Kate Hastings Show

If you keep entering a new year hoping things will change without confronting the patterns you keep repeating, nothing will be different. Familiar habits. Familiar reactions. Familiar relationships. Familiar excuses. Over time, that repetition does not just stall progress. It reshapes your identity and erodes self-trust. In this episode, I break down why motivation always fades under pressure and why discipline without structure collapses into burnout. I expose the internal enemies most people avoid. Undisciplined thinking. Survival tactics that are no longer necessary. Coping skills that numb instead of build capacity. Predictable failure loops. People-pleasing disguised as kindness. Environments that quietly keep you stuck. You will hear a direct breakdown of the internal battles that must be faced before anything external can change. Thought governance. Emotional regulation. Boundaries. Values. Standards. And the real cost of avoiding your blind spots. Not with shame. With clarity and ownership. This episo

In this episode, I break down how to define what winning in 2026 actually means, not as vague goals, but as lived experience. How you want your body to feel. How you want to handle pressure. How you want to move through your days. I explain why identity drives behavior, why discipline collapses without regulation, and how a dysregulated nervous system quietly sabotages good intentions. I also get practical. I walk through how to build non-negotiables that remove decision fatigue, how to pre-decide your response when momentum drops, and how to create simple daily structure that supports consistency without rigidity. I explain how most people lose years, not through failure, but through predictable patterns like overcommitting, chasing urgency, and quitting in temporary emotional states. I talk about endurance versus burnout, when staying builds character and when leaving is wisdom, and how to repair quickly without self-sabotage when you fall off. This is not about perfection. It is about learning how to reset

This episode breaks down what it actually means to be a savage in life, and it has nothing to do with being loud, aggressive, or constantly pushing. Real strength is not intensity. It is restraint, regulation, and clarity. Being a savage means confronting yourself honestly instead of performing strength for the world. Most people live reactively, driven by emotion, fear, and avoidance, and they call it authenticity. This episode challenges that pattern and exposes how much of life is shaped by unexamined comfort. We talk about discipline as identity, not punishment, and why motivation will never sustain a meaningful life. You will hear why pain does not make you strong unless it is integrated instead of driving your decisions. This episode explores boundaries, standards, and the quiet cost of validation seeking. I redefine savagery through internal mastery rather than dominance or control. If you are tired of surviving and ready to live anchored, disciplined, and aligned, this episode is for you. Kate Hasting

In this episode, I break down endurance as the strength to stay grounded while life applies pressure. Endurance is not intensity. Endurance is long-term stability. It is the ability to stay the course without slipping back into old patterns. I teach how endurance, resilience, and capacity work together. Resilience is the ability to get back up. Endurance is the ability to stay in it. Capacity is the internal space that determines how much you can hold without breaking. When these three grow together, you move out of survival and into real internal strength. I also expose how emotional junk food weakens all three. The quick hits that comfort you short term but shrink your ability to hold real pressure long term. This episode gives you a grounded, practical framework for building endurance, expanding capacity, and developing the long-term strength required to hold the life you are asking for. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

In this episode, I break down anxiety for what it truly is. A safety issue, not a character flaw. I teach you how the nervous system holds onto old patterns, why calm feels foreign, and why capacity matters more than control. You'll learn the hidden signs of anxiety you've been living with and the cues your body has been asking for all along. This episode will help you stop fighting your anxiety and start understanding it, so you can finally live from safety instead of survival. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

In this episode I talk about why gratitude feels impossible for people who grew up in chaos, abandonment, or survival. Gratitude is not a weakness issue. It is a capacity issue. When your nervous system has been trained to expect loss, stillness feels unsafe and receiving anything good feels risky. I break down why gratitude feels heavy, why sadness and gratitude can exist together, and how to slowly build the internal room to hold both. If you have ever felt broken for not being able to feel grateful, this episode shows you that nothing is wrong with you. You are rebuilding the capacity to receive. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

What if the drive you call ambition is actually your body trying to save you. People glorify ambition, but trauma driven ambition is not ambition. It is a nervous system strategy. It is the body trying to outrun a wound. Outrun rejection. Outrun abandonment. When love was unpredictable, your brain learned to earn it. Achievement became safety. Productivity became protection. Success became survival. You were conditioned to believe that if you excel, you are worthy, and if you slow down, you are replaceable. This creates an identity tied to performance instead of worth. You become the strong one. The responsible one. The overachiever who cannot rest because rest feels dangerous. Silence feels like abandonment. Slowing down feels like failure. Trauma driven ambition looks successful from the outside, but internally it costs you peace, presence, and connection. You are not chasing success. You are outrunning fear. Healing is not about losing your ambition. It is about shifting the fuel. When your nervous system

For most of my life, I did not realize I was living in survival. I thought I was disciplined. I thought I was focused. I thought I was built different. But underneath all of that, my body was on alert. I woke up braced for impact. I pushed myself hard because slowing down felt unsafe. I chased excellence because I was terrified of losing control. That tension became my normal. I did not know that the exhaustion I carried was not a mindset issue. It was a survival response. It was the nervous system doing its job for far too long. This podcast comes from the years I spent confusing trauma patterns for personality traits. It comes from learning how survival hides behind achievement. How perfectionism becomes self protection. How productivity becomes avoidance. How strength becomes armor. It comes from finally understanding that you cannot outwork a body that does not feel safe. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

This episode is about the war that starts once the chaos ends. The quiet battle between who you had to be to survive and who you're being called to become. It's where peace feels uncomfortable, stillness feels unsafe, and you start to realize that strength built from pain isn't the same as strength built from peace. You'll learn how the habits that once protected you control, overworking, people-pleasing were never flaws. They were survival codes. But at some point, they stop serving the life God's asking you to build. This conversation is about laying that version of you to rest, finding safety in stillness, and learning how to live without the armor. You don't need to become someone new. You just need to remember who you were before life taught you to forget. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

This episode is about the war that happens after the trauma the quiet one inside your own head. The voice that says, "You should've known better. You should've seen it coming. You should've been stronger." "Healing the Voice That Blames You" is about learning to stop attacking yourself for how you survived. It's about understanding that self-blame isn't truth it's a survival instinct trying to protect you from pain you never deserved. I talk about how trauma rewires your brain, disconnects you from your own intuition, and how to rebuild self-trust when that inner critic gets loud. This episode will help you separate who you are from what happened to you. Because healing doesn't mean forgetting your story it means learning to finally speak to yourself like someone worth saving, protecting and loving. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

In this episode, I open up about abusive relationships and trauma. What they take from you, how they change you, and how you rebuild when survival has been your only language. I talk about growing up in dysfunction, watching addiction, and repeating the patterns that mirrored what I saw. Abuse became my blueprint for love. I confused intensity for connection and chaos for care. For years, I kept abandoning myself just to stay chosen. This episode is about how trauma lives in the body, how the nervous system adapts to danger like it’s home, and how healing starts when you finally stop running from what shaped you. I share what I learned about self-abandonment, trauma bonds, and why peace feels uncomfortable when you’ve spent your life in survival. This isn’t a conversation about pain. It’s about redemption. About taking accountability for the patterns I created, learning to call abuse what it was, and grieving the childhood I never had. It’s about understanding that nothing was ever wrong with me. I was just p

Let’s talk about the kind of discipline that looks impressive but doesn’t hold up under pressure. Discipline without integrity is performance. Integrity without discipline is potential wasted. And character is what proves which one you live by when no one’s watching. We live in a world obsessed with optics people performing consistency, performing hard work, performing virtue. But performance isn’t the same as integrity. One is about how you look. The other is about who you are.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

For me, the number one strategy for success has never been waiting to feel ready. It’s been learning to train and take action afraid, unfinished, and at 80 percent done. I’ve learned that fear doesn’t go away when you grow. It just evolves with your next level. So if you’re waiting for confidence before you move, you’ll be waiting forever. Confidence is built through movement, not before it. This episode is all about learning to work with fear instead of against it. I talk about how to identify it, communicate with it, regulate it, and lead it. Because fear isn’t a flaw. It’s biological. It’s the body trying to protect you from uncertainty. But when you train through it, you retrain your nervous system to see discomfort as growth instead of danger. I’ll also share why accountability is what actually builds your character, discipline, and freedom and why most people avoid it because it costs them their excuses. You’ll hear the one question that changed everything for me: What would happen if I just never gave

For most of my life, the name of Jesus was nothing more than a curse word to me. Faith wasn’t something I wanted. In fact, I ran from it. I chased everything else success, relationships, performance, even destruction thinking it would fill me. But deep down, I was empty. This podcast is my honest journey of being humbled, broken, and finally led to Christ. It’s about how He met me in the places I thought were too far gone, how He healed what I thought would always stay broken, and how faith went from being my last option to my only way forward. If you’ve ever questioned God, felt unworthy, or wondered if healing is really possible, my story is for you. I don’t have it all figured out, but I know this  the moment I let go of who I thought I had to be, Jesus gave me a new life. And I want to share that hope with you.     Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

This podcast is about failure. The kind that builds you and the kind that breaks you. I’ve failed both ways, and I know what it feels like to wear failure as your identity and what it feels like to turn it into resilience. Here, we’ll talk about the difference between failing forward and failing backward. Failing backward is when you let excuses run the show, when you hide behind masks, lower your standards, or quit before the lesson shows up. It is when failure becomes your story instead of your training. Failing forward is different. It is when you own it, use it, and move. You see failure as feedback. You let it sharpen your values, build your resilience, and increase your capacity. It is not about perfection. It is about refusing to quit, taking the next rep, and turning every bruise into muscle.     Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

Most people aren’t burning out because they’re doing too much. They’re burning out because they’re doing too much of what doesn’t matter. In this episode, we dive into the psychology of “majoring in the minors” why cultural distraction, perfectionism, and ego validation keep people busy but never effective. We unpack how values, priorities, and standards work together to stop the scatter, realign focus, and build confidence. Values define your why. Priorities prove it in action. Standards keep it consistent. Without them, your energy, focus, emotions, and even identity get scattered. With them, noise fades, majors rise, and you stop diluting your strength.     Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

If you need everyone to agree with you, you’re not leading. You’re managing insecurity. Agreement is optional. Understanding is not. In this episode, I break down why we chase agreement, why we get triggered by disagreement, and why that is weakness disguised as strength. I talk about ego, emotional immaturity, and the cost of avoiding hard conversations. If you can’t handle disagreement, you’ll always be controlled by it. If you can learn to stand in it with respect, composure, and conviction, you lead. That is the difference. Agreeing to disagree is not giving up. It is growing up.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

Pressure doesn’t make you weak. It shows you where you still have work to do. The space between reacting and responding is where your future is built. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to regulate your emotions when life, leadership, and circumstances turn up the heat. You don’t rise to the occasion. You fall to your habits, your training, and your ability to stay steady. Regulation isn’t about shutting down your emotions. It’s about recognizing them, working with them, and choosing how to lead yourself through the moment. When you decide in advance who you are, you don’t have to negotiate with your emotions in the moment. When you don’t know who you are, emotions will lead you. They’ll decide for you in the heat of the moment. Fear will tell you to retreat. Anger will tell you to attack. Stress will tell you to shut down. But when you anchor in identity, you flip the script. You become the one leading your emotions instead of being led by them. And the second you put that label on it, your body obeys. Y

This podcast is about how to build a healthy relationship with yourself. It’s about self-trust, identity, boundaries, respect, repair, communication, and consistency. You’ll learn the same behaviors and expectations you’d want in a healthy relationship with someone else and how to mirror them back to yourself. I’ll talk about showing up for yourself, keeping your word, honoring your limits, supporting yourself with action, holding yourself accountable, and celebrating your growth. It’s about trust, loyalty, honesty, patience, encouragement, and vision. If you want to stop betraying yourself and start living with discipline, integrity, and purpose this is where it starts.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach

We all know the red flags in a toxic relationship. Lies. Manipulation. Walking on eggshells. Most of us have seen it with someone else. Few admit when the toxic partner is the person in the mirror. This episode asks one question that cuts through the noise. If you were dating you, would you stay? I define self toxicity and why it can feel like living with an enemy who knows every weakness. I draw clear parallels to external toxic love. Broken promises. Harsh inner dialogue. Quiet neglect that looks like ambition. I trace the roots in conditional love and performance and show how shame rewires identity into I am the problem. I name the cost of staying stuck and why you keep recreating the same story. A healthy relationship with yourself isn’t built on feelingsit’s built on standards. It’s built on refusing to cross your own boundaries anymore. It’s built on demanding from yourself the same loyalty you’ve been begging from everyone else. And it’s built on finally realizing you are not disposable. Kate Hastings