Relationship Dish

What if your feelings weren't a problem to solve, but a signal to pay attention to? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore boundary-setting through a lens that many people miss: your body's own warning system. They discuss how anxiety, irritability, sadness, overwhelm, numbness, and even physical sensations can be clues that you're moving outside your window of tolerance—and that a boundary may be needed. Pam shares how years of suppressing her feelings in marriage eventually led to eruptions of anger, while Iona tells the story of a man who spent so long ignoring his own needs that his body finally shut down altogether. Together, they unpack why so many of us—especially women—have been taught that setting boundaries is selfish, controlling, or unkind, when in reality the opposite is often true. They also explore the importance of "clean boundaries": holding firm when others push back, recognizing that boundaries can be both kind and direct, and learning to respect your own limits as much