Sex Is Medicine With Devi Ward

There is a Shadow Side to Monogamy! For all its good— sense of security, continuity, deep knowing of your partner— there’s a mythos and fairytale ideal that society encourages us to follow, one which can leave us feeling broken in our relationships like a record stuck on repeat. We keep trying the same things over and over and get the same unfulfilling results.This fantasy of ‘perfect partnership’ foisted upon us has deep roots. But how relevant is it today, when we know that partnerships are not necessarily life-long, or exclusive? When we experience cheating, a breakup, or the opening of a relationship, a struggle starts between our hearts and minds.That struggle can result in feelings of shame, an experience of being emotionally frozen. You may feel like you can’t respond to things you know you should. It might interrupt your flow of communication, or keep you from feeling like you can freely express yourself. You might even find that you are unconsciously self-sabotaging yourself.This struggle is the “Mon