Sex Ed The Musical

Imagine if your job is selling a product that is likely be rejected by 29 out of 30 buyers. Those are terrible odds. Well if you’re a TV producer trying to sell new shows, that’s a pretty typical fail rate. On this episode I speak with Dave Noll, a wildly successful TV producer who has created, pitched and sold some of the most iconic TV shows in history, including the Food Network mega-hit franchise, Chopped. But Dave’s path to the chopping block was loaded with booby traps, ridiculous detours, and, at one point, an angry butler and a dog. I’m telling you right now, it’s a miracle any TV shows get made. In this really fun conversation, Dave shares his rocky road to the top of the TV heap and how every rejection is actually a positive thing. Plus, to keep him nervous, we play a very fun game where I test his knowledge of TV shows about sex. His answers genuinely surprise me. If you want to follow along with Dave’s amazing adventures in the crazy world of creating and selling TV shows, you can follow him on Li

Earlier this week, an active player in the NFL made huge news. Carl Nassib, a defensive end for the Las Vegas Raiders came out as gay. As of this writing, he is the only openly gay active NFL player. Hopefully, he won’t be alone for long. “Carl Nassib’s powerful coming out is a historic reflection of the growing state of LGBTQ visibility and inclusion in the world of professional sports, which has been driven by a long list of brave LGBTQ athletes who came before him,” said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. “As an accomplished athlete who is now the first out gay active player in the NFL, Carl Nassib’s story will not only have a profound impact on the future of LGBTQ visibility and acceptance in sports, but sends a strong message to so many LGBTQ people, especially youth, that they too can one day grow up to be and succeed as a professional athlete like him.” Representation matters. But for every massive step forward, there remain hundreds of steps backwards. According the Human Rights Campaign, “20

There are lots of men. Straight men who are often married with children. Navy SEALs, football players, construction workers, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, factory workers — you name it. Just regular guys…who happen to prefer to have sex with other guys. Are they gay? Not if you ask them. Sexual identity is complex. On this show I speak with The Straight Guy Whisperer, a gay man whose sexual partners are almost exclusively straight, married men. We talk about why these men reach out to him, what they’re really looking for, and the surprising reasons a gay man can be the safest partner for a straight guy. The Straight Guy Whisperer might sound familiar to my regular listeners. He’s the expert in my SECOND MOST POPULAR EPISODE OF ALL TIME: Expert BlowJob Tips From A Gay Man. This guy knows his way around another man and the fact that he almost exclusively hooks up with straight guys should tell you that he understands their pleasure on a level many women do not. At least not yet, anyway. Are these straight guys r

Imagine one day you’re heartbroken, alone, and then to make matters worse, totally rejected by some random stranger in a seedy basement sex shop in New York. But within a few years, you are transformed into the most desirable woman in the room. This amazing metamorphosis really happened, and you’re about to find out how. On this week’s podcast, I speak to the Swinging Single Girl. We follow her story as she transforms from a brokenhearted reject into the most coveted person in a room full of sexy people. This is exactly the kind of evolution that can happen when you believe in yourself, embrace a life of adventure, and are completely open to the world's most interesting possibilities. You’ll learn what it’s like to completely reinvent yourself in the swinging lifestyle, important lessons about setting boundaries both sexual and personal, and understanding the difference between love and just random sex with your friends…things we can all benefit from mastering. Whether or not you’re interested in becoming par

Would you ever consider having an open marriage? In the Colonial Era, marriage was largely about property and procreation. Of course, back then the average life expectancy was about 36 years old. Which means, “till death do us part” wasn’t really that long of a commitment. The modern idea of marriage as being about romance, companionship and registering for new dishes at Macy’s, didn’t emerge until the last couple of centuries. As society’s goals and structure changed over time, its rules and expectations of marriage evolved along with them. Now, marriage seems to be at a brand new crossroads. A recent study revealed that remarkable transformations in relationships have occurred over the past several decades. 20% of adults have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy and the public’s interest in polyamory is clearly on the rise. Despite the allure of sex with numerous groovy partners with no retribution, creating a successful, ethically non-monogamous relationship has an extremely high degree of diffi

