You Are Not A Frog

Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. However, downplaying our accomplishments and skills might lead to negative self-talk. That's not to say questioning yourself is completely bad — sometimes it can spur you to improve!ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leaders.Listen to Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work with Dr Sarah GouldingRead about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan  and Jodi-Ann BureyKnow more about Brené BrownConnect with Corrina Gordon-BarnesGrab a copy of The 6-Minute Success JournalCheck out Sarah’s websiteFollow Sarah on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.Episode Highlights[03:46] The Imposter SyndromeMany people today use the phrase 'imposter syndrome' without much thought. Impostor syndrome can make you feel like a fraud.[08:37] Take a Break Professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to be harsh on themselves.[11:03] Imposter Syndrome and

Do you find yourself stuck in a pattern of aggressive conversations in certain situations? Do you ever wonder why those conversations trigger you? It can be hard to understand what's happening when we're feeling in what he calls a ‘red state’. Identifying the feeling is the first step in mindfulness practice; we need to recognise our red emotional states to move away from them.Graham Lee joins us in this episode to discuss our emotional states and apply simple mindfulness techniques to get out of a red state and into a green one. Most conflicts are rooted in unmet needs. When we admit those needs, we can instantly change relationship dynamics! Graham also shares insights on what to do during stressful situations where your emotions cloud your judgement and thinking.If you want to use mindfulness practice to be more aware of your emotions even during difficult situations, then stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how we can categorise our emotiona

Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray join us to discuss how our core beliefs shape the way we respond to situations. When taken too far, empathy and helping people can be a big cause of stress. In addition, we also talk about we can learn to reframe and reassess their core beliefs. If you want to know how to help people without absorbing their emotions, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the connection between people-pleasing and stress triggers. Discover how to care less about what others think, so you can do a better job and feel fulfilled. Learn techniques like shadow work and develop a beginner’s mind for a happier life. ResourcesConnect with Dr Karen: LinkedIn I Twitter  Connect with Chrissie: LinkedIn I Bell Lane Physiotherapy Develop resilience with Resilient Practice! You can also follow them on Facebook and Twitter.    How to Rise: A Complete Resilience Manual by Dr Karen Forshaw and Chri

When was the last time you had fun at work? Dr Kathryn Owler joins us in this episode to discuss the importance of having a fun mindset at work. She shares her fascinating research on the characteristics and traits of people who enjoy their current jobs. We dissect the common themes these people have in finding success in their careers.If you want to start adopting the mindset people who have fun at work have, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn what it means to have fun at work.Discover the mindset and the things people who have fun at work do.Find out how you can attain a ‘lighthearted sense of enjoyment’ in your work life.Episode Highlights[05:07] Kathryn’s early work experience[06:55] Feeling Stuck and Unhappy[08:51] On Having Fun at Work[15:14] Taking Fun into Any Workplace[17:27] Secrets to Having Fun at Work[20:00] Taking Action [22:55] Kathryn’s Definition of Fun[24:52] Being in the Flow[27:28] The Notions of ‘Joy’ and ‘Fun’[29:36

Dr Ed Pooley and Dr Hussain Gandhi join us to discuss critical management skills they wish they had learned at med school. We also talked about how you can develop these practices now.ResourcesEisenhower Matrix and Ike AppFree to Focus by Michael HyattDr Ed Pooley’s Ten Minute Medicine website, Facebook and FB GroupDr Hussain Gandhi’s LinkedineGPlearning's website, Facebook and YoutubeTHRIVE Planner: https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/thrive-plannerEpisode Highlights[04:25] About Dr Ed and Dr GandhiDr Ed Pooley is a communications trainer.Dr Hussain Gandhi is a GP partner trainer, PCN clinical director, and owner of eGPlearning.[05:54] What Gandhi Wished He Knew in Med SchoolLearn to say no.Delegate and prioritize.[07:56] Ed’s Top Med Career TipsYour job doesn’t define who you are.Build habits that stick.[10:02] Why It’s Hard to Say NoPeople in healthcare often say yes.Saying yes is easier than 'no'.You end up putting other people's needs first.[16:08] How to Say NoShift your mindset from ‘you won’t’ to ‘you

We all have our own take on what success looks like. Throughout our careers, we’ve conditioned ourselves to work extra hard to get to where we want to be, but many professionals who have reached high levels of success seem to be unhappy. Is this really what success looks like? There is no one definition for success. We’re all different — from our talents and skills down to the priorities we have and the trajectory of our careers. You have the freedom to define success on your own.In this episode, Dr Claire Kaye joins us to talk about the importance of honesty and clarity in defining our own success. We may think that achieving certain goals will make us happy, but evidence shows us it’s the other way around. It’s only when we’re happy that we can be successful. We also discuss how to overcome common barriers to our happiness and success such as fear, guilt, and uncertainty.If you want to know how to live a happier and more successful life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should

In this episode of YANAF, we’re talking about worry and anxiety, particularly rational worry and anxiety. You know the phrases, don’t worry, it’ll probably never happen, or ‘It’s not like anyone’s going to die!’ – well what do we do when bad things may well happen, or people’s lives and livelihoods are genuinely at risk? How do we stop ourselves from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety then?To explore this, we’re joined by Psychiatrist and therapist Dr. Caroline Walker to talk about how to stop ourselves from feeling overwhelmed with worry even in the midst of worrying times. Even though we might not be able to control what’s going on in the world, or even just our families or workplaces right now, one thing we do have more control over is how we deal with ourselves when we start feeling anxious or dwelling on unhelpful thoughts (even if they may be very rational). We can also stay focused on the present where everything is OK now. We talk about how worry can be helpful when it spurs us into action but whe

In this episode, Dr Giles P. Croft joins us to discuss how stress starts with our thoughts and emotions. He talks about how the mind works and its tendency to create narratives and predictions that stress us out. We also delve into the importance of allowing ourselves to calm down and letting go of the things we can’t control.Episode Highlights[05:20] Past YANAF Episodes with Giles[06:46] Where Does Stress Start?[14:00] How People Work the Same Way[18:58] What to Do About Valid Fears and Thoughts[24:35] Our Default State[28:44] How to Calm Down[32:03] Context Changes Our Thoughts [35:31] What Thoughts Do We Ignore or Listen to? [42:13] Stress Less[52:34] Practical Tips from GilesEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here:Rachel’s LinkedIn.: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/ Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: rache

Holidays and celebrations often come with their own set of obstacles and difficulties. Our idea of a perfect holiday never happens because our own assumptions and unrealistic expectations get in the way and lead to an environment filled with conflict.In this special Christmas episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes shows us the groundwork for setting a peaceful and successful holiday season while navigating difficult relationships with relatives or colleagues. She guides us through taking off the expectation of a perfect holiday with our family and facing reality in ourselves and others. Corrina talks about the ways you can act within your zone of power to resolve conflict. She also walks us through what we can do during difficult gatherings and how to shift routine actions to create different outcomes.It’s the season for countless gatherings and reunions. Tune in to improve your strained relationships with relatives and co-workers through empathy and letting go of past assumptions.Here are three reasons why you

We’ve got a lot to handle in the medical field — irate patients, pressure to succeed, and who knows what else? But sometimes, the problem is the system itself. We can’t allow ourselves to grow comfortable in a toxic environment. Look around and see where you can create a change for the better.In this episode, Dr Abdullah Albeyatti talks about improving your life and career by making changes and taking risks. He also explains why settling for what is familiar could be slowly ruining your life and how you can avoid this situation. Finally, he shares his top three tips to become a changemaker in your field. If you want to start doing things to create a change and take more risks, then this episode is for you! 3 Reasons to Listen to This Episode1. Learn when you need to stay or leave your chosen career2. Discover why taking risks can make you happier 3. Uncover Dr Abdullah’s top three tips to create a change  ResourcesPermission to Thrive CPD membershipConnect with Dr Abdullah - LinkedIn | Ins

