Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Back in ye olden times, the fear that a partner might be cheating was enough to keep someone up at night. But in recent years, we’ve added a new layer of anxiety to the mix: “micro-cheating,” a.k.a. “back burner relationships.”   In fact, when Psychology Today recently polled people who are in a relationship, 56% revealed they had a back burner person: someone they’re in contact with who could be an option if their current relationship doesn’t go the distance.   That’s not to say that everyone realizes what they’re doing. Many feel it’s harmless—that they’re just being friendly and keeping in touch with a friend. Today’s clip will give you a simple test to figure out if you’re in a back burner relationship, and provide you with the mindset you need to give your current one its best shot. --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com

Why are toxic relationships so hard to leave? One reason is because you hold onto the small good moments and fail to acknowledge the extent of the bad.  And when we feel sympathy for someone, this also makes us doubt ourselves. We think "Maybe I'm wrong?", "Maybe I'm being too harsh on this person?", "Maybe it's actually ok?"  In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about how to get the courage to let go of a narcissistic or toxic relationship and feel certain in your decision when you keep doubting yourself. --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class. And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and information become “compatibility clues” that either build up or tear down the relationship you’ve created in your mind . . .   Unfortunately, living in our heads in this way can turn into obsessing, and render us incapable of feeling excited about anything other than seeing or hearing from that person. In other words, they occupy a space in our minds they’ve not yet earned! In this week’s new video, I share with you the mindsets that can both help and hurt you in dating, as well as the best way to determine if you and this person could really work out. --- LAST CHANCE to join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th -

People always ask how to spot red flags in relationships. But often the red flags are right in front of our eyes - we just choose to ignore them.  In this clip, Matt and Stephen explain why this happens and how you SHOULD respond when the warning signs appear. . . --- ►► FREE download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com ---  Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

In a previous episode, we talked about the struggles dating can pose when women are thinking about their desire for children and their biological clock, and all the associated anxieties that can come with it.  And we had some incredible and thoughtful responses to what is rightfully a very difficult and emotional topic to discuss (but also an essential one). In this episode, we take the conversation further and look at the disparity between men and women in future planning, why freezing your eggs and planning fertility can be its own enormous challenge, and how to think about making decisions about the future you want when you haven't met the right person yet. --- Download my free guides and give your love life a kickstart today!  ►► FREE download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com ---  Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

It’s Halloween time, and for the occasion, in today’s video I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting.  If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . .   But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time?  In this brand-new episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the strange reason why they may choose to ghost but leave the door open. You can’t miss this topic! ►► Protect Your Time & Energy. Move On Strong in Your Love Life. Unlock Your FREE Video Training at . . . → http://www.MoveOnStrong.com

Ever notice how you completely fall apart when you try to speak to that guy you’re really attracted to? It’s like with your best friends you can be effortlessly funny, talkative, and smart, then suddenly you’re talking to this guy and your brain turns to mush. Then begins the negative self-talk: “I’m not pretty enough,” “I have nothing interesting to say,” “He’s not going to like me.” It’s like you instantly lose all of your game. You go into “impress” mode. You over-analyze everything you say. You get in your head. Instead of just having fun in the moment, you start playing it cautious, like you’re in a game of chess and the stakes are life and death. If you want to finally stop putting guys on a pedestal and instill new empowering beliefs that will make you bring your best to the table (no matter who you’re talking to) listen to this clip before you do anything else... --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http:/

What do you do when you're not attracted to men who want you, and the men you ARE attracted to are unwilling to commit? In life, as we get older, we can find the dating world changing around us. We want different things, we're not as young and carefree as we were in our twenties, and we feel like we want something serious in this phase of our life. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson go deep on the dilemma of attracting the wrong people when you want to get serious, how to get excited to date again after facing painful life events, and what to do if you're facing the possibility of never finding the love you're looking for. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

Do you feel like your brain is wired wrong because despite your better judgment, you’re only attracted to the bad boys or the players? You know . . . you love the idea of a great, stable guy who treats you right, but somehow you’ve become so accustomed to the highs and lows of roller-coaster relationships that you can’t imagine feeling chemistry with such a man. At this point, you may be asking yourself if it’s possible to feel a spark with someone who isn’t always playing games with you . . . In this episode, I’ll give you 3 ways to create real attraction with the right kind of guy . . . because glorifying unavailable people is a recipe for heartbreak, so instead, we can start learning to enjoy healthy attention and find a loving partner. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com

The technique I give in this clip shows us how to feel connected to the things we have to do in our day so that we don’t become list-checking zombies with no real joy in our lives. You can use it to be ultra-productive AND happy at the same time.  This technique has become an indispensable part of my daily practice. Perhaps it will for you too. --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com

There are certain types of romantic partners who present themselves as having amazing qualities: deep, thoughtful, self-aware, spiritually evolved…   But, can these qualities be just another form of seduction that hides ego and selfishness? What if someone is good at appearing have all the right character traits, but then you find out yourself feeling neglected or hurt when you’re in a relationship with them?   Matt, Steve, Audrey and Jameson talk about how you can get fooled by first impressions, and what to look for to know if someone is actually going to have the traits of a great partner.   ---   Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

What can you do when you’re sick of the excuses and deep down want to see them more? Well, you can listen to this brand new Matt Monday, in which I’ll share with you how to avoid the most common mistake in this scenario and finally see some progress. --- Get the Exact Scripts to Communicate Confidently in Dating. Unlock a Chapter from How to Talk to Men for FREE → http://www.GetTheFreeChapter.com  

I’ll keep this short. If you’re experiencing any kind of pain right now from a “situation” or a relationship ending, this clip is a must-watch for you today. It could be the pain of having been ghosted . . . It could be the pain of someone you were seeing regularly going cold on you . . . Or it could be the terrible heartbreak of a long-term relationship falling apart when you didn’t want it to end. In this clip, my brother Stephen and I are not merely talking about how to get over your pain, but how to deal with it while you’re still in the middle of it—perhaps even in the worst phase, when it feels like it’ll never go away. I’m here for you. P.S. This video may be the greatest gift you can give a friend or family member who is experiencing this kind of pain right now. Who could you send this to to help them get through the day? --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.co

Do you want marriage and kids? Feel like you have a sense of urgency because of your biological clock? It’s common for our desires for the future to bring up all kinds of anxieties in dating. Especially when we are torn between “playing it cool”, or being honest and up front about what we want (which could scare someone away!) In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey, and Jameson dive into the thorny topic of how to handle dating and honest communication when you feel hyper aware of your biological clock and want to make plans for the future. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

Wondering why the guy you’re seeing doesn’t seem to respect you? You might be surprised by the reason . . . If your tendency is toward anxiety, you’ll go to great lengths just to restore the peace and get things “back to normal” as quickly as possible. This often includes the compulsion to say “sorry” even when something’s not your fault. The danger with this is that when we make it clear to someone that we’ll do anything to avoid difficult conversations, it becomes easy for them to take us for granted . . . If any of this sounds familiar, you will not want to miss the 3 tips I share in today’s episode. Not only will you learn how to honor your own needs and boundaries, but you’ll also raise your value in the process. What’s more, you’ll do so by actually living your life rather than simply existing in a state of perpetual people pleasing and anxiety. --- Break Your Negative Patterns & Build Unstoppable Confidence. Learn More About The Matthew Hussey Virtual Retreat → http://www.MHVirtualRetreat.com

If you struggle too much inside your head when you like someone, especially if it doesn't feel like it's quite going your way, this clip is going to help make sense of things. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com

There are 2 kinds of men that can be dangerous to fall for: (1) the guy who is a “project”, (2) the bad boy. It’s common that we date similar types throughout our romantic life. In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about why we look for these characters over and over again and how we can break free from chasing people who are wrong for us. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room? When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely different realities, and you’d do anything to get some clarity. You might even ask yourself: “Should I try to invest in this relationship even more to show how serious I am? Or would it be better to mirror their behavior and go cold?” In today’s episode, I walk you through what you must absolutely NOT DO in this hot and cold scenario . . . plus I give you two very specific text messages that can (finally!) get you out of this frustrating situation. --- Unlock 67 Text Messages That Put You in Control & Move Your Life Fo

Yeah, I said it. Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't share your feelings You live in hope that one day they'll light up your phone with a text that says how much they can't live without you. Or, you fantasize that  they'll leave their partner and run back into your arms. They'll say what a fool they've been and how much they need you by their side. It's romantic, right? Nope. And this kind of "perpetual hope" can be so dangerous for your relationships that I feel I have to say something to anyone out there still waiting for a crush to change their mind. Before you give your heart to someone who doesn't deserve it today, listen to this episode. It could save years of your life. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Join our Love.Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. Download my FREE guide >> Go to Mov

“Would you call yourself a people pleaser? Tell us how it shows up in your life…” And you answered! Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson sit down to look at your top responses to how you fall into the trap of people pleasing and the problems this causes in our lives. Do you say “yes” to things you don’t really want to do? Feel like you’re always giving emotional energy with nothing in return? Do you feel you have to avoid being your honest self in order to keep the peace and make everyone around you happy? If you’ve been here, you’re not alone. Listen to how you can find a balance between showing up for people you love without giving up your own happiness and sense of self. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey