League Of Adventurous Singles With Kira Sabin

So many of us are frustrated by our lack of motivation or change.  But here’s the truth: You’re not lazy. You’re likely burned out, stuck in survival mode, or running on a nervous system that thinks “rest” is a threat. And willpower? It’s not a moral issue—it’s a limited resource, not a personality trait. In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why change feels so damn hard in midlife (even when you really want it) What your brain is doing when you try something new—and why it slams the brakes How perimenopause can make motivation and memory even harder The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation (and why one actually works) Why shame, blame, and “just push through” doesn’t create change—but self-compassion does This one’s for every Gen X or elder millennial woman who’s ever said, “I’ll start Monday,” only to spiral by Wednesday. Let’s get into the science, the humor, and the tools that actually work when life feels stuck. ✨ Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Devon Price’s Laziness Does N

Welcome to the final episode of my five-part podcast series, Why Did No One Warn Us About This Midlife Sht?* If you’ve been feeling like the life you built doesn’t quite fit anymore, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Today's episode? This Isn’t the Life I Ordered. Now What? The episode is all about the gut-punch realization many of us face in midlife: you can create a life that looks “perfect” on paper and still feel deeply disconnected from it. Maybe the house, the career, the relationship, the life you worked so hard for… doesn't feel like you anymore. In this episode, we dive into:

In Episode 4 of my five-part series, I’m talking about something that hits all of us in midlife: the rage. That low-key, high-voltage, "I swear to God if the dishwasher beeps one more time..." kind of rage. Here’s the thing: You’re not broken. You’re not crazy. You’re just awake — and your nervous system is officially done putting up with the bullshit.

EPISODE 3: Why We Don't Like Ourselves Very Much (Gen X Women Edition)

Fuck Being the Strong One!

Welcome to Part 1 of my brand-new series, Why Did Nobody Warn Us About This Shit?! – five no-holds-barred episodes exploring the real, raw, hilarious, and sometimes heartbreaking truths about midlife. Spoiler alert: It’s way more than hot flashes. In this episode, I’m talking about the physical, emotional, and psychological curveballs no one prepared us for— The 3:00 AM brain TED Talks The unpredictable emotional rollercoaster The friendships that fade or fall apart The crippling nostalgia and wild irritability The WTF moments where your own body ghosts you Midlife isn’t just a season—it’s a f*cking plot twist. But you’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You’re just in the thick of a transformation that deserves real tools, real support, and real community. So let's talk about what really goes down in your 40s and 50s—and how to move through it without burning out, blowing up, or going it alone. What You’ll Hear: Why your emotions feel like toddlers with sugar and no supervision Why you can't re

Hello there, sugar pants. I'm back—and whew, life has been a lot lately. But today, I’m diving into something that’s been messing with way too many of us for way too long: perfection. We’ve been taught that if we can just get it right—be good enough, successful enough, lovable enough—then life will finally feel better. But here’s the truth: you can’t love perfect. You can’t be perfect. And trying to is killing your joy, your creativity, your connection—and your relationships. In this episode, I’m sharing: The red flag hidden in “You seem perfect” (and why it made me cringe) What went down in my own relationship during a rough season How even great relationships fall apart a little—and what it looks like to come back from that Why perfectionism keeps us stuck, lonely, and exhausted (even when everything looks good on paper) How I help women actually start feeling better—on purpose I’ll also give you a real look at what we’re doing inside Thrive Midlife—my 6-month group coaching experience for women

Welcome back, Thrive fam! I'm back with a laugh-out-loud, no-BS episode about why midlife women are just too damn old for over-giving, over-thinking, and pretending everything’s “fine.” If you’re ready to ditch people-pleasing and finally build self-worth, this episode is your must-listen. In This Episode: Where the heck have I been? (Spoiler: Thrive Midlife Group wins, real-life curveballs, and yes, Danny’s hip replacement) How Gen X women were conditioned to over-give (and why it’s time to stop) The real science behind self-worth, resilience, and building a midlife that actually feels good RomCom Rescue updates and the secret sauce behind relationship growth What to expect from the new Thrive Midlife Program & coaching options for women over 40 Why you’re not broken—you’re just way too old for this sht* Take Action: Ready for a little midlife magic? 

TWO SPOTS LEFT for THRIVE Midlife Program!   My brand new positive psychology program with optional retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to Stop Overthinking, Realize Your Worth, & Have the BEST YEAR OF YOUR LIFE! ✨ Ditch the stuff that’s making you feel stuck. ✨ Discover what lights you up (and keeps you glowing). ✨ Build tools to deal with life’s chaos without burning out. No more rinse-and-repeat. Let’s get you back to feeling alive, vibrant, and (dare I say it?) excited about life again. Grab your spot & check out all the information here   Hidden Brain Episode I reference

Not all advice is created equal. Some of it is gold, but a lot of it? Straight-up garbage. This episode is about shaking off the bad advice that keeps us stuck and stepping into 2025 ready to own it. If you’re tired of the same old stuck, it’s time to shake things up. Your next chapter isn’t going to write itself—so let’s make it the best one yet. Ready to Make 2025 the best year of Your Life?  Check out Thrive!  

After a good convo on my Rom-Com Rescue podcast where we talked about 2006 Classic rom-com, The Holiday, it made me think about crushes and unrequited love. My own experience and what I have learned (good and not-so-good) about crushes over the years. I share some personal stories and try to answer the question, if crushes and unrequited love feels so bad, why do we keep having them? Don't forget there is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out that is on sale through 11/24/24.  New prices start at $499 a month.  Check it out at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com

Well, it's been a week. This week on the podcast I talk about... How the election results have had me reeling. The stages I went through the last week. What is the most important thigns we can do right now.   There is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out today that is on sale through the weekend.  New prices start at $499 a month.  Check it out at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com  

I think one of the roughest parts of being in midlife is realizing that most of the things you were taught about being a girl/woman growing were complete and total BS. I feel like I have been spending YEARS gut-checking my beliefs and realizing a bunch of the ideas I was sold were based in old school misogyny and were keeping me in a fear/scarcity place. Today I go through 10 Beliefs I was raised with that were complete BS! Maybe you learned them too. If you are ready to examine your beliefs and let go of them, join me in THRIVE!   My intimate, 9-month group coaching intensive for midlife women to reset your life, let go of what's not working, realize your self-worth, and build the life that you actually want for this next chapter.

To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the Joy Journey Substack  Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same. After a break for the flu, I'm on day 10 of my Joy Journey and I talk about something that I have noticed coming up...the curse of overthinking. Today I breakdown: a great quote on overthinking that inspired this episode what overthinking is and why we do it the three types of overthinking and how to spot them in yourself. spotting overthinking in a baking show where to go from here. Article I reference today. And just a reminder,  this is the work I do in THRIVE, my 9 month happiness program for women in midlife, and it’s why I have had thousands of clients who have learned how to stop overthinking, build more self-worth, create unshakeable relationships, and walk through this world lighter and happier. Spots available at ThrivewithKira.com  

To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the Joy Journey Substack  Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same. I'm on day 8 of my Joy Journey. I check in on how it's going and some of the surprises so far. But more importantly, today I breakdown the difference between the fixed vs growth mindset and why it matters.  I share: what a mindset is how you got your mindset the difference between the growth and fixed mindset how the fixed mindset stole joy from my life small ways you can start change your mindset And just a reminder,  this is the work I do in THRIVE, my 9 month happiness program for women in midlife, and it’s why I have had thousands of clients who have learned how to stop overthinking, build more self-worth, create unshakeable relationships, and walk through this world lighter and happier. Spots available at ThrivewithKira.com  

Join me on the Joy Journey at my Joy Journey Substack. Watch the video version here. Here is the truth. Things have gotten really rough for me. Between midlife/aging perimenopause, and just THE

I'm talking about one of my favorite topics today that personally kicked off my self-help journey.  Love vs Fear. Today is a bit fancy because I break the episode down to 3 parts. The basics behind the concept and the quote that changed my life. A personal story of how I have made decisions out of fear but thought it was love. Four places to spot fear in your life showing up. And a boatload more of sweary genius. Grab sessions for 50% off through 8/7/24.  $99 for 30 minutes and $199 for 60 minutes.  Grab one (or a few) here. Reference Articles Four types of Fear article

You know all those things you were taught were going to make you happy?   Perfect job, relationship, house, body, etc...that once you had them, you were THEN going to be happy? Turns out, all BS. Today on the pod I go to my Happiness Basics and talk about the super interesting theory called the happiness set point.  I talk about: What it is and why it matters Why all the things you are doing ARE NOT going to raise your happiness set point What actually does. Where to get started. Have you checked out THRIVE?  A brand new positive psychology program w/retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to thrive in midlife. Unlearn the beliefs that don’t work anymore, get more joy on a daily basis, regulate your emotions, build deep self-worth, and learn how to feed & move the body you have NOW.  Check out all the information here Article referenced

BIG NEWS! The THRIVE in midlife program has moved to January!  Check out all the new details here. Second big news...I have a guest! Author, Happiness Expert and Good Friend, Rob Mack joined me on and we are talking about why our society is so unhappy now.  It goes deep, but it is GOOD!  

Ready to jump on a no-pressure call with me to check out Thrive? My new happiness program for women in midlife. Grab a call here. PERIMENOPAUSE!!! I mean, what is this fresh hell that is perimenopause?  I didn't even know it was a thing until I was smack dab feeling the bullshit symptoms of it. AND IT CAN LAST UP TO 12 YEARS! So, I decided to kick off a whole mini series in our midlife conversations episodes to talk about the mindfuck that is perimenopause & to see if some of the weird shit that you are experiencing is actually tied to hormone changes and perimenopause.   Today I talk about: *My own story with perimenopause...this far. *Facts and stats about perimenopause that may surprise you. *My addition of thorough hormone testing & reading that is completely included in the THRIVE program so we can start getting answers and support. Ready to check out THRIVE?  Go here. Resource Articles for this episode Article 1 Article 2 Article 3 Article 4