In the early scenes of the Hitchcock masterpiece, Psycho, we see star Janet Leigh in a white bra and slip. These images were even featured on movie posters, which was quite scandalous for 1960. However, later in the film, after Marion has unmarried sex, steals thousands of dollars and becomes a fugitive, Hitchcock presents her in a black bra to illustrate she’s now a good girl turned bad. Nothing can tell a woman’s story quite like her underwear. For ages and ages, women’s lingerie has been a subject of great fascination and fetishization. From vintage Sears catalogs to an entire pageant featuring stately models clad in lingerie and angel wings (???), some folks simply can’t get enough of ladies in their unmentionables. For many women, however, bras can also be a subject of great annoyance, shame, and abject disappointment. ESPECIALLY if you’re a “full figured girl” as movie bombshell Jane Russell used to say in Playtex bra commercials from the 70s and 80s. Finding foundations that fit can be challenging for

This week we’re erasing the stigma of singledom to help solo people literally embrace their badass selves with Your Friendly Neighborhood Sexologist Dr. Megan Stubbs. Face it, quite a few of us spent the past year completely isolated and alone. No longer able to connect with others in person, millions have been dealing with touch deprivation. Even some partnered people are touch deprived. In her new book, Playing Without A Partner: A Singles’ Guide To Sex, Dating and Happiness, Dr. Stubbs offers all sorts of creative solutions for you to become your own best friend in the bedroom. Episode Topics Include How the pandemic wreaked havoc on millions of sex lives. An encouraging increase in diversity in the world of Sexologists. The sudden explosion of unqualified people branding themselves as Sex and Intimacy Coaches. The surprising change in rules around New York’s many gloryholes. The best ways to create a sense of touch and pleasure, even when you’re a party of one. Megan Stubbs is a sexologist, relationship

There’s a famous saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Yet, despite all of the red flags, when it comes to dating, some people keep making the same mistakes over and over again and keep wondering why they just can’t find the right person. On this episode, I interview Mindset Mastery coach, Stephanie Kwong. Known as a secret weapon who helps people get to their next level, Stephanie uses her unique training to help her clients break through old patterns and rewire their subconscious in order to make extraordinary shifts in their lives. But what really attracted me to this story was the fact that Stephanie herself had a pattern of choosing one bad partner after another with the same disastrous results. The teacher became the student and using her own modalities she rewired her own subconscious and, finally trusting herself, found the love of her life a thousand miles away. She’s practically living in a Hallmark movie — only without the

“Our next comic is a comedienne, so please be nice…” You may have heard on the previous podcast that last week was a particularly crappy week for me. I needed some serious cheering up. So, I called in the big guns and reached out to one of the funniest people I know. As one of the country's top comedians, Cathy Ladman is a fearless, anxiety-venting performer who draws huge laughs from such taboo subjects as her battle with anorexia to the endless indignities of menopause. At the top of the comedy world for nearly 40 years, Cathy appeared nine times on The Tonight Show. Johnny Carson was such a fan that she was the only female comic to appear on the last two of Johnny’s Tonight Show Anniversary specials. She’s made numerous appearances on The Late Late Show, had her own HBO One Night Stand comedy special, and was awarded the American Comedy Award for Best Female Stand Up Comic. A successful comedy writer for television, she’s also a versatile actor who has appeared in such acclaimed shows as Mad Men, Curb Your

There’s not a lot I can say about this episode except that it’s my most intensely personal one yet. Which, if you've been listening to this show over the past two years, is really saying something. Plus, it features Charo, my eyebrows, and the opportunity to send thousands of dollars to paypal.me/wendymiller1661 Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!

