Kate Hastings Show

Your shadow isn’t a flaw or a mistake — instead, it’s a natural part of who you are. Shadow work is, at heart, about developing self-awareness and ultimately, self-acceptance and compassion. Your shadow side can have a negative impact on your well-being when you ignore or reject it. This part of yourself craves to be understood and explored. This is because it was ignored and possibly shamed throughout your life. We don’t feel mentally and emotionally at our best when our shadow is not integrated into our self. Working with your unconscious mind to uncover the parts of yourself that you repress and hide from yourself. phenyx.fit Kate Hastings Wellness Coach @coachkate1

Are you sick of hearing...just be disciplined, get up early, and go to the gym...  Even As a coach, I'm tired of hearing this because I know and understand how ineffective it is to say to someone struggling with anything in life. So instead, you keep trying the same generic approach to wellness and getting the same results, plateauing or reverting to old habits.  How can anyone truly make a difference if their narrative does not match the advice they are receiving?   Tune in to find out!! @coachkate1

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This can apply to relationships, careers, emotions, health, goals, or anything else you desire, aim for, or want to improve. Outcomes will undoubtedly face challenges, and it is only by focusing on the process and progressing toward the outcome with measurable results that you will be able to achieve your goals.   www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1 

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We all need to be seen. It's part of what makes us human. When we don't allow ourselves to be seen, we diminish our greatness. We undervalue ourselves by lying, withholding, protecting, and defending a false sense of self that isn't our true nature. We limit our potential for greatness by defending things we believe we must defend in order to be worthy of love and respect. @coachkate1 www.phenyx.fit 

Putting yourself out there requires a willingness to be seen and heard from your truth.  I realized that putting oneself out there begins with yourself. Working from the inside out is the only way to this self discovery. Coach Kate Wellness Coach Phenyx Fit www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1

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Have you ever convinced yourself that you won't be worthy or good enough until you achieve a particular goal?  Setting standards and having goals are extremely important in life.  However, when it's only motivated by that inner critic and unrealistic expectations, it's a formula for reinforcing the hamster wheel of your negative core beliefs.  (not good enough, unworthy, incapable, stupid, failure.)   Perfectionism is motivated by how things will appear and what others will think.  People strive for perfection out of shame, only to feel even more humiliated when they can never achieve "perfection."  You are so much more than your ability to impress others. Within you is a valuable, creative, and loving individual who longs to be authentic.     @coachkate1 Kate Hastings  Wellness Coach   

Have you noticed in yourself a tendency to minimize your own needs? To not cause a fuss and keep the peace at all costs? These may be reflections of one of codependency’s main symptoms: self-betrayal.  Self-betrayal causes cognitive dissonance. This is when your heart and your head are saying different things. This creates inner conflict which is an invitation to address the issue that is out of alignment. If you are numbing out your feelings and denying reality, you don’t address the conflict. Breaking the cycle is about gaining self-love and self-worth. Know your value and what you deserve. Do not numb out your pain, rather learn to get your needs met in healthy ways.     Self-betrayal can look like: Allowing your boundaries to be violated so as not to be abandoned Going along with the group in order to be included Doing things to please others when it’s not what you want to do Letting someone else choose what you eat, how you dress Working in jobs that other influential people approve of, but you don’t li

I think one of the bravest things you can do is start something new when you're not “ready.” Nothing in life will be perfect, and no new beginning will be perfect. To be a beginner in anything takes courage, humility, and a willingness to just put yourself out there.  I was able to see more of my true self and grow into who I am today. I realized what truly mattered to me by looking at my own struggles and strengths.  Listen in to learn about my experience recording 100 episodes!!

Integration work is more than just joining a sharing circle, meditating, and eating clean. It signifies facing the shadow, all the forgotten, suppressed, invisible, and unintegrated mental material we left behind as we grew up and into the world.   At a very basic level, ayahuasca integration means cleaning up your act in support of your newly upgraded self. Job, relationships, diet, habits, mindset—all these are up for transformation in the weeks following ceremony. A second aspect of integration involves shadow work. Ayahuasca is a potent activator of the unconscious, bringing buried traumas, forgotten experiences, and rejected aspects of self to the light.  As we continue, a third level of integration emerges: the task of bringing soul to the world, showing up as our true whole selves. We begin to cultivate a way of being that is in touch with what really matters. Ayahuasca can be a very strong mirror.  She works in a way of bringing things up to the  surface, right in front of us. Giving us the  opportuni

You can begin to learn how lying was used as a traumatic response.  We only lie when it feels unsafe, to tell the truth.  In some cases, lying is the only way to avoid experiencing shame, dysregulation, or other unpleasant emotions if we tell the truth.    When I was a child, my father labeled me a snitch.  I was told I was fine when I wasn't, that everything was fine, that I just needed to get over it, that it didn't matter, that I didn't matter and that I had to get through it.  But my question to you is, who are you without your lies, suffering and pain?  Who are you if you didn't live or feel the desire to avoid pain? What possibilities would be available?

Before you can determine your life's mission, I believe it is more necessary and valuable to figure out what prevents you from becoming whatever you want to be in life.  You create this story to match your limiting beliefs, which manifest in a persona you identify with.  The true challenge isn't in the mission it's self its removing the barriers in the way that keep you in a stagnant place.

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Gratitude  when it is possible. However, while some  from gratitude, for most it is challenging. The reason has to do with an overactive nervous system. For many survivors, the reactive part of the brain is in charge much of the time. This is not because they do not try—or do not want—to be positive. Their nervous system holds them in a constant state of  reactiveness. The pain of trauma has left them feeling “not good enough,” ashamed, guilty, injured, and unworthy. Their upper brain is not engaged enough to overcome those feelings and contemplate gratitude on an on-going basis.

What are you dependent on every day when you get out of bed?  Likes on social media, how many texts you receive, how many empty people pay attention to you, and how many calories you ate ????  Wake awake and cling to the carrot known as truth.    @coachkate1    

Because we don't properly grasp how to see, hear, and comprehend our needs, we don't feel seen, heard, or understood by others. The problem is that most of us are in so much pain and suffering just going about our everyday lives that we feel alone, disheartened, and alienated from our true self.    @coachkate1 Phenyx Fit 1-1 Wellness Coaching