The Terri Cole Show

I talk about how to avoid conversations with inconvenient people, and how you can flip the script and only share what you want to share without coming off as awkward or rude. I also share some strategies for dealing with interrupters, what to do when people are on their phone while you are talking, and much more.  "We have to be discerning about who we are talking to, because what’s appropriate in one situation wouldn’t be appropriate in another." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/265 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Words like "denial" and "projecting" are thrown around a lot in casual conversation these days. These words are actually psychological terms that are defense mechanisms, and I think we've begun to throw them around so much that defense mechanism vocabulary can easily get misunderstood. On today's episode, I go over common defense mechanism terms that we often hear, and I clarify what they actually mean. "The more we know about the way our mind works, the better shot we have at really being the boss of us." - Terri Cole Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/264 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I share 7 ways to recognize if you are in a codependent relationship. Codependency can happen in any relationship, not just romantic ones. "When you are codependent, the line between where you end and the other person starts are completely blurred." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are in a relationship where you are often justifying or minimizing behavior, then that can be the case of trauma bond. "It is very difficult to stay broken up with someone if you are trauma bonded and you continue to have contact." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/262 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Mariel Buquè is an Afro-Dominican Psychologist and educator. She helps heal wounds of intergenerational trauma for BIPOC. "When you do not have interactions with a subset of people enough, you operate from a stereotype perspective." - Dr. Mariel Buquè. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/261 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about the symptoms of seasonal depression and what to do to avoid it (or at least lessen the SAD) this year.  "Reframe your relationship to winter, reframe your relationship to the days being shorter." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/260 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you normally struggle with fearful thoughts or not, most of us are feeling overwhelmed in 2020. I give tips to overcome overwhelm. "When we are feeling overwhelmed, it is so easy to be stuck in the disorder thinking where we are just repeating the same fearful thought." - Terri Cole. Learn more about The Terri Cole Show at terricole.com/259 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about the hidden boundary busters that prevent you from having effective boundaries in your relationships. "Our job is to constantly teach people how to treat us." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/258 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everybody struggles with making decisions, but sometimes we find ourselves sitting on the fence, staying stuck in a dysfunctional situation. "If you are an empath or highly sensitive folk, whether you want to or not, you put yourself on the shoes of other people, cause it just happens naturally." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/257 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever asked yourself why a particular commercial elicits a reaction from you? Today's show is about emotional recognition.  "If it causes you pain, then it needs your attention." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/256 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about all the 5 love languages and how you should pay attention and understand what kind of love language you and your partner are speaking. I also talk about being fluent in the love language, how you can use the platinum rule in your relationship. "Love speaks. but not only in words." - Terri Cole.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about breaking codependent cycles between parents and children, how to prepare your children to go out into the world, and more. "Codependency is the rotten foundation that bad relationships are built upon." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/254 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As an intuitive love coach and matchmaker for successful women, Coach Cass is an amazing speaker, TedX presenter, and writer. "A dream delayed is not a dream denied." - Dr. Casandra Henriquez. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/253 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sana Powell is an Indian-American licensed therapist. Today, we talk about the intersection between Social Justice and mental health. "It's very easy to bypass vulnerability by just staying within our comfort zone. If we only talk about things that we are comfortable with or that we feel we are experts on, you might feel good on a day to day basis, but you will never grow." -  Sana Powell. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/252 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We talk about how to get out of the self-abandonment codependency mindset and the importance of doing some of the things that make you feel happy every day. "If you ever wanna get a hold of your own happiness, you've got a get a hold of codependency." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/251 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is all about codependency with the human connection specialist, relationship expert, and Create the Love founder Mark Groves. "If you have to become a private investigator while being in a relationship, you are codependent." - Mark Groves. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/250 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest today, Christine Gutierrez, is the author of the upcoming book, I am Diosa. She talks about her book, women's empowerment, healing patterns, and more on this episode. When you know you are not alone, you heal faster." - Christine Gutierrez. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/249 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about the importance of creating boundaries and overcoming trauma in your life, how to understand the past experiences in your life, and more. "Personal boundaries are basically knowing where you end and the people in your life or the next person begins." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/248   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about what it means to have anxiety, and how it can manifest itself in your day-to-day life. I also share tips on how you can reduce your anxiety. "Worrying is like praying for the opposite of you want to happen" -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/247 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I talk about adopting a healthy perspective around finding a therapist, taking advantage of free consultations, and much more. " Not everyone is gonna be a great fit, but I want you to go in with the right frame of mind." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/246 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices