Deeper Dating

This is an episode first published in October 2024. It’s one of our most popular.   Your sexual Core Gifts are the language of your true sexuality.   When you can name, claim, and embrace them, your sexual experiences will become so much more amazing, connected, and filled with love and excitement. In this episode, you'll learn how to discover your own sexual Core Gifts.   Listen For: 2:34 Sex as a Mirror of Your Life 7:00 The Hidden Power of Shame 12:56 What Makes You Feel Safe 18:58 Finding Themes in What Moves You 23:37 Naming Your Sexual Core Gifts SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

If you want to supercharge the intimacy in any relationship, think about the asks that you don't ask.   In this episode, I will teach you how to name those asks, how to deshame them, and how to present them in a way that leads to greater closeness with your friends, with your family, in your love relationship, and with yourself.   Listen For: 01:59 Asking as an act of self-love 09:25 How unspoken needs harm connection 16:15 Self-honoring exercises you can try 20:45 Why big asks reveal relationship truth 21:52 Awkwardness, risk, and intimacy growth   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click   CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

The biggest study of the American single experience just came out.   In this episode, I interview one of its key authors; Dr. Amanda Gesselman, Director of Sex & Relationship Science at Match and a Research Scientist at the Kinsey Institute.    Get ready to hear some really fascinating things about what's happening for single people in America. Sex, love, dating, AI; it's all in this report!   Listen For: 4:21 Turning the Tables: Singlehood as Empowerment 9:34 The Emotional Disconnect Between Men and Women 17:56 Intentional Dating The 30-Minute Rule 23:16 Attraction vs. Attraction Patterns 30:35 The Silent Epidemic Miscommunication in Dating Intentions 39:52 Gen Z and the Gender Spectrum 41:26 AI in Dating Useful Tool or Dealbreaker   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH GUEST: DR. AMANDA GESSELMAN LinkedIn | Kinsey Institute | Singles in America Study   CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook |

Are you chasing love that leaves you feeling unworthy or uplifted? Ken Page reveals the two pivotal questions that can revolutionize your search for love and shield you from unnecessary heartache. Drawing from four decades of psychotherapy and personal growth, Ken explores the profound difference between "attractions of deprivation"—those intense, addictive relationships that mirror old wounds—and "attractions of inspiration"—connections rooted in mutual respect, safety, and emotional integrity. He also unpacks how asking one soulful question—“Do I feel safe and seen?”—can fast-track your journey to secure love and deepen your own self-worth. Listen For: 03:23 What Is an Attraction of Deprivation 07:11 Personal Story The Relationship That Nearly Trapped Ken 09:37 Why Deprivation Feels Like Home 13:10 The Three Cs of Choosing a Partner 15:34 The Second Key Question Do I Feel Safe and Seen 18:01 The Brave Act of Asking for What You Need 21:22 Building a Secure Attachment Style Through Self-Protection   SUB

Can a broken road really lead you home to love? Ken Page shares the raw and profound story of how he finally found real, lasting love—by embracing his deepest fears, honoring his longing, and listening to the gentle whispers of spirit. From navigating intimacy during the AIDS crisis to forming a heartfelt support group of “chronically single shrinks,” Ken weaves a touching narrative of heartbreak, healing, and joy. His journey leads to adopting a child from Cambodia, launching his Deeper Dating movement, and marrying the love of his life just before his father’s passing. This is a story about trust, transformation, and the sacred, messy path to authentic love. Listen For: 0:43 Embracing Neurosis: The Gifts Hidden in Shame 8:18 The “Wave” of Repulsion and How It Sabotages Love 11:30 The Secret to Overcoming the “Ick” 14:41 Realizing He Wanted to Become a Father 20:27 Creating the Deeper Dating Movement 23:39 A Holocaust Survivor's Blessing 24:34 Saying Yes Before Goodbye: A Hospice Wedding 25:43 Trusting

What happens when the search for love pulls you away from your soul—and how do you find your way back? Ken Page shares the deeply personal next chapter of his emotional, spiritual, sexual, and romantic journey in the second part of this series. From navigating New York’s vibrant and chaotic gay underground of the 1980s to an unexpected spiritual reawakening in the Wind River Mountains of Wyoming, Ken opens up about his struggles with love, addiction, loss, and the journey toward self-acceptance. Through heartbreaking stories and soul-shifting insights, he reveals how he began to integrate his sexuality with his spirituality and laid the foundation for his life’s work. Listen For: 6:32 Discovering the gay cultural renaissance in NYC 10:12 Fitting in with the beautiful and unattainable 13:28 Launching a therapeutic practice and gay men’s groups 16:43 A dream that revealed the truth about love 18:02 Finding God again in the Snow Peak mountains 21:11 Michael’s AIDS diagnosis and the start of a legacy 24:18 Re-en

What happens when spiritual devotion and gay identity collide in the search for love?   In this raw, never-before-shared episode of The Deeper Dating Podcast, Ken takes you on an intensely personal journey through his early spiritual awakening, sexual discovery, and search for authentic connection.   From mystical meditations and cult-like spiritual circles to heartbreak, celibacy, sexual compulsion, and finally integration,   Ken explores the winding path that led him from loneliness and longing to a deeper understanding of self, love, and the divine.   Vulnerable, courageous, and powerfully human.   Listen For: 5:28 Losing his friend group and finding solitude 6:42 A radiant stranger in the vegetable aisle 9:45 Meeting Paramahansa Yogananda through a book and a photo 11:53 Telling Bruce “I love you” and being fully received 25:34 Losing spirituality and reclaiming his sexual self 27:53 The tension between sexuality, spirituality, and identity   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positiv

This is an episode first published in March 2024. It’s one of our most popular. How do you turn your dating life into a true spiritual path that heals your heart, connects you to the deepest parts of your being, allows you to have experiences that are truly transcendent, and allows you to find real healthy love dramatically more quickly? This episode will teach you how.   Listen For: 02:16 – What “Spiritual” Really Means in the Context of Love 05:48 – The Power of “Coming Out” with Your Authentic Self 10:06 – Why We Unconsciously Sabotage Love 13:35 – The Spiritual Roots of Defensive Dating Behaviors 17:55 – The Shame Around Tenderness and Big Love 19:18 – Soft Confidence vs. Rigid Perfectionism   SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON APPLE PODCASTS   Leave a positive rating for this podcast with one click CONNECT WITH KEN: Website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | X

In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, Tarah and EJ Kerwin of Relationship Renovation share their unique model for fostering authentic sexual expression that heals and strengthens relationships. Discover how to navigate the challenges of communicating about intimacy, from early dating to long-term partnerships, and create a connection that’s both liberating and deeply fulfilling. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

  What does it mean to date like you really mean it? And what are the 4 things you can do to to dramatically speed your path to healthy lasting love? SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com

Do you make yourself smaller, ask for less, reveal less, to protect your relationship? This is the Empath's Trap, making ourselves smaller in the service of love. In this episode, you'll learn about the Empath's Trap and how you can get out of it to be your full self in your intimate relationships. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

You've decided to lead with authenticity in your search for love. But how do you protect yourself against all of the bad behavior and heartache that's out there? How can you be vulnerable, but not naive? How can you open up to romance but still protect your heart? Learn how in this episode. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

You've started dating someone new, and you're pretty excited. You know, to look out for red flags, and to take in the green flags. But there are so many things no one teaches us about nurturing a promising new relationship. In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, you'll learn keys to success that we never get taught. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

Julie and Yue are intrepid, wise, and funny -- and they have explored the world of dating from the inside out, with insights from countless daters and top experts. Together, they are two of the most wonderful dating experts I know. Celebrating the release of the new book, I was thrilled to tap them for their best advice for modern daters.  SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

Your Core Gifts are the nuclear keys to your love, meaning, and mission. They are the source of your authenticity and joy. In this episode, you'll learn the five keys to ignite and harness them to find real love -- and self-love. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

This is perhaps the single most powerful process I teach. It's the easiest way I know to connect to your inner guidance, experience self-love, and access your unique wisdom in love. Let this become a part of your New Year--and watch what happens! (This is a replay of episode 0003) SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

If you can find a way to up, level your attraction patterns, you are then going to up, level your entire future in love, and that means up leveling your entire future. In this episode, I'm going to teach you how. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

Listeners bring their most important questions about love, sex, and dating to Ken, and get his direct personal advice. In this episode, we explore communicating your authentic sexual and romantic needs, and the challenges of dating when older and when living with chronic illness. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

There are five essential keys that lead to rich and lasting intimacy -- and I outline all of them in this episode. It's the entire Deeper Dating path in a nutshell. These five keys will empower you profoundly as they speed your path to real and healthy love. SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating

God knows we have struggled with the pain and difficulty of online dating!  Dr. Marie Thouin, a brilliant researcher and dear friend, is going to share with us ideas that will change your online dating life in amazing ways. She'll give you a framework that can change your entire approach to online dating. Don't miss this!  SUBSCRIBE TO DEEPER DATING ON iTUNES/APPLE PODCASTS: https://apple.co/3LPSrXZ LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com ——————————— CONNECT WITH US! ——————————— FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeeperDating