Modern Manhood: The Podcast

ADS:Daveberta Podcast - https://daveberta.ca/Alberta Podcast Network - https://www.albertapodcastnetwork.com/Taproot Edmonton - https://edmonton.taproot.news/NEWSRemains of 215 children found at former residential school site in Kamloops, BCCatholic church has not apologizedCanadian gov’t has dragged their feet on TRC and actively fought survivors in court. Continues to fight Indigenous people when it comes to drinking water, reparations for Res Schools/sixties scoop, land rights, climate change, and more…GENDER -Native Women's Association leaves national MMIWG action plan process, calling it 'toxic and dysfunctional'-- creates own plan: Our Calls, Our Actions https://www.cbc.ca/news/indigenous/nwac-mmiwg-action-plan-1.6047671https://www.nwac.ca/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/NWAC-action-plan-FULL-ALL-EDITS.pdf“There can be no more aspirational documents. There can be no more playing around the edges of this genocide. The next steps must be concrete, actionable, costed, and quickly put into effect. We know what t

Modern Manhood cannot be done without the wonderful people of Next Gen Men and the Alberta Podcast Network. Logo done from Arcade Studio in Calgary, AB. This episode includes Dr Rob Weisskirch professor from CSU Monteray Bay and many wonderful parents. Modern Manhood team includes German Villegas, Remoy Phillip, Samantha Nzessi, and Danny Perez. 

The first ever episode we did experimenting a new format of Cold Takes, right to the people in the Inner Circle. The Inner Circle is part of the NGMenbership and with this you will get to hear the live version of this show recorded Thursday May 13th, and also get to ask questions during it. We also introduce Danny Perez of @orejapeludapod talk about the masculinity media, as well as finding out what makes a language gendered (especially French, English, and Spanish). We also announce the start of the season for Modern Manhood.

Today I give you a little treat, a discussion myself, Veronika from Cold Takes, and Evan from @kinolefter had about the movie "Promising Young Woman." I'll also describe to you in audio form what is going on behind the scenes at Modern Manhood. I hope you enjoy and please leave us your comments on the movie below!

It's a long one folks, but what better way to recap what has been an eventful and stressful year than to do our annual recap with three time host Jake, and Cold Takes co-host Veronika. We recap the biggest events this year and what are our takeaways from it.

Spiritualists and spiritualist groups will have their say in most of men's conversations. Groups who use spiritual practices and wildman Jungian archetypes to try to solve this notion of the broken man. We give them too leeway, and we don’t critique them enough. Because these groups for decades have been defending an idea of gender essentialism and use ideas that have been shown to be ideologically biased, sexist, and naive of what we think of as the modern man. Links: - https://jezebel.com/king-warrior-magician-revisionist-the-enduring-masc-1845215969 - https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/02/books/review/revisiting-jill-johnstons-critique-of-robert-bly-and-iron-john.html - https://realitysandwich.com/18481/masculine_spiritualities_and_problem_patriarchy/ - https://www.houstonpress.com/news/naked-men-the-mankind-project-and-michael-scinto-6587139 - https://thepowermoves.com/king-warrior-magician-lover/

In this episode we talk about how porn affects how we see women and sexuality, and getting deep (no pun intended) about how other people view porn. As well, we have our thoughts on the American Election, President Elect Joe Biden and Vice President Elect Kamala Harris. Links: https://reason.com/2018/01/11/the-performative-feminism-of-kamala-h/

A lot is riding on young English soccer players to bring back glory not only for their country but for their town and club. Because not only are these players excepted to do well, they are expected to be exceptional. This is the story of the young players of England through the lens of Marcus Rashford and Raheem Sterling, which is a mirror to the young sports loving men of the world. To ask them, who is your enemy? And who is your prodigal son?  Links: - https://www.bbc.com/sport/football/54689623 - https://www.joe.co.uk/sport/man-city-pay-tribute-after-the-death-of-former-youth-player-jeremy-wisten-254000 - https://www.joe.co.uk/sport/cast-adrift-how-football-is-failing-released-academy-players-254047

Veronika is busy this week, so we invite Jake Stika, Executive Director in Next Gen Men(nextgenmen.ca) to talk about the upcoming American election as well deep diving into our new favorite TV show "Ted Lasso" to explain the positive masculinity in it. Links: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2020/10/23/trump-is-playing-the-man-card-according-to-new-documentary/#21d1e2c86ee9 https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/10/joe-biden-hunter-kiss-masculinity.html https://www.theringer.com/tv/2020/8/14/21367994/ted-lasso-apple-tv-jason-sudeikis

The dress code is something we have discussed before but just casually, and I just keep thinking what is the big issue with the god damn dress code, why are we spending so much time on it, and why do people have so many different opinions on it. Well let me tell you that the dress code IS a big issue, because it’s a window to how our society treats women, men, our bodies, and our decency.  Articles used: https://www.racked.com/2018/7/2/17519874/dress-code-duct-tape-enforcement-violation https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/news/a44798/boys-wear-skirts-protest-dress-code/ https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/montreal/boys-in-several-quebec-high-schools-wear-skirts-to-protest-dress-code-1.5755570 https://noworegon.org/issues/model-student-dress-code/  

On this episode of Cold Takes, Veronika and I go into what it means to have gendered role models as we reflect how we grew up noticing gender (including school dress codes). We also talk about the death of RBG and try to gingerly walk around the controversy of the movie 'Cuties.'

Today we're joined with Garrett Carlson from https://dudefluencer.com/ to talk about his ex career, the one of teaching and what made him leave. His frustrations which mirrored my frustrations. This will be the first of a multi part series on the Education System. 

On this week's Cold Takes, we take a look at what is the slippery slope that can make a socialist or leftist movement unwelcome for women and people of color. We also dive into the politics and masculinity of the documentary "Boys State" https://gen.medium.com/the-lefts-misogyny-problem-3fc37eea6e0e https://medium.com/mel-magazine/advice-for-the-bro-left-from-an-og-socialist-dd45572305cd https://www.vice.com/sv/article/yvekng/how-to-spot-a-brocialist-the-guys-with-righteous-politics-but-dodgy-attitudes-to-girls https://www.vox.com/identities/2017/10/24/16503462/dsa-women-cumtown-chapo https://www.amazon.ca/Women-Race-Class-Angela-Davis/dp/0394713516

One of the biggest pet peeves I have when I read or look at things about gender, is the amount of assumptions we make around what makes a man and what makes a woman. How many times have you heard the word or phrase: “Men’s brains are like this and they think about sex all the time or they think about being the protector because that’s how they were born to be because of their real life masculine brain.” So in this episode we’re going to find out, are men really cavemen? And why essentialism is a slippery rope Links: https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2017spring/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different.htm https://forge.medium.com/how-i-finally-got-men-to-talk-about-their-feelings-in-therapy-cddd48b0af4c  

In the latest episode of Cold Takes, we'll investigate what masculinity has to do whether you wear a mask or not. As well we go deep into what universal basic income is and how it can be a project worth fighting for. Masks and Masculinity -  - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jul/03/covid-19-masks-men-masculinity - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-gender/article/toxic-maskulinity-the-link-between-masculine-toughness-and-affective-reactions-to-mask-wearing-in-the-covid19-era/8753DA181D76C7D59D6712C8F0C666E7 - https://www.nbcnews.com/think/video/masks-and-the-modern-man-liz-plank-on-what-covid-19-can-teach-us-about-manhood-89344581761 UBI - https://www.versobooks.com/books/1847-four-futures - https://pfd.alaska.gov/ - https://www.nationalgeographic.co.uk/history-and-civilisation/2020/05/universal-basic-income-is-gathering-support-has-it-ever-worked-and  

In the midst of the bigger conversation about Black Lives Matter, Abdul Malik sent me a message about something he has been thinking about for a while, the intersection of his culture within the ever-presence of toxic masculinity and white supremacy. The intersection of race and masculinity is real, and we’re here to talk about it. You can find Abdul Malik at abdulmalik.com or on Twitter @socialistraptor

Today Veronika has a special treat in which she will share with us some findings of Sexual Violence awareness campaigns she's learned. As well we talk about the Male Happiness Scale and what really makes men happy (Hint: It's Jobs). Research on Sexual Violence Amy R. Baugher and Julie A. Gazmararian: Masculine gender role stress and violence: A literature review and future directions Carline, A., Gunby, C., & Taylor, S. (2018). Too drunk to consent? Exploring the contestations and disruptions in male-focused sexual violence prevention interventions. Social & Legal Studies, 27(3), 299-322. https://www.doi.org/10.1177/0964663917713346   Silver, N., & Hovick, S. (2018). A schema of denial: The influence of rape myth acceptance on beliefs, attitudes, and processing of affirmative consent campaign messages. Journal of Health Communication, 23(6), 505-513. https://doi.org/10.1080/10810730.2018.1473532    Resources on Sexual Violence SACE I am with you  Jeffrey Epstien documentary Catch and Kill Athle

The Murder of George Floyd has sparked an international wave of reconsideration and doubt over many things. Many things that we may have considered as normal. The main one has been around the idea of policing. What does policing look like in the modern world? And is it broken? And do we even need it? Questions that not only question the role of one of the most established institutions that we have, but questions that break open what systemic racism looks like in the US, Canada, and throughout the world.  Most importantly, I have to recognize that this has been a cultural moment that started in the US. So I wanted to speak to people to John Morrison (@John_Liberator) and Josh Indy Leidy (@Indi_SRS) about not only the wave shift, the idea of police abolition, but also their fight to remove a Philadelphia acknowledgment of Frank Rizzo. 

Two Weeks ago, George Floyd was murdered in the streets of Minneapolis. George Floyd, a black man whose body was treated like nothing, was killed by a police officer, while three other police officers stood by. All of this was caught on camera as another example of police brutality against black people. Ever since then, the cities of the world and especially in the US have exploded with protests, calls of action, calls for reform, calls for resignations, and calls for systemic change. I invited two people who will be able to speak on their experience living as black people here in Edmonton. We will talk about what’s it like to be black here, as well as invite them to share their thoughts about the moment in America and here in Canada.

Today on Cold Takes, Veronika and I talk about the Joe Biden sexual assault allegations, and the problem of partisanship within the #MeToo movement. As well, we will talk about the crappy neoliberal history of social work.