3 Women 3 Ways

WEST MEETS EAST IN PSYCHOLOGY CARE Depression, PTSD, bipolar disorder, fertility issues…all call for a certain drugs and treatments, right? Well, not necessarily. Although most practitioners use traditional methods to treat such problems, some are venturing into adding to the usual methods by including alternative treatments like acupuncture, homeopathy, craniosacral therapy, Chinese medicine and others in the mix when it comes to treating a variety of not only physical issues, but also psychological ones. Dr. Paula King, a general clinical psychologist, works with an organization called Healing Horizons to treat all sorts of conditions with a broad mix of traditional and alternative methods.  Her background includes a doctorate in Psychology and Adult Education from Arizona State University, coaching certification from the Hudson Institute, certification as an interactive imagery guide from the Academy for Guided Imagery, a bachelor’s degree in physical education, over 25 years’ experience in a general ps

FORGIVENESS: DO WE NEED IT? You hurt my feelings, you feel bad, I forgive you and all’s right with the world again.  At least that’s how we are led to believe it all works.  Not only does the forgiveness free me from the burden of feeling bad, it frees you from the guilt.  Really? Well, maybe. What does forgiveness really accomplish?  Do we need it?  How do we forgive? And are there different kinds of forgiveness?  Everett Worthington, Ph.D., is Commonwealth Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University, joins us to talk the power and the problems with forgiveness. He is a licensed Clinical Psychologist in Virginia and has published more than 35 books and 400 articles and scholarly chapters, mostly on forgiveness, positive psychology, marriage, family, religion, and spirituality. Join us as we discuss forgiveness. Call in with your comments to 646-378-0430, or post your comments and questions in the chat room. Live at 11 AM Pacific time, or go to the website anytime to li

OUTDOOR ADVENTURE WITHOUT THE PLANNING: TRAVEL GROUPS FOR WOMEN When women want adventure, they have some choices. They can sign up for a new class, they can learn a new skill, try baking something amazing…or they can book a travel experience just for women.  Over the last several years, more and more women only, outdoor experience and adventure travel companies have sprung up, offering visits from national parks to the Himalayas. What’s up with that? Marian Marbury, president of Adventures in Good Company, started as a guide taking women’s groups to places like Africa, Asia, and Latin America to kayak, backpack and generally get outdoors and enjoy. After twelve years of that, she started her own company helping women get outside, challenge themselves, and bond over campfires and new situations. But don’t think for a moment it’s only the athletic young women who have turned to the wilderness for recreation and growth. All ages and skill levels are turning to outdoor adventures within the safety and camarad

PREGNANT ADOLESCENTS: VICTIMS AND PERPETRATORS OF INTIMATE ABUSE There’s a lot of research about pregnant adolescents, and a lot of research about Intimate Partner Violence with teens, but what about the pregnant adolescent as a perpetrator of IPV? What about pregnant adolescents as victims of IPV? Is it a wide spread problem? What causes it? Is it different from other forms of IPV? And does it have any special meaning for their children and babies? Dr. Ruth Buzi is an Associate Professor and Director of Social Services at Baylor College of Medicine Teen Health Clinics and has carried out numerous studies and implemented various programs related to adolescent health.  Join us as we discuss pregnant adolescents as perpetrators and victims of intimate abuse. Call in with your comments or questions to 646-378-0430, or post your comments to the chat room. Live at 11 AM Pacific time, or go to the website anytime to listen to all our archived programs at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways.

THE ECONOMIC IMPACT OF FAMILY COURT ON WOMEN AND CHILDREN We know the family court experience can bring all of us to our knees emotionally, but what about economically? Most people who go through a divorce admit it can drain them financially, but going through a contentious divorce, with abuse, or custody battles thrown in, can be devastating. Is that devastation worse for women and children? Authors Maralee McLean and Penelope Bryan join us to discuss the economic impact of family court on women and children. Penelope Bryan is Dean of the Law School of Denver Sturm College of Law where she taught family law and civil procedure for nearly 20 years. Her scholarship offers a unique blend of knowledge about family law and about the psychology and social condition of women and children, particularly those ensnared in family law courts. She has written Constructive Divorce: Procedural Justice and Sociolegal Reform. Maralee, author of Prosecuted but Not Silenced: Courtroom Reform for Sexually Abused Children, ha

GENDER, PSYCHOLOGY, AND JUSTICE: WOMEN’S EXPERIENCES WITH THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM Women who have contact with the criminal justice system often have experiences quite different from their male counterparts. But how different? And why?  Is it different in criminal courts and family courts? And what about race, class and sexual orientation – do they contribute to how a person is treated or the outcomes of courts? And what does it all mean? Finally, some researchers have looked into how gender intersects with all these factors to impact how women and girls are treated in and by the justice system. Authors Corinne C. Datchi and Julie R. Ancis collaborated in looking at not only data but personal stories to write their book, Gender, Psychology, and Justice. Ancis is Associate Vice President for Institute Diversity at the Georgia Institute of Technology. And has researched the area of multicultural competence and mental health. She is Past Chair of the Society of Counseling Psychology’s Section for the Advan

A WAR STORY A war. A foreign country. A prisoner. An escape. An adventure. A journalist. A story of heroism, life and death, and history.  Now admit it.  You pictured at least one man (or more) as you read those words.  But this story is about women, and the forgotten or never told stories of their lives. And another woman who wrote about one of those stories. Julia Airey lives in Washington, D.C. where she as a technology reporter and associated editor for a foreign policy site. In her free time she writes articles about how millennials can enter the work force, and runs a blog breaking down complicated legal news. While studying in the Netherlands, Julia led a data journalism investigation into sexual health on campus, and advocated for student housing. She was also an assistant English teacher at a bilingual high school and helped lead camping trips in Wales. It was during this time in the Netherlands that Julia met Martha Anschuetz, whose story she retells in "At One Time,” a war story you have never

WHEN ACES HIGH IS A BAD THING: ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES There was a time when people believed that children are resilient and that if something bad happened to them, they would just be able to adapt and grow up and get on with their lives. Besides, there weren’t that many traumatic things that could happen to kids anyway. Then the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study revealed a major problem with that thinking. Turns out there are multiple traumatic experiences that can and frequently do, happen to children and they commonly lead to adults with mental problems, chronic diseases, and who are victimized and victimizers. In the nearly 20 years since the ACE Study came out, how has the information been used and adapted; how have policies changed; and do we see courts, institutions, organizations, and therapists who have changed policies and procedures because of this astounding research? Vincent J. Felitti, MD, Clinical Professor of Medicine at the University of California, Senior Editor of the Permanente

WOMEN AND POLITICS: VOTING, RUNNING, LEADING It’s been pretty much politics 24 – 7 for the last months, but only a small part of the conversations have been about women actually participating in the process. Are women voting, running, winning office? What is happening with women’s political leadership? Pew Research came out with a report on why women aren’t running, let alone winning. Consultant Cathy Allen can tell us first hand whether that is what she has seen as someone who has helped recruit, train and elect more than a thousand women all over the world. She is one of the first international political consultants to focus on electing women, and worked on Hillary Clinton’s recent (and past) campaign where she focused on turnout, messaging to women, volunteering and endorsements, among other tasks.  President of Seattle-based business, The Connections Group, Cathy is a frequent TV, radio and online political commentator and has written four books on running successful campaigns. Join us as we discuss wo

WHY DOESN’T HE HELP WITH HOUSEWORK? MAYBE IT’S YOU It’s an age-old complaint: men don’t do their share of housework and child care. But maybe it’s not just because they won’t. Maybe it’s because women resist it. Sounds like an old Phyllis Schlafley idea (Google it, kids). We women work hard and we want men to help pull the domestic weight. But consultant Lisa D’Annolfo Levey, a national advocate for the importance of men in the gender dialogue, has found that women may be unconsciously viewing that help as an intrusion. Levey has a background in management and economics, and is an expert on gender diversity. She’s consulted with leading corporations and organizations about the evolution of gender roles and making both men and women partners in personal and professional work. Her book, “The Libra Solution: Shedding Excess and Redefining Success at Work and at Home,” is about creating new gender norms. Find out how women may be pushing back against one of the things we say we want most, why we may be doing

