You Are Not A Frog

As trained medical professionals, we are confident about our technical skills and our ability to work harder than most professions. But are we truly confident and happy about our lives and careers? Every day is a whirlwind at our workplace, and we need to learn how to build confidence, take a step back and be compassionate to ourselves.Every day, we can learn something new. Not just about the technical aspects of our work, but also about ourselves, our emotions, and well-being. In this episode of ‘You Are Not a Frog’, Rachel brings you this year’s best bits of the podcast on self-confidence and creating a life you’ll never regret. We look back on people pleasing, taking criticism, imposter syndrome, and self-coaching! Don’t miss this episode and step into 2023 with an improved mindset on confidence!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how to gain confidence at work and listen to constructive criticism.Learn how to redefine your beliefs and be more honest with yourself to find

Do you look forward to Christmas holidays or other family celebrations only to be disappointed that reality is not what you had hoped it would be? Or has life not worked out as expected, and you're struggling with regrets and disappointment? How do we deal with feeling disappointed, especially with the upcoming holidays?In this 2022 Christmas Special of You Are Not A Frog, executive coach and relationship expert Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to explain several approaches to dealing with life's disappointments. She builds on her years of experience as an executive coach and relationship expert to share the value of self-compassion and give simple tools we can use to turn disappointment into a learning experience. If you’re perpetually being disappointed every holiday season, this episode might be for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the value of self-compassion to overcome being disappointed.Find out why bad experiences can actually be good motivators. Get practical tips on h

What is your first thought when you think of the word ‘resilience’? For many professionals and organisations, this means becoming superhuman — someone who can do anything despite the stress, heavy workload, and emotions. Not only is this perspective wrong, but it’s also impossible!We’re all human. So why do we expect perfection?In this episode, Rachel dives into the concept of resilience victim blaming and how you’re led to think it’s your fault when you can’t perform superhuman standards. Resilience is about choices and shifting how you respond to situations. You have a choice, even if you don’t think so now. In fact, you may even need to make tough decisions for the sake of your well-being. If you want to know how to become more resilient and prioritise choices for your welfare, stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the true meaning of resilience.Discover how to thrive in your workplace and take back control of your life.Overcome learned helplessness by ch

How do you feel about your job? Do you enjoy all aspects of your work? Do you sometimes wish you could make it better? The demands in healthcare make it almost impossible to remove the constant pressure surrounding the job. What follows risks burnout. But with the right combination of resources, support, and an innovative mindset, employees can craft jobs in ways that will make them feel happier at work.In this panel discussion episode of You Are Not a Frog, we ask Kirsten Armit, Dr Colin Lindsay, and Dr Daljit Hothi at the FMLM International Healthcare Leadership Conference 2022 to speak about how to craft jobs to suit employees better. We discuss the evidence-based actions and changes you can take to fine-tune your job. Plus, we share simple actions organisations need to do to help others do the same.If you want to find out what job crafting means, stay tuned to this episode and learn how it can help you feel more positive about your work!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Lear

We often think stress and burnout are normal. However, anyone who has experienced extreme pressure can tell you that too much stress is bad for our health and performance. Our physiological reactions to stress are normal. Despite this, we continue to blame ourselves if we cannot cope with it.In this quick tip episode, Rachel shares how doctors and other individuals in demanding jobs see stress as ‘normal’ and how it impacts our health. When you’re burning out, stop blaming yourself and start being compassionate. If you want to know how to cope with stress and burnout in the normal and human way, stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how we get ‘normal’ wrong.Understand how stress and burnout affect us. Learn how to cope with stress and burnout the normal way. Episode Highlights[00:30] The Current State of Healthcare Professionals [02:52] Stress and Burnout: Common But Not Normal [07:40] How We Usually Respond to Stress and Burnout [13:

Many professionals in high-stress careers can find themselves working long hours every day and not growing wealthier. No matter how much you do or how many hours you add, you find yourself trapped in a cycle of work and finances. Getting out of this trap is difficult when you don't know the financial decisions you need to make. You'll find practical steps on controlling your finances so that they don't control you: earn more and spend less.Dr Tommy Perkins joins us for a conversation about money and career. He answers your questions about what you can do to stay financially stable. We talk about why people make unusual financial decisions and what motivates a person to spend. He also gives insightful tips and tricks to save and set aside money for your wealth and financial safety.Find out how to make the financial decisions you need in your life without worrying about money when you tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover the greatest influence on your

Do you sometimes find yourself thinking that you don’t have a choice? Your circumstances and obligations seem to prevent you from taking any course of action except for one. But the thing is, we always have a choice. We choose all the time. Life is made up not of the big choices we have to make but of the little, compounding choices we make on a daily basis. So what choice will you make today? You choose.In this You Are Not a Frog Quick Dip, Rachel delves into choice. She shares the one thing healthcare professionals get wrong about choice and why we find its concept difficult. She discusses the concept of the Zone of Power and how it can help us assess what's in and out of our control in making choices. At the end of the day, we only have one wild and precious life — it's your choice how to spend it.If you want to know how to begin making choices with unclouded acceptance, tune in to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover what it means to live a wild and precio

We're all guilty of eating our feelings from time to time. It can happen to anyone for any reason — a bad day at work, a stressful time at home, a plan falling short. We start emotional eating because eating is an inherently satisfying activity—and it must be! You feel good when you eat things you like. However, the problem arises when this is our only coping mechanism for dealing with difficult situations. Learning how to stop emotional eating can help us break or prevent unhealthy eating habits. In this episode, Keri Williams and Dr Matthea Rentea talked about the causes of emotional hunger and how it affects our mood and hormones. They also discussed their inspiring weight loss journey and explained why diets don't always work. Finally, they imparted tried-and-true advice on how to stop emotional eating. Don't miss out on this episode if you're looking for the most practical ways to manage binge eating and experience consistent weight loss! 3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode

Learning to manage your emotions is a crucial skill. No matter the situation, letting your emotions get the best of you doesn't typically end well. However, that doesn't mean we should shut our feelings down. Instead, it's best to identify and analyse them first, then take action.In this quick episode of You Are Not A Frog, I discuss difficult, negative emotions and how to handle them. We tackle what these emotions are and understand why we get them. I will also give tips on discerning whether you need to act or can safely ignore them. If you're struggling to manage overwhelming negative emotions, this episode is for you. 3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand negative emotions and why you feel them. Know how to deal with guilt.Learn when to act on your negative emotions and when to ignore them.Episode Highlights[01:46] The Price We Pay[03:12] Pain as Warning Bells[04:46] Not All Negative Emotions Warrant Action[08:04] Dealing With Guilt[09:24] Understanding Negative Emotions

Does having a healthy work-life balance seem so unattainable that you’ve given up trying to acheive it? Work takes up most of our time, leaving only spare time for our other commitments. Maybe you have tried doing everything at once, only to end up resentful. This may be because you’re aiming for the impossible. Dr. Claire Kaye joins us in this episode to discuss why we should never aim for work-life balance, and why you should aim for life balance. We talk about the importance of prioritizing your needs and the things that give you joy. We also teach you practical ways to cope with burnout and create balance in all aspects of your life — career, socials, family, well-being, and hobbies.If you want to know how to get the life balance you need (and desire), stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why achieving a perfect work-life balance will always fail.Learn how to do a life audit to work out your priorities. Get useful tips to cope with burnout and o

Rachel gives a quick tip on facing shark music in this short episode of You Are Not a Frog. She shares her experiences of anticipating the worst-case scenario. She talks about why we hear 'shark music' in the first place and shares two quick steps you can take to stop it. It's time to stop assuming the worst and enjoy your life without shark music playing in the background.Tune in to this episode to hear Rachel’s quick tips on expecting the best and getting rid of your negative assumptions — the imaginary sharks!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn where shark music can come from and what might trigger it for you.Understand why we assume the worst in different situations.Find out how you can beat the shark music by assuming the best.Episode Highlights[00:28] What It Means to Hear Shark Music [04:35] Assumptions of Sharks[07:42] Assuming the Best[09:06] Triggers of Shark Music[10:52] Stopping the Shark Music ResourcesJaws theme song by John WilliamsJaws (1975)Downloa

In this episode, Angela Deutschmann joins us to talk about how to experience joy despite the challenges of the healthcare profession. Being in a high-stress job can make you mistake happiness about external things with internal joy. Angela talks about how to reprogram your unconscious mind and find joy and satisfaction in your everyday life. She also discusses the difference between caring for and carrying out other people's suffering.If you want to rekindle your joy within and learn how to become joyful whatever the circumstance is, then listen to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out the difference between happiness and joy.Discover tools that will help you care without carrying.Learn how to reprogramme the stories you’ve created in your unconscious mind.Episode Highlights[05:51] Angela’s Work around Joy[07:56] The Difference Between Happiness and Joy[11:27] Finding Joy in Adversity[12:52] Caring vs Carrying[15:03] Tools to Help You Care without Carrying

