Fear Not: Living Beyond Your Fears

These past few years have been difficult; it has exposed us to our limiting beliefs—the ones telling us we’re supposed to sacrifice and struggle to reach all the necessary life milestones. But basing our goals on the milestones of past generations or living under our family's limiting beliefs isn’t acceptable to us anymore. Information and theories on change are plentiful. Still, we will never create meaningful and practical changes in our lives without action. But how do we do that? Listen to my conversation with Erin Baute and Sandhya Sudhakar as they discuss how.

Merrian-Webster dictionary defines Self-Doubt as, "a lack of faith in oneself : a feeling of doubt or uncertainty about one's abilities, actions, etc." So, self-doubt occurs when we lack confidence in ourselves or feel incapable of doing things we need to do from making our dreams come true. So where does self-doubt come from and how do we move beyond it? Listen in as I share two major influences on my continuing journey of self-identity, Neville Goddard and Rev Ike. I also share a song by The Staple Singers from 1971 that will help you to cast off the source of your self-doubt this week.

As Allan Watts said, do you see yourself as a victim of the world, or do you see yourself as the world; do you believe in life's “possibility” or “impossibility”? It’s not always easy to move beyond the difficulties of your life (we all have trials and tribulations), but there is a way out of them, but it isn’t what you think; you’ve been taught the wrong way to get out of them. Listen in as Sabrina Victoria reflects on her journey of transformation, both in herself and the circumstances in her life, and what it took to make that happen.

If you don't let go of your grip on fear, you won't change; don't get stuck in group dogma because you'll stop growing. If you want transformation in your life (confidence, included), you need to stop reaching for the "fix" of spiritual practices instead of embodying the spirit you’ve always been. Listen in as Madhur-Nain Webster returns to the show to discuss this topic.

When we go through very stressful and challenging things in our lives, if we are not careful, we can reinforce limiting beliefs about ourselves, our lives, and how the world should be. Going through trauma can actually release our orthodox beliefs of guilt, shame, and negative thought patterns. So the question becomes, how do we do free ourselves from our habit of clinging onto the things that prevent our growth and expansion? Listen in as Benita Conde returns to the show to discuss this very topic.

Are you giving more weight to how other people think you should be, how you should be living your life? If you allow them, others (family, friends, society) will shape your self-image and beliefs according to how they need you to be; a self-serving act, mainly because they don't want to feel uncomfortable with you shining brightly. So how do you let go of the limited identity that others have created for you and live wholely as yourself? Listen in as Madhur-Nain Webster returns to the show to discuss this very topic.

I am firmly convinced that when people tell you that happiness isn't sustainable, it is because they have never really experienced it for themselves. So what does happiness look like? How does it feel? How do you make it real in your life? Thích Nhất Hạnh said happiness is available now and that we should help ourselves to it. But how do you do that? Listen in as I share my recent experience learning to accept and dwell in continuous happiness.

Everyone tells you that you need to listen to your inner voice, follow your intuition or internal GPS, reach your goals, follow your passion, be confident, etc. However, most don't realize that your inner voice is negatively programmed (the blind leading the blind). So what are you supposed to do? Listen in as I share my experiences in understanding what your small still voice truly is and how you can use it to believe in yourself finally.

Why do we allow fear and self-doubt to control us? Because others do? If we know we can create our realities with our thoughts, why do we still create experiences of limitations and failures? Because we were told to believe in impossibility? Listen in as share my experiences in understanding what true freedom is; how we can live our lives in the way we choose because, after all, all things are possible to those who believe.

Your prayers, dreams, and visualizations won't become a reality if you doubt that they won't come to pass, or if you beg for them. So how do you make your dreams of success, happiness, or whatever you are desiring become real enough that you are actually experiencing them outside of your imagination and desire? Listen in as I discuss what I have learned on this journey so far.