Drs Claire Edwin, Sally Ross, and Taj Hassan join us to discuss how we can manage and deal with our failures more effectively. We explore the idea that rather than doing something wrong, failure is an opportunity to really grow and learn both as individuals, as leaders and as organisations. In any situation, it’s important to remember that we’re all human. It’s okay to be honest with ourselves and each other about our mistakes - after all, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. If you want to know how to change your mindset around failure, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:49] About our GuestsDr Claire Edwin works at the National Medical Director Clinical Fellows and NHS England in the faculty of medical leadership and management. Dr Taj, a previous president of the Royal College of Emergency Medicine, is currently involved in international work in Pakistan. Dr Sally Ross has extensive experience in military and various leadership training events.[07:20] What are Micro Failures

Sheela Hobden joins us to discuss how we can harness the power of checklists to create a routine! When people fail to reach their goals, they often just stop trying or feel a lot of shame. Be realistic and learn to encourage yourself by taking on a range of targets instead of one. Sheela also recommends creating identity-based goals to ensure that you keep building your new identity even after completing certain milestones. Start small, and eventually, you’ll see these good habits stick! If you want to know how to create helpful habits to change your life, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:31] Why Routine is ImportantOur brain loves routine because of its certainty. The model notes that when our routines change, there will be a threat response. [08:24] Free Your Mind with ChecklistsDon’t underestimate checklists. Your brain can think of a few things all at the same time. [13:54] Build a Habit through Routines The more you practice your routine, the more it becomes a hab

Dr Nik Kendrew unravels why we experience overwhelming guilt when bad things happen to us. He also shares some tips, techniques, and resources to cope with difficult times and circumstances. Apart from this, Nik talks about the significance of scheduling our entire day to do important things. Finally, he discusses why setting boundaries is necessary to maintain our sense of self.If you want to learn how to stop feeling guilty when uncontrollable things happen to you, then stay tuned to this episode! Episode Highlights[6:10] About the Boggle DocsNik hosts the Boggle Docs. He gets to invite guests and talk about popular TV shows or movies portraying medical issues. [9:43] Dr Nik, the 100th Episode’s Guest Nik was invited over for the 100th episode because he was the podcast's first guest. [13:16] Nik’s Heart Problem On his way to work, Nik suddenly had difficulty in breathing and experienced terrible chest pain. A paramedic immediately came to his aid and found he was experiencing Atrial Fibrilla

Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits. If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the PandemicThere was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVIDDr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility[13:03] Setting Boundaries around ResponsibilitiesWe need to make peace with our limits. [17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ingWe often take criticism perso

Dr Naren Senthil Nathan joins us to talk about what makes it hard for people to talk about their feelings. He shares that the first step is acknowledging your problems and knowing that there is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you know people who are struggling, remember that they need to feel comfortable with talking about their struggles first. Episode Highlights[04:52] The State of Mental Health Today Mental health is not widely discussed and is still considered taboo in many cultures. [08:12] Why People Find it Hard to Ask for Help Many people are not taught to express and talk to people about their feelings.[10:01] What Happens When People Suppress Their IssuesSuppression of issues can affect relationships and lead to unsafe practices at work. [12:54] Gender Differences When Asking for Help Unfortunately, many men today are not open and don’t talk about their problems and mental health matters. [17:49] Why Men are More VulnerableMen don’t open up because of pride and

