Curious Conversations About Sex

In a conversation including consent (for a change!), safety, techniques, and the psychology of the way different people learn, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Aerie, from Blue Velvet Arts, who runs accessible and fun workshops on kink and communication in Melbourne, Australia. Beejay, from Eagle Leather (in Abbotsford, Melbourne) – for all your […]

Does sex denial work well as sex education?  Can you rely on what your schoolmates tell you in lieu of sex education? When did you first learn about ‘consent’, and that some of what had been happening to you was ‘non-consent’? Was it embarrassing, when you realised that what you’d learned from porn was partly […]

What follows is a very special conversation about Vaginismus, from the very personal perspective of three people with direct experience of the condition.  Their stories are at times focussed around practical solutions that have worked for them, but mostly the therapeutic and interpersonal nature of their experience.  They’re not claiming to be experts on the […]

This is one of the great myths about sex – that our sexuality is essentially a wild, out of control beast waiting to consume us whole, the moment we let it off its leash.  We have been taught, from so many places, to keep it locked down and not explore our interests. Which begs a […]

This conversation takes in aspects of sexuality that are important to everyone, but especially relevant to those of us that are aging (or planning to do so in the future). Topics range from body positivity, to theoretical constructs around sexuality, to beautifully frank and specific suggestions and strategies. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by […]

Why is violence suddenly meant to be okay if someone’s wearing a ball-gag?  What’s misogyny / misandry play?  How does slut-shaming fit into all of this?  And is this going to be another conversation ending in a discussion about consent? To answer these questions, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Aerie, from Blue Velvet […]

“My partner and I used to have sex, but not anymore, and I’m not even sure I want to, but I do still love them; any advice?” What happens to sex that started out so wonderfully, but then trails off into the distance?  Does that pattern happen to everyone?  Is the solution to accept the […]

“I hate my body.  I can’t stand to have it seen naked with the lights on.  How am I ever meant to have sex?” To answer this most vulnerable of questions, Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Cath Carter:  Renowned sex therapist, counselor, and couples and singles coach.  Cath has been in the field […]

The team deserves a gold star for just defining this complex issue! What follows is loads of great advice about the subtleties of the interplay between a dominant and their submissive – or is a submissive, and their dominant? This conversation scrolls through everything from bratty behavior to the possibility that submission is not appropriate […]

…Not that there’s anything wrong with that! But yes, if you need it to be about more than simple hedonism, then we’ve got your back.  It’s about self-development, it’s about relationship skills…  It turns out, it’s even about politics and war and peace. To explain how, Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Anne Hunter, a […]

Rog: “It was such a delight to tackle this very difficult question with Lorraine and Charlotte. Their perspective and insight and willingness to feel the humanity of the issues was relieving… special. The world is a better place for their understanding and willingness to engage”. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Lorraine Pentelow – […]

In a conversation that ranges through loneliness, privilege, group conflict, and having your sex acts taken out of context, this is one rollicking topic! Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Barbara Carrellas – World renowned author, workshop therapist, coach, adviser and speaker. Barbara has written many books, including the revolutionary ‘Urban Tantra’ and ‘Ecstasy […]

In this juicy episode, the topic of regaining trust after abuse is approached both theoretically, and with some very personal stories. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Anne Hunter, a relationships coach and polyamory specialist, in Melbourne, Australia (yourrelationshiptoolbelt.com). Niyati Evers, a psychotherapist and counsellor from Portland, Oregon (alchemy-of-eros.com). Curious Creatures can be found […]

We all have bodies.  We all have expectations on what we’d like from our bodies.  And we all have to deal with the fact our bodies don’t always do what we’d like. Vaginas that aren’t wet enough, or wide enough…  Cocks that don’t get hard, or that come too soon…  Are they trying to tell […]

How come the word ‘ritual’ comes up in relation to sex and bdsm? Ask some sex-positive kinksters, and you’re going to get some interesting answers… What’s the difference between routine, and ritual?  How does that potentially hinder or boost your sex life? And what exactly have y’all been getting up to in your spare time? […]

What’s the difference between a sex-worker, a sex-therapist, a sex-surrogate, and a sex-coach? …They all involve sex and money, right, but where’s the line between one thing and the next?  How do you know which one you need?  Can you have all of those services in one professional, or even one session?  And why don’t […]

What is Tantra? Is it some ancient mystic sexual artform, or a modern twist on kink?  Perhaps a hybrid love-child of the two? And how does non-binary gender, the beauty myth, and protocols around safer sex fit into whatever tantra is now? For some great perspectives (that are probably slightly biased towards modern takes on […]

Can you teach touch? Why are some people able to touch you perfectly, and others not?  Can the latter be taught? If so, how…  exactly? Rog (from Curious Creatures), Lorraine and Charlotte tell you all their secrets. Lorraine Pentelow – a very compassionate and trained Sexological Bodyworker (a modality that brings sexual theory and touch […]

This is a question that almost all sexual partners face at some stage.  It can be stifling and hard to know where to start, however there are some really doable and time-tested solutions from these sexuality experts. Rog from Curious Creatures is joined by: Barbara Carrellas – World renowned author, workshop therapist, coach, adviser and […]

What can I do about my protruding inner labia? With labiaplasty one of the fastest growing medical procedures, this is a topical question.  Listen, as a few body-positive sex educators tackle the problem. Rog, from Curious Creatures, is joined by: Lorraine Pentelow – a very compassionate and trained Sexological Bodyworker (a modality that brings sexual […]