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There are a lot of men who want to fix their marriages. While it sounds counterintuitive, the best way to fix your marriage is to fix yourself. Because, when you improve who you are as a man and how you're showing up as a husband, you're naturally going to produce a better marriage. Sure, a strong marriage is the result of the things that both you and your wife are doing but there's nothing you can do about her. That's why it's best to focus on the one thing you can control - yourself. Here are 7 ways to do just that... www.orderofman.com/FFN114 Please leave us a rating and review!

Every man will, at some point, be placed in a position of leadership, whether it's in the walls of his home, a new project at work, a promotion, ecclesiastical services, with friends, or simply leading himself. His ability to lead effectively will spell the difference between success and failure in any endeavor. Today, I am joined by retired Green Beret Lieutenant Colonel, Scott Mann to talk about how to be a strong leader. We talk about the importance of becoming a great storyteller, how to play your position well and allow others to do the same, why leaders need to learn to get out of the way, and how you can lead from the top. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why leaders need to become great storytellers The importance of becoming your own hero How great leaders learn to play their position Why leaders need to learn to get out of the way How leaders communicate across cultures How we locate ourselves through others' stories The power of writing your own story Why you need to meet people where they are How to solicit feed

So many men love to play the victim card. They believe everybody and everything is stacked against them. In reality, we know that's not true. Here's why people do it and 5 ways to avoid making yourself into a victim. www.orderofman.com/FFN113 Please leave us a rating and review!

Every time you turn around, you're bombarded with a thousand ads, a million choices, and an endless supply of options and "opportunities." It's becoming increasingly difficult to manage the landscape of the ever-growing decisions that need to be made. Add to that our desire to be seen and perceived a certain way by people we may not even know or like, and it's easy to see why the disease of wanting more is becoming a real problem. My guest today, Joshua Becker, makes the case for why more is less. He argues (and, I agree) that having less stuff in our life can truly unlock the key to a more meaningful and purpose-driven life. We talk about the benefits of owning less, why we have the desire to own more than we'll ever need or use, the burden extra possessions place on our lives, and how you can become a minimalist. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The positive benefits of owning less The first things you should get rid of Why living on less can be so challenging How our brains aren't able to handle maximum input The burden

Society is becoming softer. Society is becoming weaker. This idea of softness is perpetuated by much of society, the school system, media, and entertainment and Hollywood. We do ourselves a huge disservice when we overlook the importance of being strong, tough, gritty, resilient, and all the things that we would traditionally think of when we think of how a man shows up in life. I'm not suggesting by any means that a man can't be loving, supportive, open, and vulnerable. Of course, he can be those things. There is a time and a place to be that way but to say that that's always the case, to say that we need to be softer at the expense of these other masculine virtues, is hurting society in general. There will come a point in time where those traditional masculine virtues are to be used in order to produce productive outcomes for ourselves, our loved ones, and the people we care about. Typically, this manifests itself in a negative situation, whether that's something in the family like a divorce, loss of a love

In a world where everyone and everything is clamoring for your attention, it is becomingly increasingly difficult to focus on the vital few as opposed to the trivial many. My guest today, Greg McKeown, the New York Times Bestselling Author of Essentialism, makes the case for why less can actually be more. We talk about how to eliminate distractions, the criteria for measuring what task you should actually focus on, how to establish proper boundaries, and why every man should take on the disciplined pursuit of less. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why focusing on less can be more How to ensure only the right things get done The difference between thinking broadly and deeply Establishing criteria to measure your decisions How to eliminate the things that don't matter How to effectively establish proper boundaries How to refine and hone your gut instinct Establishing practices for systematic execution Why small wins are vital How using the word 'no' is a liberating exercise Moving your thinking from "can't" to "don't" Focusin

