Being Honest With My Ex

“I definitely did something wrong. I betrayed the trust of the person that I love, and that’s a fucked up thing to do. I just didn’t do it as badly as you did.” This week we sail our polyamory ship into the treacherous Cheating Sea. Neither of us come out unscathed. Things discussed this episode: Turns out breasts are a secondary sexual characteristic Episode of This Feels Terrible, hosted by Erin McGathy, where she talks about her relationship with her first boyfriend, and the verrry long conversations they had when she didn’t want to leave and go home Turns out it’s called Correspondence Bias or the Fundamental Attribution Error. Note, Jacqui (a patreon backer) linked me to this fascinating article about the difference in Correspondence Bias between East and West cultures. Give it a read! Alain De Botton - contemporary philosopher. Check out The School Of Life YouTube channel, particularly the videos on relationships. Old Man’s War by John Scalzi Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Caci

“I just lay down on the gravel and sobbed into the dirt” - SJ This week we dive into way more dirty laundry than we realised as we unpack the gigantic mess we made of polyamory. Things discussed this episode: Polyvic - the Victorian Polyamory Community (they have monthly socials and discussion groups) The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Opening Up by Tristan Taormino The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Kinsey scale of sexual orientation To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page, to support this show pledge on Honor Eastly’s Patreon. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

This week: Peter was banned from the US because he’s too honest, and we talk polyamory! Polyamory flag aka the ugliest / most non-sensical flag in the history of the human race (see pic below) How romanticism ruined love from The School of Life - this one is SO GOOD! What Nice Men Don’t Say To Women - one of the only School of Life vids that I’ve not really liked The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Opening Up by Tristan Taormino The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola (I did get the last name right!) Your Relationship Toolbelt - Melbourne-based workshops and individual sessions on open / polyamorous relationships Freaking FANTASTIC article about Trump and the historical relationship between classism and sexism To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks

SJ talks her troubles with the mental health system and Peter is reasonably unhelpful. Invisibilia episode The Problem With The Solution - holy hell it’s so good. Just don’t listen to this and listen to that instead Article about people's breakthrough moments (turns out I have read this before!) Neville Medhora - problem solving checklist (ugly graphics but gooood info) Episode 4 - Getting Therapy With My Ex Prevention And Recovery Centre (PARC) - here’s the list of them through Mind Soteria - I totally said the wrong thing. Definitely check this stuff out! To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

This week: quitting your job and living creatively. How do you go about it? Things discussed this episode: Marie Kondo - organisation consultant and creator of the KonMari method of decluttering. In finding this link I also found her interesting folding method Comic book writer and artist Jessica Abel. The product spreadsheet I mentioned is at the end of this article (which is great btw) Kickstarter Lessons The Market Revolution by John Green on Crash Course US History Shitty Robot Nation The Wife Drought by Annabel Crabb Lean In by Sheryl Standberg Millennial the podcast Startup by Gimlet Media (the first season is really really good!) CGP Grey Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Austin Kleon To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Hones

“I love that we can have these conversation but I also hate having them” This week: part 2 of unpacking The Big Fight. Things discussed this episode: The story of a guy who bought a motel in order to watch his guests have sex. Super interesting read, but not for the faint of heart. The video we were sent by Isabel about hospital, illness and incidentally, being grateful. To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

“I think that’s the biggest fight we’ve had since we broke up” This week they try to unpack that argument. Things discussed this episode: Stanford prison experiment, which was covered in Jon Ronson’s The Psychopath Test. Turns out there’s also a movie that was released in 2015 about it, here’s the trailer. To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

Peter falls in love, and it’s way more complicated than he imagined. Things discussed this episode: Turns out disingenuous is definitely a word Here’s the episode where Peter talks about exclusively dating people who will like SJ Australian comedian Corey White Scott Adams - creator of Dilbert, and one of the most controversial blogs on the interwebs Paul Graham - the top idea in your mind Amy Webb - data analyst and author of Data: A Love Story. Check out her TED Talk where she talks about using data to find love Peter’s most successful erotica story Limits The timelapse of Peter editing this episode To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your

SJ on the shame of losing your sexiness and Peter on the realisation that he’s never going to be Steve Jobs. The Five Love Languages SJ in the penguin store Episode about living on the streets Wait But Why post about Elon Musk The Sex Myth - book about the pains of thinking we’re not having enough sex Slingshot - doco about Dean Kamen, the guy behind The Segway Turns out that the guy who bought Segway Inc did actually fall off a cliff while riding a Segway Agatha Christie’s Curtain To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

This week: realising the government governs your life, entertaining flies, and what the hell is a millenial anyway? The (really good!) article about redefining Millennials that Peter read Wait But Why article about accelerated technology Democratic Media Please - a website run by Kyle, who covers over public advertising. There’s an interesting explanatory video on the front page. Steve Roggenbuck - check out this video (which is my favourite and always makes me love the world), and if you’re a creative who sometimes struggles to go on, check out this one, oh god it gets me in the feels every time. Check out Melody Sheep - We Are All Connected is one of my favourites The Depths: The Evolutionary Beginnings of the Depression Epidemic To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks f

“At the end of our relationship, when you cried, I just couldn’t care. I had no fucks left to give.” This week: a sombre episode about that sad moment when you run out of fucks to give the person you love. Things discussed this episode: Reasons To Stay Alive, a book by Matt Haig Wait But Why article - Life Is A Picture, But You Live In A Pixel To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record your unique take on the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: contact@beinghonestwithmyex.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

This week: an episode that almost got deleted. Listen in to hear an awkward conversation about whether SJ is a shit friend. - Things discussed this episode: Peter’s Kickstarter (turns out SJ bought three copies of Peter’s game) Reasons To Stay Alive by Matt Haig To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: beinghonestwithmyex@gmail.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

“Why do I have to delete the naked photos I have of you?” Peter asked. “WTF?!” SJ replied. Also in this episode, SJ reads Peter’s first (and only) love letter. It is a surprisingly painful experience. This is the part where we put in any links to anything we talked about, but this is the first time we've exclusively talked about ourselves! To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: beinghonestwithmyex@gmail.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

SJ has been collecting her tears for over a year. Peter thinks this the weirdest thing she’s ever done. The article that SJ read that made her want to fly to Amsterdam to have a beer with the writer A bit more info on the project where SJ tried to fall in love with people Some writing on the collecting tears project by SJ The notorious Reddit cum box story (you may not want to know what it) Article about emotional labour that Peter mentioned The final article on Daily Life about what SJ has learned from doing the podcast To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: beinghonestwithmyex@gmail.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"

If this episode were a high-school essay topic it would be: Peter spent a month living on the streets of Melbourne, and it made him both broken and invincible. Discuss. Dr. Professor Neal Portenza. Look, he doesn’t really have that much stuff online, but here’s is his slightly unnerving website Here’s a pic of Josh Ladgrove’s fantastic suit Sentinels of The Multiverse - the card game Peter’s friend Christopher made The genius thing that SJ wrote about her sister Flex by Ferrett Steinmetz - turns out Peter was right and he has asked SJ to read it at least 3 times. Also turns out Peter has way too much time on his hands if he wants to dedicate that much energy to proving himself right. (PS. he has a small penis) Here’s one of Lena Dunham’s first short films (also turns out she didn’t invent Mumblecore) Peter’s early awful writings, still online Showerbus Peter’s old, awful, rapey stand-up MX article about Peter’s being homeless Paul Graham essay about truth and optimism and happin

How did a broken penis get SJ and Peter together? Find out this week! Episode about Peter’s broken penis Invisibilia episode about Maria Bamford and her mother (on that note, Maria Bamford’s comedy album, Ask Me About My New God!, is one of the best comedy I’ve listened to about mental illness. Get your earholes around that shit!) That TV show Peter liked - Brooklyn Nine-Nine Episode about Peter convincing professional actors to work for free on his projects and how the mental health system can make you sick Fantastic Meanjin essay about contemporary feminism by Eleanor Robertson Great doco about feminist movement in America in the 60s & 70s - She’s Beautiful When She’s Angry (also turns out SJ was right and the suffragettes were first wave feminism) Another great article about the gender pay gap To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we al

Peter has no filter. SJ has a bunch of filters. This time they discuss why.  Also included: SJ momentarily forgets that she ever went out with Peter. It's a lot of fun. Things discussed this episode: So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson. Also the guy I mentioned who was embroiled in a sex scandal is Max Mosley, you can read a bit about it on his wiki page SJ’s instagram post about of Mary O’Hagan that made her anxious The Wait But Why article on Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think If you’d like to go down the Scott Adams Is A Misogynist Douchecanoe, here’s a good link for that Trust Me I’m Lying by Ryan Holiday. Seriously, read this book! Otherwise check out this much shorter post by him (which includes the Sasha Grey ad) SJ’s anniversary post Peter’s Kickstarter!! To talk about the show head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: b

Heya guys! No podcast this week because Peter has exciting kickstarter stuff happening (visit scuttlegame.com for details) and tedious visa stuff happening. Also SJ way on board with a mental health week off! See y'all next week and please stop sending dick pics.

How did Peter manage to make several terrible TV shows on unbridled self-confidence alone? Was SJ really The Messy One? Does the mental health system make you sick? Find out this week with the fancy podcast for fancy people. Things discussed this episode: If you’re interested in perusing through Peter’s back catalogue of terrible TV shows you can check out Help!, NAP-Time, and here’s a fun behind the scenes video of The Map Shop Here’s that picture of SJ drunk at a house inspection(this link is shamelessly put here so you can go follow her on instagram) This is the Uni of California Student Cooperative housing place that I mentioned. It’s actually a really cool enterprise and you should check it out if you’re interested in that kind of thing. If you’re interested in Intentional Peer Support I suggest reading some things by Shery Mead, the creator of IPS. This article is about what it is and this article is about her personal experience. Turns out people with a “serious” mental illness hav

This episode the pair chat How Not To Propose, How Not To Get Un-Engaged, and SJ starts her hunt for a baby co-producer. Is it you? Things mentioned this episode: Chore wars - a online role play game where you can track household chores (and save relationships) Sex At Dawn - check out the TED talk for an abridged version Louis CK on how great divorce is To talk about how you want to co-produce a child with SJ, how best to propose to someone and whether Peter’s jokes are sub-par head to Honor Eastly’s Facebook page. If you want to record an outro to be used in an upcoming episode, record the following and carrier-pigeon it to us (we also use email: beinghonestwithmyex@gmail.com): "Thanks for listening to Being Honest With My Ex. If you've enjoyed the podcast, subscribe to us on iTunes, leave a review and tell your friends. Peter is my favourite son!"