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Spoke to a local mom here in my hometown and she reached out because she saw an infographic about signs of mental and emotional exhaustion.  And let me tell you, she is far from being the only one out there! We could go a number of ways with this episode, from sleep to stress to lack of connection with friends or even your spouse! But really what it comes down to is a disconnection from self.  Ignoring your needs.  Ignoring the warning signs and pushing them aside until you can't push any more.  And no matter what, once you disconnect from yourself, you start to lose it all. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources

Positive and negative reinforcement, good and bad consequences, good and bad rewards and punishments. We are all motivated by different things.  Some people run away from bad, and some run towards the good. As a health professional and coach it's important for me to understand what motivates a client's behavior.  And to help them transition from their current state of pain (whether it's physical pain or the pain of their current situation), I need for them to see the risks and benefits and to promote one to help them leap towards (or away) their goal (or from punishment). And for each and everyone of us.  You have to ask yourself, "why am I doing this?  why do I care about XYZ?" And if you can answer that, you can see if you're in the trap of wanting approval from someone else, or avoiding the punishment from another, or really just living the life that YOU want. Unfortunately, with social media, we are encouraged over and over again to seek approval in the form of "likes" or Reddit points, or shares/retweets

Related Links: Coaching with Me? Try “The Experience” Hall of Fame Dads Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the Commit and Go Podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher. Tell a friend about the Commit and Go Podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Thank You! ~Coach Troy

I have mentioned working with Wake Up Warrior with Garrett J White many times on my podcast, but here is an example of how I used their teachings in my life and in creating a legacy with my kids. Each and every day, my kids are expected to invest in the following areas of their life:  Body, Being, Balance, and Business.  That's the adult version, for them, I say: Body, Spirit, Family, and Education. When they accomplish it each day, they earn a reward of their choosing from a short list:  screen/tech time, treats, dates with mom or dad. They are also working towards a long term goal of participating in a Spartan Race this Summer.   So, in this episode I interview my wife and get real feedback about how this has helped them gain confidence and momentum in their own lives.  And that's the point, how can we purposely help our kids create momentum for their days.  So far it's working for us and I hope it can help you too! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Synd

There is no someday.  It doesn't exist.  In fact, it's this terrible lie that we are being sold every day of our lives.  From social media, credit cards, gyms, church, and yes even coaches and doctors like myself. You're being sold that some day, you'll finally be able to... have fun, relax, play with the kids, enjoy golf, have sex, go on vacation, lose weight, and just smile about how great life is. And it's kind of depressing to think that this isn't true.  But that's only because you're so focus on that some day that you're forgetting you have find that today. The purpose of your life is not to lose weight and pay bills.   And it's not to spend your life in misery to work for someone else's dream just to squeak by. It's happening right now.  And you get to choose to wake up and create that fun right now.  Right now.  And it's not easy at first.   In fact, it's really freaking hard to look at the chaos in the moment and see the beauty in it.  But you have to.  You have to save yourself right now. Have fun w

No one wants to have some perfect role model leading from a mountain top.  They made it and they did the work and have arrived.  Sure it sounds great in theory and it looks damn good on social media, but everyone knows that those guys are so far ahead (however they got there) that it's almost unattainable for us regular folk.  I believe that yes you can get to that point, but it's hard to grasp such a leap. Instead, most people really do well with a leader that is only a few steps ahead.  They are doing the work at the same time; helping you see that you are indeed not alone, but among friends and that you'll conquer this together. One screams "look at me" and the other says "come with me". That's how I coach.  I have figured out a few things and hope you come with me. And furthermore, I hope that you pass it forward and help even more people go with you. It's time to stop thinking that you have to be this perfect image of success before you can help others.  Why on earth would I wait to help someone that nee

After we set goals, we have all sorts of momentum and inspiration until a disaster or bad day hits us.  Most of the time we trash the goal!  We didn't do this in school during a test and so I encourage you to look at life like a test.  Have a tough question?  Finish the test anyways! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Isn't it frustrating? Year after year, setting the same goals and intentions . And sometimes we have a small taste of success, but 87% of us fail our resolutions each and every year. Why? Because what we are stressed, we resort to old habits. This is important to own. Because, no matter what, disaster will strike, big or small, and you will want to quit and go back to old comforts. And by knowing this, you take back your power to CHOOSE. What is doubly hard, is that the old habits die hard! You can make those cravings fade, but they never die. You have to constantly reinforce the new. Ask any addict. Now when we do fail, that's when things really get Spivey. The guilt after causes us to go into full meltdown and instead of getting right back up, we feel like failures and beat ourselves up. This continues until we rally and then recommit to this game of perfection. And round and round the cycle goes. How do we fix this? Your coach or trainer will help you see through your stories. Otherwise, two options. 1. Se

We have values and beliefs that have been handed to us. We can choose to keep these or adopt new ones. What do you think we usually do? Some that I have heard and some that were given to me. Some good and some bad: To be successful, you have to go to college. The more you do for others, the more they will do for you. Rich people got that way through greed. Don't put your eggs all in one basket You will get everything you want if you work hard enough. If you have sex, you will have a baby or get an STD. If you're a good husband, your wife will want to have sex with you. Crying is Weak What about health? Or, how about 'if you can buy it, it must be safe?" What about your ideas about God? Where these given to you or did you choose? Take a look at your values and stories and make sure they actually serve you! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If

