Simply Abundant Intuitive

Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fake or phony. The you which you present isn’t really who you are or you feel others will not think it is who you are. For me, I always waited for people to find out I was a bad person, even though nothing about me is…it’s what I dreaded, personally and professionally. So, for those of you who have that feeling, guess what? It’s related to insecure attachment. Whether it’s in your career or your relationships, you never feel deserving of the love or praise you’re given and you worry about FIFO (Fear I’m Found Out). Despite working harder than anyone else to prove you’re worthy, it’s never enough. You’re a perfectionist, but nothing you do or say ever feels “perfect.” These feelings, like insecure attachment, stem back to the conditioning you received as a child. The good news is that impostor syndrome is a story you keep telling, a facade you can take down. In this

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like everything is against you, hidden anger and people pulling away. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationship, you look for problems with your partner. Oh wait! There’s more. You may find yourself dating, which you do trepidatiously, and voila there’s chemistry. You feel the pangs of anxiety and know you’ll be hooked by dinnertime. Whether you are the pursuer or the runner, each position for the anxious avoidant is all about emotional distance, even if on the outside it looks like you’re physically there. Fear has been there for years, but you might think it is normal—the way you’ve always felt. Trying to grasp control, you are used to strategies, so you do not become engulfed or stuck or available. Sometimes you believe it is really the other person, but the truth is you are the common denominator in your love life. And its good news! Because you can do something about it! This loop of avoidant behavior stems from your subconscious belief system. To make a change, you

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, breakups, and feeling empty. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with Mid-Life Coach, Jonathon Aslay. Listen in as he takes us on his journey after he lost his 19-year-old son in 2018. His grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?." Learn more about Jonathon Aslay at http://www.jonathonaslay.com/ Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you always reading into what your significant other is doing--or not doing? Every ignored text, every forwarded call becomes a sign of the way they feel about you. When you take every action personally, you are giving them authority over your emotional state. To fight this helpless feeling, you may have turned to the silent treatment. Whether you’re ignoring them as a punishment or a way to make them miss you, it’s giving you a false sense of control. The key to a healthy relationship is not to ignore them, but to communicate openly about your feelings. You have to stop focusing on what you think is about you and focus on what you can control--your own actions. In today’s episode, learn how to stop personalizing others and take control of your emotions. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your past questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of shame, attachment forming in childhood, and control of other people. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617

Almost half of my clients come to me engaged in two intimate relationships, and they are in pain. Shame and attachment for the person who feels stuck inside of each relationship means a roller coaster of emotions: guilt, anxiety, intimacy, freedom. This podcast is not about the person who is on the receiving end of their partner being unfaithful, it is for those who are drowning in their situation. For most people, the original intent when entering one relationship is not to find someone else to bring into the commitment, but it happens. It then becomes about blame, making someone into the bad guy (whether it is the faithful/faithless) and when I work with people it is about getting them dislodged from two relationships and into one with themselves. The people who show up on my doorstep do not have a long-suffering mate, they have a stalemate. Meaning they are in a position to be there not out of love but out of some duty they feel is difficult to unwind. As we all know looking for your happiness in someone

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of connection, having different sexual needs in a relationship, and distinguishing between being selfish and being true to you. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you living with secrets? Maybe you're hiding your shopping receipts from your husband, or maybe you're leaving out parts of your stories because you fear the repercussions. In some cases, you might not even be aware that you're withholding information from your significant other. All these secrets stem from one ultimate truth: you're afraid of change. You can't be 100% committed to someone if you're still hiding parts of your life. Keeping secrets may save you from ever having to change, but it also keeps you from experiencing a happy, healthy relationship. If you're ready to be courageous and leave secrets behind, listen to today's podcast episode.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of marriage, setting boundaries with your children, being honest with friends and fears. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Do you spend a lot of time wishing your relationships were different? Maybe you’ve been holding back your real feelings because you’re afraid of how your partner will react. Or maybe you don’t think you have the time to date, especially when it seems like there aren’t any good men or women left. The truth is, these are all just excuses. Without even realizing it, you could be holding onto your victimhood out of fear, placing all of the blame onto other people. If you’re ready to have a happy, healthy relationship and to finally let go of the pain you’ve been holding onto, the first step in looking inside. Nothing will ever change until you’re ready to surrender to your fear. In today’s podcast episode, you’ll learn how to stop the avoidance, let go of the excuses, and go after the life you want. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can d

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of guilt, hot and cold relationships, and healing. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Maybe you can't even remember a time when a relationship didn’t feel like work. You're always sacrificing your own happiness to make someone else happy. But how did you get to this place? How does someone become codependent? Unfortunately, codependency is often a seed planted in childhood. It grows alongside you as you develop your identity and the way you communicate. In today’s podcast, learn how the relationships you observed as a child influenced your adult relationships, and learn how you can use this knowledge to break free of your codependent behavior. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: http://bit.ly/2ExXCLJ

In this special series Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of when insecurities are triggered, asking for help and family relationships. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: https://www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Are you still stuck on a relationship that ended months, maybe even years ago? You’re still carrying this longing inside of you, always wondering what life would have been like if they had stayed. A part of you is still waiting for them to come back, to give you some kind of closure for the sacrifices you made. Looking back on your memories, you think you still love them. It may feel like love, but what you’re really feeling is attachment. To move past the emotional triggers that are still keeping you attached to your previous partner, you have to start by taking responsibility for your own emotions. Once you find your agency, you can empower yourself to make a change. In today’s podcast episode, learn 4 tips to let go of the pain of your past relationship and finally put it behind you. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: http://bit.ly/2ExXCLJ

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of shifting your dating focus, negative feelings and being authentic. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Do you never feel good enough for the people around you? You’re probably creating unreachable expectations for yourself. You can’t recognize your own value, so you become obsessed with getting validation from other people. Without even realizing it, you could be overcompensating for your self-doubts by pouring all of your energy into making other people happy. These behaviors stem from fear and attachment. You’re overextending yourself because you’re afraid to disappoint the ones you love. You’re manipulating your behaviors to fulfill an image you only think your partner wants. If you’re tired of feeling frustrated and upset, it’s time to discover your value. On today’s podcast, learn 3 tips to overcome your fears, recognize your attachment behaviors, and finally break the cycle of self-pity.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of triggers, commitment issues, and manipulation. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: https://www.patreon.com/tracycrossley

Healthy relationships are not built on fantasy, they are also not built on the hard work of trying to get your partner to change. You’re attached to a fantasy version of your partner, but you need to stop waiting for their behavior to change. The only thing that can change in this situation is you. You have the power to break out of this prison of attachment. In the meantime, look at what you say yes to while you wait (hope) for things to change. Perhaps, the person you’re dating cancels plans consistently, offering a laundry list of half-hearted excuses. Maybe they disappear for days or even weeks at a time, giving you nothing but radio silence. You start thinking that you did something wrong. Are you not good enough? You say things to them to get them to own up or change, but nothing does change. You have a fantasy—can’t they see it too? In this episode, you’ll learn how to see and accept your reality and change, so that someday you will not settle for less than you deserve.