Astrology has been around in various forms for thousands of years. Some people call it a pseudoscience, while many highly successful people base all of their major decisions on the stars. Where you stand on the subject is your business. I’m not an expert in astrology by a long shot, but I can’t help but notice that there are very similar traits shared by friends who were born under the same signs. Eerily similar sometimes. Plus, I’ve had plenty of vivid psychic premonitions come true and multiple otherworldly experiences so I’m much more open-minded about the metaphysical world than others. For my last birthday I decided to treat myself to a astrological reading. I asked around for some referrals and my friend Damona Hoffman, host of the podcast Dates & Mates recommended an astrologer she’s had on her show, Danny Santos. Then I discovered that Danny specializes in sex/love/relationship/intimacy astrological compatibility! SO I HAD TO HAVE HIM ON THIS PODCAST!!! From the age of 11 years old, Danny Santos

Have you ever been in a situation so ridiculous that you started looking around for hidden cameras? Well my guest on this episode, actor Sarah Randall Hunt, had so many over the top horrible first dates (admittedly several of which were her fault), that she turned them into a very sweet rom-com web series called Stupid Cupid. As the co-creator, star and producer of the series, Sarah was forced to relive a lot of bad decision-making on camera. Part therapy and part cautionary tale, this is a show that anyone who’s ever been single can relate to quite well. The first season of Stupid Cupid is available on YouTube here. Also, you can follow Sarah and all of her hilarious adventures on Instagram @sarahrandallhunt. I met Sarah through WhoHaHa, a creative community and digital content studio that celebrates and elevates women in comedy. Co-founded by creative badass Elizabeth Banks, WhoHaha partners with innovative companies to develop opportunities for comedic female creators and bring ideas to life. Please suppor

One year ago, this week, the TV show I was writing sent everyone home because of COVID. We all figured it would be a week or two but that hiatus turned into a week or 52. Now, after a year of being locked at home, setting aside the non-stop stress of the past year, have you figured out how to enjoy private time with your partner in a house filled with other people? I’m guessing no. On today’s show, I speak with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a nationally recognized sex therapist, relationship expert, licensed psychotherapist and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” for women, men, LGBTQIA, and couples. She shares all sorts of great ways you can ask for and create space for private time, and best practices to establish boundaries with the kids in your house so you can enjoy adult play. Many parents think establishing boundaries with their kids will create problems. I assure you it’s NOT setting boundaries that creates much bigger problems. And you're always allowed to establish new boundaries whenever you wish

You’re in the throes of passion. Looking to add a whole new level to your pleasure, you want your favorite sex toy. Maybe there are kids in the house so you keep it stashed away behind those pants you’ll never fit into on the top shelf of your closet. Your partner goes hunting for it, they’re taking a long time, with every second you’re losing your mojo. They can’t find it. They’re yelling for you from the closet. Where is it?!?! You’re getting angry. GAHHHHH! Orrrrrr, you think you’re slick and you keep your favorite vibrator in your nightstand drawer. Annnnnnd, you’re probably not washing it after every use but who cares, it’s just you using it and it’s totally fine in there, right? Uh, no. That drawer is filled with used hair ties, old Starbucks cards, throat lozenges, a backstage pass from a Duran Duran concert and a thick layer of dust, germs, and crust. THIS IS NOT CUTE and you are asking for all sorts of trouble if you’re not storing your pleasure products correctly. But how??? On this episode, I inte

It’s a vajical moment in every girl’s life: the day she becomes a woman. It’s just like a Hallmark Movie — if Hallmark movies were about blood clots, crippling cramps and rage-filled late night searches for chocolate. Each of us experiences this transition to womanhood in our own special way, and it’s a day of your life you will never forget…no matter how hard you try. On this episode four very funny and brave women share their hilarious first period stories.   SUWON WEAVER First up, is the hilarious writer/comedian Suwon Weaver @suwonweaver whose mother, despite being an actual female mother person herself, completely unravels when her daughter gets her period.     L.J. NOEL The very funny L.J. Noel gets her first period in the most dramatic way possible, and unfortunately she’s rewarded with a large standing ovation.   THEA TOUCHTON Actress Thea Touchton @theatouchton joins the sisterhood of the stained underpants in the company of her grandmother who, caught somewhat off guard, outfits her with one of h

