The Art Of Coaching

None of us have an abundance of both time AND money. So why do some people invest in themselves while others fall back on the same excuses over and over again?    It’s simple- for those that don’t invest, either they don’t believe in a particular brand, the product or their own ability to put it to use.   For those that do, it comes down to understanding and appreciating the long game. Those who invest up front get the greatest returns.    Don’t believe me? Keep buying cheap appliances and furniture your whole life.    In this short episode, I’ll cover:   The reasons you should invest your own money and not rely on your school or employer to reimburse you How to reframe thinking about investing in yourself  Ways to ensure your investments pay massive dividends for your future   If you are ready to invest in yourself and / or diversify your investments, we have many options that will double, even triple what you put in financially.    One of the newest in person workshops we offer is our speak

More often than not, our brilliant ideas are stymied because we lack the skills to properly think through them and take the first step; We get stuck. How do I put this into words and get it out of my head? How do I communicate this in a way that will allow others to share my vision? How should this look or feel or function? Will this even work? And what happens if it does? On today’s episode, we’re joined by a team of innovators who help people realize and capture their creativity in a way that allows them to share it with the world.  With an education and background in Design Thinking, Andrew Leslie worked for 8 years in innovation strategy for numerous fortune 500 companies- traveling the world helping brands forecast, create and innovate. Anton Fero, his business partner, was both in the performing arts and built a faith based community as a pastor before turning a garage gym into a multi-million dollar facility.  During the pandemic they joined forces to rethink the functionality of the gym and be

Assertiveness is key to getting what we want and/or need, but getting it wrong can cost us tremendously… “When we push too hard, or in an ineffective way, our counterparts may resist giving us the material outcomes we want or our relationships might fray. When we do not push hard enough, we fail to have our own needs met and risk undermining our own well‐being.” (Ames, 2008) So what do we do when we rely on assertion to get to our desired outcome but each person we interact with will define, interpret and react to it differently? On today’s episode we break down: What is assertiveness and how does it differ from aggressiveness? How can we properly align our assertive behavior with the situation? The bright side of assertiveness we’ve been neglecting  What (if any) is the difference in assertiveness for females vs. males? Tactics and strategies for being more assertive Speaking of assertiveness… We’ve been getting a lot of questions recently about how to improve communication in personal relationship

We like to say meanings are in people, not in words.  That statement never seemed more true than in reference to today’s guest, Lacey Jai Henderson. After losing her leg to Synovial Sarcoma at 9, Lacey has worked to rewrite the script for people living with disability everywhere.  Following a Division I athletic scholarship for cheerleading, Lacey started competing in Paralympic Track and Field. Through a long journey of therapy, finding resilience and a lot of time on the track, she became an American Record Holder and a Rio Paralympian. In addition to working as a disability advocate, Lacey is getting her Master's in Sport and Performance Psychology and pursuing her CMPC certification while still training full time for paralympic track and field. We cover:  Maneuvering life changing and/or impossibly hard conversations  How to use/approach ever-changing terminology with adaptive/disabled individuals Discovering underlying drives and communicating your preferred coaching style Why a dark sense of humo

“True genius, in strategy or anywhere, lies in self-control, self-mastery, presence of mind, and fluidity of thought.” - Robert Greene  When it comes to the study of human nature, power dynamics and social intelligence, there’s perhaps no one more knowledgeable than Robert Greene.  Collectively, his 7 (soon to be 8) books have sold more than 20 million copies, and along the way he’s consulted countless world leaders, athletes, politicians and celebrities.  By scouring human history to understand patterns of behavior, he’s developed the unique ability to take incredibly complex and rich subject matter and whittle it down to key learnings that are relatable, tactical and applicable.   In this interview, we ask Robert what role communication, self-awareness and social intelligence played in not only his own life but also the historical figures he has dedicated his life to studying.  We cover: Tips for navigating the messiness of the human condition  Behind the scenes of his new book, The Law of The Sublim

Truly objective perception isn’t just difficult, it’s nearly impossible. That means everyday, despite your best efforts, people will interpret your actions, words, and behaviors differently than you intended.  It’s the same reason why there are Michelin star restaurants certain people love and others hate; Nobel prize winners some revere and others think are a hack.  While we can’t control people’s perceptions, the more we understand them, the more we can influence them…  Today’s episode is all about acknowledging and appreciating the multitude of factors that affect perception so we can bridge the gap with our communication and work to prevent unnecessary misunderstandings.  We cover: The 8+ variables affecting perception & how to identify them The ONLY tool that can help bridge a perceptual gap   The Better Than Average Effect + Theory of Mind: why they matter Two ESSENTIAL questions to ask when you’ve been misunderstood  As mentioned in this episode, if you’re looking for more reading on perc

You’ve been fantasizing about quitting or changing jobs for months and now you’re ready; Making that leap doesn’t scare you, it excites you. The thought of creating something from nothing or joining a team that’s building something from the ground up has driven you to go from fantasizing to finally pulling the trigger. But there is one thing about quitting the job that puts butterflies in your stomach and gives you pause…   Convincing your spouse that now is the time.    In today's episode, we’ll break down this uncomfortable conversation and give you a simple framework so you can have a more productive discussion with your partner.    Liz, Brett’s wife, also joins the podcast and interjects her real-life feelings and experiences from when Brett had this conversation with her.     You’ll learn: How to formulate the conversation to relate to your spouse's experiences  How to time the conversation so it doesn’t come as a surprise to your spouse  Why you can’t simply explain your way through th

I can almost guarantee that at some point in your life, you’ll need or want to speak persuasively to a group of people.    Perhaps you’re pitching investors for more money, asking supervisors for a raise, presenting at a national conference or coaxing your kids to bed.    Regardless of the situation, your ability to refine a message, understand your audience and deliver information in a way that will not only captivate but move them to action is one of the most important skills you can have in your toolbox.    On today’s episode, Brett and Ali will share their best strategies for finding your voice, understanding your audience and clarifying that message so that you can confidently make the impact you seek.   You’ll learn:    The 6 questions you need to ask yourself about before you deliver any talk  The 3 tips to grabbing your audience's attention and holding it throughout  The 1 thing easily forgotten in a talk that will limit the impact you desire    Speaking of speaking… We have so

It’s easy to let circumstances and self-doubt get in the way of our desires. But it’s not just our desires at risk- self doubt could be holding us back from creating change, advancing in our career or worse, getting in the way of our relationships. Today’s guest Amira Mansour helps us understand that to create change you don’t have to get rid of the negative voice inside your head but rather recognize and reframe our thinking before it gets louder.  Amira is a communication coach and conflict expert based in the UK who obtained her law degree and spent the first 12 years of her professional life in the corporate world before making the jump to starting her own coaching business.  Like many coaches, Amira found her calling because of the adversities she’s had to overcome.   In this episode we discuss: How going out on your own starts with a conversation with yourself  Creating self-value from negative self-talk Impostor syndrome: How you can be the expert but still have something to work on  And much m

The new year is here, and traditionally it’s the time we create new goals and set new standards for ourselves. But you know what ends up happening… February rolls around and we lose focus or forget about what we originally set out to accomplish.    Let’s not drop the ball in 2022.    This episode is quick and delivers immediately. If you’re the self-competitive type who is never satisfied with your work or someone looking to create even the smallest edge this year, you do not want to miss these three tips for having a successful year.   We’ll be honest, they aren’t groundbreaking but you’ll be hard-pressed to find better advice that you can put into action immediately.   In this episode, you’ll also learn:   How to lay bricks and make every moment count  How to invest in yourself so you minimize big loss How to ask for help the right way    LINKS TO FREE GUIDES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE    How To Reach Out to A Mentor:  https://artofcoaching.com/findamentor/   Advice for Aspiring Coaches https

