Love Life Connection

Bonus - I'm sharing some bonus episodes I think you'll love between now and when I launch my new show in the fall! First up - a deeper look at why I transitioned into my business. It's been brewing for a long time, plus a vulnerable share of what's been going on for me behind the scenes. Enjoy! Links: InstagramTikTokRun Your Money Newsletter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re expecting a new child, it not only changes everything but it also presents a new opportunity. Being in the dating and relationship business since 2015, I’ve released well over 300 episodes of the Love Life Connection. A couple of months ago, you heard me announce the addition of a second part to my business (relating to money). And at the time, I thought I’d be doing both. But I’ll be on maternity leave for the birth of my second child... meaning that this podcast will be paused. However, when it resumes, things won’t be the same. In this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll learn about what’s changing with the show (and my business). I’ll tell you everything you need to know about the rebrand happening behind the scenes and how it all affects you. 3:19 - Why this episode feels like a full circle moment 7:01 - My relationship to money and the link between relationship red flags and money fears 9:53 - One thing some law of attraction/money manifesting teachers get right 13:07 - The direction

The high vibe versus low vibe obsession in the self-help world makes me want to throw up. People-pleasers and those who want to take the high road all the time usually act that way because they’ve been conditioned into this whole high vibe/low vibe idea. It’s a misinterpretation regarding positive energy and positive thinking. But it can lead to a lack of boundaries that leaves you feeling really drained and resentful because you’ve trained people to expect you to always say ‘Yes’ to whatever they ask of you. So if you struggle with boundaries, are a people pleaser, or think you need to be high vibe all the time, then you're really going to relate to my client and caller Irina’s situation. She’s feeling the pressure of staying high vibe, and it’s created inner turmoil and stress when she’s triggered by people who don’t respect her time and energy. In this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn how to respond when others hurt your feelings and exploit your lack of boundaries when you’re tryi

Money in your relationship will come up eventually, whether you want it to or not. When you get ready to move in together or buy a house, you’ll have to decide how you’re going to pay the bills and who’s financially responsible for what. Or one of you might want to put something in your name because one person has good credit while the other doesn’t. But must you have your financial situation in order before you start dating? That’s not a question with a simple yes or no answer. So in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn about what I think you do and don’t need to have, financially-speaking, before you date. Along the way, I’ll use examples of how me and my husband do things financially to help illustrate what I’m talking about. 4:11 - What you don’t need to have financially before dating or getting into a serious relationship 9:47 - The foundational piece you must have before you’re really ready to be in a serious relationship 11:41 - Having your own financial system in place around

You’ve heard so many cliches about change--“change is good,” “change is painful,” “be the change you want to see in the world,” and on and on. When it comes to relationships, though--especially the long-term kind like marriage--the “ideal” (according to society) is of stability, both externally and internally. The image of the home, the 2.5 kids, the dog, and the white picket fence has become a cliche itself, as has the idea of couples growing old together and doing the same things they’ve always done. Not everyone desires that path, though, nor does the path or destination to a long-term relationship (in whatever form you want it to take) have to be conventional, either. You may be able to relate to my old client (and past podcast guest) Antoinette. She last appeared on the Love Life Connection a couple of years ago and since then has gotten a part-time job that takes her around the world. But she feels the lack of a stable, physical address and the internal changes she’s undergone in the meantime makes it h

There’s always something going on in pop culture or the news cycle relating to love and relationships. And for the fourth episode of the month, I usually pick a topic from one or the other, analyze it, and share what I think it can mean for you. Today on the podcast, you’ll hear me draw from both the news and pop culture wells. The New York Times recently published a piece on couples’ sleeping situations, and Chelsea Handler made a choice that Tucker Carlson and company don’t like very much. And both of them touch on some pretty controversial matters that illustrate a shift in attitudes from more traditional ways of doing things. So in this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll learn about the NYT article claims regarding the bedroom situation for couples and why I disagree with a couple of their conclusions. You’ll also discover the underlying reason for Carlson’s angry reaction to Handler and why it should actually thrill you. 8:30 - What the New York Times article claims and what me, my husband, and

Many women relate to their Bumble account similar to how they relate to their bank account, or so it seems. They don’t want to look at it and are even afraid of logging into it. It touches on core wounds around worthiness and value; they’d rather do something else. In the same vein, lots of people have misunderstandings when it comes to investing. They think it’s only for rich people or really risky. But it doesn’t have to be. My caller today, Laura, wants to know how to start investing her money. And while she’s based in Europe, anyone in the world can benefit from our conversation because a lot about your relationship with money doesn’t change regardless of where you live. In addition, you'll discover some similarities between how investing works in the U.S. and other countries. So in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn where to start investing, the difference between retirement accounts and investment funds you can choose, and how to start building your own portfolio. I’ll teach

There’s a problem with a lot of dating and relationship stuff you see on platforms like Instagram... You’ve probably experienced that light bulb feeling when you resonate with a piece of advice you see online. But you need to apply an extra filter when scrolling through a social media feed, watching a Youtube video, or listening to a podcast episode. When someone posts something that makes you go “Ah-ha!”, do you ask yourself: Does this apply to me at all? Or does it apply to me in my specific situation right now? A lot of the time, there’s nuances that the content creator doesn’t (and in some cases, can’t) account for which might make their advice inapplicable to you and your circumstance.  But how would you know that for sure? In this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll discover three caveats to the usual relationship advice offered out there. I’ll tell you how to know whether or not something applies to you (and why even what I share with you on this show or elsewhere has caveats to it, too).  Alon

You can’t exactly replicate someone else’s experience. You have viewpoints, skills, weaknesses, and other things you bring to the table that differ from everyone else. But listening to others who are willing to share their story about what did or didn’t work for them can reveal a nugget you can pull out and apply to your situation. That’s why I’m so excited to have one of my very first clients ever, Katy, on the Love Life Connection podcast today. Through her sharing her story on this episode, you’ll get a glimpse of what the internal process can look like when I coach you through your dating struggles. And ultimately, you’ll discover just how close you and “the one” might be right now. 1:18 - A big announcement and how it’ll affect working with me in the short-term 18:17 - What Katy’s love life looks like right now and her emotionally unavailability at the beginning stages 25:31 - Why inner child work was still necessary for Katy despite her good relationship with her parents 28:29 - How Katy met Brian (and

What’s your money story? Do you feel anxious whenever the topic of money comes up in conversation? Does everything seem too expensive to you? Do you scoff at the very idea of investing because you assume you can’t afford it or think it’s too risky? Do you spend every penny when you get it or feel guilty when you spend even on necessary things? If you’re still playing out a money story that doesn’t serve you anymore, then any spending, saving, or investment plan you come up with will most likely backfire. You’ll have a difficult time sticking with it. But you can always create a new money story for yourself, and in April you can join in on my two-part masterclass designed to help you do just that. In this episode of Love Life Connection, you’ll get a little preview and learn how budgeting puts you and the wealthy on the same level, why investing your money can be simpler and less scary than it seems, and ways you can give money (beyond charitable contributions) and earn more money on the side. 9:14 - A recap o

We’re living in a swipe right, swipe left world. Online dating sites have existed since even before Match.com became a thing in the mid 1990s. But now? New dating apps aren’t just popping up all the time, they’ve gotten niche-y with it too! In addition to the mainstream ones, you can find dating sites based on a religion, others for farmers and other rural area dwellers, etc. Whatever demographic you can think of, a dating app probably exists for it by now. Recently, Pew Research Center did a study on online dating in the U.S. that I found interesting and want to share with you. In it, they discovered 12 key takeaways, some of which aren’t so surprising while others definitely caught me off guard. I won’t talk about all 12 due to length of time. But in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn six of the key findings Pew discovered about online dating in the U.S. and what they might mean for you and your love life. Even if you’re not from the U.S., you’ll still want to listen to this epis

Romantic comedies, dramas, novels, soap operas... we access so many things where we see the idea of having a soulmate come into play. And as soon as “the one” appears, the relationship just clicks and everything is perfect. Or is it? How do you find the balance between passion and having a healthy relationship, if one of those criteria is lacking? Today’s caller has a history of being in toxic relationships and starts off the call asking how you know when a relationship is right. But almost immediately, the real question she wants answered reveals itself.  1:14 - My opinion about the whole soulmate concept that relieves the pressure 6:47 - The real question underneath the caller’s question 9:24 - The difference between the two ways you can have sex 14:42 - Can a healthy relationship also be an exciting one for the caller? 20:25 - How to effectively approach a difficult conversation with your partner 22:52 - Why sex in toxic relationships can oftentimes feel like an addiction 25:24 - The importance of making a

Ever feel like there’s something missing in some area of your life or that you’re meant to be doing something else? Perhaps you’ve been in it (whatever it is) for a while but have had this nagging feeling that there’s a piece you could fit into the puzzle to make it even better. Or you want to change things up a bit because it’s become stale. The answer to your biggest nagging question can often be found right in front of you. I love doing relationship coaching. But I’ve been feeling like there’s something else to do in my business for the last six or 12 months, at least. I didn’t figure out what, though, until a sudden realization hit me on my birthday last December. So there are changes coming to Love Life Connection. In this episode, you’ll learn about what it is, how the idea for it came about, why I’m pursuing this, and what you can expect to be different from now on. 2:05 - What sparked the change coming (and how it contradicts something I’ve said on this show) 12:09 - The astrological connection betwee

What do the law of attraction have in common with Christianity? You’ve probably run into the law of attraction idea of “attracting” circumstances, events, and people into your life based on your beliefs or “vibration” or whatever. Even if what you’re consuming isn’t specifically about the law, it can’t help but pervade personal growth spaces the same way Judeo-Christian standards pervade society even if you don’t identify as Christian. And this plays a part in a big misconception about inner child work (or personal growth, in general)-- the idea that doing it makes you invincible to problems. If trouble arises in your relationship, for example, then it’s because you didn’t do enough healing and still need to work on yourself. But there’s only so much work that inner work can do. And this brings me to today’s coaching call on the Love Life Connection podcast. Laura doesn’t like who she’s been attracting in relationships. So she wanted to know how she can be better as a partner without sacrificing too much of h

