or the amount of money you ma

Paige Pichler is a writer, yoga instructor, Project HEAL National Ambassador and kundalini yogi. She helps people heal from trauma, old wounds and limiting beliefs by changing their energy to change their lives. Her goal is to help as many people as possible heal, transcend their karmic patterns and step into the lives they came here to live. Find her at paigepichler.com and on Instagram @paigerrpich.   If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle, like “bad things” keep happening to you, like you’re attracting the wrong relationships, or like you just can’t do it anymore this episode is for you. Many of us feel this way, but instead of finding a new way, we stay stuck in the patterns we’ve created, or the patterns we’ve been trained to follow.   The good news is, there is a path out, and for today’s guest, that path was spirituality and connecting with her authentic self. No what she does for a living or what her body looks like, but who she was at her core.   Paige and I talk about how past traumas manifest in our

Anna Kaiser is an American fitness professional, choreographer, and entrepreneur and founder of AKT.  She’s also trainer to the stars including Kelly Ripa (who I just mentioned), Sarah Jessica Parker, Karli Kloss and Shakira.    AKT is a dance-based cardio concept, offering a unique combination of four modalities: DANCE, BANDS, CIRCUIT and TONE. With new original programming created every three weeks and the belief that movement has a powerful, lasting impact, AKT is for all body types and fitness levels. They’ll be opening more studio locations in LA, Dallas, NJ, Denver, Detroit, Miami, and dozens of other cities nationwide within the next 6 months. Keep an eye out for new locations popping up near you.  She’s also launched a streaming program called AKT On Demand, which was named one of Vogue’s Best Online Workouts in 2016, Throughout her fitness career, Anna has helped transform thousands of clients’ lives through her online streaming membership program and flagship studios, and has quickly become one of t

Dr. Chavez taught me many lessons during this conversation that align with themes I find in every episode like knowing what your values are, strong communication, and mindfulness, but most importantly she taught me there is NO normal.    We also talk about how to create your own sexual persona to define what you need, how to keep the passion going for the long haul, why men and women are so different, why women don’t need to rely on men to create  sexual experience, how negative associations with sex impact our present experiences and can create blocks, and the connection between doing what you love and your libido.    Shannon Chavez Qureshi, PsyD, CST  is a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” including help for men, women, LGBTQIA, and couples; the treatment of sexual disorders; sex education for conservative religious and cultural groups; sexual trauma and abuse; and compulsive behaviors surrounding love, romance, and sex.   She is a Licensed Clin

Jennifer McCartney is the New York Times bestselling author of numerous books. She has written about utopias, time machines, and train travel for outlets like BBC Radio 4, The Atlantic, Architectural Digest, Vice Magazine, Teen Vogue, Curbed, and CBC. She is a regular contributor to Publishers Weekly. Her parody The Joy of Leaving Your Sh*t All Over the Place (Countryman Press/W.W. Norton) is a New York Times bestseller published in 5 languages. She is also the author of the Little Book of Animal Philosophy series with HarperCollins, and the humorous handbook, So You Want to Move to Canada, Eh? with Running Press. In addition to non-fiction, she has published one novel Afloat (Hamish Hamilton/Penguin) which was a Canadian bestseller. The Times Literary Supplement called the debut “powerfully evoked…riotous, and disquieting.” Yes, we talk about the benefits of being messy (and YES! There are many), it’s about shifting our thought patterns around what it means to be successful, how we’re conditioned by society,

In this episode, I talk sat down with Rhea Mehta.    Let me tell you. Rhea is one smart (and inspiring) cookie. She’s a molecular toxicologist - a word I can barely pronounce!    I love Rhea because not only is she so smart, but she’s relatable.  We all have a story, and I was so inspired by how she’s using her own to make a difference and inspire others.    She is a healthcare innovator and the CEO of Bowhead Health, an encrypted health wallet and data sharing platform that enables users to become the managers and vendors of their own data. Rhea has a BSc in Biomedical Sciences from the University of Waterloo, a PhD in Molecular Toxicology and Nutritional Biochemistry from the University of Toronto, and is a certified health coach with over 10 years of experience in scientific research and integrative healthcare practice. Rhea also has several years experience in community design and co-creation. She co-founded Reset, a Toronto-based adult summer camp and digital detox and is the founder of Global Smoothie D

Money - whether you’re good with your money or feeling like you could use an electric shock reminder every time you open up Amazon and regardless of whether you make a million or 10 thousand, it’s a tricky and sometimes sensitive topic.   There’s a lot of shame in not being able to “keep up with the Jones’s” and feeling like a “have not.”    And most of the time -- it rarely feels abundant.   Etiquette tells us not to talk about it. Unless of course you live in NYC where one-upping one another on how much rent to space ratio is par for the course and how could you possibly save    Well, today, right here, right now my guest Erica and I are breaking that taboo.    Erica Gellerman is a CPA, MBA, personal finance writer, and founder of The Worth Project: a weekly money newsletter you actually want to read. Her work has been featured on Forbes, Money, Business Insider, The Everygirl, The Everymom, and Lifehacker. When she's not writing about personal finance you can find Erica exploring Europe from her temporary

I’ve always wondered what it would be like to go to a psychic -- like can this stuff be real!? And after today’s conversation I was blown away, nearly brought to tears, and fascinated by the gifts that Dallisa Hocking has.    You can decide how much you want to believe, but you guys...this energy is real shit. The best part is, even if you think this is all a bunch of hokey pokey, you can learn a lot about how to tune in to make life more meaningful for you.    Dallisa is the CEO of Spirit & Spark, 5th Generation Psychic Medium, Transformation Specialist, Spiritual Coach + Intuitive Energy Practitioner Before she became a nationally recognized psychic medium, meditation teacher and spiritual coach, Dallisa led a very different life as an executive in the casino industry in Las Vegas. She has made matters of the heart, living mindfully and teaching people how to elevate their own lives her core mission. She founded "Spirit and Spark," a company devoted to teaching people how to live with intention, fearles

Last summer I discovered Dry Farm Wines who produce a no sugar or carb, low alcohol, low in sulfite, fine wines from all over the world.   This is a conversation with their founder Todd White.    Not only is the entire team at Dry Farm wine lovers and experts, they’re fanatical about health and taste. They’re committed to the integrity of their product and only accept Natural Wines that have strict purity standards. Like us, they care about putting good things in their body, because as we know  -- when you put great things in you get great things out.    Todd is so knowledgeable and passionate about wine, health, and creating a meaningful life.   During our conversation we talk about:    What wine is and how it’s made. What natural and organic wines are and the important distinction between them and conventional wines.  Why finding wines with a lower % of alcohol can be a really good thing and what you should look for in a wine. The dirty little secrets of the domestic wine industry (ahem 76 additives approv

But what if we could enhance the quality of our life today by confronting our own mortality and shifting the way we think about death? Death or dying may feel dark and strikes up a mix of emotions for many of us.  There’s the fear of it happening; the anxiety of the unknown; and sadness for those that we’ve lost.  After my conversation with today’s guest Mary Jones, I’ve been thinking a lot more about how I think about death and how I want to leave the world. This process has helped me reflect on my own values and identify the things that are really, truly important to me.   Mary Kelly Jones is the Director of Family Support Services for Hospice & Palliative Care of St. Lawrence Valley in Potsdam New York. With over 25 years’ experience at Hospice, Mary manages Hospice Chaplains, Social Workers, Volunteer Manager and Bereavement Staff. Mary is passionate about educating Hospice staff and the St. Lawrence County community in all matters related to end of life.    She has written over 30 grief publications

The earth is a place we all call home. It’s a commonality that transcends borders; it’s the place we all stand on, and if you’ve ever watched nat geo it’s pure magic.    In a recent interview, today’s guest Henry Gordon Smith said We are currently on an unsustainable trajectory that if continued unchecked will lead to devastation.   Henry is an urban Agriculture Consultant, International Keynote Speaker & AgTech Advisor   He is also the Managing Director of Agritecture a company that helps companies learn the art, science, and business of urban agriculture and integrating it into cities.    Agritecture Consulting provides a comprehensive approach to urban agriculture project development. They have been in operation since 2014, and has helped more than eighty organizations determine the feasibility of their ideas, validate their business strategies, recruit talent for their projects, and manage operational challenges.   They have a personalized commitment to each project and see their job as to jumpstart y

Have you ever wondered why the diets that works for me don’t work for you? Or why you try the paleo, keto, fasting, atkins, whatever diet and you don’t see the results like your friend did?    Dr. Ahmed El-Sohemy and I are talking about nutrigenomics.    Nutrigenomics helps us understand how our genes and what we eat interact or the branch of genetic research of how foods affect our genes and in turn genetic variations affect how we react to nutrients in food.    AKA your genes may be causing your lactose intolerance!    Dr. El-Sohemy is the Founder of Nutrigenomix Inc. that offers tests on how genes impact weight loss & body composition, nutrient metabolism, heart health, performance, fertility, food intolerances, and eating habits. He serves as the President and Chief Scientific Officer. He also serves as Chair of Nutrigenomix’s International Science Advisory Board (SAB), which consists of key opinion leaders in the field of nutrigenomics. Dr. El-Sohemy obtained his PhD from the University of Toronto an

This is an atypical episode of How We'll Live - it's the first solo episode! Hailey talks to listeners in a new way, asking for their advice on her recent "roadblock", a personal story about growth and self-love, and highlights from 4 of the earliest episodes of the show.  Do you ever just have a bad day? Or maybe even a bad week?  In a world where "objects on the screen are less real than they seem", it can be easy to fall into the perfection trap or the desire to want life to be as perfect as it appears on Instagram and other social media.  In this episode, the host, Hailey shares a personal moment when she learned what it meant to surrender, to feel truly vulnerable, and the moment made the promise that she would love herself just a little bit more. It is one of her most memorable, stand-out moments on my journey towards positivity, self-love, confidence, and the ultimate pursuit of passion.  While we're more connected than ever, sometimes it seems like we're more isolated, but magic, love, and kindness ha

If you’ve ever felt alone; like you’re the only one feeling what you feel, I think today’s conversation will resonate with you. Kate is open and vulnerable about her abuse and eating disorder and recovery. We all have experiences, chaos, and trauma whether big or small and it can be so easy to feel alone in it.   This conversation is really special to me because as you’ll hear at the beginning of the episode, I was meant to meet Kate. When I think back to serendipitous moments, this was one of them.   Kate, formerly known to the world on Instagram as SheBeKaleInIt is a strong, resilient, and beautiful person. Healing trauma emotion etc.   Kate is a yoga instructor, business mentor, and entrepreneur based in Los Angeles. She candidly shares her story and experiences with trauma, mental health and body image with her students and audience online. Through mindfulness and intuitive practices, Kate hopes to inspire others to radically accept themselves, their bodies, and move intuitively. She's also the co-founder