I found a funny quote the other day. It says… "Dating after 30 is easy. It’s like riding a bike. Only the bike is on fire. And the ground is on fire. Everything is on fire. Because you are in hell." Okay. Now imagine dating after 50! On this week’s show, I interview actress, voice artist and my good pal, Mari Weiss. Mari was on the podcast nearly two years ago in an episode called How Being Tied Up Released Me. She shared an amazing story about dating a guy who slowly-yet-firmly led her into the world of BDSM. Her first surprise was how willing she was to follow him. Her second surprise was how much she enjoyed it. Before and since then, Mari, like many other single folks, has gone on more than her share of dates. But unlike the days when you’re 25 and sprucing yourself up to no end in order to meet some grown man in a baseball cap, when you’re 50+ you have a lot more perspective on life. You’re also probably not so inclined to put up with anyone’s bullshit. We talk about what causes women, particularly, to c

Grindr. Launched in 2009, it’s been called “the world’s biggest, scariest, gay bar” by Vanity Fair. And they ought to know. A location-based social networking and dating app used in almost every corner of the planet, Grindr reportedly has over 20 million members with over 3 million men using the app everyday — especially closeted Republicans who like to unwind with rent boys after an exhausting day of legislating against gay rights. See ya soon, Lindsey! After you download Grindr, you enter what you’re looking for on your personal profile, what you can offer to other lucky people, and then you get all sorts of matches. Plus it tells you how close they are. Hot daddy with smelly feet 30 yards away! Hooking up with randos was never so easy! If you’re still not clear, here’s how it all works, courtesy of Conan O’Brien and Billy Eichner. On this episode, I speak to my favorite new musical genius Adam Shenk, who after receiving tons of ridiculous pick up lines on Grindr, decided to set the worst of the worst to mu

Sometimes, a lady just wants some company. As the poet laureate of our generation, Cardi B recently propounded, “I want you to park that big Mack truck, right in this little garage.” Who can argue with that? Unforch, quite a few garages are situated right in the middle of a global pandemic and locating an acceptable Mack truck and then making space for it in your garage can be a bit…challenging? On this episode, stand up comedian, writer and actress Danette Rodriguez shares a story about being a single girl looking for some D in NY, K? The struggle is definitely real. But there’s a big lesson in Danette's story about setting boundaries, being a good communicator, and figuring out who deserves a spot on your booty call list and who is a garbage person. Can someone be both? Neither? These are things a girl needs to navigate in these uncertain times. As I say in the worst Carrie Bradshaw impersonation ever, “Can you have your cock and eat it, too?” Well, we’re about to find out. Because, there is nothing wrong

We’ve all been there. You have a few too many drinks with your friends. You go back to some guy's apartment. On the way in, you face plant and smash your front teeth. Okay, maybe that particular story hasn't happened to you, but it's definitely happened to someone. On Disaster Dates 2, every single story takes a turn for the ‘What the fuck?!?’ Leading off is the hilarious Gia Mora. When her date says he’s taking her to an Earth Wind & Fire concert, Gia is beyond thrilled. Unfortunately, every thought is a dream, rushing by in a stream, bringing life to the kingdom of sanctimonious assholes. Also, you might not want to date a dude if his car is known for killing people. #JustSayin   Next up, the brilliant Lisa Laureta takes us along on a couple of dates that seem bad, but after further review, are actually horrific. Let’s just say, the neck tattoo should have been all the warning she needed.   Then, bringing us home with the shittiest story on this show (you’ll get that in a moment) is the fearlessly fu

The year 2020 has been a total nightmare. A Year of Lies and Loss. 365 Days of Suck. A Crap-A-Palooza. Or, as one friend put it, 2020 has been A Great Steaming Shit-Fuck. Yes, in a year that seemed to be written by Stephen King, we’ve faced a global pandemic and endless idiots violently denying said pandemic. Millions of acres of Australia and California erupted in flames. The leader of the free world suggested we drink bleach as a health treatment. We had a stock market crash, riots erupted, millions of quarantined people lost their jobs, their homes, and their health insurance. Entire industries collapsed. Rudy Giuliani’s sideburns leaked on national TV. The My Pillow guy was somehow elevated to dictating national policy. The people in charge of protecting us from COVID, caught COVID. Crazy conspiracy theories became normalized by the criminal in chief, and, as of this writing, over 265,000 Americans have lost their lives from a virus that some still claim is a liberal hoax and/or no big deal at all. What i