Life On The Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

So many people don’t know what they want or need sexually. Discovering those wants and needs can be a difficult process without some sexual sherpa to guide them. Then they need to be able to turn those wants into requests, so they can get all the hedonistic delight they deserve as members of the human race. Cooper Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, & Miko Technogeisha, hosts of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, bring you a live interactive discussion about figuring out what you want, and how to ask for it. We cover self-exploration, defining and exploring boundaries, communicating desire and being attentive, as well as open the floor up to audience questions and stories.

Hazy insanity, that is all. "It's like Goldschlager, you want to see the chunks." "When I'm rubbing lube on your cock, I just want to, feel the chunks." let me google that for you: pig penis "Is Ginger now the other white meat?" - J.V. Tom Ridge's Color Coding System for Swingset Podcasts "I've got a code brown." Cooper's Leetspeak needs some help, thought "FTW" meant "fuck the world" #oldmancooper "Obviously we are all down with OPP." "Other people's pork?" (Ginger wtf) "I asked Gillian Anderson out... on twitter." - Ginger "We did white privilege roleplay." - Miko   You can find this and other bedcasts at lifeontheswingset.com/whatthefuck Dylan as Tom Cruise on Oprah's Couch lifeontheswingset.com/14993/ss-111-in-bed-with-the-swingset-ii-recorded-live-at-catalystcon-east/ Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swi

Humans have been having sex since the beginning of time. And from cave drawings to the Kama Sutra to The Joy of Sex, we have been inventing ways to communicate about the sex we are having. Then Al Gore invented the Internet and everything changed. Tonight we are excited to finally welcome esteemed sexologist, Dr Richard Wagner, also known as Dr. Dick, onto the Swingset to reflect on how technology and access to sexual information has shaped our ability to embody our most authentic sexual selves.

Girl on girl...the mythology and visual ecstasy live large from Spring Break to Bourbon Street. Girl on girl sex is worthy of being epic. And certainly deserves more respect than main stream culture affords. Girl sex can perhaps be a little less obvious, though no less delicious. We are excited to welcome Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 to episode 201 of Life on the Swingset. Scott Adams had something to say about monogamy this week.   [powerpress] Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

In two hundred episodes of Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we've seen ethical non-monogamy go from something whispered about into something that's getting cover articles in major publications. The entire idea of alternate relationships, sexual arrangements, and partnering is having a moment. Tonight, we're thrilled to have, as our guest, Dan Savage who, whether he likes it or not, is a sort of a Podfather to our little podcast, as the vicarious thrills we got from listening to people with very sexy lives helped shape at least my interest in exploring lifestyles.    Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join u

All of us living life on the Swingset are well-versed in the passion, communication, and negotiation being consensually non-monogamous requires. Yet it's rare to see our kinds of relationships portrayed in mainstream films. One such film about to be released is Marriage 2.0 written and produced by Magnus Sullivan. In Magnus's movie, we are (quote) "invited to celebrate a modern redefinition of the committed relationship...where unfettered physical and emotional intimacy can fuel our passion while strengthening the bond with those we love." Tonight we have Magnus Sullivan join us on the Swingset to talk relationships and the role movies can play in reinventing relationships. You can find Marriage 2.0’s Twitter account here! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com?

We've talked at length about the sad fact that many young people in america get the entirety of their sex ed from watching porn. When porn comes that's actually designed to educate, however, it can be revelatory. We're rejoined by old friend (and new Swingset.FM contributor) Sophie Delancey from The Art of Blowjob and the brand new Art of Cunnilingus to talk about art, educational porn, and oral sex! Rachel Kramer Bussel wrote an article Salon.com published recently on cunnilingus.   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Those of us who write about sex and speak about sex and sing about sex have stepped into a unique realm in our society. Where sex was always a hush hush don't talk about it subject, we've decided to podcast, and write, and write songs, and express our sexuality into the world for many different reasons. Rachel Lark, who wrote those awesome naughty Christmas songs a few episodes ago, has joined us to talk about sexual expression, play a few songs, and have a good time.     Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Cooper, Dylan, and Miko return to Milwaukee, Wisconsin's wonderful Tool Shed to reprise Swingset's discussion on play parties. They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

In our Swinging for Dummies Series thus far, we've taken you through deciding you're open, talking to your partner, setting up your profile, and going on a first date. We think you're ready for the meat of the course now: Threesomes! We discuss the ever-present acronyms fmf, mfm, mmf, different configurations and play styles, thinking about the new person as a sex toy, an other, or as an honored guest, playing as the single and of course... negotiating threesomes, communication, when threesomes go bad and when threesomes go great!     Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.  

The Swingset welcomes back Crista Anne to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public #OrgasmQuest Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and we share our stories with her.   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Our mailbag, full of pluck and fancy, keeps coming back with more questions for us to ponder and maybe even eventualy answer! Today we discuss swinging as parents of very young children, broken rules and people set off-limits, multiple male orgasms and never fail erections, "Poly Doesn't Work", what to do when finding out the local neighborhood teenager knows, and finding lust in Minnesota. We also take a mid-episode break and cut to the Savage Lovecast hosted by Dan Savage where Cooper chimes in for a question about swinging. You can find the full episode (Cooper is on the Full Magnum episode) at: http://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/430#.VL-peyvF98E   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post o

It's a new year and there are new questions in the mailbag, even a few voicemails! Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we gang bang the mailbag as this series turns 18. We discuss some newbie swinger questions in a lightning round style segment, post sti-transmission risk-aware sex and stigma, imbalances in attraction in coupling, and dirty talk!   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, recorded on the day of launch. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Consent shouldn't be something we have to teach, It's the simplest thing in the world, ask before you touch. But beyond that, consent is involved in so many aspects of our non-monogamous lives, that learning how to give and receive enthusiastic consent is one of the most important things we learn early on as we open up. So that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast.   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about Desire, going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome Tantus Echo Handle, writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up.

In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by the incomparable Rachel Lark off her new album Hung For The Holidays, as well as an audio excerpt from Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset coming to Kindle on January 6th.

As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men...men who treat women as equals...men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will hear from four of those men about how they navigate their relationships, address the ethical questions they face, and have as much fun as possible in the process. They'll discuss consent navigation, their progression from past to present, slut shaming, relating to women on a day to day basis, communicating the lifestyle to people who don't understand, encountering possessiveness among other men and their partners and discussing the mythology that men always want sex. everywhere. all the time.   Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Join us November 7th through the 15th for The Swingset Takes Desir

When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary "Inside Her Sex" exploring female sexuality and shame. * Editor's note: We had minor technical difficulties near the end of the episode. We lost Elle near the end so while we said goodbye to her... we promise she said goodbye back. ...and flirted back with Dylan. he swears. by the moon. and the stars. and the sun.   Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments?

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time!   Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.