You just found out the person you’re dating is going through a divorce that hasn’t been finalized yet. Do you pump the breaks on it? And if so, could you actually be convinced not to? Talk about a hot take! Obviously, not everyone feels the same way. For many people, though, this situation is an immediate deal breaker, and you might be one of them. (In fact, many of my clients agree; I’ve got the DMs and emails to prove it). But if you find yourself in this scenario, unless there are other red flags in your relationship, it’s at least worth thinking about from a different perspective. It might even surprise you to know that open marriages are quite common, including among people you’ve definitely heard of. In this episode of Love Life Connection, you’ll learn the story of billionaire investor Warren Buffet’s open marriage and the benefits of staying married even after the love is gone. I also talk about red flags to beware of if you’re dating someone in this situation, as well as the business of marriage and

Paige is no stranger to doing the inner work. She’s done A LOT of it! When she and I started working together, she’d been in therapy for a while, but her love life wasn’t changing the way she wanted it to. She needed something extra, and she found it through Love Incubator. Now, Paige is here to talk about the work she did through the program. In this episode, she reveals how the work I taught her through it helped her finally release past hurt, confidently get back online, and deal with fear and rejection differently. 8:41 - Where Paige was stuck when she decided to join Love Incubator and how she healed herself 15:31 - Other things that have shifted for Paige (and how the lockdown helped her) 21:35 - What you can do vs what you can’t, even in the midst of a pandemic 23:40 - What being a part of the Love Incubator group was like for Paige 28:42 - The one hesitation Paige had before joining and what she’s grateful for about the experience 31:46 - What the Love Incubator program is all about and how to join I

As a Capricorn, I have an innate love for personal finance. I can nerd out and consume things like investing, budgeting, saving, paying off debt, and more for days. But I also believe that we relate to money the same way we relate to the people we date. In fact, we tie our worthiness to these things, especially women. So how are they similar, and how do you decouple your self-worth from your finances and your love life? In this episode, I talk about the connection between where you spend money and who you date. 9:30 - The investment I used to make while dating and the policy that changed everything 13:50 - A common pattern I’ve noticed in some clients who use the same policy 16:21 - The parallels between your romantic relationships and your relationship with money 20:03 - What happens when you let money control you instead of you controlling it 25:26 - How to get control of your money so that it doesn’t control you 30:39 - A really shitty way to live that some personal finance gurus, nevertheless, recommend 3

There are a lot of great people out there for you to date. And any one of them can mark off all the checkboxes you have in your head or on paper for what makes the perfect match for you. But how do you really know they’re the right person for you? This might be an especially pertinent question you ask yourself if you’ve dated more than your fair share of studs who turned out to be duds. That’s the dilemma that today’s caller, Lisa, faces. She’s actually a former client of mine and in this episode, she talks about what it was like for her before and after coaching and what she’s been able to accomplish through our work together. 9:32 - Why Lisa initially reached out to me 11:21 - The best thing Lisa got out of her therapy and why she still needed coaching help 16:34 - Where Lisa’s at right now and a recent relationship experience that set off alarm bells in her head 21:59 - How Lisa wants to approach her next relationship (and why it might not be what she’s actually looking for) 27:54 - An exercise that can he

I have a deep interest in the political and the personal. I was in the political space before I started my coaching business, and I’ve been interested in personal development since I was little. What drove me in my previous career, in a way, still drives me now: a deep frustration with the inequality of the status quo. I began to see the connection of one’s personal experience with what was going on in the broader picture of society. What is that broader picture? In this episode, I talk about how the recent U.S. midterm reflects a certain relationship dynamic, as well as discuss a recent study about why men feel lonelier than ever before and how that affects heterosexual women looking for a relationship. 2:19 - Why I had to leave working in politics behind and society’s double standards for men and women 9:53 - Republican media response to the Democrat's success in the 2022 midterms and the relationship dynamic it resembles 14:32 - Why young and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in a generation

Nina hasn’t dated anyone in 13 years. Now, she’s beyond scared at the thought of getting back into the dating world. But that 13-year stretch isn’t the real issue... When Nina was last in a relationship, so many things in her life changed--relocating, losing lots of friends, etc. However, things went sour, and she was left to pick up the pieces and rebuild from scratch. So she carries fear from the relationship that sparked her long dating sabbatical. On top of that, Nina has three specific reasons why she has this anxiety about re-entering the dating world. In this episode, she reveals what those reasons are, and I talk to her about working her way up to dating again when she lacks trust and confidence in herself. 7:42 - Questions to consider as you listen to this coaching call 9:04 - Fears that prevent Nina from being comfortable with the idea of dating 11:14 - What drove Nina to make the decision she made in her prior relationship 19:29 - Where Nina can look to build confidence in herself 24:02 - The big s