In this short episode, Rachel talks about becoming more productive in life and work by escaping the urgency trap. She discusses the principles of the Urgent-Important Matrix and how it can help us assess the urgency and importance level tasks. She then shares how to begin doing gradual deep work towards a bigger goal.If you want to know how to escape the urgency trap and become more productive in life and work, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn about the concept of the urgency trap.Identify tasks you should focus on using the Urgent-Important Matrix.Find out the power of doing deep work.ResourcesDownload our Overwhelm SOS ToolkitDeep Work by Cal NewportFeeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at hello@youarenotafrog.com THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEpisode Highlights[00:40] On ‘Managing’ Time[02:13] Urgent-Important Matrix[03:57] Urgency Trap[06:27] Navigating the Urgency Trap[08:57] The Power of Deep

In this episode, Jane Gunn joins us once again to share her advice on how you can say no. Most people don’t want to hear rejection. Jane talks about what you can do to avoid triggering others with what you say. Avoid a cycle of conflict by taking your time to respond and not react. She also discusses the many fears you might have as a professional saying no. Learn to set your boundaries and maintain them when you know how to say no.If you’re worried about how your refusal or rejection might cause conflict, then listen to this episode and learn to say no.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the importance of a clear and thought-out message when you are saying no.Learn how you can create a psychologically safe environment where you can say no without fear of judgement.Find out what you can do when someone isn’t happy with your refusal.Episode Highlights[05:42] Hearing Both Sides[09:26] Strong Perceptions[15:18] Problem-solving Process[20:32] The Principle of Self-Determina

In this episode, Rachel talks about how you can distinguish the tigers in your life and better understand why we respond to them in the first place. She shares the four common immediate responses and how they often put us in a mindset for bad decisions. Whenever we meet a threat or irritation, we need to step back and ask, "is it a tiger?"If you would like a quick tip on staying calm in the face of irritations and make better decisions even in the heat of staring down a tiger, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the three types of threats that affect us — and which one is the tiger. Learn to distinguish what matters and understand our core boundaries. Discover how you can make better decisions independent of your reaction to tigers.Episode Highlights[00:28] What are Tigers?[03:35] The Three Types of Threats[05:45] How Tigers Affect Us[07:23] How to Distinguish Tigers[10:40] Which Tigers Matter?[11:48] Key TakeawaysResourcesListen to

Gerrie Hawes joins us in this episode to discuss the suffocating feeling of being overwhelmed, but also how to deal with it. She shares why it's important to enjoy work and how you can take control of your happiness to do so. Learn from Gerrie what you can do when you realize you are overwhelmed. She shares how you can create a happier and more optimistic workplace for your team.If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want to learn what you can do to feel better, tune in to this episode that’s just for you!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand why it’s alright to pursue your happiness.Follow Gerrie's step-by-step instructions on how you can overcome feeling overwhelmed.Learn how optimism can bring about a happier work day.Episode Highlights[04:50] Overwhelming Work[07:02] Letting Yourself Enjoy Work[10:45] Feeling Overwhelmed[20:31] The Big Picture: Aiming For Happiness[28:43] Moving Towards Happiness[32:17] How You Can Start Becoming Better[37:14] Delaying and Delegating[

Are you facing a challenge at the moment, or feeling like you could do with some guidance when it comes to choosing your direction? Then our final Summer replay is for you. Discover the power of self-coaching, including the framework and questions to guide you on your self-coaching journey. Episode 117Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Sign up here for a free self-coaching toolkit!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.The Self-Coaching Workbook by Dr Karen CastilleThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen CoveyYANAF Ep 62: Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen CastilleVisit Dr Claire's  Website, or follow her on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a lin

Ever feel like everyone around you is a highly-skilled, super competent professional - and you’re just winging it? Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. Listen to today’s replay to find out why calling it “imposter syndrome” isn’t always helpful - and what you can do instead. Episode 112Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Check Dr Sarah’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to WorkRead about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan  and Jodi-Ann BureyGrab a copy of The 6-Minute Success JournalVisit Sarah’s website or follow her on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up he

Are you feeling frustrated, resentful or fed up with work - but not sure if you want to break up with your career entirely? In this replay, Dr Pauline Morris shares how to cultivate a healthier relationship with your work, starting by understanding what you really want and need from your work.Episode 91Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Ten Coping Strategies for Physicians by Dr Pauline MorrisLearn more about Dr Pauline’s programs: Doctors Caring for DoctorsConnect with Dr Pauline: Facebook | Twitter | LinkedInFor more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your apprais

In the second of our Summer replays, join Corrina Gordon-Barnes to learn how to make better decisions by taking a different perspective; the key to creating more fulfilling relationships; and how to stay in your “Zone of Power” when it comes to the big decisions in life.Episode 89Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Check Corrina’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:E32: How to take control of your thoughts with Corrina Gordon-BarnesThe Work of Byron KatieStay within your zone of power through the Zone of Power handout.​​Visit Corrina’s website or follow her on Instagram, ​​Twitter, and LinkedIn.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form d