Talk Thirty To Me

Join Turg and Randy Z as they wrap up their discussion around the Netflix Original Series Master of None - with ideas surrounding balance and other themes from the season finale of the second season of the show titled "Buona Notte" such as losing control in life, never looking back, and... How important is it for us, in our 30s, to maintain a sense of control? Often times we fail to acknowledge how important it is to not lose control of your life in your adulthood. Randy thinks it's almost impossible to have some sort of control over your life in general. It's so hard to control elements in the world that you cannot  control. However, Turg comes back with a different perspective thinking you have control over mostly everything - other than the weather - in your life. There are so many variables that you can control, we sometimes overlook those that we can control by taking them for granted . What is it that makes us so blind to the truth? It's so easy to succumb to the urges that tempt us; the urges that al

Join Turg and Randy Z as they interrupt their regularly scheduled programming to bring you a dose of reality and start this episode off in a somber fashion... So, we all know what's been going on lately. It's been a period of immense turmoil across the Nation - across the world, for that matter. But, here at home especially it's been dire. Things have changed, attitudes have changed, people have changed - or maybe people are just more willing to show their true colors. There is a huge dark cloud that looms over this nation and with it comes a responsibility of people like us people that actually give a fuck - but may not always show it - to speak up and have our voice heard because without that chaos will reign and there will be no end in sight. And then who knows what will happen. We have to protect her children, our family, loved ones.We have to keep them safe from what's out there from what's out there: the ignorance, the violence, the bloodshed and the hatred. You know, in California we don't really se

Join Turg and Randy Z as they get down to business talking about the perceptions that surround love and relationships, ideas featured in the Netflix Original Series Master of None - Season Two Episode Eight– Old People and... Have you ever thought you have been in love with someone for the wrong reasons? Wasting no time, Turg fires this question over to Randy, challenging him to recall all of his past relationships and reflect on if he has falsely fallen in love. Randy quickly answers. While he has always found the time to reflect on his past relationships, he knows there were some issues, but never love for the wrong reasons. He brings up something the guys have touched on before - finding someone that challenges you to be the best you. Randy mentions how he's never been in a relationship where he's felt the need to be his best self. It may be hard to believe, but sometimes relationships are formed around lifestyle choices and convenience rather than growth and mature love. Are you willing to work for your

Join Turg and Randy Z as they walk down memory lane in discussing the WAY back childhood memories and the friends made that may or may not have influenced their adult lives now and how they somehow paralleled to the very subtle, underlying themes in the Netflix Original Series Master of None - Season Two Episode Eight – Thanksgiving and... Why are experiences with friends in our youth so important throughout our adulthood? Turg shares memories from when he was a little Turg and explains his recent insights into his experiences as a child and why he thinks he was stuck in a cultural dilemma growing up. He tries to draw parallels or conclusions to what he remembers, but finds it difficult to understand why things were the way they were. He comes to the conclusion that when we are younger we don't really have the capacity to explain or even understand the way things are. But after we grow up, we have the ability to analyze a lot of what was experienced in our early lives. Do we think about these things objecti

Join Turg and Randy Z as they try and figure out why Randy's car is infested and talk about why making a conscious decision to walk away from something - either an opportunity or a person, place or thing - coupled with chance circumstances really resonated with them in the Netflix Original Series Master of None - Season Two Episode Seven– Door #3 and... When you're presented with several opportunities in life, how do you decide? Randy gives us a single strand of wisdom in saying the grass is always greener. Then he comes back with "The grass is greener where you water it." Turg doesn't really understand, so Randy elaborates a bit more to help his buddy out. There are situations that are surrounded by so much circumstance, they don't always have the opportunity to manifest themselves. In some cases, we can see this and decide to just walk away because it's not right for us. Turg and Randy parallel this to the proposition presented to Dev in this episode. Turg doesn't understand why Dev would walk away from s

Join Turg and Randy Z as they catch up from a brief recording hiatus (that you would have never known about had we not mentioned it here) and discuss the next episode in the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" - Season Two Episode Six – New York, I Love You and hone in on not only what this episode meant in the actual scheme of things – but on a deeper level – why this episode meant so much to the guys and… If you whack someone on the head with a metal water bottle, do they make a sound? Randy shares a story about his travels and one instance in particular that sounds quite intriguing. The guys talk more in depth about how travel really forces humanity to disconnect. Often times we overlook the circumstances that surround us in that point in time and walk through life with blinders on. But what this episode of Master of None really helped us appreciate was the way the story was told. Turg shares his experiences when feeling the lack of humanity at an airport made him introspect at how impersonal everyt

Join Turg and Randy Z as they revisit the next episode in the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" - Season Two Episode Five - The Dinner Party and discuss if relationships that form under curious circumstances are legitimately worth pursuing or if those feelings should be left undisturbed or... Do you disturb the balance of love and tip the scales in your favor if you really feel a connection to that person? Turg and Randy discuss their encounters with the balance of love. Looking at relationships from the perspective of a time commitment, is it right to let everything you've invested - time, emotion, life experiences - go to waste for something new? If you're in a committed relationship and encounter a new love, do you pursue it? When others rely on the other person - in a friendship - to be true to their emotions without having it interfere with the outcome of a current relationship, it doesn't always go as planned. Whether or not this has happened to us on our journey through life, it's often difficul

Join Turg and Randy Z as they discuss more dating culture from a new perspective, fueled by the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" Season Two Episode Four titled First Date relationship in the world of love and... Social media then versus now – what are your desires? Turg asks Randy how he uses social media now as opposed to back in the day when it first came out. What are we doing differently now that the social media climate has completely changed? Randy gives some insight into how he used social media to try to form connections and turn something hopeful into something real. Unfortunately, it took a while for it to really work out. Turg makes the statement – somethings some things can be presumed or even misunderstood when conducting electronic interactions. Randy and Turg share experiences where sometimes texts or messages were misinterpreted and ended up leading to in-person meetups that because huge let downs. Is online dating a bait-and-switch type enterprise? Are online dating relationships goi

Join Turg and Randy Z as they discuss the core topics portrayed in one of the more controversial episodes featured in the new season of the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" Season Two Episode Three about Religion and... Turg shares a moment in his life where reflection and religion meet and allow him to dive deep into his inner-most thoughts and emotions. When we actively disrupt life around us, do we acknowledge how it affects those sharing in those moments; when we judge others, do we know we are doing it? Turg asks the question, “Why do we judge others?”. The guys discuss how judging is more societal and gets into the deeper issues we might have within our inner struggle rather than serve as a reflection of our character. Randy discusses how judging might not be a negative in some regards and in a low minority of instances can serve different purposes. Your thirties serve to be the core foundational years of who you will be for the remainder of your life. Turg and Randy discuss how the thirties ar

Join Turg and Randy Z as they rehash loves lost and discover more about their past as they dive into another relationship filled discussion that touches on themes touched on in the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" Season Two Episode Two and kick it off with... How long was your longest relationship? Randy thinks back to his longest lasting relationship and reflects upon why it lasted as long as it did. Turg thinks relationships that consume over a decade and go no where are more a waste of time than a benefit. Plus, they probably destroy a lot of your confidence more than help build experience. Randy wants to travel to Italy and ride Vespas in white linen suits for his dream bachelor party. Why? Because Master of None is pure inspiration and provides him with a soundtrack to his life. Old memories always make for great lessons, if you're not bitter Turg asks Randy to dust off old memories of his past when he attended a wedding of one of his closer ex-girlfriends. Randy doesn't think it's always a bad

