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In this episode I cover the Appendix - Parenting Styles: The Relevance of Culture, Class, and Race in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Love is both a feeling and a needCollectivistic cultures tend to minimize or even disfavor self-interest and self-actualization, which leads to repressed feelings, e.g., of resentment and depression When parents spank children, they inflict pain and induce fear in them, i.e., fear of parental "authority," which sends a really confused and contradictory message to them about their own individuality and choice--and it perversely mixes notions of love with violence. Basically, violating the rights of children doesn't help them flourish. Lenient parenting methods are just as lopsided as punitive parenting methods. They don't teach children respectful ways to express feelings and get needs met, while meeting the needs of others. It's important for parents to express their

http://libertopia.org http://libertyontour.com http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/stolen_concept,_fallacy_of.html promoting intrinsic motivation: trust children, and they will learn...http://summum-bonum.org/ no matter who you vote for, politics (government) always wins http://www.meetup.com/LeewaySudburySchool/ http://completeliberty.com/viii__objective_law.html Taking on the California DMVhttp://www.youtube.com/hotforliberty#p/u/32/41ZY5LSDEZA Parenting with Naomi Aldort - S.A.L.V.E. Formulahttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFlPe14SuAY Five Principles of Libertopia1. All actions should be peaceful and voluntary2. Honor the self3. Rule yourself4. Live and let live
5. Community of Spontaneous Order by Larry Ludlow...http://www.freedomsphoenix.com/Magazine/098621-2011-10-29-libertopia-2011-four-days-in-the-freest-place-on-earth.htm bumper music "California" by Semisonichttp://www.semisonic.com/ to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697

In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/empathy An assortment of helpful nonviolent communication resources I've compiled (2MB download of PDFs)http://dl.dropbox.com/u/7585370/NVCcompilation.zip Our culture has a tough time with the idea of self-centeredness, similar to the notion of selfishness; Ayn Rand helped clarify:http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.htmlhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/contradictions.html You are your highest value, first and foremost, which enables you to see others as their own highest value--thus, neither sacrificing oneself to others, nor others to oneselfA world of selfless people is not one in which people are getting their needs met A profound way to explore your inner-self, especially your child-self--The Art Of Self-Discoveryhttp://www.nathanielbranden.c

Agora I/O - the online liberty unconference...http://agora.io/laozi/schedule/http://agora.io/laozi/archives/Libertopia - an annual festival of peace, freedom, music, community and ideas that will change the World...a 3-day celebration of our individuality and diversity in sunny San Diego...http://libertopia.org/In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Happiness is our highest moral purpose, so it's vital to know what it objectively requireshttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/happiness.htmlOut-of-context happiness (e.g., ignoring the ills of statism) is just as disconnected from one's true self as the unhappiest depressionPunitive parenting and punitive governmental actions tragically go hand in handThe commonly misunderstood ethical terms...http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.htmlhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/altru

In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punishedWhenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs metAs humans, we all have the same needs: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventoryAnd feelings are universal as well:http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventoryThe all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their

In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast to other primates (and all other organisms)Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animalhttp://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosap

In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/The process of administering rewards and punishments doesn't treat individuals as equals; authoritarian power imbalances are inherentSound property rights enable jurisdiction, whereas "public property" enables constant injustices by the coercive (and communistic) monopoly of statist police and courts About Ian Freeman's unjust incarceration and the nature of the system of injustice...http://freekeene.com/2011/08/11/what-can-you-do-when-you-dont-approve-of-police-actions/The practice of self-acceptance is a key component of self-esteem, of embracing one's fundamental worthiness, being fit to existThe Six Pillars of Self-Esteemhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=35Unschooling: What is Deschooling?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9meP3a64MzY"Authority,

In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Some of Ayn Rand's views on love...http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html Life is what you make of it; your sense of life essentially colors your experiences yet doesn't alter objective reality; no one's needs ought to be sacrificed in the process of living happily Nonviolent communication is truly a language of life, essential for adults and children--for familieshttp://cnvc.orghttp://nvcworld.com Instead of offer criticism, strive to complain effectively...http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/12/73-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-1/http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/20/74-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-2/ Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook to compassionately connect you with your own child-self, among

In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/bringing parents and children together...http://takingchildrenseriously.comParental rationalizations for coercing children are quite similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing "citizens"we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of lifehttp://www.logicallearning.net/libertyourownima.html"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're right.'" Kohn p.211"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as though they were already motivated by those values. They thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213It's

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Inc.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Jobshttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Wozniakhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pirates_of_Silicon_ValleySecrets From Apple's Genius Bar: Full Loyalty, No Negativityhttp://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304563104576364071955678908.htmlhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Storehttp://blogs.computerworld.com/18157/samsung_blatantly_copies_iphone_ipad_apple_sues?uaVideo: Jobs Pitches New ‘Mothership’ to Approving Cupertino City Council | Epicenter | Wired.comhttp://www.wired.com/epicenter/2011/06/cupertino-jobs-ufo-building/http://dvice.com/archives/2011/06/a-first-look-at.phpThe question that must be asked of those in "city governments" (or any is "government") is: what would you do in a free market, in the absence of your coercive organization?And how can liberty activists help them answer that important question?The pervasive distrust in humans to make beneficial and helpful choices for themselves and others is directly reflected in co

In this episode I cover Chapter Six: What Holds Us Back in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ We learn various costly ways of conditional and controlling parenting via: -What we see and hear, especially from our family and friends and advice from media figures and doctors -What we believe, especially societal views of children in terms of their perceived lack of capabilities and the widespread acceptance of control through competition, conformity, punishment, religion, and notions of parenting permissiveness, authoritativeness, and authoritarianism -What we feel, in terms of projecting our own emotions and behaviors on kids stemming from our own unmet needs from childhood and the myriad psychological defenses arising from them -What we fear, such as inadequacy, incompetence, powerlessness, being judged by others, our children's safety, and fears of babying and permissiveness, all of which can foster p

In this episode I cover Chapter Five: Pushed To Succeed in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/"Pop behaviorism" or operant conditioning implements punishments and rewards as a way to get people to do things--in violation of voluntary interaction and property rightsThe essence of statism arises from authoritarianism in the family, denying children's needs for respect and choice (among other needs, such as emotional and intellectual honesty) and appealing to extrinsic motivators rather than intrinsic motivation and reasonA useful resource to learn about the so-called educational system, among other important thingshttp://schoolsucksproject.comGeorge Carlin - "Proud parents" bumper stickershttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxmE2qMbYRUJohn Holt and the world of unschooling, which is respectful of learners http://www.holtgws.com/Being free to make your own choices (instead of capitulating to others' demands) pr

Governments try to prevent individuals from making their own choices, such as where they travel and what work they do--branding individuals with passports and visas facilitates controlling them Nation-states are human farms, which indoctrinate their "livestock" in memes of obedience, submissiveness, and fear of punishment, so that economic parasitism is seen as necessary and proper Lack of trust in individuals is a main reason we have statism, and it's self-perpetuating In contrast, parenting that meets the needs of children--for respect, choice, autonomy, and love--enables a society to flourish without desires for coercion and punishment, i.e., without people trying to control others via government A life proper to a human being requires getting one's need met for justice (among many vital needs) New podcast by my friend Joey Hill, hosted at http://cafelibertalia.com http://asktheanarchist.blogspot.com/ http://www.facebook.com/pages/Ask-the-Anarchist-Podcast/143189079081459 http://www.libertaliafoundatio

In this episode I cover Chapter Four: Punitive Damages in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/The jail and prison system is a case study in punitive damages, wreaking havoc on individuals and our culturePunishment is inimical to individual life and well-being; though it's used as a costly way to control others and "teach them a lesson," it can never foster respect and self-esteemGovernment is simply a manifestation of the punishment model used by parents carried into the public realm; those in government have no property rights jurisdiction (they are neither property owners nor voluntarily chosen--i.e., hired--agents of property owners)Punishment by parents directly undermines a loving relationship with children, sabotaging both trust and respectbumper music "This Is My House" by trance[]controlhttp://www.trancecontrol.com/ to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697

