Get Out Of Your Own Damn Way Podcast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY5l6f9B_aE I have so much to do right now. Maybe I should start by making a list. But first I'll make a pot of tea. And I should check my email, FB, IG, Twitter... I just wasted several hours. I'm way too unfocused. I think I'll watch Netflix for 30 minutes and try to clear my head. Still not feeling it. A little yoga? A walk? Oh wait, didn't I need to buy something on Amazon? And call the phone company? Okay, I'd better do that before they close. I'll get to that other stuff later. I mean, I can do it anytime. Right? Oh crap! I have at least two hours worth of stuff to do in 45 minutes! I'm going to miss my deadline. But wait, was that a hard deadline? I think that's just the timeline I set for myself so that I wouldn't stress it. Phew! I've still got like two days. I can just chill out with Mr. Haagen-Dazs and cruise YouTube. I'll do that other stuff. Tomorrow. Does any of this sound familiar? Be honest. Let's face it: we all have our glorious moments of world class pro

https://youtu.be/JKZIr8UwUCM We all have that one friend. You know who I'm talking about. She never seems to truly listen to what you say. You can pour your heart out to her about how you just wrecked your car and will be broke and riding the bus for the next two months and before you've finished your tale of woe, she's already bored, checking her phone, and interrupting you to ask for a ride to the store. She asks you vague, polite questions and immediately transitions into an angry monologue about her boss before you can get a word in edgewise. Then a week later, she texts you, asking if you want to go out to have dinner and a movie...and B T Dubs, can you pick her up? We all have that one friend. But what's worse is this: We are all guilty of sometimes being that friend. You've heard the cliche that communication is a two-way street. It's a cliche because it's true. But often it's easy to get so caught up in what's going on in your own lane that you wind up paying no attention to oncoming humans. And t

https://youtu.be/hQ7Tbghcg-k Did you ever play that game where you replace the lyrics to a popular song so that they still sound similar, fit into the tune, even rhyme...but completely change the meaning, tone, and spirit of it all? In other words, have you ever gone Weird Al? Maybe you fell in love with a song and sang it all of the time only to be embarrassed and disoriented to learn that the lyrics that moved you to your very core were not the ones recorded...or even heard by anyone else but you. How many times have you been in a heated discussion where the other person was reacting to words that never left your mouth? And trying to explain yourself only made it worse. The point is that communication is precariously fragile at best. We often hear what we want to hear. What's even more curious is that we sometimes hear what we expect to hear, despite what's actually being said. And when you're the one doing the talking, this can prove to be baffling and frustrating. It can create rifts, build walls, cau

https://youtu.be/4QuWHWQC49g What if a complete stranger approached you on the street and asked you for a kidney? Would you say yes or would you say no? Okay, I realize that this is an absurd situation that would almost definitely never happen. And if it did, you'd probably pull out your pepper spray or scream at the top of your lungs. But indulge me for a moment; there's a method to my madness. If it did hypothetically happen, you'd probably say no. So let me ask you this: Why? If you've already mastered the skills I'm teaching in this week's podcast, you might be crossing your arms, shaking your head a little, and thinking to yourself, "No is a complete sentence." But if like so many people you have been conditioned to justify yourself when you say no, you may actually be feeling a bit anxious and defensive and even involuntarily forming a response for this imaginary crazy person asking you for body parts. No is always an option. In fact, it's often the right option. But if you find it hard to just say

https://youtu.be/VPeXXg1jwac   Hi, my name is Krylyn and I'm a good girl! Okay, to be perfectly honest, I'm a recovering good girl. Which is not to say that I'm a bad girl or no longer a good one or that being a good girl is bad or that being a bad girl is good. Deep. Breath. Got it? Probably not. Because this isn't an easy topic with black and white lines that you need to stay inside of. In fact, that's kinda the point. All that matters is whether or not you're the right kind of girl for YOU. I believe I probably popped out of the womb a good girl. In fact, I think they had a box labeled "Good Girl" ready and waiting for me. And instead of being handed to my mother to be held raw and new and pink and warm, the nurses gave her the box..with me in there somewhere. That box became mine. I owned it. I inhabited it. I stayed firmly inside the lines all through my childhood with very little exception. I did so because it was expected. I did so to survive. And I did so to the point where I got lost and redefi

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YrBS2TUtDA   If you've ever been in a dysfunctional relationship. If you don't always feel your power. If you find yourself being walked all over, used, abused, or just plain drained by how someone in your life is treating you, you might by in urgent need of Boundary Setting for Dummies! If you're ready to get in my face for insinuating that you might be a dummy, congratulations: You got boundaries! But if you're nodding your head, tearing up, and/or hoping desperately that I can guide you where others may have failed, read on. This podcast was made just for YOU. I'm sure you've heard this one before: "You teach people how to treat you". But what exactly does that mean? And who in their right mind would actively, knowingly teach someone to repeatedly knock the stuffing out of them? So here's the chase: You can choose to do it consciously from a place of balance and empowerment. Or you can obliviously bounce through situations, out of control, wondering why these things a

Ever have one of those days when everyone seems 100% committed to pushing your buttons and testing your boundaries? That overnight package got lost in the mail. You've wasted over 40 minutes of your lunch break on hold with an apathetic customer service representative trying to resolve a $3 issue. Meanwhile, your barista put herbal tea in your triple espresso. On a different day, you'd probably let these things go. But not today. Today you're ready to rumble. Some days you just wake up with your fight face on. You're ready to go 12 rounds with any fool who crosses your path. No one is safe. No one is spared. No one is getting out unscathed…not even you. Now I'm not saying that there's nothing out there worth going to the mat for; of course there are times you'll have to fight for what's right. But even then, you have choices. Even then you can decide how to approach the situation. Even then you can choose your battles wisely. And even then you can assess which battles are truly worth your energy…and which s

Have you ever lost a tooth? Of course! You lost a bunch of them. You were told to put them under your pillow at night while you slept. And instead of freaking out in terror that your own body parts would attack your face in your dreams, you were giddy and hopeful that some mythical, winged creature was going to daintily flit into your bedroom, reach under your head, take that useless hunk of bone, and replace it with cold, hard cash. It seemed perfectly logical. And you believed it right up until that aha! moment that shattered the illusion. Then the morbid ridiculousness of this bizarre ritual crystallized. You may have felt a bit confused, even betrayed. But you probably also experienced a sense of liberation. Now you knew the truth. The truth is calmer than lies. The truth isn't always pretty but it's always centered. The truth will indeed set you free. Because the truth is empowerment and possibility. It's objective, not personal. And it's the only place from where true change and transformation can beg

Remember when you were little and someone close to you would tell you how beautiful you were? Or smart, talented, sweet, etc. Maybe you even had a special nickname that lit you up like a fireworks show every time you heard it. What's more, you believed it. You allowed yourself to be enveloped in that admiration. And chances are, it manifested in your actions...even shaped your identity. You became more of whatever wonderful aspect of you was highlighted and celebrated by those around you. It's also likely that you experienced the polar opposite. Someone in your life - possibly even you - told you that you were lacking, inadequate, or even downright bad in some aspect of your life. And I'd bet that you lived up to that label as well. Here's the cold, hard truth: You rise or fall to your own perceptions and expectations, not to objective realities. If you believe you are beautiful, you are. And you will radiate that beauty into the world, regardless of your physical shape or state. If you know you are lovabl

Here it is, almost Valentine's Day again. And here I am, single. Like me, you may find yourself feeling a bit lonely, depressed, and unloved when this holiday rolls around. Even if you're in a relationship, if your sweetheart has gone tart, this holiday can leave you feeling empty, sad, and utterly disappointed. Let's face it: It's hard to feel worthy when you watch the parade of flower deliveries at the office, the sumptuous boxes of chocolates in the hands of the coupled, and glittery cards everywhere, brimming with red hearts and gooey sentiments. Valentine's Day is like the Memorial Day of the romantically disenfranchised. And all you can do is hunker down and bear it, hoping that next year will be different; next time you'll find love. Psych! If you're walking around feeling that way, you've been duped by the chubby little cherub in the diaper with the arrow. Hallmark has kicked your heart and submerged your brain in creamy nougat centers. You've lost touch with the indisputable, universal truth that y

Have you ever lost your keys? Let me paint a picture: You're running late. One voice in your head is berating you for always loosing your keys. Another voice chimes in and reminds you that you knew this was going to happen. A third voice is muttering manically about how you'll never find your keys. And yet a fourth voice - this one may even be coming out of your mouth - screams, "What is wrong with you?!?" So what IS wrong with you? And no, the answer is not multiple personalities. Chances are that the only thing wrong here is that you're focusing on what's wrong instead of what's right. Let's rejoin the voices in your head. What if you tune them out or change what they're telling you for just a minute. How many times have you done just that only to discover that your keys are in your hand? You attract what you focus on. You know this and yet you may still be focusing on what's wrong with you....instead of what's right. But before you start scolding yourself, know this: We ALL do it. And what's more, we li

It's one of those days. The alarm didn't go off. The coffee can is empty. You can't find your left shoe. And late isn't an option. So what do you do? Maybe you take some deep breaths. Perhaps you grab a pair of running shoes and sprint out the door, hitting Starbucks on the way to the office. Or you might renegotiate and conference yourself into that big meeting over the phone. But no matter what you chose to do in this situation, it involves change. Every day you make choices and changes. You often do it unconsciously. In fact, when faced with the prospect of doing it boldly and bravely, it can be overwhelming. But what if there was a way to not only embrace the prospect of change - actively and enthusiastically pursuing it - but to identify when and where you're ready for it? And what if you could master the process like the fearless warrior you know you are? I call this The Pivot. It's the kind of proactive change that transforms and empowers you. The kind you don't sit around dreading or putting off.

Her business model is more successful. His bank account is bigger than mine. I wish I had her shoes! So here's the deal: We ALL compare ourselves to others. We all pine away for that which we do not have. We all get sidetracked by pulling out that measuring stick and bucking under the weight of our own inadequacies....burying ourselves at the bottom of our own insecurities. But let me ask you this: Would you really trade your life - your journey - for anybody else's? Let's assume for a moment that you actually could. Are you willing to take on the unknown baggage, the heartaches, the scars and the setbacks that inevitably come with that package? Would you willingly sacrifice your greatness for whatever is behind door number two? Get honest. You love who you are! And all of those bumps and bulges that sometimes make you frown are some of the essential building blocks that make up the wonder that is you. Let's take it a step further: I'd even bet that if you could magically pull off a Freaky Friday moment,

Ready to Rock 2017 with your own customized theme? Weddings have them. So do T.V. shows, sporting events, books, even political campaigns. In fact, a good theme can be the difference between overwhelming failure and spectacular success. Why? Because themes are all about lazar sharp focus and clarity. They provide aspiration, motivation, and the drive to get things done, realizing even the loftiest of goals. Themes appeal not only to your sense of purpose, they actually stimulate your emotions and desires. In fact, the better the theme, the wider the reach. Good themes not only achieve their visions, they actually attract the enthusiastic support and buy-in of others. So why don't you have a theme? If they work so well for parties and Olympic Games, just imagine the turbo boost a great personal theme could give to your life, your career, your wildest dreams! In this episode, I'll tell you why you need a yearly theme and share with you both my 2017 theme and the thought process I used to create it. I'll als

Ever wonder about the down side of self improvement? Are you on the self-help bandwagon? Tis’ the season. Every New Year brings with it the hope and promise of a clean slate. Maybe you want a new bod, a new J-O-B, or a new slice of life. And these days you don’t have to look too far to get bombarded with products and services that lure you in with the promise all this…and MORE! But what happens when these messages infiltrate your brain? Marketers are pulling at your heart strings and pushing all your buttons. And before you know it, you may find yourself believing that you’re not good enough, feeling that you're flawed or even broken. Not only can this start a vicious cycle of low self worth and doubt, but it's hard to see yourself for the beautiful person you are through a filter of criticism and endless scrutiny. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a total self-help junkie. I LOVE the path of healing and enlightenment. But what I don’t like are those deeper messages we sometimes glean. So here's my New Year's messa

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