Join Turg and Randy Z as they explore another topic featured in the Netflix Original Series "Master of None" as they go back to Season One Episode Two and talk about the one thing that most 30-somethings can't seem to wrap their heads around - parenting - and... Why is the idea of kids so scary? Randy talks about his trip to San Diego and why it was so significant for him. This sets the stage for what comes about as a random conversation into parenting and Turg and Randy get to talking about kids. That’s where Randy’s true, deep-rooted fears surface; Randy doesn’t think he can face the fact of whether he can hack it as a parent. In Master of None Season 1 Episode 2 there is a strong underlying theme of trying to figure out the next step to take in one’s 30s. The biggest dilemma is always around starting a family and having kids. Does this need to be a thing? Turg relates to this episode as he talks through the early years (still on-going) of parenting and how he struggled to come to terms with his new role i

Join Turg and Randy Z are visited again by their guest Obioma Okonko -  entrepreneur and co-founder of the Teachers Lounge 90210 in Los Angeles - as they discuss career changes in your thirties and they discover how starting over for Millennials is a lot more common than they thought as well as… We finally learn about our guest Obi and what makes him so unique. Obi shares his journey of growth throughout his career and helps us learn more about his endeavors from teaching to IT to teaching professionals how to use new systems. How do you take advice? Did you get advice growing up that helped you change the course of your future growth? Obi talks about how he set up a business focused on helping college students navigate their finances through their journey to graduation. Turg, Randy and Obi discuss how advice is taken when we’re younger and how you never learn by hearing – you learn by doing. Randy thinks it all depends on the strength of that advice that helps send the message across. How do you define su

Join Turg and Randy Z and their guest Obioma Okonko -  entrepreneur and co-founder of the Teachers Lounge 90210 in Los Angeles - as they address the most hot button topic in the dating world for those romantics and realists alike - Ghosting - as well as... Have you ever been ghosted? Did you even know you were ghosted? Ghosting is the art of backing out of a relationship without telling the other person you're intentions. So the guys argue that Millennial generation are the culprits of ghost-style communication when it comes to relationships. Turg argues this is the absolute most fucked up someone can be toward another person. Closure is important for humans and emotional stability. How do you improve without closure? Turg thinks there are two scenarios behind ghosting, but Randy says there are more! Relationship ghosting – intimate, exclusive and emotionally invested Exclusive relationship ghosting – short-term dating out of convenience or comfort Casual dating ghosting – sex, Netflix and chill Introduc

Join Turg and Randy Z and their guest Obioma Okonko -  entrepreneur and co-founder of the Teachers Lounge 90210 in Los Angeles - as they circle back to relationships and dating in your 30s, a painfully insightful way to either make or break your confidence as you enter the adult world also... Serial monogamy -  is this even a thing? We're sure you've already read  How to Date Multiple People the Smart Way, by Kristen Lem posted on the blog a few weeks back. Turg, Randy and Obi get to contrasting the overwhelming themes of an adult relationship at thirty and whether or not dating monogamy now is even worth it anymore.  Dating casually in your 20s versus your 30s is a lot more different because of the loneliness factor. Obi and Randy discuss how loneliness can lead into a feeling of confusion for the serial daters out there. The group redefines what the  expectations or love become more real at 30. Are you more emotionally fragile at 30? Obi tells us how he loves 'hard'. Why is marriage always the goal for mo

Join Turg and Randy Z as they debate and discuss the cultural impact of a redefining of culture in every form and how Millennials have been directly responsible for the changes we observe in our culture today as well as... How have millennials redefined the culture for their generation? Why Randy tries to be a part of Turg’s culture. Turg and Randy debate redefining versus adjusting culture and the differences that separate the two schools of thought. The rate of the consumption of information has transformed the rate at which a culture shifts or changes. The guys discuss how Millennials are the reason why Trump (Forty-Five) was elected president. Influencers are now leading major decisions that affect our culture as Americans. The Trump Effect has forever influenced the future of politics. Turg and Randy discuss why government has been changing the way people view culture because of the heavy influence they carry in reshaping culture – a new perspective that was not always the focus of government. Randy ask

Join Turg and Randy Z as they highlight their journey while focusing on the career choices they’ve made and… Randy tricks Turg into starting the episode and thus the world will never know the best intro to ever hit the Talk Thirty to Me archives. Turg buys Hamilton tickets and spends too much. Randy hires a “hood” contractor and explains why he’s temporarily given up on the housing market and his dream of owning a home. Randy explains his room remodel and why he needed a “hood” contractor. Turg reflects on why the “hood” contractor is such a significant part of our society and how the events of someone’s life resonate into their future and into the lives of others. You might not always get to choose where you land; you might just be a victim of circumstance. Turg explains how his hardships translated into a life altering moment. Failure is often the worst feeling, but when you can take a negative and spin it into a positive, that’s when the changes you make stick. Turg talks about how he realized he wanted

Join Turg and Randy Z as they continue the discussion from last week's episode surrounding the essence of finding one’s purpose in life as, this week, they take on Turg’s story, from origin to status as well as… Turg and his family do Disneyland. Was it a good trip? Was it another version of the Summer Las Vegas trip from 2016? So Turg wants to be famous. Randy doesn’t see Turg as a limelight kind of guy and questions his motivation. Randy says engineering is straightforward – he clearly doesn’t know engineers. Turg talks college changes and personality developments and his hardcore gaming addiction that nearly got him kicked out of UC Riverside. Mentoring is a way to evoke your worst so you can bring out someone else’s best. Turg explains how his hardships translated into a life altering moment. Failure is often the worst feeling, but when you can take a negative and spin it into a positive, that’s when the changes you make stick. Turg talks about how he realized he wanted to become a leader – not famous,

Join Turg and Randy Z as they talk start the show in a tardy fashion due to Randy's misadventures in LAX and his insatiable appetite - along with a conversation focused on identifying with one's purpose -that will lead you deeper into the life of the magnificent Randy Z and... How Turg and Randy plan on pushing new "street worthy" curriculum at the USC Medical School. Turg introduces the importance of the month of May. Why Randy wanted to be a trash man when he grew up. How Turg planned on becoming famous when he grew up. Randy discusses how different famous was then versus now. Mandy Moore makes an appearance on the show, in name alone. Turg tries to put fame in the modern day perspective and how these perceptions change us as we grow into or older selves. Why Randy shifted his focus from trash man to singer to doctor purely because of the impact of the movie La Bamba on his life. How Randy's best friend Cliff changed his life trajectory forever. Balalalala la Bamba Randy discusses his medical ailments and

Join Turg and Randy Z as they power through another listener question that addresses the expectations and characteristics of being in your thirties and… Why is being comfortable in your own skin so difficult? Why would you ever let your partner dictate what you do? Should you love someone for where they are at and who they are, rather than what they have the potential to become? Why would someone you “love” make you forget your old self? So many questions to ask. So little answers. Randy challenges Turg’s alleged reneging of a particular comment that needs some research. The guys revisit Randy’s baby talking ex-girlfriends and how, for some including Randy, this is an intolerable characteristic. In relationships, you need to know your expectations at thirty. Randy discusses how one needs to know their audience when choosing a relationship. Turg talks about how there is a certain societal expectation that aligns people to their age – their thirties, for example. This pressure can overwhelm and cause breakdown

Join Turg and Randy as they wrap up the Fuck Millennials discussion with the pinnacle of topics: shallowness and… why the guys use American Gladiators to kick off the show, Randy drops a nugget of truth and wisdom in saying whoever can sustain the longest wins the rat race of life, discover the guys favorite American Gladiator events. The guys continue discussing how social media is contributing greatly to the increase of shallow behavior among the general population, how the Millennial push for more media and more information is killing confidence. You’re collateral damage in someone's business model When being shallow consumes the consumer, where do we draw the line? Turg argues that vanity and self-interest is driving and thinks Millennials are the drivers of these influencing effects. Are we influenced by the pressures around us to conform to the standards we see? How has reality TV helped to amplify the shallowness in our generation to the point where it has evolved out of control? The guys discuss ho