Women's Grit & Grace ~embrace Your Power As A Woman In Life & Love

Women today have more choices than ever before, so why are so many women unhappy and unsatisfied with their life and relationships? Turns out, if you are playing by the rules of being a well-behaved woman, happiness and satisfaction will elude you.  What do I mean by being a well-behaved woman? A woman who makes nice, keeps quiet to keep the peace, doesn't rock the boat, and often feels resentment for doing so. A well-behaved woman often blames men for the state of the world when the truth is women's silence and absence of action contributes more to her unhappiness and discontent. "The sins of the father" combines with "the silence of the mother" to create the world we live in. A world out of balance in it's humanity and a world which is calling to women to no longer be so nice and quiet. Join me as I share how women can leave the comfort of behaving nice and realize happiness and satisfaction in their life and relationships instead.

In every woman's life, there appears a bridge she must cross for realizing more of the happiness and peace she seeks. Yet too often, women instead look for a detour around healing the deep anger they feel at men, current and historical. And without facing their legacy of anger at men-rightly so, the life and relationships we seek as women cannot come into being. Join me as I talk about this bridge calling for women to cross and how crossing this bridge is not giving men's bad behavior towards women a free pass. Nor is it a call to bury the past destructive actions of men against women. Rather, it is to face what is and to choose to lead in moving the story between women and men to a better place. Women's power to heal is vast and requires only the courage to surrender to the grace and power all women contain. Join me as I share with you about this bridge and how the world-and men-await women's choice to cross this bridge. The world is weary of leadership with which life is not honored as sacred and tending

Claiming an identity as a victim has moved from awareness to a form of identity and relevance for many people. Yes, bad things happen to good people and God-or whatever you call what logic alone cannot explain-does not play by the rules of good and bad behavior being rewarded in kind. So how does one not get stuck in "woe is me" when your need for justice, or recognition of harm done to you, doesn't happen? Choosing to claim-and live-the wisdom within every challenge in your life is not easy nor is it popular. The road less traveled is understanding there is a mystical quality to life as a human being which does not answer to the human desire for logic and control. Quite the contrary; the more invested you are in control, the less you will receive the glories and grace which only allowing the mystery of life will deliver. Join me for this show in which I share however tempting it may be to make your bed with being a victim, it will only bring you further from the joys and wonder your life is meant to delive

Waking up to realizing you are in a relatinoship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming and confusing. When you realize that winning is more important to the other person than a relationship, what do you do? Healing from a relationship with a narcissist requires outside support and guidance, for what got you entangled with a narcissist will NOT get you untangled.  Join me as I share about women's confusion about the compromising necessary for an intimate relationship vs knowing the signs of someone not availalble for relationship. It can be the perfect storm for women who are givers to be in relationship with men who only know how to take. Waking up to being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel really bad, and, taking the actions required to care for yourself is overwhelming without support and guidance for you to do so.  This is an important topic for the times we live in and the healing we are seeking for creating happier relationships!

Leadership is often confused with authority and while there is overlap, there is a distinct difference. Women's leadership is more relationship based and includes the well-being of the people she is leading. Yet many women pull back from the word "leader" thinking they must lead has men have done and this confusion keeps many a woman from feeling effective and happy with both her relationships and her life. Tune in and learn how to embrace the leader you are as a woman and how to relax into being effective in your relationships and your life. No longer buying into the belief of "either-or", women can help bring about a balance of leadership with men's form of leadership. Our times are calling for women to step more into their leadership and the power of their presence in their family and the world. 

"Women carry shame and guilt about how they lack, about a perfection they have not realized. This burden of shame and guilt weighs all women down, the only variable being about what each of us feels shame or "not good enough" about.  Enough I say! In today's show, I talk about how to shine a light where guilt now burdens you and where you shrink yourself in response to feeling you somehow lack. Yes, we are imperfect human beings...just as was intended. Perfection-the devil of lives not lived in joy and peace-is every woman's to no longer aspire to, in trade for living life in joy and peace!

