Sex Ed The Musical

We’ve all been there. A cozy downtown restaurant. You look amazing. The lights are low. As you peruse the martini menu, your date casually mentions that he identifies with serial killers. WAIT WHAT!?!?! Yup. Dating is no joke and sadly, it’s not getting any better out there. I even mention my worst date ever, featuring a total drunk (not me), a legendary Chicago blues singer (also not me), and someone getting punched in the face (hopefully not me). Good times. On this episode, you’re going to hear some hilarious, dangerous, illegal, backwoods, museum-quality disaster dating stories from three very funny women.   Yale educated actress Victoria Savage (@SavageVtoria) has a date at the Getty Museum that’s almost as deadly as the Last Days of Pompeii.   Actress, vocalist and writer Heidi-Marie Ferren (@heidi_marieferren) takes us along on a date that takes a dangerous turn down a deserted country back road, and that’s not even the scariest part.   And author, actor and executive producer Candy Washington (@Can

In the not too distant past, actresses on television or film sets were asked to appear nude or to be in graphic sex scenes that made them feel uncomfortable, and they could either agree, or get fired. Women weren’t the only performers who were coerced, just a horrifically vast majority. As Kristen Lopez writes for RogerEbert.com in a 2018 piece called A Matter of Legitimacy: Female Nudity On-Screen: “…Hollywood marketing and audience interest still encourages the consumption of female bodies, in spite of increased awareness of the male gaze and the continued statistics charting the lack of male nudity on-screen. Actresses today feel the need to “explain” their reasons behind deciding to be nude or not, damned if they do or if they don’t, all in an aid to justify the audiences’ comfort lusting after female flesh and perpetuating the continued double standards regarding male and female nudity in film.” For many marginalized performers, the systemic power imbalance made it impossible for them to advocate for the

Lite Brite, Ants In The Pants, Rock ‘Em Sock ‘Em Robots, Masterpiece, Operation, Mousetrap, Smash Up Derby, The Evil Knievel Stunt Cycle, Simon, and Gnip Gnop — these were the games of my childhood. Little did I know that all of those amazing toys originated from one company located in a highly secretive bunker just a few miles south of my suburban Chicago home. Marvin Glass, the founder of Marvin Glass & Associates, was one of the most prolific and brilliant toy inventors of the 20th century. His company’s product list is my childhood. One of the most beloved and collectible board games of all time, also created by Marvin Glass & Associates, was a game called Mystery Date. Here’s the commercial from 1965. One of the most sought-after games of the 1960s, if you were a little girl back then, this game was EV-ER-Y-THING. Marketed to girls 6-14 years old, the game was a runaway hit. The best part of every slumber party and girlie playdate, the Mystery Date commercial jingle became part of the vernacular.

Fear is a natural, powerful human emotion. It alerts us to the presence of danger, or the threat of harm whether real or imaginary. A little fear is fine, it prevents you from doing stupid things. However, when it prevents you from experiencing things that can enhance your life and make you a happier and more authentic person, you really need to examine it. And then kick its ass. After conquering one of my biggest fears, I was inspired to share this story with you. Because, what seems like a pretty innocuous night in my back yard is actually a stepping stone to enormous change, pride and possibility. Like everyone else, I’ve dealt with fear in my life. I’ve given away my power. I’ve worried about what people would think of me to the point where I was afraid to share my own story. I’ve been afraid that I might be judged, ostracized or mocked for doing what I’ve always wanted to do. But I did it anyway. And you know what? My entire world did not fall apart. In fact, it got better. Because it doesn’t matter what

"The biggest critics of my books are people who never read them." --Jackie Collins It brings in over a billion dollars in sales every year. It’s devoured by dedicated customers who can never get enough. It’s a global phenomenon with fans across every demographic. Yet, erotic literature gets very little respect. Henry Miller. Anaïs Nin. D.H. Lawrence. Vladimir Nabokov. John Updike. Erica Jong. All literary giants while also experts at writing about some really hot sex. Erotic fiction has highbrow roots but a very lowbrow reputation. However, when Fifty Shades of Grey sold over 125 million copies worldwide and self publishing gave anyone with a computer the opportunity to upload their work for sale on Amazon’s Kindle store, the entire game changed. Suddenly women who loved reading erotic fiction saw an opportunity. Readers became writers. For some, success came practically overnight. For others, the pressures of taking each story to another extreme became unsustainable. In this episode, I interview filmmaker an

I don’t know about the rest of you but it is non-stop sex having in my house. Oh totally! In between a home-schooled teen, the two of us working day and night, running errands for my elderly parents, trying not to watch the news, making sure all of the bills are getting paid, and wondering if there will ever be an end to this pandemic, our sex drives are OFF THE CHART! And when I say, “off the chart” I mean, nonexistent. Yeah, if your sex drive has vaporized, too, you are not alone. We are living in a time of maximum boner killers. But, all is not lost and help is here! I reached out to my favorite Canadian, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly earlier this year to see if she has some tools that couples can use in order to reignite the spark and be more mindful of each other’s needs — ya know while navigating all of these endless boner killers. An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business pro

Did you know you can lose weight by having sex? What?!? That’s amazing! Two things I love, boning and toning. That has to be true, right? Welllllll…according to the Dr. Felix Sex Workout Calculator, a woman who weighs 140 pounds and has sex in the missionary position FOR AN HOUR, will burn 84.6 calories. To lose one pound of weight, you need to burn 3500 calories. So if a woman wanted to lose one pound of weight, she would need to have continuous missionary position sex for 41 hours. 41 straight hours of boning to lose one pound. I don’t know about you but my vulva would probably break after 41 minutes, forget 41 hours. But we’ve all been told SEX IS A GREAT WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT. Unfortunately that is not exactly true. For years magazines and “news” headlines have fed us non-stop misinformation about sex, and reproduction. And we bought it all. Shoe size dictates dick size. Oysters make you horny. Women don’t like sex. Well, actually heterosexual women are the least sexually satisfied group, but we’re going to

There’s a lot of misunderstanding about asexuality. Some believe if they’ve suddenly lost interest in sex, they’re asexual. Some believe that people “become” asexual as a result of sexual trauma. Some believe that asexual people just haven’t met the right person yet. Nope. Nope, and Nope. There’s a lot about asexuality that many people simply don’t understand. Looking for answers, I went to one of my very favorite sources of information in the world of sex and sexuality, renown psychologist and sex therapist, Dr. Shannon Chavez. Dr. Chavez explains that asexuality is not a condition, it’s a sexual orientation, similar to homosexuality, bisexuality or heterosexuality. It’s not something that requires medical attention. It’s not celibacy. It’s not a sudden drop in libido, and it’s not a choice. In this conversation, I realize there’s a lot we all have to learn about asexuality. Asexual people can have happy relationships. They can fall in love. They can have typical sexual responses. Are you wondering if you mi

A couple of years ago I was at a big national event for podcasters, journalists and writers in the world of sex. There were a lot of amazing speakers there but one woman was the talk of the entire show. She’s known as The Sexual Psychic and I had never met anyone like her before. She has this inexplicable way of seeing into everybody’s sexual future. After her speech, people were lined up for hours just to meet her. It was incredible. After two years of hand-written letters, because she refuses to speak on the phone or use email, I finally got her to agree to be on my podcast. She’s based outside of Santa Fe and claims that technology interferes with her gifts so she shuns all of it. She’s never done any podcasts or recorded interviews before, just a handful of live speaking engagements under her very specific terms. It takes up to three years just to get on the waiting list for a reading with her. So it’s truly amazing and an honor to have her on this show. I traveled to New Mexico to meet her and she had to

Is your Master Bedroom a Sexy Romantic Oasis? Or Fifty Shades of No Way? People dream about remodeling their kitchens, bathrooms and creating fantasy backyards. But, what about the one room in the house where you spend more time than anywhere else? The room that’s supposed to be your private sanctuary. The room where your most important intimate time is spent. You know, the room that’s probably overloaded with mismatched bedding, unfolded laundry, pictures of your family, stuffed animals, unfinished projects, stacks of books and a dresser covered in ATM receipts. YUCK! Here’s a sad but true fact: If your master bedroom has lost its mojo, there’s a good chance your relationship is next. But do not despair, because I am obsessed with two things - Interior Design and Better Sex. For anyone looking to next level the naughty, I have put together this relationship-saving list of TEN STEPS TO THE SEXIEST BEDROOM EVER! This isn’t Extreme Makeover: Perv Edition. This is a very simple and doable list of relatively easy

Are you in an “alternative” relationship? No, you are not, because there’s no such thing as an “alternative” relationship. Who’s to say what is alternative and what is mainstream? I’m guessing someone who’s in a so-called mainstream relationship. But to other folks, your mainstream relationship may actually look like an alternative relationship. Jesus, I’m writing like an Escher drawing. Let’s look at it this way. If you are a consenting adult and you are in a super happy relationship with another consenting adult or adults, then you are in the perfect relationship for you. And that’s all that matters. I hate arugula. Does that mean everyone else has to hate arugula or they’re deviants? Nope. You eat whatever greens you want, it’s none of my damn business if you want to eat filthy, disgusting and horrible arugula. And please don’t email me about my hatred of arugula. I didn’t say anything or judge you when you said you hated tasty, delicious cilantro. Speaking of tasty and delicious, on this show, I talk with

Welcome Back! This week I proudly present my most popular episode of all time, My Happy Ending Massage. As you’re about to hear, this night was actually part of an amazing, three-day smutstravaganza I went on in Las Vegas. Don’t judge. I was away from home for weeks. I was facing a big birthday. I was dehydrated. Whatever the reason may be, I did engage in some very questionable behavior and you’re about to hear all about 2/3 of that behavior. The final piece will be revealed in my memoir. It’s worth the wait. To briefly set the table, I’d been working in Las Vegas for several weeks, shooting season 5 of our show Swing, which was all about monogamous couples trying the swinging lifestyle. Just about every night was spent in the middle of the most sex-charged atmosphere you could ever imagine. Plus, we could never find good gluten free pizza. As a result, I was more than a little frustrated. So, here’s a trip back to the penultimate night of a smutty three day bender. A night that literally changed my life for

For the third of this month’s Listener Favorite episodes, I present Under Covers “Nadia” These Under Covers episodes came from a desire to share with women all sorts of amazing and true stories of women of all ages, economic, social and religious backgrounds. What I started to realize is that even though we’re all so different, in many ways we are the same. If you want to take a deep dive into the first ten Under Covers episodes, check out this piece all about all of the conversations on Medium.com. This episode clearly hit a chord with my listeners as it is the third most popular episode of all time. I was completely blown away by this woman’s confidence and how she became the total boss of her sex life while she was still a teenager. We can all learn a lot from her. If you’d like to be interviewed Under Covers, please email me today and we can set it up. Also, don’t forget, all 5-star reviews left this month will receive their very own CUSTOM JINGLE performed by me on the show!!! Come on! Leave me some love

For the second of this month’s Listener Favorite Episodes, here are EXPERT BLOWJOB TIPS FROM A GAY MAN As you’re about to hear, there is a very funny backstory to this episode and how it all came to fruition. Basically, it was a last minute Hail Mary that turned into a total blockbuster with my listeners. Which, of course, makes total sense. Now as we all know, Michele Bachmann once said, “No one knows his way around a penis like a gay man.” Or maybe she was talking about her husband? Either way, it’s totally TRUE! That’s why on this episode, I went to THE SOURCE! My very dear friend and “gay husband,” Mr. LaRue, to find out exactly what blowjob techniques will blow a guy’s mind. I hate to call out the Blowjob Education Industrial Complex, whose annual operating budget must 7,504,503% larger than the Cunnilingus Community College budget, but the hard fact is that men are in charge of fucking everything. Which is why womenpeople are inundated with scrillions of classes, magazine articles, listicles, podcasts,

For the first of this month’s Listener Favorite Episodes, we’re going to focus on the top sexual fantasy for couples - a THREESOME. So many couples fantasize about having a third join them in bed but… HOW DO YOU FIND THAT PERSON? HOW DO YOU BOTH AGREE TO THAT PERSON?? HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH POTENTIAL JEALOUSY ISSUES??? These are all common questions and there’s a lot to consider before you both decide to get naked in front of someone else. In one of our most popular episodes ever, I reveal, step-by-step, the safest and easiest way for you and your partner to have a threesome. The best part is, you get to have sex with anyone you want!!!! Don’t believe me? Just listen. EPISODE NOTES My long-suffering husband is played by…my actual long-suffering husband, Karl T. Wright. He’s dreamy! Christina Hendricks could have been played by Christina Hendricks. At least, that’s what I’m telling myself. Also, don’t forget, YOU CAN GET YOUR OWN CUSTOM JINGLE PERFORMED BY ME ON THE SHOW! Simply leave us a 5-star review on iTune