Why would someone continue to believe a false or inaccurate idea when you are presenting them with plenty of facts and logic? You could not have presented your points more clearly! Your rationale is sound but perhaps it’s not the lack of supporting evidence failing to shift their point of view, but rather how you presented it… On today’s episode, Brett is joined by Ali Kershner in-studio for a deep dive into the tactics that will help you get your point across more effectively and give you the best chance to change their behavior.  Grab a pen and a notebook because this episode is hands-on and loaded with tactical information and strategies you can implement at work, home and anywhere you deal with people.   You'll learn: How to identify the areas you’re stubborn in and need to change The different types of persuasion and the impact of each How time can impact a person's decision making  Gaining perspective through role playing The tactics and strategies behind our popular online courses and in perso

You’ve been sitting on this draft for months. You want to hit send, but now you’re second guessing yourself… Why does reaching out to someone you respect and admire have to feel so awkward?  Maybe you’re asking for a job and you’re afraid you’ll get turned down and the relationship will suffer as a result.  Maybe you're reaching out to someone who has the job of your dreams and you want insight on how they got there, but you don’t want to inconvenience them with trivial questions.   Either way, you’ll leave this episode with confidence to not only send the email but assurance that you crafted a clear, concise message that the person you're reaching out to will respect you for.  In this episode: How to do your research prior to writing the email How to create a clear ask so your message is unmistakable How to choose the appropriate medium: email, phone, text, etc.  The 3 things the person you reach out to wants to hear A sample email you can use a template for your next introduction  Right now I’m o

It’s a frustrating situation. You’re going out of your way to help someone out and it’s just not taking. You can’t get through to them. They don’t want to listen. You might even feel like your attempt to help has made the situation worse. What gives!? Help me, help you. Help me…Help you!  You might be surprised to hear that maybe you’re the problem.  In this short, digestible, actionable episode I cover the strategies and tools necessary for you to gain clarity of the situation so that you can create buy-in and have the impact you’re looking for. Including: The most likely reasons you’re probably not getting across to someone  8 questions you should ask yourself before diving into problem solving mode The ONE thing you must have in order to help someone effectively Defining social agility and strategies to improve it  Right now I’m offering signed and personalized copies of my book, Conscious Coaching for just $10 (50% off the Amazon price). Go to artofcoaching.com/book to get yours (supplies are lim

These days there’s no shortage of well-meaning leadership, relationship, and financial advice. It seems at every turn we’re reminded, “Winners never quit”, “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”, and “You have two ears and one mouth for a reason”.  ...And while some sound pleasantly helpful, there are times this guidance is total B.S.  On today’s show we take a stab at debunking and/or playing devil’s advocate with some of the cliché advice we blindly accept so we can better decide what’s worth following, what’s worth ignoring and what just needs an update? Get ready, hot takes aplenty in this one! Reminder: Don’t miss your chance to: Save $200 on our Austin, TX Apprenticeship (March 12-13th, 2022). Prices go up DECEMBER 12th. Save $300(!!) on our Brand Builder workshop (March 18-19th, 2022). Prices go up DECEMBER 18th. Welcome our new partner LMNT! If you’re in the market for a hydration product that actually tastes good, is free of sugar and all natural- Go to DrinkLMNT.com/AOC

THIS IS YOUR LAST CHANCE FOR 30% OFF ALL TOP COURSES!   The most dangerous phrase in any organization is “because that’s how we’ve always done it”.  It’s the utterance of those scared of change, unwilling to think laterally, and clinging desperately to their comfort zone. Any true leader knows that in today’s rapidly evolving world, those who last will be those who adapt- plain and simple.    As hard as change may be, imagine trying to implement it at the ground level of an organization steeped in tradition and hierarchy like the Army. That’s what today’s guest Captain Anna Zamora is trying to do; Not only has she been tasked with implementing a new culture surrounding soldier health and wellness, she has had to prove the viability of the program to those around her and above her.    Captain Anna Zamora was a D1 strength coach from 2010-2020 with stops at Duke, Yale, UConn, Penn State, and DePaul. She’s been a member of the Army National Guard since 2010 and is currently a CPT of medical services and Na

