Beyond Abuse, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Anything

If you experienced abuse growing up you may have learned that the way to express “love” is through judgments, swearing and other unkind behavior that was inflicted on you. How does this impact your relationships now? Do you say things harshly to your loved ones even though you really care about them? Do you create disharmony and separation rather than harmony and communion with your words? If you never learned the language of kindness as a child, you can feel at a loss for what words to use now to create communion rather than conflict. The good news? You can learn the language of kindness and it will empower you to create more loving, harmonious relationships. How is the language of unkindness showing up in your life and relationships? Join me live for my radio show on Tuesday, March 31st @ 10 am PST/1pm EST and discover tools and templates you can use to learn the language of kindness. Live callers will have a chance to receive facilitation from me.

What is the energy of receiving? It is the energy that is required to live the life you desire. It is a way of being open, vulnerable and receptive to all the ways the Universe wishes to contribute to you. Yet it is also the energy you may be blocking if you experienced any form of abuse. What’s the connection between abuse and receiving? How do you know if you’re blocking the energy of receiving? What are the 5 steps to take to unblock the energy of receiving? Join us for our March 24th show so you can clear all the blocks you’ve had to receiving and begin to actually feel more connected to yourself, the Universe, and all the ways the Universe is conspiring to support you!

Do you ever feel locked out of the possibility of happiness? If you’ve experienced abuse, happiness may seem like a pipe dream. You may feel locked into misery (like I was for the first 2 decades of my life) and believe you don’t deserve happiness. Or perhaps you have fleeting moments of happiness and wonder what it would take for happiness to stick around. The good news? Happiness is not a pipe dream. Join us for today’s show and discover 7 steps you can take to move beyond abuse and into the radical aliveness and happiness that is intrinsic to all of us.

Whether you've experienced childhood sexual abuse, physical, emotional, mental, spiritual or financial abuse, you may feel like you're trapped in a cage and living life behind bars. What would your life be like if you freed yourself from the invisible cage of abuse? Join us for this show to uncover the insidious ways your past abuse is repeating itself in your life today. You'll also discover the possibilities that arise when this topic, shrouded in so much shame, is brought into the mainstream conversation. You don't need to be a slave to your abuse anymore. Instead, join us and discover the key to unlocking yourself from the invisible cage you've been living in. Live callers will have a chance to ask questions and receive facilitation in moving beyond their biggest challenges. All who join us for the show (whether live or listening to the recording) will receive pragmatic tools, energetic clearings and inspiration to move beyond abuse and into radical aliveness. Dr. Lisa will also have occasional guest

How many secrets do you have trapped inside of you? Secrets attract shame. Shame attracts silence. Silence is the killer of radical aliveness. Secrets require lies to keep the information hidden so nobody will ever know the “disgraceful” and “shameful” experiences you had. Secrets also become lies you tell yourself like how you’re defective, damaged and deserve to be treated as such. Your secrets become so defended and protected that you begin to believe you are your secrets and are only safe if you keep your secrets locked away. And the truth is, all those unspoken secrets are trapped inside of you and keep your body locked in disharmony. So what can you do to unlock the secrets from your body? And how can you use these secrets - rather than as fuel for your destruction - as fuel for your liberation? Join us live for our show and discover the 8 steps to unlock your secrets. Together, let’s move beyond the lies, beyond the shame, beyond the silence and into radical aliveness.

