You Are Not A Frog

When you start comparing what you have with others, you wrap your identity in what you do for work, or when someone judges you unfairly, there are some simple things you can do to feel better.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMore links and show notesMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

How can we help ourselves and the people we lead to work more closely together, and speak up when there’s a problem, rather than merely just “cope” with it?Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMore links and show notesMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.

If a situation’s not quite right or it feels like you’re in flux and you don’t know what to do, here are three simple things you can try today.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Forgiveness is one of the most effective ways to begin healing from trauma. It doesn’t mean letting people off the hook, but finally being able to put down that heavy mental baggage.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.

When we notice the warning signs of burnout, we can end up either doing things that don’t help in the long-term, or we ignore the problem. Here are some of the most common mistakes people make when they feel like they’re burning out, and how to avoid them.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Download the Stress Curve handoutJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Research shows that loneliness could be as detrimental to our health as cancer, and it’s not an issue affecting older people, but those in their teens and 20s. This episode offers practical steps to help you create more healthy, high-quality connections in your life.LinksThe dangers of loneliness – TEDx St AlbansDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Get more control over your time by clearly defining and enforcing your personal boundaries. Discover why it feels like people overstep them, and what to do when that happens.LinksDownload the THRIVE Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

When someone on your team isn't pulling their weight, it's not only demoralising for the rest of the team, but detrimental to the person in question. If performance management isn’t put into practice, workplaces can become toxic, which can hamper performance and lower job satisfaction.High-functioning teams enable everyone to speak up, challenge each-other, and share their mistakes and learning. And it all starts with giving feedback.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.

If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break?LinksHow to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171Download your THRIVE Week PlannerDownload your Overwhelm SOS guideMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effectively.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Increase Your Confidence and Impact – Episode 198, with Dr Claire KayeWhat to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects – Episode 97, with Dr Joanna BircherHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75, with Annie HanekomMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints.Download the Thrive Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte HousdenLife’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209, with Dr Sarah GouldingHow to Have More Impact with Less Effort – Episode 159Mentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupThe Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s bookHow to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri StevensonHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual 2025 Join Rachel along with Graham Allcott and Dr Sarah Coope, on 7th May, 2025.Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob BellHow to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina ScullFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Work Well Live Prevent burnout, boost retention and protect your own time and energy. Join us in London on the 21st May.

It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the const

What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?

Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers

Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.⭐️ Work Well Webinars But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt

We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success.⭐️ Work Well Webinars It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us.Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other option but to stay put. These “shoulds” can come from societal expectations or the idea that you’ve put so much into your job already that it would be silly – or even irresponsible – to quit now.⭐️ Work Well Webinars These myths and pressures keep us feeling stuck, and prevent us from exploring alternative possibilities within or outside of our current field.This week, Rachel is joined by Dr Sarah Goulding, who breaks open those myths, and shows how we can uncover new possibilities. It all starts by recognising we’re not defined solely by our roles, and embracing the idea that it's okay to change and to pursue work that aligns with our strengths and passions.Sarah also has a set of self-coaching questions that can help us discover what we’re going to do with our “one wild and precious life”.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to find a way of working that doesn't

We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can overlook the bigger stuff – and it’s possible that our current career trajectory might not take us there.That’s why we need to find and then follow our North Star. Finding it starts with prioritising four fundamental needs: feeling fully human, deep connections, meaning and purpose, and growth and learning. By aligning our goals with these needs, we can find true fulfilment.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel outlines how we can understand what makes us feel alive, cultivate meaningful relationships and activities, and embrace continuous growth in all aspects of our lives.If we carry on putting achievement ahead of our own needs – especially if we’re doing so to please someone else – we may end up feeling empty and unsatisfied.But by tapping into those four fundamental needs, we’ll find ourselves on a path to a more fulfilling and bal