Here's your chance to jump on or GTFO. While a main purpose of this time together is to have some fun and wash off some of the grime of having a family and just life in general. There is a greater purpose here. MEDIOCRITY is killing us. Wake up and be real. No more filters, no "perfect life" on facebook, no competing among the other parents for the best snacks, but we need to be reminded that it's perfectly great to be authentically you. Refilling your cup and therefore passing that power of authenticity to our kids as well. Because right now. Our kids are getting sicker and sicker - life expectancy is actually dropping and childhood cancer is getting more and more prevalent. We are more obese than ever before, more in debt, and more in depressed. Whether you coach with me or someone else, or you listen here and run with it yourself - we are talking about getting REAL results. I want you to look back a year from now and really be amazed with yourself. I want you to feel compelled to share this message by shar

In my last episode, I opened that I came to the realization that this podcast sucks! So, let's talk about why I actually think that, and it's about my content I share. What is the whole point of this podcast? Or listening to a podcast in general, especially a daily one? Here are my theories for why we invest time on anything actually: Results There is is, so here is how I'm going to actually deliver now: I need to drop this need for you to like me. I need to polarize you. To either drive you towards action or drive you away. Think like a magnet, only the ends attract or repel. I'm going to invoke emotion with you. You are not always to going to like it. I am done with being light on truth and impact, I want to provoke you. That's how we grow! Pattern interrupters. We use this to make change in our lives. Now normally, we wait until something drastic happens TO US (heart attack, finances, bankruptcy, divorce, spiritual warfare). Well, instead of waiting, let's search it out. An easy example of how we d

Backstory I have listening to my podcast to really try and improve. And this is important to do. In fact, just like sports teams and athletes will watch game tapes, it's important that we do the same. It's the fastest way to improve your performance and therefore; results. It allows us to study ourselves without the emotion attached. So, I listen and I wanted to puke. But it's easy to tear yourself apart. It really is. Changes are being made; so let's talk about HOW I did this. I have been tracking my performance in more and more areas of my life. It started with my health and now I'm starting to track in almost every area of my life. By tracking, we start to look at facts and bring more mindset and intention to these areas. As a chiropractor - videotaping my exam, my consult, my adjustment, and also practicing with my staff about answer questions and educating my clients. As a parent - talking with my wife after our kids have a tantrum and discussing how we handled things. As a spouse - this was the hardest

Parenting is not for the weak. Cooking, cleaning, bath time, work, driving the kids to practice, church, working out, all while keeping your sanity is no small feat. You’re doing your best and you are not alone.

Parenting is not for the weak. Cooking, cleaning, bath time, work, driving the kids to practice, church, working out, all while keeping your sanity is no small feat. You’re doing your best and you are not alone.

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Crazy how if you really examine the good and bad events in your life, there is always some higher lesson. This happens to you to.  In fact, there is a process to learn how to examine a previous event and figure out why it triggered an emotion and actually find a life lesson from that experience. Interested?   Hit me up and private message me to learn more. Other source?  Byron Katie's "Loving What Is" also goes through this process. But first, back to today's episode. My wife was headed out of town with two of our kids.  With a baby, any trip is not exactly easy, so I was trying my best to handle any and all issues.  Checked tires, filled the tank, emptied the trash out (mostly).  But when it came time for her to actually leave?  DEAD BATTERY. Grrrrrr.... There's a lesson in this too, listen in to find out! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If

Backstory I had a work weekend where I shut myself into my office and I "beast mode" until I'm (1) all caught up, (2) finish my old projects, and (3) plan and strategize. This approach honestly sucks.  It's NOT a path to success.  It's stressful having projects hanging over my head.  it's stressful having my bookkeeping wait until I have to do it.   It's not easy on me or my family. I am reminded of doing a bootcamp of sorts for married business men.  It's amazing but one of the principles they taught us was that it is far easier to keep up with the group than to stop and then play catch up. We would hike/march up a side of a mountain.  There were scheduled stops.  But if you lagged behind the group, your break would be super short and overall, you'd have less rest. So, dear listener, I pose to you the question.  Where in your life have you been doing this stop and go approach instead of handling things little by little each day? Most of my clients have done this with their health.  They use and abuse their b

Backstory My oldest daughter has a system.  A lifehack about finding out if it's the REAL Santa or a FAKE Santa.  Because most of the Santas we see out in public are indeed fake and not the real Santa Claus.  This is important to her. So allow me to share just a few details of said life hack.  The beard must be real.  Most are too white and obviously not attached or even real hair.  I mean, c'mon guys. The belly must also be real.  We can tell if it's just stuffing and we can see it in your face.  Fat and jolly, no substitute. Nevermind that you know my name, but can you tell me the name of my house elf. Ummmm what?  How did she even come up with that!?!   The point is, we ALL have tests and standards we use in our every day interactions - to test our safety, our interest, basically some call is a BS detector, women's intuition, gut feelings.  NO matter what it's called, you must honor this feeling.  Honor your barometer that you have enabled to help you out. Ever regret NOT using this?  YOu're not alone, b

I deleted Reddit off my phone this week - here's why.   Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick