Forever Faithful Marriage Secrets

Do you feel that you must communicate with your husband everyday in some way or you won’t feel connected and loved? This is how I used to feel. Let me share with you why that is not a healthy way to handle deployment and how I’ve learned to adapt to the style of communication that works well for each particular deployment.

Communication is one of the biggest keys to growing and being strong in your marriage. But if you’re really honest with yourself, are you fully communicating with your husband who you really are. I lost myself in the process of making my husband happy. I now realize the importance of being an active part of our relationship by knowing myself, knowing what I want and what I don’t want and honestly sharing that with my husband. Join me as I share why it’s absolutely imperative to know myself and express yourself fully to your husband to have the most fulfilling and healthy relationship that you can.

Do you think it’s your responsibility to make your husband happy? Do you also believe it is your husband’s responsibility to bring you joy? This way of thinking will set your marriage up for disappointment and eventually disaster. How do I know this?... because this was how I lived my life just a short month ago. Yup! I got it all wrong. Join me as I share with you where I now find my joy and peace... even when there's a storm raging on the outside.

If your honest with yourself, what would you say is the one thing that brings you the most anxiety? That one thing that keeps showing up and makes you want to throw in the towel because you just can't figure out how to ignore it and move past it. What if I told you that in order to overcome your anxiety and stress you must continue to practice and work through your it so that you get to a point where it no longer overwhelms you? Join me today as I share how God must have a sense of humor when I asked him to help me through my anxiety of packing... because HOLY SMOKES... we've done more than our fair share over the past 5 months.

Does your "to do" list grow like a weed daily, causing you to feel defeated before you can even begin your day. Sigh... I struggle with this so hard. Join me today as I share with you the toxic thought I am cancelling out of my brain and what positive truth I am choosing daily to replace it with.

Why do we often allow others to determine our self worth? I know we've all done it whether a friend or family trying to give us unsolicited advice during deployment... or even a perfect stranger at a grocery store that glares you down with such judgement that you just want to hide in a dark hole and cry. This happened to me recently with a perfect stranger while I was getting into my car, and the look he gave me brought down so much shame I could hardly breath. Join me today as I share what I learned through that very dark moment.

You've heard the saying... do something that scares you every day, but does that also include while you're husband is deployed? ABSOLUTELY!! Deployment is full of all sorts of things that scare us, knock us off our butts, and get us doing things we never imagined we'd have to do.  But where would you be if you never got out and tried new scary things? Join me today in this episode as I share how whitewater rafting and deployment have helped me become more adventurous.

Seriously... what does the Great Wall of China have to do with my husband being gone? It's incredibly long, beyond exhausting, tedious, and always unpredictable. But it's so worth it when you've reached the top and you can say... "I DID IT!" Join me today in this episode as I share how the most challenging and exhausting climb EVER taught me about perseverance and triumph through the challenges of deployment.

Does the idea of having to celebrate another birthday, another anniversary, and another holiday without your husband during deployment leave you feeling sad, lonely, and depressed? Join me today on this episode as I share how we choose to celebrate these special days on our own terms and actually make it fun.

Are you feeling overwhelmingly lonely today... this week... this month? While this is perfectly normal during deployment, I have found that my loneliness is not actually caused by missing my husband. But instead is created because a circumstance that I feel I don't have control over or feel overwhelmed by. So if you can take a step back and ask yourself a question... you will be surprised to find that it's not actually loneliness that you're feeling. Listen to this episode to find out this very important question you must ask yourself when you "feel Lonely." 

Do you get overwhelmed when you see the things that aren't getting done on your to do list? It seems like those lists grow more than they shrink. I found myself struggling to have a good attitude and not get anxious about my never ending list. Hop on this episode to find out what I'm doing to celebrate each of my wins rather than being upset and disappointed at my lack of being able to conquer my entire list every day.

Did you step out of bed this morning already feeling overwhelmed with all that you have to accomplish today? You are not alone! I was feeling this same way just last week, but over and over again I have found a way to start my day in peace and creativity to see beyond my "to do" list. Join me today as I share with you my secret of how I do this.

Do you have days (or weeks) where you feel sad, down, lonely, and depressed... and you just can't seem to shake it? Well then it's time for you to take a break from the chaos and have a GOOD LAUGH. Join me today as I share about the dramatic fall I took while trying to get us all to the airport for Kale's departure to Africa. Hint... it involves a suitcase and a determined wife to have a good attitude. 

Which do you enjoy more... being sad, down, and depressed when thinking about your husband leaving and into the first week of his absence or having something fun to look forward to right after he leaves for deployment? I've done both, and I can tell you for sure I really don't like to being sad and depressed. Listen in as I share my two stories of (one) being sad and in tears after my husband left, and (two) having the most amazing summer ever and hardly missing him. I know... sounds crazy, right? Can you really have fun while your husband is gone? Discover my answer on this episode.

I know it's popular to have a countdown app... but before countdown apps were even a thing, I found out the hard way why counting down made deployment so much harder for me. Join me today as I share my story of pushing through a year long deployment when I was ready to have a husband home TODAY.  And find out when I start my "official" countdown.... you may be surprised by how long I wait to start it.

Does this deployed life cause you deep anxieties that overwhelm your entire being? It's no wonder with all the crazy changes and responsibilities you have while your spouse is deployed. This podcast is a continuation from my last episode as I share with you about how I'm dealing with my overwhelming anxieties that crushed me in between my husband's deployments. Listen in as I share my struggles and what I'm doing to take back control of my mind and emotions.

Do you get easily anxious and overwhelmed about this deployed life? You think you have it under control . . . until you fall apart in an ugly mess on the floor. That was me the week before my husband left for his sixth deployment. You'd think I would have this deployed life down much better, but after a crazy, busy past three months of moving and transitioning into a new life, I finally just lost it in Vegas. Join me today to find out how I'm working to no longer let my anxieties control me, but I'm taking charge of my life again.

Do you get overwhelmed and anxious when preparing to send your spouse off to deployment? It's no wonder with all the little and big details of preparing him, preparing you, and wondering how you're going to do life on your own. It's important not to complicate it though, that's why I've come up with the 4 things you must do and place in your back pocket as you prepare to send him off. Join me today to find out those four important items.

Do you ever feel some days like your love isn't enough to pull your marriage out of a dark hole? Are you loving the same way you always have, but for some reason, now that you're separated from your spouse, it just isn't giving you the same confidence and reassurance that it once did?  I have felt the same way, but we found a deeper love to pull us from a destructive path in our marriage.  Please join me today on my podcast as I share what we did to pull out of that dark hole and find a renewed perspective and love in our marriage.

We all have our weaknesses, and there's nothing like deployment and living life without your husband to bring those faults out.  Ok, I'm about to share something that is a real downfall for me with every single deployment. It is very much a work in progress. Since I can't hide it any longer, you might as well listen in as I share my personal weakness.