We all get caught up in comparing our journeys with another's; we determine our self-worth on that comparison. It is a deadly trap to fall into. That is unless we are willing to respond to a different narrative, a different perspective, a human consciousness, but without diminishing our own unique hero's journey. Listen in as my friend Oleg Lougheed and I catch up and share his shifts in perspectives after his recent travels in Ghana.

You become what you think about; there's no way around this – it's everywhere, from all ancient stoic thinkers, spiritual wisdom, and yes, even quantum physics. So how do you stop allowing fear and self-doubt from keeping you stuck in a cycle of guilt, shame, low self-esteem, and hopelessness, and move into a state of confidence and possibility? Listen in as I discuss my understanding of the Divine creative power we have and switch it from creating our nightmares to our dreams.

I get it! The world tells you that meditation is about silence, no thoughts and that you must do it every morning in a prayer position; RULES AND REGULATIONS are what they are selling, period! As Buddha instructs, meditation is the way to become aware that you are The Quantum Observer and the power that brings. And as 2004 Nobel Prize recipient Frank Wilczek stated, "God plays a deep yet strictly rule-based game which looks like dice to us." So what does this mean? Listen in as I answer fellow Phoenix Pooja Panchal's question about mediation and Quantum Observation.

Why do we give all of our power to negative thinking? Why do we feel guilt and shame when we realize that we have been thinking negatively? I am sure you have heard the expression, "Fear is a liar." The truth is, it isn't, and it isn't something you need to be afraid of because there is another way. What do I mean by all of this? Listen in as I discuss the culmination of 9 years of research (and personal application) into fear, self-doubt, and negative thinking.

How do you court blind faith? You simply notice that doubt as a judge that wants to keep you in your Old Story and answer it with faith in the New Story. You acknowledge that there are forces at work you cannot see that could be helping you, showing you a new way, giving you hope. Bob Litwin, the author of Live The Best Story Of Your Life, returns to the show to help further explain how you can leave your past/Old Story behind and step into the unseen future of your New Story and not give up.

Do you think you are the only one suffering under the control and power of fear, self-doubt, lack, impossibility? I know I did 9 years ago; it's the reason I created this podcast 6 years ago, to bust that myth wide open. But how do you actually break free from the grip of fear, to release fear and step into your self-confidence nature? Yes, it isn't easy in the beginning to do, but I will share with you my experience of how it has been done throughout all time because it is the same for everyone. Listen in as I answer a question from fellow Phoenix, Shawn Gibson, regarding understanding I Corthinians 10.

Transforming our self-image is a process. A process that more often comes gradually, which isn't always agreeable with our conditioning of seeking instant gratification. But as the Buddha expression goes, that which grows rapidly, withers just as quickly. So when the appearance of "failure" in our individual transformation produces thoughts of guilt and shame, how do we view things in such a way that doesn't hinder our growth? Listen in as one of my favorite guests, Madhur-Nain, returns to the show to discuss this very thing!

It doesn't matter what has happened to you or how big of a mess your life is. If you begin today to repeat over and over the beliefs you want to believe in, they will become a reality for you. But how do you practice this so your affirmations genuinely become a reality for you? Listen in as I discuss the Claude M. Bristol quote, "Repetition of the same chant, the same incantations, the same affirmations leads to belief, and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."

Is the fear of the unknown keeping you from your dreams? Is the voice of doubt whispering in your ear, "How is that ever going to happen for you? It's possible for others, but you?!" How do you know which way to turn? How do you leave your past behind you? How do you live out your dreams in confidence and freedom? Listen in as I answer this question from listener and fellow Phoenix, Angela Smith.

Toxic Positivity, what a mess! How do you deal with negative thoughts when you feel the pressure to think positive all the time, especially when you know that we become what we think about? How do you deal with the overwhelming guilt and shame that we feel when we realize we have allowed negativity to creep back into our minds? Listen in as I answer this question from listener and fellow Phoenix, Tanya Fraser.