Intentional Parenting Podcast - The Show About How To Be A Great Mom Or Dad And Parent With Purpose

Show Notes The older I get the more I come to understand that life is not all about me. It's all about you. By that, I mean, it's about the way I treat you and other people and point them to Jesus. I can't do that well when I focus on myself. In this episode, I look at five short stories that provide a lesson in how we are to treat people. Enjoy the stories and consider how you treat people yourself and what your children learn from that. Many of these lessons point back to what we know as the Golden Rule from Luke 6:31 - And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise. Five Lessons on How to Treat People All People are Significant Unselfishly Serve Others Remember those who Serve Don't Blame Others for Obstacles in your Path Put Others First John 15:13 - Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.

Show Notes In this episode, I sit down with David and Karin Brown to talk about their parenting journey. David and Karin serve in missions with BMW and spent over 20 years in the mission field spending much of that time in South Africa. Enjoy our conversation as we discuss the joys of parenting. Prayer is Effective in Parenting Prayer is much more important than parenting skill 80% prayer and 20% parenting Be willing to commit to desperate prayer for your children Create a Strong Foundation Stay intimate with your God and stay intimate with your husband Be real and authentic Keep your marriage at the focus Keep your personal integrity - your kids watching you Create an Identity as a Team “Cozy Evening” Make home the fun place to be Use family trips as an opportunity to develop closeness Challenges in Parenting The “great stand off" With each new ability comes new independence You can not yield on points of confrontation early in parenting What’s cute when they are young, isn&rsq

Show Notes Fun Times with Dad: Taking the family to see War Room Family Life Oneness Prayer Challenge Swords at the ready! Thrust right! Set your blade! Thrust left— Wherever your edge is ordered! ~ Ezekiel 21:16 (NKJV) ~ How to Ready yourself: Sharpen your sword Prepare your defenses Teach your children to do the same Hold yourself Accountable Reflect Links American Family Association Clerk the Only One Obeying the Law Constitution: Judge Has No Jurisdiction Over Kim Davis

Show Notes In this episode, Justin Ricklefs joins me to discuss how we raise our kids in today's culture. After watching the VMA (Video Music Awards) recently, Justin wrote an article about this subject for the Huffington Post. Listen in as we talk about the question "what is a parent to do with the mainstream pop culture that our kids are in to?" Taking on the Challenge Parenting is a challenge but it is good for us to be aware of what is mainstream so we know what our kids are being exposed to whether it is directly by the shows they watch, music they listen to and websites they visit or indirectly in talking about it with their friends in school or on social media. 6 Ways to Navigate the Culture in Parenting Communicate with your kids about mainstream culture. Don’t ignore it. Equip your kids to filter what is appropriate. Oversee what they are posting and looking at on social media and have conversations about it Be their parent. Intentionally make time with your kids for one-on-one time. Ask quest

  In this episode, I talk about what it is to be a man of God, particularly regarding the issue of taking initiative. We need to teach our sons to become men of God.   Fun Times with Dad: Hoedown Throwdown with Emma     1 Corinthians 16:13-14 - Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.   Act Like Men: 40 Days to Biblical Manhood by James MacDonald   Being Watchful Leads to Change: 1. Being Watchful - being on the alert leads to... 2. Initiative - taking initiative leads to... 3. Action - taking action brings about... 4. Change   In episode 035, we talked about the Ashley Madison list:  This list was partially built on the backs of passive Dads. This list was primarily built on the backs of passive men who chose not to step up to Courageous manhood to become the man God calls us to be.

Show Notes In this episode, I talk with Dr. Brian Dixon about finding hope. After millions are exposed on the Ashley Madison list, there are many who may wonder, "what do I do now?" If this is you, we discuss the steps you can take in finding hope in the power and blood of Jesus. This doesn't have to be the end. This can be the beginning of restoration. John 8:3-11 GOOD NEWS:  There's another list. It's called the "Book of Life". Revelation 3:5 says, He who overcomes shall be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot out his name from the Book of Life; but I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels. The blood of Jesus is able to cover even this sin, IF you humble yourself before Him and ask forgiveness. Next Steps in finding Victory: 1. Humble yourself - repent, admit your sin and turn to (or back to) God 2. Ask Forgiveness - from those in your life that you hurt by this (wife, children, family, etc.) 3. Seek help and Accountability - consider biblical counseling 2 Corinthians 1

Show Notes Fun Times with Dad: Recently our family went to the Indianapolis Indians minor league baseball game. It was the perfect night for baseball in which the Indians won in extra innings and my son wound up with the game winning ball!   In this episode, I discuss “Yes” moments in parenting. “Yes” Moments are moments your kids shine for Jesus. They are moments of significance with your kids. Moments when you rest in the joy of just being together, be it family time or one-on-one time.   Commit to the Parenting Role 1. Prepare for the task 2. Understand the priority of the role of parenting 3. Regularly invest time in your kids   Book Recommendation: 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers by Ken Canfield  

Show Notes Fun Times with Dad: Let's go Ride a Bike How to Help Your Kids Get Back into the School Routine 1. Review the Week’s Schedule Plan for the activities Assess the schedule for activities that may need to be dropped Your kids need help planning an organizing their time 2. Help Them Prepare a Morning routine   Getting to bed at the same time each night, getting up the same time each morning 3. Help them Make Time for Personal Devotions Start the day with God’s word <— YOU NEED TO MODEL THIS AS PARENTS Youth ministry should not be the whole “pie" of their spiritual nourishment The best youth leader for your child is YOU!

Show NotesFun Times with Dad: Playing baseball in the backyard with the boys.Event: Biblical Parenting Workshop: Tech EditionFor details and to register go to www.intentionalparenting.net/BPWChoosing FriendsHe who walks with wise men will be wise,But the companion of fools will be destroyed.~ Proverbs 13:20 ~“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” - Jim RohnLink - G6Five Thoughts on Friendship1. Follow Jesus' model “We should learn from Jesus that the essential quality in the heart of friendship is not the desire to have friends, but the desire to be a friend.” - J.R. Miller2. Pray for your kids - to have wisdom in discernment in choosing friends wisely. 3. Talk to your children - about being the influencer in the relationship. 4. Be hospitable - Make your home the place others come to visit. The righteous should choose his friends carefully,For the way of the wicked leads them astray.~ Proverbs 12:26 ~5. Develop friendships among your children

Show Notes Cody Collier is a singer/songwriter, DJ with WFRN, husband and dad. Earlier this year his wife Ashlie had a baby girl. This experience didn’t go quite as expected and Cody shares his story of God’s faithfulness through this experience. In March of 2015, Cody's wife, Ashlie, began experiencing complications with her pregnancy. This resulted in her having to spend five weeks in the hospital on bed rest. Their daughter, Piper, was born on April 30, over two months before the due date. Cody opens up about this experience and what they went through as a family. Links http://www.codycolliermusic.com/    

Show NotesBart Rinkenberger is simply trying, as many of us are, to be an intentional parent. Bart recently took his four sons on a backpacking trip to Colorado. In this episode I talked to Bart about this experience. He tells us what he did to prepare for the trip, provides some great stories about the trip and shares insights for how you can also do a similar trip with your kids.1. Be Prepared2. Execute3. ReflectLinksG6

Show Notes In this episode, Heather and I continue our conversation talking about some of the decisions God has led us to in our parenting journey. If you missed part 1, you can find it in episode 028. 1. Kids Activities There seems to be a lot of pressure to involve your kids in a variety of activities from preschool all the way through High School. We have chosen to limit the number of activities our children participate in because we didn't want to put ourselves in a situation where the kids' activities dictate our priorities. 2. Homeschool Started in 2010. Heather is SAHM (Stay at Home Mom) and shares our story on our decision to homeschool our kids.

Show Notes Fun Times with the Husband and Wife: On the night of this recording, we got dinner out together while the kids were  occupied by Mary Poppins. Spit spot! In this episode, we start a two part series where Heather and I talk about some of the decisions we were intentional in making along part of our parenting journey. Choices We’ve Made in Parenting 1. Cutting Cable out of our Home About ten years ago, we decided to shut off our cable. We don't have DISH or DirectTV or anything either. We do watch some shows via the internet. This decision came as a result of attending family camp to allow more time for us to serve the Kingdom more than ourselves. 2. Vacationing to Family Camp We love Gull Lake Ministries family camp. (You can hear about it on episode 006 of our podcast.) GLM is great for all ages. It provides solid Bible teaching, a safe environment and includes a planned-out agenda. We enjoy the opportunity to detox from the culture and unplug from the world for a week. 3. Serving in Min

Show Notes In this episode, I talk with Scott Goldsmith, Financial Advisor with Ronald Blue & Co. Scott shares some great advice on how to think about stewardship and ownership and provides wisdom on how to intentionally teach our children about stewardship. "One of the most important things is to help kids understand their stewardship responsibility and God’s ownership responsibility." - Scott Goldsmith Stewardship Principles to Follow The importance of having goals (Proverbs 16:9) Avoiding the use of debt (Proverbs 22:7) Increasing generosity (1 Timothy 6:17-19) Diversifying your investments (Ecclesiastes 11:2) Links Financial Peace University Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey Ron Blue & Co.

Show Notes On this episode of the podcast, I interview Brian Sutter. Fundamentally, we have a hard time with connection and building meaningful relationships. This often brings pain and struggle. As a Mental Health Therapist, Brian is walking through the hurts and challenges with different individuals. Be purposeful in building connection with your kids when they are young (1-3). Some Goals Related to Technology: No screen in the car for <30 minute drive 2 hours/day of screen time Setting blocks on the phone Create a Roadmap for your Child's Need in their stage of life. Roles of Parenting Servant: In the early years (birth-2 yrs) mom and dad's role is that of servant. You are building your connection with your child and primarily serving your child's needs. Authoritative: From ages 3-12, parents need to step in as the authority. It's likely this is being developed earlier but at this age your children really begin to understand your authority and their boundaries. They need it and they probably want it b

Show Notes Knowing what to do in parenting isn't always straight forward. Sometimes you get into situations where you don't know what to do. In this episode we discuss five steps you can take when you don't know what to do. Fun Times with Dad: Taking Alex to get his drivers' license. There he goes, shifts into gear and he’s on his way Just learned to drive, turns sixteen in a couple days and oh how time flies, didn’t I just take off his training wheels now he’s got a car to show off to all the girls - from “Learning to Let Go" Five Steps to Take When You Don't Know What to Do Talk to Your Spouse Seek Counsel from a Trusted Friend, Counselor or Pastor Read and Meditate on the Bible Take Action Monitor and Reassess the Situation "A godly father teaches and motivates his children." - Andy Majorins ...as you know how we exhorted, and comforted, and charged every one of you, as a father does his own children, that you would walk worthy of God who calls you into His own kingdom and glory

I always made parenting a priority. I remember hearing the horror stories of men who would become a slave to their jobs and careers and have no relationship with their kids. They work long hours to “provide” for their family but fail to provide the one thing they really need…a father’s love.

Show Notes Fun Times with Dad: Jamming with Nolan. Your kids are your biggest fan. They watch what you do and they try to imitate it. They are proud of you even though they may not know how to articulate that to you. In this episode, I discuss one realization I made to this fact […] The post 023 – The Most Toughest Thing on the Planet appeared first on Intentional Parenting.

Show Notes Fun Times with Dad: Teaching Alex to Drive There are many benefits of having a routine, both for you and your children. In this episode I discuss three of these benefits and how our family has benefited from routine. Granted, we do need balance and need to be flexible enough to roll with […] The post 022 – Three Benefits of Having a Routine appeared first on Intentional Parenting.

Show Notes Fun Times With Dad: Taking Nolan to work with me. It seems almost ironic as I record this on Memorial Day, the day we set aside to remember all the soldiers who gave their lives for our freedom. Men, fathers and sons gone off to fight in wars for our country. Today, the […] The post 021 – A Reality All Their Own appeared first on Intentional Parenting.