Tea With Queen And J.

00:00 Intro & updates 04:57 Who is Deanté Kyle 06:52 Men with podcast mics 12:49 How video podcasting is a call back to an earlier podcast era 15:42 The problem 29:42 Jess Hilarious & The Breakfast Club 31:46 Not every transphobe is a TERF 34:50 Jess Hilarious hates “real women” too 41:17 What’s wrong with birth-centric womanhood This episode was recorded prior to Deanté Kyle’s use of a derogatory slur (typically used against Mexican Americans) in an instagram comment and does not address that incident. Reference link: https://www.tiktok.com/@cetosdaughter/video/7515458001906568478?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7214922055941899818 Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon https://www.patreon.com/posts/problem-with-too-132076103?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithq

If you wear clothes this is a Black ass history conversation that you need. Let's discuss. Fashion & style friend's Channél Jordan & Diamond Stylz join us for history, theory & context. 3:05 Pop-culture & fashion in politically perilous times 7:37 Black Dandyism Definitions & Disappointment 15:33 Met Gala theme habits 18:00 Enslavement & Jim Crow vs. the last 100 years 26:44 The exhibit 29:30 Gender 40:28 Corporatism 42:53 Black contributors and the Pharrell of it all 52:05 Respectability & Class 56:47 Sapeurs 1:00:09 Who Understood the assignment Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/met-gala-was-y-129079950?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Before my solo Sinners review, I sat with actor/comedian Chris Lamberth on The Mundane Festival podcast for a fresh-out-the-theater spoiler filled review, and got to cover a few additional themes that were on my mind. We get into the Black British actor debate, church-y-ness and a fear of spirit (we're seeing a lot of that fear in some Christian's negative reactions to the film), Mary's 'whiteness' and more. (Note: The film had just come out at the time of this recording, so I confuse Mary and Annie's name a few times) 6:05 Michael B. Jordan THE ACTOR 10:13 The Black British actor debate 24:09 The world building of 1932 Mississippi 25:02 Lie-max vs IMAX 28:11 Family, Community & Connection 31:44 The importance of movie theaters 34:26 Hoodoo, Anti-Blackness & the Church 38:21 white Mary 44:01 "Revenge" and "life" vs. "death" 53:57 Brotherhood beyond death 57:42 Ranking Ryan Coogler films 1:00:58 Ryan Coogler's unique press run 1:07:09 Why some Christians are afraid of

Let's review Ryan Coogler's original film "Sinners" 4:58 The Great Migration 10:33 Sammie's Salvation 12:27 Why Twins? 15:11 IMAX baby!!!! 17:14 Why do we sleep on Michael B. Jordan? 21:22 What does "Good" vs "Evil" mean to you? 27:15 Music and Spirit 33:24 "The best day" of their lives 37:39 Oral s*x in 1932 38:43 Vampires, cults and persuasion 44:58 Let's talk world building 49:27 That Jonathan Majors casting rumor Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/sinners-spoiler-127335654?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’m self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives. 1:55 Growing up undiagnosed 12:21 What is ADHD? 15:54 Ableism & Stigma 20:18 Symptoms and lowkey hoarding 25:00 Procrastination and executive function/dysfunction 26:55 Diagnoses and medication 33:33 ADHD & depression 36:58 Hormones and ADHD 42:38 Anxiety, depression and environment 49:46 bell hooks and your home 55:59 Getting/hiring help 1:00:11 Love, Limerence & ADHD 1:05:10 Friendship & ADHD 1:10:38 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) 1:14:18 Releasing shame & building community Episode credits, links & resources https://www.patreon.com/posts/icymi-theres-new-126784182?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watc

Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability. 00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund 2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too 5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime 8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones” 10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice 13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent 15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm 17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization let

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy. Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex. Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance. Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/sex-queerness-118518621?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy 4:09 So Diddy is in jail... 6:15 Exhibit

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here! In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t. Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/not-post-shoulda-116836973 0:00 Intro 2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight 5:23 VP Har

In this episode, we dig into why voting or not voting feels different when it’s happening during a genocide. We got a list of questions, What’s behind some of your favorite thinkers' moves during this election season? Could they be closeted voters during this cycle? And how does the need to be liked show up in liberation work? If you’re a Black feminist, womanist, radical, or just here for the liberation convo, this is for you. We don’t spend much time on Trump (or, as we call him, “the demon”)—our lives are bigger than what white men try to do. But we do get into the big names: Mayor Eric Adams (aka NYC’s chief rat), VP Kamala Harris’ biracial identity, Obama, and his cousin Pookie. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/election-episode-114786447?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Dri

On episode #309 . . . So, it’s been a long ass minute, but we’re back, well kinda. . . we explain it all in this episode. Still, the womanist race nerds you love, figuring out life in this white supremacist cesspool of a planet. We get into where we have been, how we have been, what kept us away, and what rest means 3 years into a global pandemic. We also dip into an old review we did of the Max documentary Tina vs. her 1993 biopic. The Queen of Rock n Roll passing was heavy, so going back to our discussion of Tina Turner’s life as a Black woman in entertainment, feels good. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! Episode Timestamps: Where we been?: 00:48-14:09 What we been doing?: 14:09- 23:23 Throw back Tina Turner clip:23:23-52:24 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! Watch us on Strange Fruit: Part 1: https://y

On this episode… bell hooks, one of the greatest thinkers of our time recently passed away leaving us to explore her legacy and its impact on our intersections of Black womanhood. Our friend and activist Diamond Stylz joins J. this week to discuss Blackademia, the reality tv icon Nene Leakes (it’s important!), and to reflect on Insecure and an era of television that will be referenced for years to come. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: we fvcking survived 2021, pay Black Transwomen Inc., we bingeing The Witcher, possible awkward C*sby show reference, bell hooks, street feminism, “femininity”, Laverne Cox, “problematic” but “important” questions, Nene Leakes and navigating grief & trauma on the blogs (she in these streets with a new boo all quick!), that Insecure glow up, Diamond is tired of Lawrence’s shit, J. might be lowkey #teamlawrence and ready to fight Nathan, and more about Kelli Libat

On this episode… Single and “childless” (there’s gotta be a better term for that) - Why you shouldn’t (or should?) ask people about their parenting status. Then we get litigious about Black hair, and we finally talk about Dave Chappelle Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: talking reckless to Vivica A. Fox, sh!t people ask women with no kids, Medical drawings and white supremacy (for real), spa etiquette, wtf is a legacy exactly, can a triggering question be a good question, Jeffery Thorton and the CROWN act (them lawsuits hit different), a wellness check on Dave Chappelle and mad other ish Libations: 7:17 Donation Libations: 17:08 Affirmations: 19:32 The politics of being grown and “childless”: 20:28 Moment in Black Hair: 53:54 Dave Chappelle, the not so great Bokeem Woodbine: 1:07:58:00 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover T

On this episode…Season 2 of the series “Love Life” just wrapped on HBO. It’s got us pondering Black Love ™ versus the swirl; covid and the great white awakening of 2020; and Black masculinity, monogamy, love, and sex Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: Shout out to boundaries, and good family time. J. investigates how a really white show turned into an example of representation behind the camera, Black male characters and the “good guy” trope in film and IRL, When Black love ™ gets silly, interracial dating, marriage, divorce, threesomes, code switching and do people even use condoms anymore? Content warning with timestamps ahead. There is a miscarriage in episode 6 of the series. We discuss this from 1:36:50-1:38:30 Libations: 3:16 Donation Libations: 9:00 Affirmations: 12:32 What is Love Life: 16:58 The “good guy” trope IRL: 36:51 Interracial marriage: 45:00 Black parents gonna Black parent: 1

On this episode… It’s how to get away with murder. The internet shares their disappointment about the Kyle Rittenhouse acquittal. Should we feel a public sadness? What impact does the killing of white protesters have on allyship? And on a much needed lighter note, fun nerd sh!t and a game changing moment in Black hair Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: Use your PTO, Anime NYC, nerd judgement, Stranger Things, birthdays, Kyle Rittenhouse, white supremacy and the internets reaction, anti-protest laws, synthetic hair’s life cycle and mad other ish EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Libations: 3:15 Donation Libations: 14:14 Affirmations: 15:58 Kyle Rittenhouse timeline of events: 18:29 Acquittal and internet reaction: 26:29 A moment in (synthetic) Black hair: 1:12:01 We wanna seasons greet you with a post card for the new year! (for reals this time) We promise it'll be cute and not an entire waste of paper. Sen

On this episode…What about your friends? When friendships end, what else gets lost? Today we’re talking about love and friendship, and making room for the questions we thought we already had the answers to. Our biggest fears, what happens when we die, and our plans for the zombie apocalypse. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: Afros & Audio, Are you friends with your parents? Ya’ll watching Love Life? Social fatigue vs. saying yes! Big small talk, embarrassing moments, bad dates, childhood memories, soulmates, love languages and more. EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Libations: 3:20 Donation Libations: 10:46 Affirmations: 15:11 Friendship Dynamics & Loss: 15:53 Questions About Life: 24:06 Questions About Love and Zombies: 1:01:25 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MED

On this episode… Revenge of the Black nerds! Were you othered for being queer or Black or nerdy, or all of that sh!t? Then, why labels may or may not be important to you and if any of that has to do with your privilege Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: Sex toys, daylight savings or takings, Queens (the TV show), velvet, anti-Blackness and othering at the intersections of nerdiness & queerness, demisexuality, Cardi cosplay, labels, belonging, who gets to claim queer, who needs to claim queer, who cares and mad other ish EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Libations: 4:57 Donation Libations: 17:08 Affirmations: 20:18 Anti-Blackness and Black nerds: 22:37 Who claims queerness, who gets to say: 55:33 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! COME TO AFROS & AUDIO VIRTUAL PODCAST FESTIVAL! Enter code AFAUTQJ21 for

On this episode…Can breaking up with your therapist be therapeutic? Is Jada Pinkett Smith being too honest about marriage? Are yall tired of talking about Jada Pinkett Smith yet? And making friends as an adult...Can you build community in an era of no new friends? Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: New therapist energy, getting paid, those Jada and Will relationship goals you have, have been shattered, now what? Friendship, marriage, building community pre & post covid vibes, work friend politics, and mad other ish EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Mental health & wealth out this bitch: 3:54 Donation Libations: 12:36 Affirmations: 16:14 Jada Pinkett Smith, marriage, misogynoir & media: 17:21 Making new friendship, building new community: 43:00 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! COME TO AFROS & AUDIO VIRT

On this episode… The girls are grieving! We talk about navigating death, grief and loss and everything that comes with it. Then in honor of spooky season we revisit blackface for the holidays, whether or not J. was a coon in 2017, why ni**as give Queen heebee jeebees and how working at a cool job while Black can still be wack. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: It’s on sight for death! Funerals and shit people say at funerals, high value memories, Halloween and spooky season tings, a bad blackface take, learning in public, an Aaliyah tribute, colorism in language, Black on Black hair crime, and working at a “cool” company while Black EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Libations for our ancestors: 5:24 Donation Libations: 20:06 Affirmations: 24:54 How we living: 26:16 Colorism in costuming & language: 57:16 A bad blackface take: 1:00:32 Moment in Black Hair touching: 17:01 Get away from my desk: 1:27:28 Twee

On this episode… Being twice as good is fvcking exhausting! We lean into Black mediocrity and the freedom to show your ass at work (metaphorically!). We celebrate the joys of sex toys and cannabis. Explore the state-sanctioned mistreatment of Haitian migrants and what’s happening on the Mexican side of the border. Then troll baiting, and J. finds a reason to talk about Blues Clues because that shit was delightful! Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: R. Kelly is finally going to jail, but we want restorative street justice. Affirming rest, abundance and stability. What our parents taught us about working while Black, addressing microaggressions, and the perfect work turn up. #BluesClues25, Michael K. Williams, and does 50 cent have a soul, or friends? EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Sex toys & cannabis: 5:24 Donation Libations: 20:06 Affirmations: 24:54 Black Mediocrity: 26:16 Pay Black Women, Pay Black People

On this episode… We’re back! We talk about the value of Black ass rest, navigating body image, pandemic fatigue, and mad other sh!t Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: It’s been a minute! Who is you Chiron!? We reintroduce ourselves. J. considers forgiveness, fatphobia’s in the air, what pandemic are YOU having cuz…, a lil vaccination talk, friendship & isolation, and fighting the pandemic (not like metaphorically, we want to physically fight the pandemic, and his hoe ass friends) EPISODE TIMESTAMPS Libations: 3:58 Donation Libations: 17:12 Affirmations: 16:50 Who are we tho?: 20:53 Where we been tho? 28:33 Is it still a pandemic?: 1:01:38 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://ww