I’m not the most adventurous eater. In fact, you can say I’m downright picky. There are some foods I flat out refuse to try. Brussels sprouts, lima beans, potato salad — even though I’d never tasted them, I was certain I hated them. Then one day my husband made brussels sprouts and I tried them. And I liked them! Hey Mikey! Now, whenever I’m in the mood, I eat brussels sprouts. Believe it or not, your sexual orientation has a lot in common with brussels sprouts. All of your life you can be convinced that you are ONLY ONE WAY. I am gay and that’s it! I am straight and that’s it! I’m asexual and that’s it! But then someone comes along, lays some serious mack on you and the next thing you know you’re getting a hand job from a hot redhead in a dressing room of the Marshalls in Burbank. Of course, I’m speaking hypothetically. But, there’s a pretty good reason why you don’t have to be so defiantly locked in to your sexual orientation. Like any other trait or restrictive beliefs you might have, there’s always some r

You’re sitting down with your 10-year-old for a dinner of mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and grapes. All on separate plates, of course. On the table there’s a box of spilled apple juice, a few Snoopy stickers and several dried-out markers. Soccer gear is strewn on the floor alongside a few of this morning’s Cheerios and a naked Barbie missing half of her hair. It’s just another day. Until your kid turns to you and says, “Mom, I think I’m a lesbian.” How would you react in that moment? For many parents this is a moment they never saw coming, but it got there. Fast. What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? Were you completely surprised? Have you always known but never really accepted it? How do you hear this and let your child know that they’re safe and loved and what they’re feeling is perfectly okay? It’s a situation that millions of parents have faced. And thanks to more positive role models and American culture becoming less hostile towards LGTBQ people, the average age of children coming out has dropp

Boundaries. The word itself can be as intimidating as barbed wire. Scary to set. Scary to express. Scary to defend. But you know what’s scarier than setting or defending boundaries? Having no boundaries at all. There’s a good reason you might be afraid to establish boundaries. Perhaps you were socialized never to make waves, or told to be obedient at all times otherwise you might upset someone. Or you were told that you’re responsible for everybody else’s feelings, or selfish if you ever put yourself first. It’s entirely possible you were fed those lines of bullshit. Especially if you were a girl. Also, it can be very challenging to advocate for yourself, especially if you’re used to always putting others before you. Just like applying sunscreen, brushing your teeth, or washing your hands regularly, establishing boundaries should be a critical part of your daily self-care routine. You are well within your rights to ask for what you want and to reject things that are not serving you. Because, you are taking ca

We already know that due to the COVID pandemic, it’s not currently safe to attend a crowded restaurant. It’s not safe to attend a busy gym. It’s not safe to attend large religious gatherings. So…it’s almost certainly not safe to attend an orgy. What’s a sexually adventurous person to do? Attend one online? That’s right, thanks to the pandemic, some folks are now opting for video platforms such as Skype, Zoom and FaceTime for their orgies. UK-based, high-end sex party club Killing Kittens hosted a 100 person orgy online in March complete with burlesque performers, a cage, a live DJ, and 100 masked members. But, despite the fact that they are having a moment, Zoom, is not exactly thrilled with this burgeoning use for their beloved platform. They announced earlier this year that they were going to crack down (no pun intended) on “unacceptable use” and use machine learning to detect sex parties and nudity. For research. Totally. Meanwhile, they have much bigger problems than a bunch of folks e-banging online. Wit

When you think of swinging, what’s the first image that comes to your mind? Some key party in the 1970s? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in masks? A suburban couple revealing their lifestyle on The Oprah Show? I’m going to assume all of those images in your mind have one thing in common. Everybody is white. If you’ve been paying attention you know it’s already dangerous to be driving while Black. Outside a store while Black. Voting while Black. Riding a train while Black. Sitting in your car while Black. Wearing a hoodie while Black. Walking in your neighborhood with a friend while Black. Minding your own damn business inside your own damn apartment while Black. But when it comes being a swinger…do Black people really do that? Yes they do. And for some…it can be, well, interesting. On this episode, I talk to one half of a “rarity” in the swinging community: A Black couple. Pursuing the lifestyle of their choice, both he and his wife have experienced all sorts of interesting comments, rejections and flat out feti