In this episode I cover Chapter Three: Too Much Control in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Australia to refund royalty increases under mine tax (whatever that means)http://www.mineweb.com/mineweb/view/mineweb/en/page72068?oid=123556&sn=DetailProtectionism and taxation are based on economic fallacies as well as legal and ethical falsehoodsWhat Has Government Done to Our Money? by Murray N. Rothbardhttp://mises.org/money.aspMany parents act as if children "don't deserve" an equal amount of respect as adultsit's important to distinguish requests from demands...The Basics of Non Violent Communication 2.5http://youtu.be/OqEVI07WmzMultimately, we can't make anyone do anything; we can only make them wish they had...The Basics of Non Violent Communication 1.6http://youtu.be/ppyawhuroDwMeeting children's need for self-esteem (self-confidence and self-respect) enables parents to lessen their own frustratio

In this episode I cover Chapter Two: Giving And Withholding Love in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Time out from positive reinforcement is a widespread form of love withdrawalMaking children suffer in order to get different behavior from them begets more of itself, and it definitely prepares them for the coercive world of statismThe Condition Of Modern Psychology (explicating many of the ills of behaviorism and lack of philosophical understanding)http://www.logicallearning.net/libconditionofps.htmlMy Years with Ayn Rand - A powerful myth-shattering memoir about one of the twentieth century's most controversial figureshttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_25&products_id=29Rewards are largely ineffective at improving the quality of people's work and learning, and like punishments, they have many harmful resultsIntrinsic motivation, wanting to do something for its own sa

In this episode I cover Chapter One: Conditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohn http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/ Your vision of human nature is basically reflected in how you view children The replaying abusive childhood scripts is common in the adult world--such as government and the memes of statism Bullying story from New South Wales...YouTube - Casey Heynes FULL INTERVIEW on ACAhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-5jktFu4iEVIDEO: Boy body-slams his alleged bully (Bully Interview)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5sTp3Yls-I  The institution of government doesn't meet individual needs for respect and sovereignty  Moralistic thinking (right and wrong) can diminish our chances of getting our needs met from the person being accused and disconnect us from taking responsibility for our emotions Feel free to contact me for a counseling session at wes@happinesscounseling.comhttp://happinesscounseling.com 2011 Liberty Getaway

In this episode I cover the Introduction in the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/The most extreme example of operant conditioning is the domination system of government--individuals are told to obey and are punished if they don't do what they're toldAny political philosophy not based on property rights is bound to deny individual needs for autonomy, justice, choice, and respectThe foundation of a free society is to be found in parents who interact with children in life-enriching ways, who connect with feelings and meet needs for respect and choiceTeaching kids to attribute the cause of their feelings to things outside themselves hinders them (and later, as adults) from taking responsibility for their feelingshttp://logicallearning.net/ResponsibilityForFeelings.mp3 (NVC audiobook segment by Marshall Rosenberg)Please join the revised http://completeliberty.comHere's an instructive forum thread...Home> Public Outreach> How do we educate? (an NVC discussion)http:/

Guest Oliver Heuler from Germany http://heuler.de/ and http://voluntarist.de/ (Google Chrome browser can translate into English on the fly:)Re: FDR 1007: A third way http://board.freedomainradio.com/forums/p/14090/119868.aspx Oliver's handiwork...Obama will resign as president http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxjkatKuwRM http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1837_nonviolent_communication_Roundtable.mp3http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1836_NVC_Intro.mp3Nonviolent communication simply means connecting with feelings and needsNeeds for safety, security, and comfort need not come at the expense of needs for justice, autonomy, independence, choice, and respect Two invaluable parenting books:Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/store/product_info.php?products_id=48andUnconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn http://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/No Contest: The Case Aga

Law-Abiding Citizens Heart Gangsters by Kevin Carsonhttp://c4ss.org/content/2873State of the Police State: more bad cops than good by Garry Reedhttp://www.examiner.com/libertarian-in-dallas/state-of-the-police-state-more-bad-cops-than-goodhttp://www.examiner.com/libertarian-in-dallas/state-of-the-police-state-continuedNo legalized monopoly of coercion in the realm of supposed justice will ever provide justice (coercive monopolies always provide the lowest quality at the highest cost)The domination memes of our culture do not meet people's need for autonomyConnecting with people empathetically enables recognition of these truthsAnarchy vs. Barney Fife by Mark R. Crovellihttp://www.lewrockwell.com/crovelli/crovelli50.1.htmlGovernment can be seen as cannibalization of the human race; it's the main institution that eats away at our opportunities on a daily basis as well as our future possibilities in the marketplaceWhat's So Funny about Put-down Humor and Teasinghttp://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL87.htm The