Simply Abundant Intuitive

Complainers are addicted to feeling bad. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, believing everyone else is better off, are addicted to feeling bad. People who host weekly pity parties about everything that sucks in their lives are addicted to feeling bad. So why would you choose this over feeling good? Because it’s easier. It allows you to avoid your fears, blame the universe for your problems and not do anything differently. Choosing to feel bad let’s you off the hook so you don’t have to make changes (that’s the benefit). But it also keeps you stuck in a personal prison where everything remains frustratingly the same. You want your life to change, but you can’t see what you do to hold yourself in this “feeling bad” state. To do things differently is too scary, so you don’t do it. But that’s the path to feeling good: going through those fear walls and making things happen. The longer you stay victimized by your own thoughts and stories, judging your life by the outside, the longer you stay in yo

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of personalizing your children's behavior, knowing what you want, and taking rejection personally. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

#495 - Moving On with Audrey Hope Audrey has had multiple of what she calls "karmic points" that have led her to change her path various times. After seeing firsthand the suffering that women experienced around their bodies, she started a show called Real Women to help stop the brainwashing that affected women and presenting positive role models. Another of those moments was responsible for her starting her healing work with people. After working extensively on healing herself for a relationship, she heard a voice telling her to get on Plenty Of Fish, where she ended up meeting her husband. Audrey is an excellent example of healing yourself and receiving guidance from the universe. Here's what we talked about: -Surrendering in moments of change -Asking for guidance and receiving it -Healing yourself to be able to manifest what you want -How you can see challenging moments as guidance to something better -The importance of letting go in healing and manifesting -Leaving her dad and the job at the family busi

Do you have personas for different situations to make sure you’re never “wrong” or out of place? When talking with other people, do you constantly gauge their reactions and make assumptions about what they think of you (i.e. you’re boring, you’re dumb, there is something terribly wrong with you)? Maybe you fear all hell will break loose if you show who you really are. Those assumptions are based on your negative beliefs, and trying to avoid them turns you into an anxious chameleon, walking on eggshells to avoid rejection (that’s quite the visual, isn’t it?!). Chameleons spend a lot of time and energy trying to disprove their negative beliefs. Putting on a circus act will show you’re not boring. No one will accuse you of being dumb if you always quote from scholarly books. But where are YOU in all this? By trying to prevent people from seeing your negative traits (which may be entirely in your head), you don’t allow yourself to feel your good beliefs. When you embrace your negative beliefs, an amazing thing

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of trust problems in relationships, affairs, and fear triggering you. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

When you’re a kid and your mom or dad reacted to you at times as though you had done something wrong, and you had not. You might have felt misunderstood or confused by their words or actions. In those moments, mom or dad were dealing with their own stuff and some of their frustration, anger, exhaustion, sadness, anxiety, etc was put on you. As an adult, do you still carry baggage leftover from your parents' choices? We are clueless as kids, we have no idea why mom or dad feel how they do and treat us how they do. They weren’t saying, “Hey, I am really frustrated by this problem at work and I am sorry I took it out on you.” Or maybe they ignored you, no matter how much you wanted their attention? And at other time they told you that you were too much, too difficult, or always doing something wrong. Whatever it was that created the idea that you were somehow responsible for how your parents felt, it was not a true observation, even if they said how they felt was all your fault. The truth is: Your parents proje

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of one-sided relationships, how to change without beating yourself up, and dating someone who's stingy with their money. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Alexandra grew up shaping her life around a thesis rather than a career by following her intuition and making decisions that to others seem strange but to her felt like answering a call. Her artistic career extends to tv, movies, shows, photography, and now a book. She currently works with women by helping them heal and learn how to love themselves and make their lives a work of art through coaching and spiritual teachings. Here's what we talked about: -Considering our identity around the work that you do -Making decisions by following what's pulling you -The pain she carried with her after her parents' divorce -Maintaining love relationships while traveling -What the title of her book, F*ck Like a Goddess, really means -Loving all the parts of yourself Here's more about Alexandra: Alexandra's path to healing and storytelling began at a young age. With a career traversing genres, but with a through-line of exploration of the female body and the re-integration of the divine feminine into the collective narra