IS IT THE TRUTH, A STRATEGY OR A DIRTY TRICK? The tactics abusers use in family court.   Anyone who watched TV knows that courts can be a nasty place for those involved in litigation. But those who have seen Family Court cases where abusers are involved in a divorce or a custody battle, know that it can often go beyond nasty into downright terror.  And that is no accident.  So what tactics do abusers use in court, how do they get their lawyers to help, and why do some judges allow it?           All tough questions, but Dr. Karin Huffer will help us sort it out.           Karin, author of “Unlocking Justice” and “legal Abuse Syndrome,” has been a family therapist for more than 20 years, and and is an expert in PTSD and Legal Abuse Syndrome. She currently heads up the Equal Access Advocacy program at John Jay University, and has seen her share of brutal court cases. She says that too often the courts, bad judges and bad lawyers prevent a good outcome.            Join us as we talk about the tricks, the str

CYBER STALKING, CYBER HARRASSMENT- ILLEGAL? MAYBE           Do you know the difference between cyber stalking and cyber harassment? Do you know how often it is used? Or the devastating effect it can have on your life?  Elaine Davies does.            Davies, Assistant Professor in the Department of Art Communication, and theatre at Southwestern Oklahoma State University, has done extensive research in all areas of communication including that in romantic relationships, destructive communication, and the use of technological devices for those purposes. Her past work appears in journals such as Human Communication, The Journal of Business Communication, and Communication Quarterly. Most recently, she contributed a chapter to the 2016 book Contexts of the Dark Side of Communication published by Peter Lang.           And she knows just how that technology can be used to hurt, control and terrorize, and what, if anything, is being done about it. Join us as Davies tells us about cyber stalking and harassment. Ca

POWER AND CONTROL IN FAMILY COURTS Anyone who has ever gotten a divorce knows that courts are intimidating places. Anyone who has ever divorced an abuser knows courts can do a lot more than just intimidate. They can destroy your life and sense of reality. The dynamics of abuse between intimate partners spill into legal proceedings, revictimize spouses and children and cause harm that costs individuals and society dearly.  How can this happen? That’s what Dr. Julie Ancis researches, and she has some pretty alarming findings. Ancis is Associate Vice President for Institute Diversity at Georgia Institute of Technology, is an Adjunct Professor in the School of Psychology, and has authored many publications.  Her co-edited book with Corinne Datchi entitled Gender, Psychology and Justice: The Mental Health of Women and Girls in the Legal System with NYU press, is due for imminent release.   Join us as we talk about guardians ad litem, gender bias in family court, bogus psychological theories and assumptions th

SHE’S THE CRAZY ONE: HOW ABUSERS DANCE WITH MENTAL HEALTH Mental health professionals are a valued and necessary part of our world and they can do a lot of good.  But what happens when the idea of mental health, mental illness, and even the professionals who help us, are used and exploited to make things worse for those victimized by domestic violence? Rachel Graber has worked in human services for seven years as a school counselor, an intern at Meskwaki Child and Victims Services, and a public policy intern at the Women’s Resource and Action Center. She leads the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence legislative affairs in Washington, DC. She sits on the National Task Force to End Domestic and Sexual Violence, a national public policy collaboration between violence against women organizations, organizes NCADV Congressional briefings and legislative events, lobbies Congress on issues related to gender based  violence, and helps mobilize efforts to influence national legislation aimed at protecting an

EMOTIONAL ABUSE- WHAT DOES IT MEAN, HOW DOES IT MATTER? If your spouse says something to hurt your feelings, is that emotional abuse?  It’s a phrase we hear often, but rarely hear exactly what it means.  And if someone says something nasty, why can’t we just suck it up and let it slide off our backs?  After all, there are no broken bones or black eyes involved in emotional slights.  Or is it that simple? Anna Marie Askin-Evans is a resident in marriage and family therapy and helps people deal with a variety of painful and traumatic events that do more than hurt; they can rip away value and cause pain that never goes away. She will help us define emotional abuse, recognize it, and share approaches to living with it and moving past it. Join us as we talk about core hurts and vulnerabilities, and the words that can damage every bit as much as the proverbial sticks and stones. Call in with your comments to 646-378-0430, or post your comments and questions in the chat room. Live at 11 AM Pacific time, or go t

FORGIVENESS: DO WE NEED IT? You hurt my feelings, you feel bad, I forgive you and all’s right with the world again.  At least that’s how we are led to believe it all works.  Not only does the forgiveness free me from the burden of feeling bad, it frees you from the guilt.  Really? Well, maybe. What does forgiveness really accomplish?  Do we need it?  How do we forgive? And are there different kinds of forgiveness?  Everett Worthington, Ph.D., is Commonwealth Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University, joins us to talk the power and the problems with forgiveness. He is a licensed Clinical Psychologist in Virginia and has published more than 35 books and 400 articles and scholarly chapters, mostly on forgiveness, positive psychology, marriage, family, religion, and spirituality. Join us as we discuss forgiveness. Call in with your comments to 646-378-0430, or post your comments and questions in the chat room. Live at 11 AM Pacific time, or go to the website anytime to li

SPIRITUALITY AND TRAUMA: THE LINK THAT MAY BE OVERLOOKED There are many ways to help survivors, from medication to visualization to just being there. But for those who have experienced trauma, many of these approaches may be missing the boat when it comes to helping survivors make sense of their pain. A new book, “Trauma, Meaning, and Spirituality: Translating Research into Clinical Practice,” may offer a different perspective. Authors Crystal Park, PhD, and Joseph Currier, PhD, say that there is a relationship between trauma and spirituality that can help not only with assessment of survivors, but also with treatment. Park, with the University of Connecticut Department of Psychology, has done extensive research on the multiple aspects of coping with stressful events, and what brings meaning to those events for survivors.  Currier is Assistant Professor and Director of Clinical Training in the Combined Clinical & Counseling Psychology Doctoral Program at the University of South Alabama. His research fo

THE FEMALE VETERAN: HOMELESS WITH A DIFFERENCE Picture a veteran – a homeless veteran.  Is he tall? Short? bearded, clean shaven? Or did you picture her a woman?  What you saw in your mind probably isn’t a complete picture and it probably doesn’t reflect gender differences when it comes to vets.  Lily Casura knows all about those gender differences.  Casura, a long time journalist and veterans’ advocate, not only writes about veterans, she started the first website about combat vets and PTSD. Casura is a graduate student in public policy, has received numerous awards and honors, and is a Harvard graduate.  And she is an author, writer and lecturer on veteran’s issues. She joins us Saturday to talk about the picture we have of veterans, especially female veterans, and the reality. Call in with your comments to 646-378-0430, or post your comments and questions in the chat room. Live at 11 AM Pacific time, or go to the website anytime to listen to all our archived programs at www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3wa

WHO NEEDS AN ADVOCATE AND HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM ONE? The word “advocate” is all over the place – we advocate for justice, we want an advocate when we go to court – we even see advocacy in the titles of college courses!  But what is advocacy, what is an advocate, and why does it matter? Mai Fernandez has been executive director of the National Center for Victims of Crime since 2010 and has extensive experience with victim-related work not only at the local level, but also nationally. She’s been a national media-spokesperson on crime victims’ rights, and has managed   programs that serve victims of child abuse, sex trafficking, and gang violence. Her credentials include serving as the Assistant District Attorney for New York County, helping victims navigate the criminal justice system and pleading their cases before the court. Ms. Fernandez will join us to shed some light on victim advocacy - what we mean by the term, what it encompasses, why it is needed, how available it is, how costly it is, how it helps,

WHAT ARE WE DOING ABOUT THE PROBLEM WITH FAMILY COURT? The court tells you their father must see your kids, but CPS tells you they will take away the kids if you don’t protect them from him. His lawyers say you are alienating the children because they don’t want to go see their dad. The judge says you are just being hostile when you say the kids are afraid of him. The kids cry and ask you to help them. Your friends and neighbors want to know what you did wrong and why you are being so nasty to your ex.  Sound like a soap opera?  Well, it’s a soap opera thousands of women face every day dealing with family court.           The traps, the fears, the frustrations and the anguish protective parents and children often face in family courts are situations advocates and experts alike continue to see and continue to try to remedy.  But how?           Hear how individuals and organizations are taking different approaches to tackle the problems with custody and family courts.  Maralee McLean is a child advocate and