*ONLY 9 DAYS LEFT TO GET 30% OFF ALL TOP COURSES* Without experiencing true difficulty, doubt, or adversity, it’s hard to know what any of us are really capable of. Truth is unless we’re thrust into such adversity, it’s nearly impossible to manufacture the type of hardship required to test our limits.  Today’s guest, ESPN college basketball analyst Steffi Sorensen, has dealt with more than her fair share. And while she probably wouldn’t wish recent experiences on anyone, there’s no doubt she’s grateful for the resilience built along the way. Join us as we discuss her path and how she’s managed to turn doubters and difficult times into an advantage.  Steffi was a former women’s basketball player at Florida, joined ESPN in 2011 as a color commentator, and is now a college basketball analyst and sideline reporter for SEC Network. She joined SEC Now as an analyst for the 2019-20 women’s basketball season. She was a sideline reporter for college football games on FOX Sports, as well as a fitness model and train

No matter what field you're in, technical skills will only take you so far. Eventually, you’ll need to leverage interpersonal skills to stand out and effect change. Problem is, society has misrepresented what it takes to train these skills, making them seem like intangible or innate qualities that can’t be measured or managed.    In reality, there’s more research on human interaction than any exercise or programming methodology (by far) and it’s quite simple to evaluate said “soft skills”. That’s why on today's episode we’re doing a deep dive into our proprietary social skill evaluation, how you can use it, and how it’s evolved over time.    Hint: it’s not just a matter of assessing “verbal and non-verbals”…    We’ll cover: How to measure something subjective and contextual like communication  Why you need a comprehensive interpersonal evaluation and how it can help The major components most other social skill evaluations miss  A breakdown of the AoC evaluation and how to use it situationally   I

For a limited time only get 30% off TOP ONLINE COURSES!   OR… get 40% OFF if you purchase Bought In + Valued Together! ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––   If you’re listening to this episode, you’re lying to yourself… But you’re not the only one.     Turns out most of us aren’t honest about the REAL reason we do what we do. Why? Because being honest requires admitting we have selfish desires and that we haven’t put ourselves in positions to experience failure. Neither are inherently pleasant but both are required if we want to get out of our own way and make real progress.    Today’s episode will be a wake up call for many of you. I won’t lie- it’s a hard hitter. But if you’re able to listen and dig deeper internally, I promise you’ll come away a better coach and leader.    We’ll cover:  The REAL questions you need to be asking yourself Why it’s human (and necessary) to be selfish about certain things  Ways to identify what you’re lying to yourself and

BLACKFRIDAY30 gets you 30% off ALL ONLINE COURSES.    We can all agree that listening is a foundational skill. And it makes sense- research shows we spend half our waking hours listening (Hargie, 2017; Kelley, 2019). But are you listening or are you just hearing? True listening requires encoding, reflection, and delivering on what you heard. It’s a skill, it requires practice and it’s required to ask better questions, to give rewards (people actually want), and to assert yourself.    Put more eloquently: “Listening is the willingness to let another person change you” - Alan Alda   On today’s episode we cover: The differences between hearing and listening  The 5 types of listening and the 4 types of listener  Verbal and non-verbal indicators to show you’re engaged How to practice the skill of listening    As you heard, practice requires application. Simply put, these skills mean nothing if you don’t practice and get evaluated on them. We have one Apprenticeship left this year.    Join us in Ashe

The prospect of assigning a dollar amount to your time can evoke feelings of frustration, guilt, confusion and imposter phenomenon.  And yet, whether you're salaried, hourly or a business owner / entrepreneur, it’s essential to know what your time is worth. Not only will this calculation help you to decide between opportunities, it’ll allow you to communicate your value and build a healthy relationship with money.    Today’s episode will be a deep dive into how to confidently communicate what you’re worth, decide what to charge and how to not feel guilty doing so. We’ll discuss tactical strategies for understanding what variables should go into your decision as well as:   Two different strategies for calculating what your time is worth Why it doesn’t matter what you charge so long as you OVER-deliver How to train yourself out of poor habits / unhealthy relationships with money How to know when and what to give away for free   If exercises like this are helpful, you’ll get tremendous val