Kate Hastings Show

Your level of commitment defines you. Before building anything new, address what’s holding you back. Identify what you're currently committed to that's causing you to fail. You can't commit to something new while tied to the old. We can't build new discipline if we're disciplined in the wrong areas. Values need to be aligned correctly, and priorities must be set right. Commitment means sticking with your goals, values, and responsibilities even when things get tough. If you're not committed to yourself, you're committed to others, which is dangerous. You begin to live for others, mistaking busyness for progress. If what you’re doing isn’t yielding results related to your aim, you’re off the path. Being committed to yourself allows you to be committed to others and show up for them. Phenyx Fit Mental Health Coach    _____________________________ Experience the Future of Health with Mission Med+ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassl

Starting at day one is something we all experience, but in today's society, we often forget that. With the constant influx of comparison and the paralysis of fear, it's easy to lose sight of the importance of beginning, especially when faced with fear, anxiety, and imposter syndrome. Fear is built into our biology to keep us alive and safe, but when it creeps into the wrong areas of our lives, it hinders us from taking action or putting ourselves out there. Many people look at day one expecting the final success chapter, but that’s not how life works. Often, people either have an oversized ego or an unhealthy one. An unhealthy ego is full of pride, fear, entitlement, and comfort. A healthy ego says, "I can achieve excellence, I can pursue greatness, and I am worthy of success no matter the cost." There is a cost and payoff to everything in life. The cost of not starting is an unlived life of fear, weakness, and unfulfilled potential. Potential is the capacity to develop into something in the future; qualities

It took me years, but I am now confident in the things I'm not good at. When you don’t own your weaknesses, something else takes ownership over you. For 30 years, I believed I wasn’t smart, lovable, or worthy. I was strong in all the wrong areas, like people-pleasing, self-isolation, and suppressing emotions. These weaknesses tricked me into thinking I was a good person, but I was actually enabling harmful behaviors. Accepting my weaknesses as weaknesses was the turning point. I was a high-achieving, people-pleasing, co-dependent woman who thrived in chaos and pain. Pretending your weaknesses aren't there or masking them only weighs you down. It's hard not to live up to your potential because you're afraid to take the first step and look foolish. Reality check: we were all once beginners. I mess up all the time, especially with numbers and reading things backward. When we focus too much on our weaknesses, our strengths also become weak. My weaknesses no longer stop me because I own them. I learn, I grind it o

Pain, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, often leaves deep wounds that can shape our lives in significant ways. However, these wounds can also become sources of immense strength and insight. Healing isn't easy, and it takes a lot of strength—the right kind of strength. I used to be strong in all the wrong ways, tolerating abuse and being a people-pleaser. True strength comes from being authentic and courageous. In this episode, I'll talk about the importance of recognizing our wounds and how they shape our identities. It's about letting go of survival tactics and becoming our true selves in order to shift that into wisdom.  I know that many people get stuck on their healing journey because of fear and old habits. "Transforming Pain: Wounds into Wisdom" is here to help you break free from those patterns. I'll share stories, insights, and practical tips to help you embrace your pain and turn it into wisdom. Phenyx Fit | Kate Hastings Podcast | Mental Health Coach | WEBSITE:  ____________________

rue discipline is rooted in consistency and flexibility. Life is unpredictable, and when I am rigid in my thinking, behavior, and emotions, I stifle my growth. Adapting to new circumstances, scaling down when needed, and changing my approach are crucial for maintaining discipline. I focus on setting realistic, manageable goals that allow for consistent progress. I aim low, hit it, and keep building. This approach has taught me to view setbacks as feedback rather than failures. Great things aren't built overnight; they take time and adaptability. High expectations on an inflexible foundation will always crumble. My journey has been about learning to adapt to cope and ultimately thrive. I used to adapt to abuse, high stress, and what others expected of me, leading to burnout and self-sabotage. Now, I teach the importance of adaptability for mental health and sustainable success. It's about adjusting to the right things and avoiding black-and-white thinking. As Max McKeown said, "Adaptability is about the powerf