You feel like you need to "fix" other people. Do you spend a lot of your time and energy focused on the other people in your life? Maybe you rehearse what you need to say, so you get the reactions you want. You might even think there is an issue and plan out how you’ll react to them. Maybe you spend hours planning your actions, always trying to control the situation. Whether this happens behind a computer screen on social media or to your significant other, when you focus on fixing someone else's flaws, you're avoiding your own. Controlling someone else just helps you avoid what's going on inside. You can waste your life focused on someone else's or you can start to focus on your own and why you need others to be how you want them. In this episode, you'll learn how to take action for yourself, and focus on what you can do for YOU. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing preferences vs. connection when dating, staying in an unhappy marriage for your kids, and introducing your partner to your family. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Recently, by looking at myself and where I used to be, I've had a big realization: I've come so far in my journey of attachment. I listen to others who are trying to salvage relationships with people who it is “square peg/round hole” situations and the pain, the suffering and hope that this could somehow turn into something which feels good is a motivator. The big issue is that you aren’t being nice to yourself and I guarantee you may not feel your date or mate is being nice to you either. In my relationship, my husband cares about my feelings, and he does nice things for me all the time. At an earlier point in my life, I would've been waiting for the big reveal, for the moment he realizes that I'm worthless. Meanwhile, I would've done everything that I could to prove I was worthy of someone being good to me. All that work, all the time left me always feeling like I just had to do more; it was a constant push/pull. I've learned how to break my own patterns of self-sabotage and receive love and attention. As

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of relationships, believing someone will change because of you, and when you should not be vulnerable. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: https://bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Lisa had to make the difficult decision of ending her marriage when she realized she was conditioning her kids to be dysfunctional just as her parents had programmed her. It killed her inside to see the effect of what she was doing in her children. Her therapist told her it would take everything she had to change it, but she knew she had to do it. After an ugly divorce, her personal trainer clients started to express their interest in her coaching them. She built her website and started writing about what she had learned and people responded! She eventually wrote her book ''The Road Back to Me'" and it became an Amazon bestseller. After that, the flood gates opened, she wrote more books and became a certified life coach. She now helps people to get out of the patterns they run and stop begin codependent. Here's what we talked about: -How Lisa found out she wasn't crazy but codependent -Getting into the wrong relationships because the new potential partner looks good on paper -People-pleasing as a result of f

Your life isn't a fairytale, who’s is? For some of us we have this sneaky little habit. It’s called looking for problems, all the time and you probably don’t even know it! Perhaps, you're someone who looks for problems as a distraction. If you were to look at your life objectively, do you really have any major problems? I get it if you do, absolutely! Sometimes things happen that are to be dealt with and you have no choice. But I am talking about where you do have a choice, where if you were to focus on the good in your life you would realize there is not a real problem. And that is where you want to have awareness, the awareness of how you create problems with impossible solutions to keep you from looking inside and figuring out what's really going on. With everything happening in the world right now that's out of your control, you might be feeling like a victim of circumstances. You might wake up every day afraid and anxious, watching the news, social media, anything that can feed right into how you feel t

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of avoiding through distractions, feeling responsible for sabotaging your relationship, and creating problems that don't exist. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

You want a relationship. In fact when you think about it, it sounds great! But the reality is that the only place it is functional is in your head. You want to connect with someone, but you hate the thought of being out of control of your emotions. Self-discipline matters more, you've built your whole life on control: what you wear, what you eat, how you look. Even when you find yourself attached to someone, you spend so much time trying to get your control back. You are an emotional avoidant, a self-disciplined one. In today's episode, you'll learn how to stop avoiding and invest in your emotional freedom. That's the only way you can truly live. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of the connection between feeling your feelings and law of attraction and trying to change your partner, fixing yourself before fixing your relationship. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Damona Hoffman grew up in a predominantly white suburb in Michigan, and as a biracial woman, she didn't feel she was attractive enough to date at a young age. Once she was able to celebrate her unique characteristics and learned to love them, she found her ideal partner. Damona worked in casting and teaching actors when she started noticing the similarities between casting and online dating. After she met her husband online, people started coming to her for help with their dating profiles. Using her knowledge of how to get noticed from her years in casting, she helped many people meet their significant other. Here's what we talked about: -Her switch between shitty dating and good dating -Confusing initial chemistry in a date with love -The importance of mindset in finding an ideal partner -The visualization exercise she does with her clients -How she manifested her husband -How she became a dating coach after interviewing for 17 jobs and not getting any of them -Looking for signs and confirmations that you'r

At a young age, we learned to hide the parts of ourselves that made adults uncomfortable. It can feel like in your mind you will never be known. Some of us created a whole identity on not being known and our struggle to be seen and heard as who we were and are. It can create a great deal of shame, because it may be the feeling you try to avoid by hiding who you are. You may have been shamed for what you did or did not do because your parents didn't know how to deal with you. They may have been going through their own stuff, which limited how they were able to deal. The shame has carried through your adult life still with the identity and the feeling of will anyone ever really know me and stay? You've struggled to feel seen and to find value in yourself because your environment growing up did not give you an opportunity for anyone to see the real you. This struggle for validation is generational. To finally be authentically you, you have to learn to let go of the feelings your parents (and their parents, and

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of the difference between emotional baggage and a rough patch, pointing out your partner's emotional baggage and true intimacy. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley