Relationship Dish

We all say we want healthy boundaries—but actually setting them? That’s where things get messy. In this raw and revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona go beyond the surface-level how-to's and explore the deeper emotional blocks that keep so many of us stuck in people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and silent resentment. They share personal stories of how their childhoods shaped their boundary struggles—from families that labeled limits as “unloving” to patterns of emotional neglect and over-functioning. You’ll learn the crucial difference between “I can’t” and “I won’t,” how anxiety disguises itself as selflessness, and why the body often knows we need a boundary before the brain will admit it. If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries threatens your relationships, this episode will help you see that, in truth, they’re what make true intimacy possible.