Wounded feminine energy can show up as feeling like a victim, experiencing powerlessness, or perceiving yourself as weak. It may involve manipulation, being guarded, withholding affection, and displaying neediness. Shame and a sense of never being enough can drive you to overdo things, constantly striving to prove your worth. This wounded energy can lead to over-sensitivity, difficulty regulating emotions, and a toxic ego, making you aggressive, combative, and overly opinionated. Understanding the natural energies within us is essential. Feminine energy is about receiving and being, while masculine energy is about doing and acting. Recognizing and balancing these traits is the first step toward healing and embracing a healthier, more empowered self. It's important to balance masculine and feminine energies, knowing when to be assertive and when to be nurturing. True femininity starts from within. It’s a mindset, a way of being, and an outlook on life. It begins with how you treat, love, support, and connect w

In this episode, I dive into the nitty-gritty of self-trust, which is so crucial for personal growth and well-being. Trusting yourself means having confidence in your abilities, judgments, and decisions. But let's be real, why is it often so tough to trust ourselves? What behaviors are secretly undermining our confidence and integrity? I’ll unpack the foundations of self-trust, like self-reliance, self-integrity, self-honesty, self-compassion, and self-confidence. These are the building blocks that help you trust yourself more deeply. I'll get into the common culprits that destroy self-trust: self-sabotage, perfectionism, seeking external validation, neglecting self-care, negative self-talk, and ignoring your intuition. These behaviors can really erode your sense of self-worth and make it hard to trust your own judgment. I'll also touch on factors that influence self-trust, such as fear of failure or rejection, low self-esteem, and past trauma. These issues can create barriers that make trusting yourself feel

Jealousy is a rollercoaster of feelings; it's a complex emotion—suspicion, fear, anger, bitterness, resentment, you name it. But at its heart, it’s about something we want or feel we’re missing. It's a fear of abandonment rooted in lack and low self-esteem. It’s a signal that there’s an unmet need or desire in our lives. We often block these feelings with fear and comparisons, feeling like we don't measure up. Whether it's comparing ourselves to someone else’s success or feeling envious in relationships, jealousy can pop up everywhere. It’s often tied to feeling insecure or not good enough. But here’s the good thing about jealousy: it can be a clue that points us toward our true desires and dreams. In this podcast, I will talk about how jealousy shows up in different parts of our lives—from sibling rivalries to work competition to romantic relationships. I'll dive into how it’s connected to feelings of lack, grief, and low self-esteem. And I'll look at how these feelings can make us feel anxious, emotionally

Welcome to "Pacing Your Healing: A Marathon, Not a Sprint," a podcast dedicated to those on their healing journey. Healing is a gradual process that requires patience, grace, and self-compassion. This podcast offers insights on navigating the path to recovery, addressing emotional dysregulation, negative self-concept, and hypervigilance. Reflecting on my own journey, I realized the importance of pacing yourself. Many, including myself, bring an all-or-nothing mentality to healing, setting unrealistic expectations and being hard on ourselves for setbacks. Imagine running a race for 30 years and reaching the finish line, only to start your healing journey. It's crucial to slow down and see things differently. True healing began for me when I reflected on my experiences with newfound appreciation. Life's ups and downs can be especially challenging when constantly vigilant. Operating outside our window of tolerance leads to exhaustion and hampers healing. Remember, healing is a marathon, not a sprint. There are n

Episode #204 KHP: I dive deep into the complexities of anger, exploring its roots, triggers, and impacts on our lives. Anger is a fundamental human emotion tied to our survival instincts, often arising from unresolved wounds and trauma. I discuss how anger manifests, from the fight, flight, or freeze response to its influence on our behavior and nervous system. We'll also explore how cortisol, released during stress, can lead to a sense of control and even shape our identity. Learn why anger shouldn't be managed but understood and healed, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries and transforming anger through compassion and self-awareness. Join me as I unpack these critical insights to better understand and navigate anger in daily life.  Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Mental Health Coach    _________________________________     Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the M

Trauma affects us in many profound ways, often hindering our ability to play and experience joy. In this episode, we'll explore how trauma impacts the nervous system and why engaging in play is vital for emotional healing. I didn’t even realize I had emotions until I was 31—sad, happy, aroused. Let's start with the basics. When we experience trauma, our body's stress response is triggered, activating the sympathetic nervous system. This leads to anxiety, fear, and hypervigilance, causing us to split our personality in ways to protect ourselves. We develop patterns and cycles, turning our brain and body into a computer-like state, constantly processing and reacting. Unlike traditional talk therapy, play therapy allows individuals to reconnect with their natural inclination to play and explore. When we are in survival mode, our brain isn't focused on connections. Play helps shift us from survival to thriving thorugh PLAY!  Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach        _____

Welcome to "Managing Chronic Stress & Burnout," where I delve deep into the world of burnout, looking beyond typical triggers like long work hours. In this podcast, I share my personal journey through chronic stress that spiraled into burnout, starting from a childhood filled with uncertainty and turmoil. I'll explore how my early experiences with unstable environments and abusive relationships shaped my approach to stress, leading me into patterns of overtraining and people-pleasing. "Managing Chronic Stress & Burnout" isn't just about coping with workplace stress—it's about understanding how neglecting our own needs and values can lead us to live lives that are far from fulfilling. Join me as I offer insights on breaking free from these destructive cycles, by integrating our emotions and challenging our deepest beliefs. Tune in to learn how to prioritize your well-being and reclaim the life you truly deserve. Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach    ___________

I explore the intricate psychology behind the urge to consistently help others, often at one's own expense. The Savior Complex is not just a generous impulse—it's a deep-seated pattern that can disrupt personal well-being and relationships. This complex often stems from early experiences where individuals felt compelled to assume roles beyond their years, like becoming a caretaker at a young age due to parental absence or dysfunction. I will delve into how this drive can manifest in controlling and manipulative behaviors, as well as the overwhelming need to be indispensable to others for validation. We'll look at the characteristics common to those with the Savior Complex, including over-responsibility, guilt when not helping, and the sacrifice of personal needs to aid others. The episode also covers why individuals with this complex might find themselves attracted to those who are wounded or unavailable, filling a void within themselves.   Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Healt

If there's one podcast I never imagined I'd record, it's this one—episode number 200. In this special episode, I share my personal journey to finding Jesus. It's a heartfelt testimony that I hope will reach and resonate with many. Join me as I open up about my experiences and the profound impact they've had on my life, in the hope that it might inspire and connect with others on their spiritual paths. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach      ___________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you!   Dr Krist

KHP 199: From identifying scarcity triggers to developing gratitude practices and shifting our mindset through affirmations, we'll provide actionable tips and exercises to help you break free from the grip of scarcity. Whether you're struggling with financial worries, career doubts, or feelings of inadequacy, this podcast offers guidance and support on your journey to a more abundant life. _________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you!   Dr Kristen Oakes  305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus  

KHP 198- We all face hard circumstances and moments in life that challenge us and leave a mix of often unwelcome feelings. We like to think that we can push them away either with logic or sheer willpower. We use whatever is available and the coping skills we have readily available. The goal in life is to identify, attune, regulate, and lead our emotions. For a long time, my entire life was lived out in extremes: two states, situational happy and deep despair darkness. Think of your emotions like a rainbow, not in extremes of black and white; there is variety and color to our life through our emotions.   Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach          _____________________________________________________________________   Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $

Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach    ______________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you!   Dr Kristen Oakes  305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus    

Kate Hastings Podcast  Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  Mental Health Coach    _________________________________________________________________________   Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podcast. Getting started is easy—reach out to them via call, text at 305-748-2517, or DM @missionmed.plus, and the dedicated team will handle everything for you!   Dr Kristen Oakes  305-748-2517 @missionmed.plus    

Welcome to episode 195 of the podcast "KHP: The Art of Surrender". In this episode, I delve into the profound concept of surrender and what it truly means to let go. Surrender is not just about giving up; it's about accepting and embracing reality without resistance. It involves releasing control and having faith that everything will be alright, even without my interference. Join me as I explore the roots of control, which often stem from fear, and how it can hinder our ability to live fully and authentically. I discuss the importance of letting go of past traumas, habits, and self-sabotaging behaviors in order to pave the way for transformation and growth.     __________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping whe

In this podcast, I share my journey of confronting the shadows within myself, drawing parallels to the process of developing old-school photographs in a darkroom. Just as darkness is essential for the image to emerge, so too is facing our inner darkness necessary for personal transformation. From childhood struggles to adult challenges, I delve into the depths of my own experiences, revealing the patterns and conditioning that shaped my beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. Through vulnerability and introspection, I uncover the misalignments and survival tactics that kept me trapped in a cycle of pain and limitation. ________________________________________________________________ Experience Virtual Regenerative Medicine, dedicated to optimizing your health with Mission Med+. Say goodbye to hassle and hello to safe, effective, and efficient care—the Mission Med Way! As our valued listener, you can enjoy a generous offer: receive $100 off your first month, plus complimentary shipping when you mention KH Podc