Women's forms of power are different than men's forms of power, although that is not always the case in how women exercise their power at work and at home. And while I am all for having as many skill sets as possible in life, women often use alpha forms of power in their relationships which can leave men feeling unappreciated or women playing a 50's sitcom role. There is a difference in ways men and women can exercise power-do you know your ways of power (not manipulation) as a woman? Join us as I talk about women's power in relationship-which I call "Being Queen"-can change the dynamics from alpha/beta style power to relationship power. Alpha/Beta power is power in which one person is dominant and the other/s subserviant and is old news in healthy relationships. Join me as I share this essential change in relationship dynamics for what creates a healthy and mutually supportive relationship.

It's Valentine's Day next week and the pressure is on! There are those who hate this holiday due to not being in a romantic relationship (or being in an unhappy marriage). Learning to love yourself at least as much as the love you give others is not selfish, but a smart way to care for yourself and those you love. Being in the business of helping people be happy in their life and relationships, I wish I had a nickel for every time a person got mad at someone because they were insisting that person be their only venue of love. Talk about performance pressure! And complicating the matter is how often the designated lover was in the same “waiting for love” game with them as well. Lots of needing love and not much giving love. But here’s the truth-you can’t give what you don’t have and without your loving yourself, you are offering a conditional form of love. But why wait for it from another person who may or may not be able to give you just what you want? Love is not a commodity, it is a mystical marathon and p

Conflict is a fact of life and most people avoid conflict like the plague! Yet conflict comes when life knows there is a better solution, although change or letting go of control may be required. Relationships of all kinds-personal, professional, social-require engaging conflict for creating better relationships as well as solutions to problems. Join me as I share some wisdom from my years of negotiating agreements between people who believed there was no way to come to an agreement they would like or want to participate in. And yet, time after time, solutions were reached which made all parties happier and gave their relationship another opportunity to get better. And given the world we live in, becoming more comfortable with conflict-and learning how to engage it successfully-can only benefit your peace of mind and heart.

if you were to look at your life with the eyes of your soul for reclaiming the "mistakes, the wrongs, the different" as footprints of your soul, how would you reclaim the story of your life? One less flawed and perhaps more truly yours? Or perhaps a story of becoming conscious of family patterns you were the chosen one to make conscious and evolve? Truth be told, looking through the eyes of your soul renders many wrongs, differences, failures as the jewels of your life from your soul's perspective. Join me as I share how claiming your life as a holy journey will change much of what you now despair or are discouraged by. And how your challenges are holy catalysts for claiming the awesome powers and resources of your spirit and soul. Interesting times do not come withour the means to navigate and be victorious in them, if you know how to translate the language of your spirit and soul.

Today's show is a departure from how I usually share, in part inspired by watching today's transfer of power in our nation's Capital. I'm not one to usually watch mainstream news as I find it not journalism as much as corporate positioning and too akin to reality television programming. But history is history and I am grateful I did so. If you know me at all, you know me to be strongly posisitioned on how what happens in life is the call to you and your soul to respond. Never clearer has then been so than the times we live in which call for standing up, showing up, speaking up. And for women's leadership which comes from the essence of who we are as women...the Grace of God. Join me and let's show up

Women are intimately connected with God in ways men are not, such as being able to grow a new human within themself, to turn their blood into milk for a child, and the manner in which our brains are created to be multi-functioned. In Eastern spiritual traditions, women are considered "the grace of God", an acknowledgement of the vast capabilites women have which men do not. And, with these abilities comes responsibilites as well. Join me as I talk about the sacred nature of women and how our vast capabilites also come with a responsibility to lead, to care, to give voice, to serve on behalf of all life. And how doing so does not require feeling burdened by such a responsibility, but rather will create more joy and delight in your life!

It's the beginning of a new year and hopes are high for how to make it different than the disappointments of the year past. Traditional goal-setting only takes into account your mind and emotions, yet leaving what feeds your spirit and soul out of your goal-setting will only doom your goals for your new year. Learn how to bring your spirit and soul into your goals and dreams for the new year and how to care for them for insuring your success this year! We will do a short exercise that you can then continue doing for realizing beter results in your goals for this new year! To learn more about JaiKaur and for many articles on living a life with more joy and on purpose, go to her website.

Much of what you experience in life comes through the filter of beliefs you created from being told what is good and bad by other people. Changing your ideas about what is good and bad frees you to go beyond what keeps you unhappy and needs only your willingness to do so. Well, and perhaps some support and encouragement for doing so as well! Join me and learn how your beliefs are keeping you captive to unhappiness and feeling helpless or hopeless. As the bumper stick on my desk says, "Don't believe everything you think", especially when you have not updated beliefs formed earlier in your life. Learn how updating your beliefs will create more of what you seek in your life and your relationships. To learn more about JaiKaur and sign up for your FREE session visit her website.

In the East, women are known as the grace of God, meaning they are that through which God flows his grace. And, women are also known to have but one weakness, which is their insecurity. Insecurity about how they look, or how they sound, or how they feel, you get the picture. When a woman challenges her insecurity as being true and reminds herself of being God's grace, she cannot be defeated. Join me as I share how to not buy into whatever keeps you feeling insecure about yourself and what makes you happy in your life. Learn how to replace your insecurity with remembering yourself as the Grace of God and how to translate that in practical terms in your everyday life. To learn more about JaiKaur and her support and guidance for contemporary women go to her website.

What's unspoken has so much power and your choice to not speak up costs you more than you think. While you may tell yourself it's not a big deal, or it really won't make any difference, the truth it, you are afraid of what speaking up will cost you. And while that may be so, not speaking usually costs you more in the long run. The world needs women to speak up, to stand up, to show up. Playing small, staying safe offer you promises of safety and acceptance which simply are not true. The cost of betraying yourself by staying silent is a price paid by not only you, but the health of your relationships and those whoh count on your guidance and leadership. Join me as I talk about how to realize more of the power of your being a woman and the person counted on by your relationships and your communities. Learn how what's unspoken keeps you from accepting yourself, others, and has helped to create the world we know is sorely in need of healing. To learn more about JaiKaur and her support and guidance for women, g

Many of the women I work with are tired of being unhappy or of feeling helpless to make their life or relationships better. And while we spend some time on family and their past for setting the stage, my clear directive to them is to take responsibility for their current choices and the power they now have. And yet, this can be challenging, for we live in a culture which often languages and even rewards people who claim they are the victim of others. While I in no way am saying that there are not legit victims in our world, too often I witness smart and saavy women taking comfort in citing their past as to why they are unable to be happy or successful now. And while I understand taking a break from life's challeges, too often it's not a rest stop but a comfort with being a martyr in life or relationship I must help a women no longer claim. Join me this week as I talk about how to realize if and where you are loving being a martyr instead of picking up your courage and making different choices. Learn how whi

It's been an interesting year of becoming aware of how much bad behavior I put up with. And, I'm not alone. Many of the women and couples I work with are working with me as a result of putting up with bad behavior for too long or too much. We've been taught to be afraid of our body's early alert system which simply wants us to pay attention to the elephant stepping on our foot and not call it otherwise! Join me as I share how to dismantle your taught habit of not caring for yourself, not honoring yourself, not respecting yourself and calling it being nice, not being a bitch, or my favorite-not being negative! Learn how caring for yourself will actually lend itself better to being kind, honoring your sensitivity as a woman, and making the world a better-and safer-place to be yourself.

We live in a time in which it seems as throwing blame and shame-or shade as my children call it-around is the favored way to go through life. If so and so are to blame, or shame on them for doing "x", then I've created the perfect excuse for why I cannot or have not made what I want of my life. And while it may feel good to do so at the time, in those brutally honest hours of early morning, we know we are full of bullsh*t. So if you are tired of using other people for why you are not happy or have the life you desire, listen to today's show for how you can change your habit and become happier. As with any habit, it will take time and consistency to make a different choice your default. And, the results will speak for themselves! Join me and learn how to stop the habit of giving what you desire to others and reclaim how you can create more happiness and satisfction in your life. No matter your circumstances, you have the power and the ability to change "what is so" into what you want and desire for your life

We are taught that if we have it together, life-and people-will go the way we want it to be. Hah! As the expression goes, "if you want to make God laugh, make your plans as if you're in control"! Life is an adventure, life is a journey, and life is not about what we want to control. When life reminds you that you are not in control, don't despair, get curious! I know....easier said than done but the truth is, control is not the purpose of life. Your adventures, your dreams, sharing your presence are the purpose of lifle and to realize these, curiousity if a much better friend to you than is despair at your lack of control over life and people. Join me and learn how to embrace more curiousity about your life and experiences and to let go of feeling you must be in control. Learn about how embracing responsibility is not the same as control and how doing so will make you much more happy than the false belief in control's power will ever make you!