Playing Full Out With Rita Hyland

In any relationship, there will be conflict. We may not want it, but it is inevitable. The problem is most of us were never taught a simple way to address conflict directly.  As a result, most individuals, seasoned leaders included, retreat from candid conversations and straightforward communication instead of clearing their issues with others — both personal and professional.  That’s why in today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through a simple 7-part formula to address and resolve conflict in any relationship (whether in the boardroom or bedroom) so that you can clear your issues, resolve conflict and actually improve your relationships by addressing the unspoken and uncomfortable.  Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and freedom. Head to ritahyland.com and sign up to receive podcast announcements and exclusive tips to unleash more of your creativity, productivity, and ingenuity in your work and at home.  If this episode

As leaders, we want to positively connect with, influence, and impact others. But, getting individuals to feel comfortable to engage with us isn’t always easy.  There’s an evolutionary reason for this. If people are not sure of their situation, they will default to reading it as unsafe and retreat.   Whether it’s your direct report, your boss, or even your child, there’s something essential that you must know that precedes every good interaction: the other person must perceive you as safe to engage with. But, in a world where so many things are perceived as a threat, how do we not appear dangerous too?    In this episode, I’m sharing with you my simple 4-step S.A.F.E. process that the savviest managers and most effective leaders use that will drastically increase the quality of your engagements and allow others to not only feel safe but truly empowered by you.  Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and freedom. Head to ritahyl

Each of us has a limit – think an internal thermometer – for how much success we will allow ourselves to have. This is called your “upper limit” or your success comfort zone.  When you exceed this perceived limit, you unconsciously sabotage yourself and return to an old familiar place where you feel in control. But when you understand the concept of having an “upper limit,” you can truly learn how to overcome it and allow yourself the desired success in your business, your career, your relationships, and your overall life. Tune in to this episode to learn how to spot your upper limit problem, recognize the self-sabotage when it happens, and get comfortable being uncomfortable so you can move closer to the career and life you say you want.  Grab your copy of The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks here. Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and personal freedom. Head to ritahyland.com and sign up to receive podcast announcements and excl

How do you manage getting everything done and still have a life of your own? The answer I have for you today may not be the one you expect. This daily quest of “getting things done” and chasing work-life balance is always on my clients’ minds and it’s one that many of us struggle with. In this episode, I’m sharing the game-changing lesson I learned on a trip to Europe: sometimes we move too fast. Society’s training leads us to believe we will feel good when we get it all done, but if we deny the reality that we’re never actually getting it all done, we are destined to be unsatisfied as long as we remain on this impossible quest. Tune in to this episode to learn 4 techniques to stop being motivated solely to get it all done, to make better choices with your time, and reconfigure how you determine your worth. Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and personal freedom. Head to ritahyland.com and sign up to receive podcast announc

What do you do when you’re angry at someone? When your anger surfaces, threatening even your most cherished relationships? In today’s world, there are tons of reasons to feel triggered and angry, but if we’re all in a triggered state of anger, how can we do the transformative work we need to actually resolve conflict and restore peace? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful 3-step process to turn anger into positive energy and produce desired results peacefully. It’s a simple, easy, and memorable tool that you can use to resolve conflict, mediate disagreements, and restore peace, civility, and even friendship back into relationships in an instant. Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and personal freedom. Head to ritahyland.com and sign up to receive podcast announcements and exclusive tips to unleash more of your creativity, productivity, and ingenuity in your work and at home.    If this episode was helpful for you…  Share

To celebrate our 100th episode, I’m sharing a hot topic that I am passionate about and that I’ve never shared until today!  It has to do with how we approach solving our problems, fixing our relationships, and advancing results.   I am bringing this up because our life is filled with problems to which we spend our days seeking solutions.  All day long we seek to fix things — the economy, security, our children, our marriages, those we manage.  The reason so often we remain mired in our problems even when we have exceptional solutions is because of what happens BEFORE we seek to fix the problem.  In other words, it has EVERYTHING to do with how we approach these problems for which we believe we have the answer.  As a leader, it is no longer enough anymore to simply ‘fix it’ or ‘get it done.’  It’s not enough to find and execute the ‘right’ solutions.  It matters how we got there. Do we create war or bad blood or bad sentiment or do we cultivate trust and peace in the process?  It matters because an intelligent

It happens to the best of us. We find ourselves impatient and frustrated that we’re not accomplishing or creating fast enough. Maybe it’s building your business, getting a colleague to accept your recommendation, or getting recognized for how hard you’re working. Release all of this noise because it’s holding you back. Today, I want to introduce you to a  game-changing tool that will help you boost your patience and energy for whatever masterpiece you currently are or want to build.  This tool has been responsible for helping many left-brain dominant, high-performers get out of their own way and onto building the best work of their career.  It’s also a great reminder that getting back to basics helps you gain the clarity and passion to ultimately succeed at the mission behind  your work.    Our mission is to help you become unstoppable so you can do the best work of your career while you enjoy more inner peace and personal freedom. Be sure to sign up for my emails that announce the Playing Full Out Podcast as

When was the last time you did something just because it delighted you? When was the last time you broke from your routine and were fully immersed in an activity for pure enjoyment? Or when you added a little absurdity into your day simply because it made you feel alive?  Doing something for the fun of it not because it serves some greater purpose may seem like a luxury to you today, but research confirms something quite different. Far from being frivolous, self-indulgent, irresponsible, or even selfish, having fun is actually ESSENTIAL to a life well played. Unfortunately, in our uber goal-focused lives, as much as we crave activity for pure fun, we have a hard time giving ourselves permission to embrace it.  Today, I’m sharing with you a personal moment that reminded me not only that it was time to get my play on again regardless of what I had accomplished, but some of the science behind unleashing the power of fun in our lives. I’m also sharing with you my go-to 4-part blueprint (and challenge!). It’s a ri

Have you ever hesitated to make a key call in your business? Go for a heavier weight at the gym? Say “yes” to a great invitation? Or move forward in your most important work? Or big idea? Today’s episode is perfect for you if you’ve noticed your attachment to certainty or getting it right may be slowing you down. Oftentimes, attempts to avoid situations that might be uncertain are unconsciously disguised as being busy, over preparing, or refining our work.  Ultimately, it becomes impossible to innovate, share controversial ideas or effect the change we want.   The truth is fear can hold you back and limit you in every area of your life without you even knowing it. That’s why today I’m sharing with you the one lesson I wish I knew years ago: no matter how accomplished, how much older, or how recognized you become, fear is going to accompany you. And the worst problem we can actually face is not knowing that it’s fear that’s holding us back. Join me in this episode as I share the things I feared most, how surre

If you’re looking to bring more energy, freedom and meaning to your work and days, uncovering what you stand for may be what you need. Do you ever have a day, when despite accomplishing a lot, you step back and question  is this meaningful? Or you wonder what is the reason for all the effort and energy that you expend daily? Do you wonder if what you are doing matters? If so, you are not alone. The pursuit of goals alone can be very unsatisfying. The extrinsic rewards of money, achievement and admiration do not fill us.  If you want to guarantee that your days reflect what is most important to you, that your work is contributing to something beyond yourself, or you’re simply looking to reinvigorate your team, this episode is for you.  There is quite literally no better formula for bringing forth the genuine brave warrior in you and others, than knowing what you stand for.  And in this episode I talk about a no-nonsense formula to uncover your stand, that thing that makes you courageous, how to distinguish it

If stress is a regular part of your business – you’re not alone. These techniques can help.  We live in a stress-filled world. Many accept stress as a regular part of their days. But over time, stress takes a major toll on our business, body and relationships. We aren’t built to constantly be in a state of fight or flight. Here’s the good news - we don’t have to be. You don’t have to start or end your day with debilitating feelings of stress as your norm. It’s no way to live, and it’s no way to lead. The first step is to realize that other people and situations are not the cause of your stress. Getting at the root-cause along with learning how to self-regulate when stress strikes is the key to more freedom, energy and peace than you’ve experienced before. In this episode, I share the techniques that will truly help you diminish the stress and the havoc it wreaks. Your personal and professional happiness and success relies on you understanding why your stress exists, not outlasting it. If this episode is helpf

When you are in crisis, do you immediately tighten your grip and take control of the situation? It’s very common for leaders to do just that. But what if I told you that we are called to do the opposite? What if, instead, you boldly loosen your grip and empower others to find a possible solution? It’s not always easy to relinquish control, but it is inevitable at work and in life. Our guest, Peter Docker, shares how to courageously hand over the reins, and empower others to step up and take action. Peter Docker teaches people how to navigate the challenge of leadership in any situation. His latest book, Leading from the Jumpseat, delivers the message that leadership is about lifting people up and giving them the space they need so that, when the time is right, they can take the lead. I hope you love this interview as much as I did and take away some strategies on how you can lead yourself and others better in any situation.  If you do, please share this interview with your colleagues and friends. Also, be su

As a leader, you have the ability to lift up or contaminate the performance and  happiness of your team. Pretty powerful when you think about it. That’s why today I thought I’d share a little known but powerful secret to cultivating your team's happiness, as well as your own. While it’s a simple strategy, it’s also insanely effective. To be able to understand this strategy and use it will help you lift up not only yourself, but others. It has to do with how we communicate and the questions we ask. By asking the right questions, you simplify, clarify, redirect and drive yourself and others to higher levels of performance and happiness. That’s the power of a question. It has the ability to change everything! Grab a notebook and pen because I’m going to provide you with five specific questions that you can use to lead yourself or your team in challenging and uncertain times. They matter because the answer to these questions will inform and upgrade your next decisions and actions.  If this episode is helpful for