Questions have the power to unlock you from the invisible cage of abuse. Yet you need to be willing to ask questions to tap into this power. How might your question unlock you from your own cage of abuse? How might your courage inspire another to come forward with their question so they too can unlock themselves from the cage of abuse? When you ask a question and receive facilitation from me you move beyond your own abuse and create the possibility for more people to get free and clear. So what are YOUR questions about abuse? This show is dedicated to YOU. I welcome your calls, emails and questions. Together we are unlocking the individual and collective cages of abuse. Allow your courage to show you the way forward, beyond the silence that has been holding you back. I am here with a hand outstretched to walk forward with you step by step beyond abuse. (I invite you to send your questions in advance to me: admin AT drlisacooney.com)

If having a Plan B in relationship is your back door, what’s your Plan A? And if having a Plan B creates dissatisfaction and dysfunction, what’s possible with a Plan A? What is Plan A? Committing to your own life. Committing to YOU. Choosing YOU. What’s possible when you commit to your own life? When you close the back door, when you let go of your story of abuse and move beyond it, when you commit to you, you step into being the magic you truly be. You create a life and a reality that works for you. What is the biggest block to committing to you? Join us for today’s show and allow me to guide you through the portal that may be holding you back from committing to your own life.

Having a “back door” in relationship is the best way to create a dysfunctional, dissatisfying relationship. It’s an even better way to stay locked in your cage of abuse! What is a back door? Why do we create them? What does it look like? What would it take to close the back door? Join me for today’s show and discover the answers to these questions along with the 5 steps you can take to close the back door. Isn’t it time you closed your back door and allowed yourself the communion you truly desire?

You’re in the midst of sex. You’ve put into practice the 5 steps I shared with you in Part 2 of this series. You’re no longer disappearing during sex. But now, you’re crying… It’s not the release you expected. You were going for primal throaty moans and groans or laughter that would make the angels smile. You weren’t expecting the tears. Perhaps they flow gently down your cheeks, unnoticed by your partner. Or perhaps they burst through you with big sobs that shake your entire body. No matter how the tears appear, I am here to tell you YOUR TEARS ARE TOTALLY OK. It IS OK to cry during sex. Join me on my radio show for a very vulnerable conversation about sex and the intimacy you can create when you’re willing to allow everything to flow.

In last week’s show (Part 1 of this series) I shared how disappearing during sex is a sign that you’re trapped in the cage of abuse. When you disappear you aren’t able to receive the fun and pleasure of sex because you and your needs have become “invisible” (just like they did during abuse). You separate from yourself and your partner; communion seems like a fantasy. You can begin to enjoy sex again if you’re willing to allow your needs to matter. This requires you to choose you. I know this may seem like a challenging thing: to choose you, especially in the midst of sex. So join me on the call and discover 5 pragmatic steps you can take during sex if you find that you’re starting to disappear. These steps will guide you forward in having a new experience with sex, one where you are available to receive the fun and pleasure that is possible.

You’re laying on your back in a most vulnerable pose that is supposed to be enjoyable, fun and pleasurable and ‘slam’ all your stuff comes up. All your past abuse, the actual memories, the “flight or fight” response. You stop breathing, you vacate your body and your past abuse is alive and running the show again. Yet you go through the motions. How can sex be fun and pleasurable if you’re not even there?! If you’re wondering, “What’s going on?” “What’s wrong with me?” and “Will I ever enjoy sex?” know that you’re not alone and there are other possibilities available to you! Join us for this show and discover pragmatic tools for tapping into the fun and pleasure of sex. I’ll also share some other kinds of questions you can ask that will actually support you in experiencing the kind of sex you’re looking for! What will you choose that is kindest for you and your body and YOUR SEXUALNESS?

Relationships can be a joyous and pleasurable communion or a stifling and suffocating experience of separation. brbr What keeps you stuck in separation? brbr The “inventions” you create - stories about what is going on in the relationship that aren’t even true. These inventions keep you from experiencing the true intimacy you desire. brbr Why do you create inventions? What are the 4 signs you’re inventing your relationship? And how do you stop inventing your relationship? brbr Join us LIVE for our revolutionary show and uncover the inventions you’re creating so you can move beyond separation and into the sweet space of communion.

Are you at war with your body? Do you judge your body? Do you override your body’s cues and requests? Do other people’s needs override your needs? If you experienced any kind of abuse, you believe it’s “normal” to make other people’s “grinding pedantic needs” more important than your own. That’s where need becomes a limitation instead of a possibility. All my January Radio Shows are dedicated to supporting you to experience the Joy of Embodiment. RESOLVE to go beyond the abuse of your body! Will 2015 be the year you stop the war against your body? What might this do for all bodies on the planet? Join me Jan 6th for the creation of being the demand for your body’s harmony as we continue with the global beyond abuse revolution!

Let’s talk about weight. The extra weight you’re carrying on your body. The extra weight you judge every day; every time you look at yourself in the mirror or feel the tightness of your jeans rubbing against your belly. How is the extra weight connected to your past abuse? Why don’t resolutions work? What would it take to release the weight? Join me for a radical conversation about weight so you can move forward into the New Year with a new appreciation for your body.

In the last show you discovered how to get unstuck from the cycle of “forced receiving.” In today’s show you’ll discover another possibility beyond that: seduced receiving. So what is seduced receiving? And how do you embrace it when seduction may seem dangerous? Seduced receiving is essential in order to invite into your life all that you desire. Join me for this radical conversation and discover how to embrace seduced receiving just in time for the holidays. Isn’t it time you be the gift you’re truly here to be?

When you experienced abuse you were forced to “receive” something you didn’t wish to receive. You experienced “forced receiving.” How does this past experience impact how you give to others today? Have you gotten away from forced receiving or are you actually repeating the cycle? If you’re trapped in a cycle of forced receiving you’re actually giving to others what they cannot receive. As a result, you’re setting yourself up to be rejected in every area of your life: relationships, business (clients, promotions, money, etc.), health and beyond. Join us live and discover how to identify if you’re still trapped in “forced receiving” and how to shift out of that and into another possibility.

Just like the “quills” of the invisible porcupine point outwards and keep everything in life (love, money, clients, etc.) at a “safe” distance, they also point inwards and keep you from coming forward into your own life. At some point, perhaps a long time ago, you learned it wasn’t “safe” to come forward. In your attempt to escape your abuse, or tell someone about your abuse, you may have disconnected or dissociated. Either way… you went away from yourself to try to keep yourself safe. The most painful thing about all of this? You’re living your own life at a “safe” distance from yourself and never fully receiving the beauty and potency of YOU. Join me live for my radio show and receive facilitation to move beyond these quills and experience yourself in ways you’ve only ever dreamed possible.

How often do you get prickly when someone comes towards you? I call it being the “invisible porcupine” and know this well myself. Once upon a time the world wasn’t safe for you, so you created these quills as your best attempt to protect yourself. Yet just like you hoped the quills would keep your abuser away, they now keep love, money, clients and all else at a “safe” distance. What stories have you told yourself about receiving that have you keeping the quills up, armed and ready to defend? Join me live for my radio show and together, let’s look at the story you’re living that created the quills. Only then can you remove these quills and begin to receive the life you desire.

Kindness can be foreign to you. Generosity could feel awkward. Gratitude may feel burdensome. Love might feel dangerous. brbr All of this: kindness, generosity, gratitude and love (along with fun and play) are who you actually are before and beyond the shock and trauma of your abuse. brbr Yet just like files on a hard drive, they got replaced during and after your abuse with hypervigilance, control, rigidity and dominance. brbr How do you update your “hard drive” and replace the old files based in abuse with these new files? How do you rediscover the gratitude for you, the kindness of you, the love of you, once again? How do you move beyond your abuse?

Living with abuse is like living with blinders on: you move through your days only able to see what’s wrong, what can’t be done, and how everyone and everything is against you. brbr Sounds painful, doesn’t it? brbr Yet when you’ve experienced abuse, these blinders become a safety net; a way of controlling your life. So the pain is tolerated. brbr Is it time for you to take your blinders off? Join us for the show and discover how to do this in the kindest, most honoring way for yourself. And discover what’s possible when you live life beyond the blinders...