How To Stop Wanting Him Back

Hopefully you know you're not alone when it comes to dreading dates you go on, BUT perhaps you don't know that this dread isn't serving you AND that you can do something about it!This episode was specifically inspired by two of Claire's clients who have been in a state of dread before dates. One client felt that she "knew" it just wasn't going to go well, and another touched on her discomfort with there being so much uncertainty when it comes to meeting a stranger off the apps!  Both are totally relatable and Claire shares how she was able to get them into a more calm and open space for future dates that she hope will also help YOU! Episode reference: 239 When Love Isn't In The Cards

It's natural to believe this thought when time and time again, a friend gets engaged or is on her third baby, or you've gone on 10 dates and they've all sucked!But it's a belief that can really make you feel super discouraged, sad and resistant about finding love, and have you losing sight of the life you're living RIGHT NOW.On today's episode, Claire walks you through how to navigate this belief-- Love not being in the cards for you-- so that you can keep going on your finding-love journey while genuinely enjoying the ride!

It's easy to swim in your head with thoughts like, "I can't believe it's over," or "He duped me" or "I'll never get over him," in the midst of your heartbreak.The same goes for when you're navigating finding love:  "All the good ones are gone." "I'm too old." "Love must not be in the cards for me."In today's episode, Claire talks about the importance of letting yourself grieve and experience the common struggles that go along with your love-life journey, but then touches on how there comes a time and a place when you must really focus on the story or several stories that are causing you suffering, and commit to debunking them. 

When you're newly dating after a lot of healing over previous painful relationships, it's difficult to separate the past from both the present and the future. It's easy to anticipate that the other shoe will drop because you believe "it always does" when it comes to your dating life. Claire expands on what you need to focus on instead, as you navigate putting your heart out there again, in this latest episode. Check it out!

The hardest part about heartbreak over a break-up with a romantic partner isn't the loss of the person.  It isn't even cutting contact.  Yes, those parts are SUPER hard, but there is something that Claire has decided is even HARDER than either of these components of your heartbreak...Tune in to find out AND understand why this aspect of your heartbreak is the MOST important to consciously face.

It's hard enough to process the grief of the loss of a partner--especially if he left you.But in Claire's opinion, she finds it extra hard to process the reality of the situation with time and space to process, AFTER the relationship.Maybe all the things you feared about his antics that he vehemently denied, turned out to be true, and you feel rage and shame both at him and yourself, for falling for his lies.Or, you saw and heard awful things he said and did, and you turned a blind eye out of fear of being alone and the fear of him not being who he promised you he was.So, what do you DO with all these daunting truths post the break-up? Check out the episode to find out more!

This is a torturous thought both Claire and her clients have moved through, amidst their heartbreak.In today's episode, Claire shares about two personal experiences where she believed it was her fault for the demise of the relationships, leading her to ruminating and resisting the idea that everything unfolded exactly the way it was supposed to... as cliché as this sounds.Claire's hope is for you to be able to see the same for yourself after listening to this episode, if you're finding yourself resisting the idea that if you'd behaved differently, the outcome of the relationship ending would have most likely been the same.

TRIGGER WARNING as there is a mention of self-harm in this episode.On this week’s episode, Claire talks about the importance of NOT shaming yourself when experiencing anger while moving through your heartbreak. Anger is an emotion that many people have been told “isn’t healthy” or is “inappropriate to carry…”Claire wildly disagrees and shares why.She also shares her own experience of feeling shame for all the anger she carried for years and years, without realizing the detrimental effects it was having on herself, her body, and her relationships, because she had no idea what to do with it!Of course there is a balance when it comes to managing our anger or any other negative emotion, but the last thing Claire wants you to do is bypass it, by covering it over, denying or intentionally trying to resist it. Find out what she suggests instead and take a listen!

Getting back on the horse feels extra hard when you've been burned so badly!You don't want to get your heart broken again.You don't want to move through the inevitable BS on the apps.You don't want to waste your time on a bunch of duds.You don't want to be duped again.You'd rather hang with your friends!But there's a reason you're intrigued by hearing from someone who's about to suggest how to get back on the horse after being burned so bad:You REALLY want to share your life with the RIGHT person...RIGHT?In today's episode, Claire offers 5 steps to help you get back on the horse after getting burned.Don't the some lame-os of your past stop you from creating what you really really want!Enjoy!Episode reference: Dating App Smackdown

Whether you’re reeling over a long or short-term relationship, it’s already hard enough that you’re heartbroken, but then the layer of shame for how long it’s taking to heal, is a bad cherry on top!  Claire always says there is NO SHAME over how long it takes to get over any relationship, no matter how short-lived it was. The pain usually isn’t really about the other person anyway.It’s more about you and what you’re thinking that’s making you FEEL a certain way.(At least that’s Claire’s very simplified version of heartbreak) Thoughts like:  I’ll never get over him. Even if he’s wrong for me, I don’t know if anyone else will do it for me like he did.What’s wrong with me that I still want him back??  In this week’s episode Claire shares about a coaching exchange she had with a wonderful woman, who was struggling with fully letting her ex go, as well as struggling with the judgement she had about how long it was taking her to heal.At the end of their coaching, her client said she felt so much relief, and it is C

It’s super disappointing when you’re doing the work and you feel like the universe keeps rolling out one disappointing dude after the next. Naturally, you want to question the universe, (If you happen to believe in a higher power) and wonder what it’s all for…In today’s episode, Claire unpacks a new situationship her client, Jen, was moving through, that she was very excited about— only to then find herself extremely hurt and sad when the guy she was newly seeing became a major disappointment.  She understandably wanted to know WHY this was happening, as she has really leaned in for ALL the healing and growth lessons, in order to attract her ideal person. It became quite clear to Claire what Jen’s unique lesson was here… it might not be YOUR exact lesson for why your person isn’t here yet, or why you keep attracting one unavailable after the next, but Claire hopes this episode will help you stretch your mind to see where your area of healing and growth lies, when you find yourself in similar situations to Jen

Claire was inspired to do this episode because she's been coaching a few clients on not wanting to leave, and who justify staying while in the initial stages of a relationship with men who are demonstrating signs of unavailability.She is simultaneously coaching other women who are KICKING themselves for not leaving sooner but stayed for years because they painted green over red flags.In today's episode, Claire touches on when it's time to get out in the beginning stages of a relationship AND in the later stages of a relationship... Please keep in mind that she cannot cover EVERY single situation when it comes to relationships. There is always an exception to the general rules and guidelines Claire offers based on her personal experience, studies, as well as what she has observed and learned over the last 7 years of coaching on heartbreak, dating and relationships. If you are interested in her coaching you and assessing your individual situation, you can check out her group program HERE or apply to work with h

Claire tries to avoid cliché phrases like “endless possibilities” and “stay present!” but these sayings are overused for a reason!In today’s episode, she invites you to go back to the basics of shifting into expansive beliefs when it comes to finding your person, vs reacting off of what is or isn’t happening in your love-life, and therefore making it mean that it will never work out.Claire uses two of her clients as examples who have a more unique circumstance than most of her clients… One client lost the love of her life because he passed away, making it extra difficult to imagine her new person, without comparing to her soulmate.The other client is in her late 60’s and wrestles with what she believes are extra limited options due to her age, as well as feeling a next level of pressure and being rushed because she has less time left, compared to her peers in Claire’s group program.Claire picked these two clients and their unique circumstances for this episode, because of how easy it would be to naturally fal

Today, Claire brings on a very special guest, Caroline, who's based in Sweden and worked with Claire for a year and a half.  Caroline shares the ins and outs of her journey towards finding love, both as Claire's client and a continued independent student of the work. You're in for a real treat with some of the nuggets of wisdom Caroline brings to the table as she reflects back on her journey towards finding herself AND her dream partner. Enjoy! 

Today's episode is inspired by Claire's client, Sarah, (name changed to protect her privacy) who fears her "clinginess" to the result of finding her person is messing up her process. You might be just as surprised and relieved to hear what Claire had to offer Sarah, who has been working SUPER HARD to find her person... as Sarah was! It's normal to be a little clingy and attached to really wanting something that matters to you, and in this episode Claire offers how you can approach this when it comes up for you. 

If you think you're a total catch, Claire is THRILLED. She tends to attract clients in two camps: those who feel insecure and unworthy, OR they think they're total catches.This episode is for the catches who are genuinely confused about why they're still single, and find themselves comparing and despairing a lot with thoughts like, "Why does SHE have someone and I don't??"As always, this is a safe space to look at our uncomfortable thoughts that may bring up shame and/or embarrassment, but let's not forget that we're all human first, and students of this work second!

It's so hard to NOT take things personally when someone you care about leaves the building... Even if you only went on a couple of dates. But in today's episode Claire breaks down how you can look at NOT making it so personal.Also, between now and this Sunday 6/25/23, the "I'M ENGAGED!" mini-offer is available to you which includes Claire's course and a BONUS 1:1 session with Claire.CLICK HERE to sign up:https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer

We're HERE! It happened. Claire gives the play by play of the best day of her life, along with a couple of cringey moments!Also check out her latest mini offer that expires June 25, 2023:https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/my-engagement-offer

This won't be the first time Claire touches on the importance of visualization when it comes to manifesting an epic romantic relationship, but now you have a WHOLE EPISODE on the importance of visualization, and more specifics on what your practice could look like.An inspired quote she shares several times throughout the episode is from David Cameron Gikandi's book, A Happy Pocket Full Of Money."When I willingly go where my most desired imaginings take me, I become a creative force that no limits."Visualization really is the key ingredient in your manifestation recipe, that Claire herself admits, she sometimes puts off when working on creating future goals. It's also something she sees her clients regularly resist doing.But she is back in her visualization regimen as of late, and is truly seeing the power of connecting energetically to her goals every day.Prior episode references:Too Negative For Love?My Heartbreak StoryYour Morning Healing/Love Manifestation Routine

There's no right or wrong way to execute your morning practice, but whether you're heartbroken or single & looking for love, Claire HIGHLY RECOMMENDS that you have one.In today's episode she gives you a rundown on how to approach your morning practice for each of these purposes... It doesn't have to be perfect or flawless, but carving out the time to do it, will for sure benefit you in the long run.Claire dares that you commit to one of the two practices she offers you, for 60 days, and claims that she doesn't believe that magic won't unfold if you do it!Episode references:10X Your Effort in Finding LoveToo Negative For Love? www.theurbanandthemystic.com 20% off with code : HeartbreakCoach20www.winnowskincare.com 20% off with code : HeartbreakCoach20