Can you identify one place where you feel irritation, resentment, or even a mild annoyance? This could be at home or in the workplace. Ask yourself if the exchange of energy, whether it be time, money, mental or emotional labor, is equal. If it’s not equal, ask yourself what would make it so. When too much energy is expended in one direction, for example, to a boss, client, team member, spouse or child, the energy exchange gets out of whack. This imbalance of energy is a result of boundary issues and is often the source of more unhappiness and unrest in relationships than most individuals are aware. I’m sharing one of my favorite tools with you today that will be your remedy for over-giving and undervaluing your energy whether that’s in the form of your time, money, expertise, or emotion. When you use this tool, you will be amazed at the restored vitality, freedom, and productivity you will feel almost instantly. Your relationships will improve as well.  If this episode is helpful for you, please share it wit

I have a challenge for you. What if for the next two weeks, you set your alarm clock 30 minutes earlier than you usually do? Then using that time you build in a ritual that will physiologically and psychologically position you for a day of increased excellence, productivity, and joy. Are you open? Waking up early is the first step towards creating a life-changing morning ritual. But the morning ritual isn’t just any normal routine. It’s one that will deliberately position you to increase and capture your best ideas and to reach exceptional levels of energy and productivity. The kind that masters of their art, true teachers and extraordinary leaders reach. If you’re wondering what to do during this early morning time, I have a 5-step method for you to follow that will fuel your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well being for the day ahead. It’s simpler than you think, but it requires you to say yes to the challenge. Imagine how it will feel to do your greatest impact work before most even begin their

If you’re burnt out and realized that you’re compromising your well-being for the sake of business outcomes, it’s time to take action. It’s time to have a constructive conversation with your boss because nobody knows how much you can, or can’t, manage if you don’t tell them. Your boss needs you to speak up and ask for what you need. Chances are, they will be glad that you did. I’ve done the leg work for you by putting together the five parts to a strong and rewarding conversation from beginning to end. I also provide the exact words you can use to position yourself as the responsible high-contributor you are. Follow these guidelines and you will be equipped to navigate this conversation with confidence so that you are given what you want and need to return to yourself (or better) again. Show Notes: https://www.ritahyland.com/tell-your-boss-youre-overextended Connect with Rita on Instagram @rita_hyland_coaching

A wise man once said, you can't give $1 If you only have 50 cents. In other words, you need to put yourself first before you can step into the next phase of your life. If you want to make 2022 your best year yet, you must first take the time to do what so many don’t. That is, getting clear on your personal vision and getting it down on paper. I want you to begin to envision the future that you want for yourself, and for your leadership. This may not look anything like your present, and that’s okay. Writing down your vision is a journey in itself and one that will give you clarity about who you want to be and where you want to go next. To jumpstart and simplify this process, there are three practical questions to ask yourself. Who do you want to be? What gives you a sense of purpose at home and at work? What would you ask for if you knew your success was inevitable? By the end of this episode you will know how to get around the five biggest pitfalls that stymy even the best visionaries so that you can get your

2022 is already trending as the year of the breakthrough. After the last two years there is a pent-up demand in our businesses, workplaces, and personal lives, for meaningful change and breakthroughs. How long have you been waiting to breakthrough in an area of your life or business?  A year?  Two? More?  Can you and I agree that right now is the EXACT right time for you to go all-in with confidence on the desired change you want for your business and personal life? There’s good news. All that you need to have the breakthrough that you want already lies inside of you right now. I’m going to provide you with five little-known strategies that will position you to break through what has previously held you back so you can go beyond your current upper limit and make the impossible possible in 2022! Show Notes: ritahyland.com/podcast Connect with Rita on Instagram @rita_hyland_coaching

Imagine right now how satisfying it would feel to be fully present in a conversation with a friend, coworker, or child. Imagine being completely focused on what that person is saying to you rather than thinking about what you have to do next. If feeling distracted, spinning or anxious is familiar to you, it’s not surprising. For most people, it has become the norm. In fact, we are in an era where being ungrounded has become a global epidemic. But here’s the thing -- it doesn’t have to be. There are several ways that you can get out of this hurried, hustling, ungrounded state and shift to a calm and centered one. When you begin a daily grounding practice, you are able to remain calm, clear, and focused even when everyone around you is not...and your connection, productivity and influence will increase! So stop the spinning. Add a daily grounding practice so that you can build and experience your breakthrough year! Show Notes: ritahyland.com/podcast Connect with Rita on Instagram @rita_hyland_coaching

A new year is quickly approaching, and that transition is always accompanied by resolutions and action plans. But wait! Before you rush into creating a new plan for your future, it’s crucial to take a pause and give reverence to the year behind you. Completing your year in this way is an opportunity to reset and refresh before you begin anew. This process is simple -- but don’t mistake that for insignificant -- and will help you acknowledge your many wins and avoid repeating any mistakes you’ve made. I’ve done this for myself, and my clients, year after year after year and the insights are guaranteed to surprise you. I have condensed it to a simple and powerful four-step process that you can try out before you start your planning. You wouldn’t put a cake in the oven before adding the flour, and you don’t want to start planning for the 2022 you want before adding this important ingredient either.   Show Notes: ritahyland.com/podcast Connect with Rita on Instagram @rita_hyland_coaching