I see so many men who don't have any level of respect for themselves let alone being able to command any respect from others. I was noticing the other day as I was walking to the post office, that there were people who wouldn't even look me in the eye. And, not only would they not look me in the eye, they were working hard to ensure that they didn't have to look me in the eye. When I shake people's hand, I get these limp fish handshakes. Those are just two small examples of the manifestation of a lack of confidence. It's bad, guys. You know exactly what I'm talking about. You've seen this in co-workers, friends, kids, and maybe even yourself. And, if you're someone who is not commanding respect,  you are living a life less than you're capable of. I don't want that to be the case. I want you, as a man to step up, to be assertive, confident, to be able to ask for promotions, ask women on dates, and get out of this life what you should. And, part of that is being able to command the respect of other people. When

We all know that we need to be mentally tough. There's no question of that. Yet, forging mental toughness seems to be one of the most elusive pursuits. All of us know how to develop physical toughness but rarely do we have any practices in place that will help us develop mental toughness. My guest today, Ryan Lange, is one of the most mentally tough men I know. It's amazing considering he's only 21 years old. I won't get into all that he's accomplished just yet but please understand that the amount of physical strain he's put on his body is simply incredible. Today we talk about developing the capability to transcend pain, fostering the willingness to embrace hardship, why hard work is omnipotent, and how to forge more mental toughness. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Developing the capability to transcend pain Developing a willingness to embrace the hardship The critical importance of long-term focus How to break those long-term goals into micro goals The dangers of not developing mental toughness How to effectively train

We've all seen the movie, Peter Pan. It's fictional work but it seems that more and more it paints an eerily familiar picture with what we see in the boys who never want to grow up into men. I'll give you a prime example. Just the other day, there was a piece I read about a 30-year old man who had taken his parents to court because his parents were "evicting" him from their house. How pathetic is this? Maybe there's something wrong with this guy (obviously there's something wrong with this guy). But it's amazing that his thought process is to fight so hard to stay at home. I can't help, but there's something seriously wrong with him. But in addition to that, I can't help but think there's something wrong with the parents. How was this guy raised? How was he fathered? When I was done with high school, we went on our senior trip. The day I got home - the very next day - I moved out. It wasn't' because I had anything against my mother but because it was time. It was time to leave the nest. I see so many boys who

All of us have a story. We all have a past. Our prior circumstances define who we are today but do not have to define who we will become moving forward. Too bad most of us never learn to rewrite the script. Today, I am joined by a friend and man who is impacting and influencing millions. His name is Charlie Jabaley and he's someone who walked away from a multi-million dollar business to rewrite his life, lose a massive amount of weight, become an endorsed Nike athlete, and bike across the USA. We talk about what inspired him to make a life-altering change and how he is using positivity to change the world. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How to turn your struggles into fuel Why "war mode" isn't always the best mode How to realize your childhood dreams How to work smarter, not harder How to rally people around a cause How to use imperfection to inspire others The difference between eating "dead" and eating "alive" Overcoming a negative mindset What it means to train like an 8-year-old Using fun and play as the metric for su

Every time we turn around it seems like there's yet another school shooting. And, from what I can see, we're addressing this from a very surface level perspective. This is not about gun control. This is not about gun regulation. In fact, I don't even believe it's fully a gun problem. I think it's a symptom of the problem but not the problem. Obviously, it has to do with the young men who are creating these situations. But more so, we ought to put the responsibility where it truly lies, which is on us as men. I'm going to explain what I mean by that. Bear with me, because I think you're going to agree at the end of this conversation that we've got a real problem with the way that we, as men, are showing up. And the symptom of that is school shootings and some of the other atrocities that we see in society today. Before I get into the details, I do want to say again, this is not meant to be a gun debate but there are a couple of surface level issues that I do want to address first and foremost before we get dee

Today, I talk with John Gilliland about overcoming multiple suicide attempts, rising from the guilt and shame associated with it, using addiction in a positive way, and lifting yourself out of the bottom. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

Competition is such a critical component of our journey to develop masculinity and manliness. Too bad it's often viewed as an unnecessary and antiquated way of operating by much of society. Heaven forbid we hold ourselves to a high standard and teach our children to keep score. My guest today, Jake Thompson, Founder of Compete Every Day, makes the case for utilizing healthy competition as a critical factor in improving our lives. Today, we talk about why competition is so important, why executing to failure is so powerful, why losing does not necessarily equal "loser", and why men should compete every day. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS • Why competition is important • How competition creates opportunities and builds capabilities • What separates those who grow with competition and those who self-destruct • How to compete at things that aren't a competition • Why executing to failure is so important • Why losing does not equal "loser" • How to separate yourself from the pack • How to find and develop value in yourself and o

There is a gap in most men's lives and, in fact, I would argue in every man's life. This gap represents what we know we should be doing versus the things that we're actually doing. This is the integrity gap. The larger that gap is, the less fulfilled, the more unhappy, the more unpleasant, and depressed you will be. The smaller that gap, the more fulfillment, satisfaction, joy, contentment, happiness, wealth, and prosperity will come into your life. There was a time in my life roughly 10 years ago where I had a huge integrity gap in my life (again, the gap between what I knew I should be doing and what I was actually doing). Here's the reality: Everybody that reads this, including you, knows what you should be doing. If I were to ask anyone, "How do you lose weight?" 99.9% of people would say, "Well, I probably ought to eat a little bit better and exercise a little bit more." If I were to ask how to build more wealth in your life, everybody out there would say, "I need to find a way to make more money and/or

Today, I talk with Cody Duffney about the execution of discipline, the power of internal reflection, correcting mistakes quickly, and accepting points of weakness. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

Continuing on the theme from last week (because I believe this is such a critical topic right now), today we talk about the fact that young boys seem to be going astray. The school system is stacked against them, society seems to be dismissing masculinity altogether, and being a man is something that actually has to be defended. My guest, Dr. Leonard Sax, joins me to talk about 5 factors driving an epidemic of unmotivated boys and underachieving young men, how the school system needs to be overhauled if we are to re-engage our boys, the dangers of endocrine disruptors in men's lives, and how boys are going adrift and, more importantly, how to get them back on track. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 5 factors driving unmotivated boys and underachieving young men How the school system is stacked against young men Why boys are struggling with academic achievement How the school system needs to be changed The dangers on endocrine disruptors The effect pornography has on young boys The value of consequences for young men How to

Today, I want to talk about such an important topic and one which is easy to overlook simply because we’ve all heard about it so often. That said, I believe establishing a healthy morning routine is one of the most important things you can do during your day as it really establishes the benchmark, the framework, and the foundation for the way the rest of your day will go. The reason that I think most people overlook (or can’t even stick to a morning routine) is because there’s so much advice about it already and we begin to believe that we have to pigeonhole ourselves into one way of doing it. Here’s what I’m here to tell you:  I’m going to share my morning routine. Now,  that doesn’t make it the morning routine. It simply means that it works for me. The most powerful thing if you can do with regards to your morning routine is to find something that works for you. This is a process of experimentation. So, again, I’m going to share with you what works for me. If you like it, adopt it. If you don’t like it, don

Today, I talk with Joshua Laycock about his awakening, why "good enough" is your enemy, the power of your potential, and how to train your mind. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

This one is special to me. As most of you know, I grew up without a permanent father figure in my life. I've mentioned in the past that there was a select group of men who helped mold and shape me into the man that I am today. I'm not sure there is another man in my young life who was as influential as my guest today. His name is Matt Labrum and he was my high school football and baseball coach. Today, we talk about his influence in my life and thousands of other young men's lives, the power of allowing kids to fail (including some failures of my own), why competitive sports are so valuable in a young man's life, why he cut his entire team from the football program, and a man's responsibility to future generations.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The power of allowing kids to fail Why competition is critical for young men How winners continue to find a way to win The politics of raising children and coaching Pros and cons of coaching your own children Our obligation as men to give back to future generations How sports are

You’ve likely heard of the phrase “zero fu*ks given.” While I can understand to a degree what anyone may be saying when they use that term, I can’t help but see the mistake in that line of thinking – especially for men. Your job is the exact opposite of that sentiment. Your job is to care about a lot, and be a man of value in the walls of your home, inside your business, and out in your community. But if you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and take the stance that everyone else should leave you alone and there’s nothing you should really care about, I’ve got to think you’re missing a big element of what it means to be a man. Not to mention, you’re limiting your potential and the potential of those around you. www.orderofman.com/FFN106 Please leave us a rating and review!