Dr Joanna Bircher talks about essential leadership skills and the impact of our personalities, motivations, and strengths on our teams. She explains why you need to act like a leader even if you think you are not one, and gives brilliant advice on becoming more self-aware. Episode Highlights[05:54] You Are a Leader, Even if You Don’t Think You Are Even if you're a trainee in a company,  you have an impact on your team. [08:56] Joanna’s Leadership Journey Leadership is not about knowing everything. It’s about exploring new ideas together with your team.A leader listens, collaborates, and makes good decisions.[14:00] How to Recognise CollaborationAs a leader, it is your job to bring out others' opinions during discussions. [15:21] How to Develop Self-AwarenessYou can build a much better team if you focus on your strengths and those of your members.We must develop our strengths rather than our weaknesses. [22:26] Finding Your Strengths Being self-aware means that you recog

In this episode, we hear from the expert in conflict management and mediation, Jane Gunn. She discusses important tips to keep in mind in order to host great meetings. Jane also shares some practical conflict management tips and how to make decisions that you and your team agree on. Episode Highlights[04:14] Why You Avoid ConflictYou may be afraid of your emotions or unconfident to navigate difficult conversations.[05:26] The Skill of Conflict ManagementThere are four ways to deal with conflict: fight, flight, freeze, or appease.[08:03] Conflict Management Within TeamsConflict is necessary.  Some teams have too much, whereas others have too little.[09:46] The Power of Resolution Rethinking in Conflict ManagementNemawashi is a process of digging deep into issues to determine their impact on all sides.[12:22] The Importance of Consultations in Conflict ManagementConsulting in conflict management others allows people to feel heard. [15:51] Uncovering ConcernsA concern can be addressed during the m

Annie Hanekom joins us to share the three important conversations you need to have — with yourself and with others — to help you get unstuck. We discuss the importance of having meaningful conversations and the weight it carries on your mindset and wellbeing.Episode Highlights[03:23] The Importance of Meaningful ConversationsThe conversation is the relationship and thus carries a lot of weight.[06:43] What People Are Going Through NowThere seems to be a lag in people’s behaviours because of exhaustion.Physical fatigue can be fixed by rest, whereas depletion needs social connection.[11:56] What’s In Your Control?If you start focusing on the things you can control, that zone of power grows and helps you feel empowered.[18:41] The Power of Focusing on What You Can ControlFocus on what you can really control and trust in the process.[20:26] Where Is Your Focus?Are the things you’re focusing on driving you towards the things that really matter?[23:34] The Danger of Being Addicted to BusynessBeing busy does make pe

Dr Richard Pile and Rachel do a deep dive into what it means to have a meaningful, purpose-driven life. We also explore the concept of ikigai and how you can use this to determine your purpose, so that you can enjoy your work more and ultimately unlock your potential to live life to its fullest.Episode Highlights[05:51] Is Purpose a Given for Doctors?Everyone, including doctors, can benefit from thinking about their reason for being.When your purpose is tied to your job, your profession can become all-consuming.[10:04] Defining PurposePurpose has layers, including your values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and what matters to you. [12:35] The Consequences of Lack of PurposeNot contemplating your meaning and purpose can affect your health and wellbeing.[16:00] Are Meaningful Relationships Part of Your Purpose?Only focusing inward hampers you from unlocking your full potential.Purpose alone isn’t good enough; you need to have balance.[19:06] The Current GP SituationGeneral practice has never been busier than i

Anna Dearmon Kornick teaches us strategies for managing time and determining when to delegate. She also explains why time management is heart management. When you get clear on your vision, goals, and values, you can do more of what matters to you. Episode Highlights[08:48] How to Have More Control in Your DayMentally walking through your day allows you to anticipate problems in advance and come up with solutions. When you know your schedule, you can also give your breaks a purpose. [13:02] How to Manage Admin TimeThe most effective meetings have agendas and a step-by-step flow.[15:26] Creating an Agenda Checklist for Admin TimeCreating the sequence of tasks in your agenda mostly depends on personal preference.One thing that might help is the time management technique called ‘Eat that frog,’ where you start your day by doing the toughest or most important task. You can also try the 15-minute rule. [19:03] Set Expectations with Your AgendaSet expectations with others who may want to ste