Order Of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Why can’t women just understand men? Why can’t men just understand women? The short answer is, “we’re not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn’t really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, Adam Lane Smith, has made it his life’s work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships. Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags’ that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their relationships much more effectively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Finding Purpose and Chasing It 00:59 – Building a 200-Year Family System 02:51 – Two Worlds: Secure vs Insecure Attachment 05:55 – Teaching People Safety vs Creating Secure Attachment 07:27 – Maslow’s Hierarchy and Emotional Safety 10:46 – Safety for Men as Peace 14:19 – Security Starts Outside the Relationship 17:38 – Rebuilding a Marriage After Decades 20:53 – Invalid