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Today, I thought I’d pull back the curtain and share with you a little bit about the process of writing a book. I’ve received a lot of messages since we published, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men about what it took to write the book, the challenges, the victories, the things I did well, and the things I didn’t do so well in making this book available to you. Let’s face it, writing a book isn’t an easy process. It’s a painstakingly slow journey that really causes you to question your own sanity. Sometimes you run across days you feel 100% committed and, other days, you want to quit and throw in the towel. So, since I’ve received so many questions about the process, I figured I’d give you some insight and you can decide from there if writing a book is something you want to take part it. We’ll cover the reason you need a strong “why,” the actual process (including the tools I used), the timeline you should follow, what format to publish in, and whether you should find a publisher or sel

Today on In the Trenches, I interview Chis Gachko about his challenges and victories in improving his marriage, starting a family, and launching a new business. Please leave us a rating and review: www.orderofman.com/itunes Visit us at www.orderofman.com

One year ago, I had my good friend, Jordan Harbinger on the show to talk about building social capital. Today, he's back on the show to talk about calling in that social capital. Through a series of unfortunate events with his business, he's had to reach out to his network, connections, and friends and request help in building a new business from the ground up. Without his work in building a strong network in the past, Jordan admits he'd be in a much worse position today. In this episode, we talk about why keeping score in relationships is a bad idea, how to get over asking people for help, something Jordan calls "systematic network maintenance," and how to call in your social capital. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why keeping score in relationships is a bad idea
 How to build a network without the expectation of anything in return Why people choose to follow certain people
 How to maintain consistent contact with your network
 How to get over asking people for help
 Getting comfortable with helping others
 Getting comfo

There are two types of people in this world: makers and takers. The reality is that we’ve all been a bit of both in our lives. But I think more and more I’m seeing the pendulum switch in society from most of us being makers to most of us being takers. It’s not sustainable. It’s not healthy. And, frankly, it’s not manly. So today, I thought I’d share why being a maker is not only your job as a man but it’s much more profitable and fulfilling way to live. And, I’ll also share five very practical tips/mindsets for turning yourself into more of a maker. www.orderofman.com/FFN098 Please leave us a rating and review!

This week, I interview Bubba Downs, our host of the new series, In the Trenches.

I spent time in the military, including an active-duty tour to Iraq in 2005-2006. I know how hard it can be transition from service to civilian life. One of the most challenging things for me was to go from having a clear sense of direction and purpose to not knowing what my next battle was. I know a lot of our nation's warriors feel the same. Today I talk with my good friend, Phil Randazzo, about his 15-year mission to help our military members successfully transition into civilian life. I believe so much in what he and his organization are doing that I now sit on the board of advisors for American Dream U. Today we talk about why transitioning out of the military is so challenging, what our military members should be doing prior to leaving service, how they can find a new battle to fight, and how we can support our nation's warriors. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why transitioning out of the military is so challenging Why our veterans discount their experience from the military What obligations and responsibilities we h

I’m sure you’re well-aware of the drug abuse, suicide, and violent crime rates with regards to young men. It’s all over the headlines these days and, with the latest school shooting in Florida, it’s become impossible to ignore. There is a real problem here. And, while the rest of the world focuses on gun control and legislation in hopes of putting a bandaid over the problems that are becoming all too common, I’d encourage us here within the Order of Man to look at the root of the problem, which I believe is fatherless homes. Let’s take a look at some of the statistics: 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census). 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes (Center for Disease Control). 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (National Principals Association Report). 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988). 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes

So many of us focus on the end result - some noble goal we wish to pursue. And, while there's value in knowing where you're going, my guest today makes the case for measuring your successes in the smallest unit of measurement possible. Most of you know Aubrey Marcus, founder of Onnit. He is back again to talk about how he has managed to build so much success in his life. Today, we talk about the key to starting your day off right, the benefits of unconventional training, napping, supplements, weird lunches, and how to own the day and own your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS • Why focusing on the smallest unit of measurement is critical • The key to starting the day correctly • The power of hydrating, breathing, and freezing • Where and how supplements come into play • Utilizing drive time to your advantage • How eating a weird lunch will serve you so wellHow to be more efficient through utilizing daily napping • The benefits of unconventional physical training • How to turn your life into an experimentation • Building

We’ve all heard the adage that you are the average of your five closest friends. I don’t take that too literally but I do know that when I surround myself with powerful people, life changes. There was a time in my life where I lacked any real intentionality about who I surrounded myself with and the results (or lack thereof) showed. Since those days, I’m made a deliberate and strategic decision to find people who are thriving in ways I want to thrive and put into action some strategies that have connected me with New York Times Bestselling Authors, elite warriors and athletes, multi-millionaire business owners, and, frankly, some of the most successful people on the planet. I think we can all agree that men and masculinity are on the defensive. There is a disturbing trend in society that says we are simply not needed. This could not be further from the truth. And, unfortunately, it will take something catastrophic happening before society, as a whole, realizes the value of strong and noble men. I’m not inter

We all know health and wellness are important when it comes to stepping into our full potential but most of us tend to think it ends with eating right and exercising. While those elements are certainly important on our road to a healthy life, it goes well beyond lifting weights and eating salads. My guest today is Josh Trent. He is the founder of Wellness Force and is focused on helping people across the planet lead healthy lives. Today we talk about connecting the head and heart, how to identify which beliefs are serving you, how to harness both the beast and the spirit inside all men, and how to develop physical and emotional intelligence. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What the term "wellness" actually means How to develop physical and emotional intelligence How to connect "head to the heart" How to identify what beliefs and actions are serving you The power of a technology fast How to develop more confidence How to reconcile ownership and kindness How to use the past for forward progression How to harness both the beas

We’ve all heard the adage that you are the average of your five closest friends. I don’t take that too literally but I do know that when I surround myself with powerful people, life changes. There was a time in my life where I lacked any real intentionality about who I surrounded myself with and the results (or lack thereof) showed. Since those days, I’m made a deliberate and strategic decision to find people who are thriving in ways I want to thrive and put into action some strategies that have connected me with New York Times Bestselling Authors, elite warriors and athletes, multi-millionaire business owners, and, frankly, some of the most successful people on the planet. The reason I want you to listen very closely to this episode is that I’m not particularly anything special. There are a lot of men out there who believe that the reason I’ve been able to connect with these people is because I’m successful. Guys, that just isn’t true. I may be experiencing some success now but when I started Order of Man, I

Higher education seems to be quite the topic these days. With the rising costs of education and the debate as to whether or not students are learning applicable skills, it seems inevitable that we'll see a shift away from traditional higher education to something more practical and affordable. I've been an advocate for trade schools and apprenticeships programs for some time now but my guest today gives us yet another option to the challenges our young men and women face on the road to higher education. My guest today is the founder of MissionU, a one-year higher educational program that gives students the skills and experience to succeed after college. Today we talk about the rising cost of education and what can be done about it, how education institutions and students can and should work together towards solutions, bringing back the human element to schooling, and the future of higher education. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why traditional higher education is becoming less relevant
 The future of higher education
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It is amazing to me how quick we are to talk to other people about their issues and their problems yet we seem to be incapable of recognizing the problems in ourselves. It’s sad because we spend so much time and attention and energy on changing something that is completely outside of our control when the real power comes from changing the thing that is entirely within our control – ourselves. I get it. It’s easier to focus our attention elsewhere than it is on us. If we flip the mirror around and take a look at where we’re falling short, it leads to work and effort to do something about it. www.orderofman.com/FFN094 Please leave us a rating and review!

Fear is something that every single one of us experiences but the reality is that most of us don't know how to adequately face it when it rears its ugly head. Your ability to understand your fear and how to use it to your advantage may be the difference between life and death. Today, I'm joined by Tony Blauer with Blauer Tactical System in a conversation every man needs to hear. We talk about handling confrontation effectively, when violence is the answer, how to become what Tony calls a "courageous bystander," and how you can become more powerful by knowing your fear.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How to handle confrontation How to improve your "respons-ability" How the brain learns What is the survival response system How the "startle-flinch response" helps you Why some people don't fight back When is violence the answer Four critical moves in dangerous circumstances How we overestimate our own abilities The three-step process for handling threats How to become a courageous bystander What to do when you're punched in

  Men are providers. Period. And, there's more than one way for us to provide: Financial, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual. Today, I share an excerpt from my new book, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men, regarding how we, as men, can step more fully into our calling to provide for ourselves, our families, and our communities. If you enjoy this excerpt, I ask that you consider picking up a copy of my new book, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. And, if you already have, please leave us an Amazon review so we can get the message of masculine sovereignty out to the world. Enjoy the excerpt. www.orderofman.com/FFN093 Please leave us a rating and review!

There are two days you have no control over - the day you're born and the day you die. Every other day in life represents an opportunity to choose how you decide to live it. My guest today, Dakota Meyer, calls this "Own the Dash." The dash is all the days between your date of birth and your date of death. Dakota Meyer is a retired Marine and the recipient of the highest military honor one could earn, the Medal of Honor. Today we talk about how he views the events that earned him that recognition, overcoming an attempted suicide, how he has redefined himself through living in service of others, and how he owns the dash. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What it means to "Own the Dash"
Turning adversity into opportunity
The value of service to others in overcoming struggle
How humility allows you to thrive
Not using PTSD as an excuse to self-destruct
Overcoming a suicide attempt
The power of owning your failures
How to make better decisions
How to find and connect with the right people
Implementing a team in your life
How legacy

There’s a term that’s being tossed around these days that’s really been bothering me the more I think about it. The term is “toxic masculinity.” The reason that term bothers me is because, frankly, it does not exist. It’s not real. And, to perpetuate the term is to do injustice to what it means to be a man in the first place – which is probably why it’s pushed with such a heavy hand. I think there’s a growing movement to undermine masculinity and the term, “toxic masculinity (and others like it)” is just one way to spread the propaganda that somehow masculinity is bad, or evil, or toxic. It just isn’t the case. Masculinity, by its very nature is good. It’s strong. It’s assertive. It’s productive. It’s caring. It’s compassion. It’s charitable. And, I’ve even go so far as to say it’s loving. www.orderofman.com/FFN092 Please leave us a rating and review!

Everyone these days wants to be an entrepreneur and while I applaud their desire to go out and create something from nothing, too many men are in it for the wrong reason. Today, I'm joined by my friend and founder of Origin USA to talk about the meaning of entrepreneurship. This one is unlike a lot of the podcast you see on entrepreneurship where you'll hear the ten tactics every entrepreneur needs to know. We go deep into why entrepreneurship is so important, why you should and shouldn't go into business for yourself, why vision is so critical, ethical responsibilities and obligations, and why creating a business without compromise is so critical.

 SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The value of entrepreneurship 
Why someone should become an entrepreneur
 Why someone should not become an entrepreneur
 Why striping away your ego is critical to your success
 Developing a belief in yourself
 How to develop more confidence
 How to use faith to take more calculated risks 
Our moral and ethical responsibilities as business owners

One topic I see talked about more than just about any other is that of building confidence. It seems that more and more men are lacking the confidence they desire in their lives. I think there’s a lot of reasons for this so today, I thought I’d share with you why we seem to be experiencing more of that, and give you some very quick and actionable tips in order to develop confidence and, of course, the results that stem from it. More than anything, you’ve got to understand that you are not entitle to confidence. I know you may think you know that but it’s amazing to me how many men seem to think confidence is something men are born with and that some men are just inherently confident. I think that has some truth to it. Some men are born with a predisposition to be more confident in their lives but I believe the bigger variable to building and developing confidence is the ability to take action despite fear. www.orderofman.com/FFN091 Please leave us a rating and review!

It's that time of the year again when the masses begin their new year's resolutions. Fitness, exercise, and nutrition is always at the top of people's New Year's Resolutions but all too often people fail within the first couple of weeks or months to stick to their plans. Today, I am joined by my friend and fitness coach, Josiah Novak, to talk about nutrition and exercise and why people fall short of their objectives. We cover why they fail, how to create the right environment for success, how to get back on track when you fall off, and how to create a true transformation in your life.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why people fail with their health resolutions Why we look for the magic pill Common health challenges to overcome How to create the right environment for success The basics of establishing healthy nutrition and exercise habits Why health is usually the first thing to go How to develop more discipline How to get back on track when you fall off Identifying your values to keep you on track Why you should focus on